have you or can you reach out to see how things are going for him?
I sent him a whatsapp a couple days ago and he said he was doing better but didnt elaborate . He could have been using the advice he was given about just saying he is fine i will send him another.
Thanks Rob.
"What the CANUCK happened?!? - Esquimalt Barber Shop
Can I repeat again for clarity -- especially since I seem to be the source of this anxiety, for lack of a better word -- nobody said that anybody needs to stop sharing here or that their sharing is a burden on anyone. I see everyone agrees with me in that regard. Nobody in this thread should feel silenced. Let that go. What I said that appears to have sparked this concern -- is that in my own life I have ended a few in-the-flesh relationships with people who drained me emotionally because their problems were too big for me to handle. I had my own problems to work through and was not getting the support I needed from that very, very needy friend. It was part of my own treatment for own mental illness and dysfunction to end the friendship. I needed to cut off the source of the anxiety and dysfunction to get well for myself. Out of that history I shared, I suggested that when people feel stuck in a cycle, they could try to be more open to new things to resolve their anxiety. That was it. It was a suggestion to break the cycle. It was not a judgment on any individual's strength or weakness or over-sharing or under-sharing. We all know here that some days are way easier than others. If you need to reach out, reach. Someone will be here, whoever is able at that moment in time.
I’m not blaming you in any way what dreams. We’re all here to offer friendship and to support each other by sharing our own personal experiences. I believe most of us are not therapists. Any suggestions we make come from personal experience, stuff that may or may not help others. No one is obliged to take that advice.
Each of us are carrying our own emotional weight. We come here to support, but not carry the weight for others.
"What the CANUCK happened?!? - Esquimalt Barber Shop
You know how it gets. Saying the same thing over and over and its hard to say anything. I hate to think people think im not trying. Ive smoked too much and hate myself im still sober and ive used weed as an escape. Problem is it makes me confused more but an escape. I tried a month just doing no anything and i couldnt cope with my symptoms. Still cant. Im losing reality now
You are making strides. Repetition is sometimes helpful in working through.
It reminds me of Myth of Sisyphus. There is a Minus The Bear song (Cold Company) that is not applicable here, but it goes along the MoS line.
As far as your partner is concerned, she is scared to death. Great energy coming to you both.
Sorry to worry you all. I've been dealing with shit and thought you are all better off without me on here so I've stayed away. Thanks for caring and reaching out on Whatsapp and via PM.
Plus, I didn't come on this thread to be labelled a narcissist and then ignored on PM when reaching out by a hostile person. Peace out.
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Sorry to worry you all. I've been dealing with shit and thought you are all better off without me on here so I've stayed away. Thanks for caring and reaching out on Whatsapp and via PM.
Plus, I didn't come on this thread to be labelled a narcissist and then ignored on PM when reaching out by a hostile person. Peace out.
Say as you feel . If ever someone or others are upsetting you say it here. We all know how that feels to be upset by something when we are at our lowest everything hurts. Mate dont not come here because of any one else. Just type how you feel . I for one would be fucked without this thread because i do not type anywhere else or really run any thing by anyone else. I dont have anyone that i can just keep saying this to without upsetting them. Those that know you . Know you. You are in a hole but you will rise.
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Not today Sir, Probably not tomorrow.............................................. bayfront arena st. pete '94
you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '14
This place is full of compassion and comfort and people trying to help so it’s a hell of a lot safer than the rest of the internet. Stop dwelling on one comment, here or in the real world. Take anything that’s said to you and evaluate whether it’s spot on, way off the mark or there’s a bit of truth in it. And then work with that. Don’t take it as an excuse to wallow for two weeks instead of facing the choices you have to make. It may have been a bit much but on the last pages were a lot of people trying to give constructive advice. You may not have liked everything that’s been said but in the end this is all just talk. You’re the one that has to take action if (IF) you really want to change your life. Don’t take one comment as another excuse not to do anything
I want this to be a safe place also. I originally wanted nobody to scare me with diagnosis or symptoms. And as this moved forward i am pleased with the care and support i have received i believe we here care for eachother
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Not today Sir, Probably not tomorrow.............................................. bayfront arena st. pete '94
you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '14
Somedays I just want to be in isolation. Whether it's just sitting in a dark room with nothing to see or hear. Or just getting in my car and driving somewhere I haven't been and no one would be able to find me for the day. I've had a lot of those days recently.
I wish I was a sacrifice, but somehow still lived on.
TA , don't let anyone get your down , don't focus on that one negative comment ( this is coming from someone who focus's on the one negative comment by my wife tells me to let it go )
Just the other day HugeDillon posted something along the lines of "those who say just go to the gym don't get it" for just a few seconds I thought he was speaking about myself and then I had to get rid of that negative thought as it was me just thinking.
As far as safe space , obviously we are all here for each other but the forum is open and there is always going to be a flame thrower just trying to rattle anyone just to get that reaction. I never found the appeal of trolling people on the internet.
We are here for you and care for you and even if it is just to say hello pop on , people were worried and honestly that should make you feel good and loved that people from all over the world were wondering about what was going on.
Somedays I just want to be in isolation. Whether it's just sitting in a dark room with nothing to see or hear. Or just getting in my car and driving somewhere I haven't been and no one would be able to find me for the day. I've had a lot of those days recently.
Sorry to hear about feeling down , has something recently happened in your life that brought this on? Did you feel like these before and just less so up until the past couple of days?
I think we all feel the need to escape or not be around others , do you just stare into the darkness for a few hours and let your mind go? When you drive somewhere does it help or is it to just get away?
Somedays I just want to be in isolation. Whether it's just sitting in a dark room with nothing to see or hear. Or just getting in my car and driving somewhere I haven't been and no one would be able to find me for the day. I've had a lot of those days recently.
Sorry to hear about feeling down , has something recently happened in your life that brought this on? Did you feel like these before and just less so up until the past couple of days?
I think we all feel the need to escape or not be around others , do you just stare into the darkness for a few hours and let your mind go? When you drive somewhere does it help or is it to just get away?
Just trying to understand.
There have been serious events in the past couple of years involving my wife and my mother. My therapist is trying to help me through the grieving process of losing my mom to brain cancer. She only had 1 year after her diagnosis, so it was a lot to process and still is. I also think I've always felt anxious and have had trouble feeling like I want to be isolated. It's tough, because I can't be isolated in my day job.
I wish I was a sacrifice, but somehow still lived on.
Somedays I just want to be in isolation. Whether it's just sitting in a dark room with nothing to see or hear. Or just getting in my car and driving somewhere I haven't been and no one would be able to find me for the day. I've had a lot of those days recently.
Sorry to hear about feeling down , has something recently happened in your life that brought this on? Did you feel like these before and just less so up until the past couple of days?
I think we all feel the need to escape or not be around others , do you just stare into the darkness for a few hours and let your mind go? When you drive somewhere does it help or is it to just get away?
Just trying to understand.
There have been serious events in the past couple of years involving my wife and my mother. My therapist is trying to help me through the grieving process of losing my mom to brain cancer. She only had 1 year after her diagnosis, so it was a lot to process and still is. I also think I've always felt anxious and have had trouble feeling like I want to be isolated. It's tough, because I can't be isolated in my day job.
I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your mother , that cannot be easy nor can it be something that you can get over , the grieving aspect can take years for some people.
Obviously I think it is great you are seeing a therapist , you don't have to share if you don't want to however is part of the issues with your wife the grieving that you have been going thru the past year? Not meant as a slight but supporting someone thru a process like this can be draining even for the nicest person in the world.
If that is the case I would suggest brining your wife to a therapy session , always feel free to post what is happening , feeling anxious seems to be a normal feeling I would assume one would have with everything going on with you.
The hardest part as you said is "tough , because I can't be isolated in my day job" I can only assume you have to be exhausted at the end of the day from working when you just want to be alone and this only makes you want to be along even more like you are counting hours after you leave work ( I have 15 hours to be by myself )
Everyone grieves in their own way , please know how sorry I am for your loss and what you are going thru. Just like everyone else on this thread , always happy to hear how you are doing and that their are those who love you out there.
Somedays I just want to be in isolation. Whether it's just sitting in a dark room with nothing to see or hear. Or just getting in my car and driving somewhere I haven't been and no one would be able to find me for the day. I've had a lot of those days recently.
Sorry to hear about feeling down , has something recently happened in your life that brought this on? Did you feel like these before and just less so up until the past couple of days?
I think we all feel the need to escape or not be around others , do you just stare into the darkness for a few hours and let your mind go? When you drive somewhere does it help or is it to just get away?
Just trying to understand.
There have been serious events in the past couple of years involving my wife and my mother. My therapist is trying to help me through the grieving process of losing my mom to brain cancer. She only had 1 year after her diagnosis, so it was a lot to process and still is. I also think I've always felt anxious and have had trouble feeling like I want to be isolated. It's tough, because I can't be isolated in my day job.
I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your mother , that cannot be easy nor can it be something that you can get over , the grieving aspect can take years for some people.
Obviously I think it is great you are seeing a therapist , you don't have to share if you don't want to however is part of the issues with your wife the grieving that you have been going thru the past year? Not meant as a slight but supporting someone thru a process like this can be draining even for the nicest person in the world.
If that is the case I would suggest brining your wife to a therapy session , always feel free to post what is happening , feeling anxious seems to be a normal feeling I would assume one would have with everything going on with you.
The hardest part as you said is "tough , because I can't be isolated in my day job" I can only assume you have to be exhausted at the end of the day from working when you just want to be alone and this only makes you want to be along even more like you are counting hours after you leave work ( I have 15 hours to be by myself )
Everyone grieves in their own way , please know how sorry I am for your loss and what you are going thru. Just like everyone else on this thread , always happy to hear how you are doing and that their are those who love you out there.
My wife had a stroke a little more than 2 years ago, from a somewhat rare condition called Moyamoya Disease. Unfortunately, she won't be back to the way she was before it and she may not be able to finish some things she was in the middle of when it happened. The day that it happened was a traumatic experience for me. I try to move forward from it, but it's been difficult for me to do so.
I wish I was a sacrifice, but somehow still lived on.
Somedays I just want to be in isolation. Whether it's just sitting in a dark room with nothing to see or hear. Or just getting in my car and driving somewhere I haven't been and no one would be able to find me for the day. I've had a lot of those days recently.
Sorry to hear about feeling down , has something recently happened in your life that brought this on? Did you feel like these before and just less so up until the past couple of days?
I think we all feel the need to escape or not be around others , do you just stare into the darkness for a few hours and let your mind go? When you drive somewhere does it help or is it to just get away?
Just trying to understand.
There have been serious events in the past couple of years involving my wife and my mother. My therapist is trying to help me through the grieving process of losing my mom to brain cancer. She only had 1 year after her diagnosis, so it was a lot to process and still is. I also think I've always felt anxious and have had trouble feeling like I want to be isolated. It's tough, because I can't be isolated in my day job.
I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your mother , that cannot be easy nor can it be something that you can get over , the grieving aspect can take years for some people.
Obviously I think it is great you are seeing a therapist , you don't have to share if you don't want to however is part of the issues with your wife the grieving that you have been going thru the past year? Not meant as a slight but supporting someone thru a process like this can be draining even for the nicest person in the world.
If that is the case I would suggest brining your wife to a therapy session , always feel free to post what is happening , feeling anxious seems to be a normal feeling I would assume one would have with everything going on with you.
The hardest part as you said is "tough , because I can't be isolated in my day job" I can only assume you have to be exhausted at the end of the day from working when you just want to be alone and this only makes you want to be along even more like you are counting hours after you leave work ( I have 15 hours to be by myself )
Everyone grieves in their own way , please know how sorry I am for your loss and what you are going thru. Just like everyone else on this thread , always happy to hear how you are doing and that their are those who love you out there.
My wife had a stroke a little more than 2 years ago, from a somewhat rare condition called Moyamoya Disease. Unfortunately, she won't be back to the way she was before it and she may not be able to finish some things she was in the middle of when it happened. The day that it happened was a traumatic experience for me. I try to move forward from it, but it's been difficult for me to do so.
So hard lesson learned not to assume anything.
My heart truly goes out to you , the amount of emotional and physical stress you must go thru is almost too much for me to bear thinking about right now.
Please know I don't mean that in a bad way , I just cannot imaging and I cannot try to say anything other please feel free to post as much as you like.
Two extremely traumatic life changing events , I am not surprised you are were you are. Do any local hospitals around you or maybe your therapist could help you with finding a group to meet with and chat.
Although no one will have the exact same experience , I know groups like " Lost parent to cancer" are helpful for some as they can at least connect with someone who went thru the same loss , the story will be different and you may not find it helpful but I would suggest trying it.
Somedays I just want to be in isolation. Whether it's just sitting in a dark room with nothing to see or hear. Or just getting in my car and driving somewhere I haven't been and no one would be able to find me for the day. I've had a lot of those days recently.
Sorry to hear about feeling down , has something recently happened in your life that brought this on? Did you feel like these before and just less so up until the past couple of days?
I think we all feel the need to escape or not be around others , do you just stare into the darkness for a few hours and let your mind go? When you drive somewhere does it help or is it to just get away?
Just trying to understand.
There have been serious events in the past couple of years involving my wife and my mother. My therapist is trying to help me through the grieving process of losing my mom to brain cancer. She only had 1 year after her diagnosis, so it was a lot to process and still is. I also think I've always felt anxious and have had trouble feeling like I want to be isolated. It's tough, because I can't be isolated in my day job.
I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your mother , that cannot be easy nor can it be something that you can get over , the grieving aspect can take years for some people.
Obviously I think it is great you are seeing a therapist , you don't have to share if you don't want to however is part of the issues with your wife the grieving that you have been going thru the past year? Not meant as a slight but supporting someone thru a process like this can be draining even for the nicest person in the world.
If that is the case I would suggest brining your wife to a therapy session , always feel free to post what is happening , feeling anxious seems to be a normal feeling I would assume one would have with everything going on with you.
The hardest part as you said is "tough , because I can't be isolated in my day job" I can only assume you have to be exhausted at the end of the day from working when you just want to be alone and this only makes you want to be along even more like you are counting hours after you leave work ( I have 15 hours to be by myself )
Everyone grieves in their own way , please know how sorry I am for your loss and what you are going thru. Just like everyone else on this thread , always happy to hear how you are doing and that their are those who love you out there.
My wife had a stroke a little more than 2 years ago, from a somewhat rare condition called Moyamoya Disease. Unfortunately, she won't be back to the way she was before it and she may not be able to finish some things she was in the middle of when it happened. The day that it happened was a traumatic experience for me. I try to move forward from it, but it's been difficult for me to do so.
So hard lesson learned not to assume anything.
My heart truly goes out to you , the amount of emotional and physical stress you must go thru is almost too much for me to bear thinking about right now.
Please know I don't mean that in a bad way , I just cannot imaging and I cannot try to say anything other please feel free to post as much as you like.
Two extremely traumatic life changing events , I am not surprised you are were you are. Do any local hospitals around you or maybe your therapist could help you with finding a group to meet with and chat.
Although no one will have the exact same experience , I know groups like " Lost parent to cancer" are helpful for some as they can at least connect with someone who went thru the same loss , the story will be different and you may not find it helpful but I would suggest trying it.
I haven't tried to participate in a group yet. I've just felt empty inside for quite a while. It's almost like I've spent up my emotions for the better part of 2018. I used to be a fairly emotional person prior to this, but now feel like a drone. I'm not sure if it's what I've experienced, my meds, or a combination of both.
I wish I was a sacrifice, but somehow still lived on.
TA , don't let anyone get your down , don't focus on that one negative comment ( this is coming from someone who focus's on the one negative comment by my wife tells me to let it go )
Just the other day HugeDillon posted something along the lines of "those who say just go to the gym don't get it" for just a few seconds I thought he was speaking about myself and then I had to get rid of that negative thought as it was me just thinking.
As far as safe space , obviously we are all here for each other but the forum is open and there is always going to be a flame thrower just trying to rattle anyone just to get that reaction. I never found the appeal of trolling people on the internet.
We are here for you and care for you and even if it is just to say hello pop on , people were worried and honestly that should make you feel good and loved that people from all over the world were wondering about what was going on.
that was just an example. of course I've probably said something similar to people of like minds. I was more referring to people who obviously have never dealt with clinical depression and think you can will your way out of it, and are very dismissive about it.
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Yeah we are all here for you Rob.
What I said that appears to have sparked this concern -- is that in my own life I have ended a few in-the-flesh relationships with people who drained me emotionally because their problems were too big for me to handle. I had my own problems to work through and was not getting the support I needed from that very, very needy friend. It was part of my own treatment for own mental illness and dysfunction to end the friendship. I needed to cut off the source of the anxiety and dysfunction to get well for myself.
Out of that history I shared, I suggested that when people feel stuck in a cycle, they could try to be more open to new things to resolve their anxiety. That was it. It was a suggestion to break the cycle. It was not a judgment on any individual's strength or weakness or over-sharing or under-sharing. We all know here that some days are way easier than others. If you need to reach out, reach. Someone will be here, whoever is able at that moment in time.
Each of us are carrying our own emotional weight. We come here to support, but not carry the weight for others.
It reminds me of Myth of Sisyphus. There is a Minus The Bear song (Cold Company) that is not applicable here, but it goes along the MoS line.
As far as your partner is concerned, she is scared to death. Great energy coming to you both.
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Thanks for caring and reaching out on Whatsapp and via PM.
Plus, I didn't come on this thread to be labelled a narcissist and then ignored on PM when reaching out by a hostile person.
Peace out.
We all know how that feels to be upset by something when we are at our lowest everything hurts. Mate dont not come here because of any one else. Just type how you feel . I for one would be fucked without this thread because i do not type anywhere else or really run any thing by anyone else. I dont have anyone that i can just keep saying this to without upsetting them.
Those that know you . Know you. You are in a hole but you will rise.
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Not today Sir, Probably not tomorrow.............................................. bayfront arena st. pete '94
you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '14
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Not today Sir, Probably not tomorrow.............................................. bayfront arena st. pete '94
you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '14
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TA , don't let anyone get your down , don't focus on that one negative comment ( this is coming from someone who focus's on the one negative comment by my wife tells me to let it go )
Just the other day HugeDillon posted something along the lines of "those who say just go to the gym don't get it" for just a few seconds I thought he was speaking about myself and then I had to get rid of that negative thought as it was me just thinking.
As far as safe space , obviously we are all here for each other but the forum is open and there is always going to be a flame thrower just trying to rattle anyone just to get that reaction. I never found the appeal of trolling people on the internet.
We are here for you and care for you and even if it is just to say hello pop on , people were worried and honestly that should make you feel good and loved that people from all over the world were wondering about what was going on.
Sorry to hear about feeling down , has something recently happened in your life that brought this on? Did you feel like these before and just less so up until the past couple of days?
I think we all feel the need to escape or not be around others , do you just stare into the darkness for a few hours and let your mind go? When you drive somewhere does it help or is it to just get away?
Just trying to understand.
I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your mother , that cannot be easy nor can it be something that you can get over , the grieving aspect can take years for some people.
Obviously I think it is great you are seeing a therapist , you don't have to share if you don't want to however is part of the issues with your wife the grieving that you have been going thru the past year? Not meant as a slight but supporting someone thru a process like this can be draining even for the nicest person in the world.
If that is the case I would suggest brining your wife to a therapy session , always feel free to post what is happening , feeling anxious seems to be a normal feeling I would assume one would have with everything going on with you.
The hardest part as you said is "tough , because I can't be isolated in my day job" I can only assume you have to be exhausted at the end of the day from working when you just want to be alone and this only makes you want to be along even more like you are counting hours after you leave work ( I have 15 hours to be by myself )
Everyone grieves in their own way , please know how sorry I am for your loss and what you are going thru. Just like everyone else on this thread , always happy to hear how you are doing and that their are those who love you out there.
So hard lesson learned not to assume anything.
My heart truly goes out to you , the amount of emotional and physical stress you must go thru is almost too much for me to bear thinking about right now.
Please know I don't mean that in a bad way , I just cannot imaging and I cannot try to say anything other please feel free to post as much as you like.
Two extremely traumatic life changing events , I am not surprised you are were you are. Do any local hospitals around you or maybe your therapist could help you with finding a group to meet with and chat.
Although no one will have the exact same experience , I know groups like " Lost parent to cancer" are helpful for some as they can at least connect with someone who went thru the same loss , the story will be different and you may not find it helpful but I would suggest trying it.
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There will be better days ahead. It's hard to not focus or even think about them most of the time.
"HugeDillon" made me laugh. LOL
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