I'm so down and anxiety ridden that I have chest pains (happens every time I am in a shit mood).
If you're still in a shit mood when you read this, just don't do things that are going to make you even more upset. Do something creative, even if you know it is going to turn out to be shit. Let it be shit. Log out of FB, log out of this forum, and create something.
I understand she has a boyfriend but at least a simple greeting wouldn't hurt. Maybe as said above she was in her own world. Later in the day after posting the above, I was sitting on the floor outside the classroom where my tutorial was going to be and talking with a guy I know from the previous course I was enrolled in. When the tutorial finished she walked out and noticed me and and smiled and I waved hello and that was that. No, I wasn't stalking her, her tutorial is before mine and I was waiting. I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone in my circle is in love but me. I feel so alone and terrified I will never find someone. No antidepressant will fix that.
the problem I see here is that you don't allow others to be in their own world. who knows what was going on in her head when she walked passed you. people deal with their own shit, and can't always be concerned or notice absolutely every other person they know. sometimes it's just too hard. there are an infinite number of reasons she may have not said hi.
also, why didn't YOU say hi?
I ask myself this same question all the time too. I have always had this anxiety and shyness when it comes to approaching someone to say hi. There was this girl I liked in high school who I would see on the bus to school in the mornings and I would pretend I didn't see her as I was terrified of saying hello.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
I understand she has a boyfriend but at least a simple greeting wouldn't hurt. Maybe as said above she was in her own world. Later in the day after posting the above, I was sitting on the floor outside the classroom where my tutorial was going to be and talking with a guy I know from the previous course I was enrolled in. When the tutorial finished she walked out and noticed me and and smiled and I waved hello and that was that. No, I wasn't stalking her, her tutorial is before mine and I was waiting. I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone in my circle is in love but me. I feel so alone and terrified I will never find someone. No antidepressant will fix that.
the problem I see here is that you don't allow others to be in their own world. who knows what was going on in her head when she walked passed you. people deal with their own shit, and can't always be concerned or notice absolutely every other person they know. sometimes it's just too hard. there are an infinite number of reasons she may have not said hi.
also, why didn't YOU say hi?
I agree with all of this.
I also think that this woman with the serious boyfriend isn't up for grabs anyway, and that there is no reason for you to be sweating something so much when all it is and all it can be is a casual friendship at most.
I agree. I hate the way my mind works.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
I'm so down and anxiety ridden that I have chest pains (happens every time I am in a shit mood).
If you're still in a shit mood when you read this, just don't do things that are going to make you even more upset. Do something creative, even if you know it is going to turn out to be shit. Let it be shit. Log out of FB, log out of this forum, and create something.
I wanted to draw something last night but couldn't motivate myself.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
My GP increased my dose. She said what I was on was not a therapeutic dose, it was just to ease my way onto this new drug. I am sorry about the shit that came out of my keyboard last night.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
My GP increased my dose. She said what I was on was not a therapeutic dose, it was just to ease my way onto this new drug. I am sorry about the shit that came out of my keyboard last night.
No apologies necessary. Good luck as you work towards finding a dosage that works for you. Don’t give up hope during the process. Recognise that it will take time.
"What the CANUCK happened?!? - Esquimalt Barber Shop
Thanks S. I feel better today, albeit tired from a lack of sleep. I managed to go shopping after my GP to get out and keep busy. Had to buy some things for the kitchen.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
My GP increased my dose. She said what I was on was not a therapeutic dose, it was just to ease my way onto this new drug. I am sorry about the shit that came out of my keyboard last night.
the title of the thread is a SAFE PLACE. don't apologize. it's not necessary here.
I understand she has a boyfriend but at least a simple greeting wouldn't hurt. Maybe as said above she was in her own world. Later in the day after posting the above, I was sitting on the floor outside the classroom where my tutorial was going to be and talking with a guy I know from the previous course I was enrolled in. When the tutorial finished she walked out and noticed me and and smiled and I waved hello and that was that. No, I wasn't stalking her, her tutorial is before mine and I was waiting. I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone in my circle is in love but me. I feel so alone and terrified I will never find someone. No antidepressant will fix that.
the problem I see here is that you don't allow others to be in their own world. who knows what was going on in her head when she walked passed you. people deal with their own shit, and can't always be concerned or notice absolutely every other person they know. sometimes it's just too hard. there are an infinite number of reasons she may have not said hi.
also, why didn't YOU say hi?
I agree with all of this.
I also think that this woman with the serious boyfriend isn't up for grabs anyway, and that there is no reason for you to be sweating something so much when all it is and all it can be is a casual friendship at most.
I agree with both of the above. Thoughts_Arrived if you don't mind me asking how old are you? I think that too much is placed on humans that you need to have a partner at a certain age or need to be in love or need to have a certain job.
When really every human is so different, I had no serious girlfriend from 19-32 , just hung out with my friends , honestly did not want to be in a relationship and even when I was I would self sabotage it with my fears , worries or depression. I would project what I was feeling the other person was thinking on them. So in my mind I would assume someone was upset with me , I would then be upset with them and not even ask what was going on.
I believe one cannot truly love until you love yourself for who you are. It took me over 10 years to realize that I loved myself for who I was , all my flaws , all my issues , my happiness my sadness it is what makes me who I am for better or worst.
I am not trying to make you feel bad at all because this is a safe space but it feels like you are putting a lot on you have to meet someone , you have to be with someone now and if you are not then you will be alone forever. That can sometimes create some desperation and I can tell you that those who do love themselves can smell that desperation a mile away. Try to take it day by day , don't think that just because someone does not say hello it is a slight to you , they could have found out someone in their family has a serious illness or they could also be depressed or have anxiety and think you are not saying hi to them.
Just take it day by day , you will get there. If everyday you are looking to fall in love it is really not going to happen , just take a deep breath , when you feel slighted don't bury the emotions you have. Let them fester for five mins or so and then move on from there.
I understand she has a boyfriend but at least a simple greeting wouldn't hurt. Maybe as said above she was in her own world. Later in the day after posting the above, I was sitting on the floor outside the classroom where my tutorial was going to be and talking with a guy I know from the previous course I was enrolled in. When the tutorial finished she walked out and noticed me and and smiled and I waved hello and that was that. No, I wasn't stalking her, her tutorial is before mine and I was waiting. I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone in my circle is in love but me. I feel so alone and terrified I will never find someone. No antidepressant will fix that.
the problem I see here is that you don't allow others to be in their own world. who knows what was going on in her head when she walked passed you. people deal with their own shit, and can't always be concerned or notice absolutely every other person they know. sometimes it's just too hard. there are an infinite number of reasons she may have not said hi.
also, why didn't YOU say hi?
I agree with all of this.
I also think that this woman with the serious boyfriend isn't up for grabs anyway, and that there is no reason for you to be sweating something so much when all it is and all it can be is a casual friendship at most.
I agree with both of the above. Thoughts_Arrived if you don't mind me asking how old are you? I think that too much is placed on humans that you need to have a partner at a certain age or need to be in love or need to have a certain job.
When really every human is so different, I had no serious girlfriend from 19-32 , just hung out with my friends , honestly did not want to be in a relationship and even when I was I would self sabotage it with my fears , worries or depression. I would project what I was feeling the other person was thinking on them. So in my mind I would assume someone was upset with me , I would then be upset with them and not even ask what was going on.
I believe one cannot truly love until you love yourself for who you are. It took me over 10 years to realize that I loved myself for who I was , all my flaws , all my issues , my happiness my sadness it is what makes me who I am for better or worst.
I am not trying to make you feel bad at all because this is a safe space but it feels like you are putting a lot on you have to meet someone , you have to be with someone now and if you are not then you will be alone forever. That can sometimes create some desperation and I can tell you that those who do love themselves can smell that desperation a mile away. Try to take it day by day , don't think that just because someone does not say hello it is a slight to you , they could have found out someone in their family has a serious illness or they could also be depressed or have anxiety and think you are not saying hi to them.
Just take it day by day , you will get there. If everyday you are looking to fall in love it is really not going to happen , just take a deep breath , when you feel slighted don't bury the emotions you have. Let them fester for five mins or so and then move on from there.
matt is right. this really is the biggest thing. I know from experience. a healthy relationship can only exist if both parties are confident about their own selves. hating yourself will only attract people that will treat you accordingly.
I understand she has a boyfriend but at least a simple greeting wouldn't hurt. Maybe as said above she was in her own world. Later in the day after posting the above, I was sitting on the floor outside the classroom where my tutorial was going to be and talking with a guy I know from the previous course I was enrolled in. When the tutorial finished she walked out and noticed me and and smiled and I waved hello and that was that. No, I wasn't stalking her, her tutorial is before mine and I was waiting. I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone in my circle is in love but me. I feel so alone and terrified I will never find someone. No antidepressant will fix that.
the problem I see here is that you don't allow others to be in their own world. who knows what was going on in her head when she walked passed you. people deal with their own shit, and can't always be concerned or notice absolutely every other person they know. sometimes it's just too hard. there are an infinite number of reasons she may have not said hi.
also, why didn't YOU say hi?
I agree with all of this.
I also think that this woman with the serious boyfriend isn't up for grabs anyway, and that there is no reason for you to be sweating something so much when all it is and all it can be is a casual friendship at most.
I agree with both of the above. Thoughts_Arrived if you don't mind me asking how old are you? I think that too much is placed on humans that you need to have a partner at a certain age or need to be in love or need to have a certain job.
When really every human is so different, I had no serious girlfriend from 19-32 , just hung out with my friends , honestly did not want to be in a relationship and even when I was I would self sabotage it with my fears , worries or depression. I would project what I was feeling the other person was thinking on them. So in my mind I would assume someone was upset with me , I would then be upset with them and not even ask what was going on.
I believe one cannot truly love until you love yourself for who you are. It took me over 10 years to realize that I loved myself for who I was , all my flaws , all my issues , my happiness my sadness it is what makes me who I am for better or worst.
I am not trying to make you feel bad at all because this is a safe space but it feels like you are putting a lot on you have to meet someone , you have to be with someone now and if you are not then you will be alone forever. That can sometimes create some desperation and I can tell you that those who do love themselves can smell that desperation a mile away. Try to take it day by day , don't think that just because someone does not say hello it is a slight to you , they could have found out someone in their family has a serious illness or they could also be depressed or have anxiety and think you are not saying hi to them.
Just take it day by day , you will get there. If everyday you are looking to fall in love it is really not going to happen , just take a deep breath , when you feel slighted don't bury the emotions you have. Let them fester for five mins or so and then move on from there.
Thanks for the words.
I'm 35.
My parents are unhappy that I have not married and had kids.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
My GP increased my dose. She said what I was on was not a therapeutic dose, it was just to ease my way onto this new drug. I am sorry about the shit that came out of my keyboard last night.
the title of the thread is a SAFE PLACE. don't apologize. it's not necessary here.
Thanks for understanding
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
Some meds take a bit of time to do their thing. Maybe chalk it up to that, or just a low period?
And lastexit, I hope you're looking into other ways (rehab, therapy, etc.) to help you out. There's never any shame in reaching out, in order to make your body and mind well.
Ive lost all hope. I couldn't get up at all . I seriously think my time is up. Thanks for all the love and care.
Woah!
Message me. I don't ck my Whts app often but message me here.
I'll take none of this nonsense. My friend is in there and I'd like to talk to him please!!!
Rob, my friend. Give me a jingle please!
PS, yes I posted this publicly, you can tell me I'm a wanker later...
Sorry chris. Ive whatsapped you. Ive never been this bad. Nothing works im in distress all day all night. My race seems to be ran. I can only thank everyone over the last few years for listening to my plight with warm hearts. Good souls. Im sorry all i would write will be upsetting others maybe. Ive tried not to post.
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this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
I understand she has a boyfriend but at least a simple greeting wouldn't hurt. Maybe as said above she was in her own world. Later in the day after posting the above, I was sitting on the floor outside the classroom where my tutorial was going to be and talking with a guy I know from the previous course I was enrolled in. When the tutorial finished she walked out and noticed me and and smiled and I waved hello and that was that. No, I wasn't stalking her, her tutorial is before mine and I was waiting. I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone in my circle is in love but me. I feel so alone and terrified I will never find someone. No antidepressant will fix that.
the problem I see here is that you don't allow others to be in their own world. who knows what was going on in her head when she walked passed you. people deal with their own shit, and can't always be concerned or notice absolutely every other person they know. sometimes it's just too hard. there are an infinite number of reasons she may have not said hi.
also, why didn't YOU say hi?
I agree with all of this.
I also think that this woman with the serious boyfriend isn't up for grabs anyway, and that there is no reason for you to be sweating something so much when all it is and all it can be is a casual friendship at most.
I agree with both of the above. Thoughts_Arrived if you don't mind me asking how old are you? I think that too much is placed on humans that you need to have a partner at a certain age or need to be in love or need to have a certain job.
When really every human is so different, I had no serious girlfriend from 19-32 , just hung out with my friends , honestly did not want to be in a relationship and even when I was I would self sabotage it with my fears , worries or depression. I would project what I was feeling the other person was thinking on them. So in my mind I would assume someone was upset with me , I would then be upset with them and not even ask what was going on.
I believe one cannot truly love until you love yourself for who you are. It took me over 10 years to realize that I loved myself for who I was , all my flaws , all my issues , my happiness my sadness it is what makes me who I am for better or worst.
I am not trying to make you feel bad at all because this is a safe space but it feels like you are putting a lot on you have to meet someone , you have to be with someone now and if you are not then you will be alone forever. That can sometimes create some desperation and I can tell you that those who do love themselves can smell that desperation a mile away. Try to take it day by day , don't think that just because someone does not say hello it is a slight to you , they could have found out someone in their family has a serious illness or they could also be depressed or have anxiety and think you are not saying hi to them.
Just take it day by day , you will get there. If everyday you are looking to fall in love it is really not going to happen , just take a deep breath , when you feel slighted don't bury the emotions you have. Let them fester for five mins or so and then move on from there.
Thanks for the words.
I'm 35.
My parents are unhappy that I have not married and had kids.
Then that is on them. You have to live your life, not the life others want for you.
I don't know that there are many of us living the life our parents planned for us. My parents? Yes. I could balance a ball on my nose and they would be good with it. However, neither my husband or I am good enough with anything we do in my in-law's eyes.
I am not who they chose for their son.
Their son does not have a job high level enough for them.
My job is not high level enough for them.
We adopted a county baby and not a foreign baby.
We don't live in a big enough house with big enough cars and super sized egos.
We do not care what they think. We do not care what others think. We live the life that makes three of us in our home happy.
Be happy in your own skin. Don't worry about others.
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Wise words from my dear friends above.
TA, being a Tool fan, you may have heard / appreciate this. The lyrics helped me to finally take that bite and change my life, in ways, for the better. For myself. https://youtu.be/cF8s3qw3Xzg
Sorry chris. Ive whatsapped you. Ive never been this bad. Nothing works im in distress all day all night. My race seems to be ran. I can only thank everyone over the last few years for listening to my plight with warm hearts. Good souls. Im sorry all i would write will be upsetting others maybe. Ive tried not to post.
Rob, you are not thinking clearly. Things are too big and unmanageable for you right now. You NEED to check yourself into hospital right now. Things are bad for you now, but they can get better. Please DO NOT give up on yourself! Your are a good soul who just needs a break. Hospitalisation may be the reset that can get you back on the path to a manageable life. We are all in your corner rooting for you. Please seek help.
"What the CANUCK happened?!? - Esquimalt Barber Shop
I understand she has a boyfriend but at least a simple greeting wouldn't hurt. Maybe as said above she was in her own world. Later in the day after posting the above, I was sitting on the floor outside the classroom where my tutorial was going to be and talking with a guy I know from the previous course I was enrolled in. When the tutorial finished she walked out and noticed me and and smiled and I waved hello and that was that. No, I wasn't stalking her, her tutorial is before mine and I was waiting. I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone in my circle is in love but me. I feel so alone and terrified I will never find someone. No antidepressant will fix that.
the problem I see here is that you don't allow others to be in their own world. who knows what was going on in her head when she walked passed you. people deal with their own shit, and can't always be concerned or notice absolutely every other person they know. sometimes it's just too hard. there are an infinite number of reasons she may have not said hi.
also, why didn't YOU say hi?
I agree with all of this.
I also think that this woman with the serious boyfriend isn't up for grabs anyway, and that there is no reason for you to be sweating something so much when all it is and all it can be is a casual friendship at most.
I agree with both of the above. Thoughts_Arrived if you don't mind me asking how old are you? I think that too much is placed on humans that you need to have a partner at a certain age or need to be in love or need to have a certain job.
When really every human is so different, I had no serious girlfriend from 19-32 , just hung out with my friends , honestly did not want to be in a relationship and even when I was I would self sabotage it with my fears , worries or depression. I would project what I was feeling the other person was thinking on them. So in my mind I would assume someone was upset with me , I would then be upset with them and not even ask what was going on.
I believe one cannot truly love until you love yourself for who you are. It took me over 10 years to realize that I loved myself for who I was , all my flaws , all my issues , my happiness my sadness it is what makes me who I am for better or worst.
I am not trying to make you feel bad at all because this is a safe space but it feels like you are putting a lot on you have to meet someone , you have to be with someone now and if you are not then you will be alone forever. That can sometimes create some desperation and I can tell you that those who do love themselves can smell that desperation a mile away. Try to take it day by day , don't think that just because someone does not say hello it is a slight to you , they could have found out someone in their family has a serious illness or they could also be depressed or have anxiety and think you are not saying hi to them.
Just take it day by day , you will get there. If everyday you are looking to fall in love it is really not going to happen , just take a deep breath , when you feel slighted don't bury the emotions you have. Let them fester for five mins or so and then move on from there.
Thanks for the words.
I'm 35.
My parents are unhappy that I have not married and had kids.
learn to live your own life and stop giving two fucking shits what anyone else thinks. parents, friends, relatives, profs, you name it. they aren't you, so they can't judge SHIT. my sister has been trying her whole life to "make me better". i was never good enough the way i was. i told her one day, well, several times, over the years, to back the fuck up and fuck the hell off. and look at her now: she had a shit marriage and her husband fucking died of alcoholism.
see, most people who try to improve others are just sad about their own shitty lives and can't bear to deal with it, so they try to prop themselves up by 'teaching' others how they should be. it's text book unhappiness projection. or narcissism. either way, it's toxic as fuck and you need to rid yourself of it.
you keep making excuses why you don't move out. school, no money, whatever it is. people do it. you can do it. your life will continue to suck as long as you stay under that roof.
happiness does not come from satisfying others alone. i love making people happy. but i wouldn't be able to if i wasn't happy myself.
it's so frustrating to sit here and see you complain over and over again what other people think of you. WHO CARES. seriously, WHO FUCKING CARES. as i said before, you need to take the bull by the horns and talk to people. initiate initiate initiate. if people don't reciprocate, then accept it and move on. don't watch someone walk by and then wonder to yourself why they didn't open up their life to you. you are responsible for how your day goes. if they don't say hi. you say hi. very simple. do you think any one of us have been accepted as 'awesome' by every person we've ever met? fuck no. i'm sure there are people that don't care for me, don't like me, even fucking hate me. guess what. i don't know because i don't give a shit. hang out and commiserate with people i know like me, and i like them. the rest of them, there's fucking 7 billion of em. all i do is try to be nice and respectful to everyone, friend or stranger, and the rest takes care of itself.
pick up that guitar. force yourself. write a song. do something for yourself that makes you proud of yourself or at least satisfies you once a day.
take a walk. go walk a dog at a shelter. go get a record or a cd at a used shop and put it on and get lost in it. go to a movie alone.
i learned to relish, even love, being alone after my first long term relationship ended. those two years were amazing. only then, when i was happy with myself, did things start coming together. people seemed to gravitate towards me and want to hang out. because i was happy with myself, fun to be with, and it didn't matter that i was 27, working two dead end part time jobs 60 hours a week. living with a male room mate who looked like drew carey with no front teeth. i was on my own, without the witch that was dragging me down, and it was great. my parents were happy that i was happy.
you gotta walk your own walk man. no one's going to walk it for you. and waiting for people to come around just won't work. it won't happen. not until you work on yourself first.
Sorry chris. Ive whatsapped you. Ive never been this bad. Nothing works im in distress all day all night. My race seems to be ran. I can only thank everyone over the last few years for listening to my plight with warm hearts. Good souls. Im sorry all i would write will be upsetting others maybe. Ive tried not to post.
Rob, you are not thinking clearly. Things are too big and unmanageable for you right now. You NEED to check yourself into hospital right now. Things are bad for you now, but they can get better. Please DO NOT give up on yourself! Your are a good soul who just needs a break. Hospitalisation may be the reset that can get you back on the path to a manageable life. We are all in your corner rooting for you. Please seek help.
Sorry chris. Ive whatsapped you. Ive never been this bad. Nothing works im in distress all day all night. My race seems to be ran. I can only thank everyone over the last few years for listening to my plight with warm hearts. Good souls. Im sorry all i would write will be upsetting others maybe. Ive tried not to post.
Thinking of you, LEL. Hoping you can pull through this to see a lil sun on the other side. Hang in there.
TA, being a Tool fan, you may have heard / appreciate this. The lyrics helped me to finally take that bite and change my life, in ways, for the better. For myself. https://youtu.be/cF8s3qw3Xzg
I have never heard songs from the other projects MJK is involved in. This song is very good. I need to check out APC and Puscifer. Thanks for sharing.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
I understand she has a boyfriend but at least a simple greeting wouldn't hurt. Maybe as said above she was in her own world. Later in the day after posting the above, I was sitting on the floor outside the classroom where my tutorial was going to be and talking with a guy I know from the previous course I was enrolled in. When the tutorial finished she walked out and noticed me and and smiled and I waved hello and that was that. No, I wasn't stalking her, her tutorial is before mine and I was waiting. I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone in my circle is in love but me. I feel so alone and terrified I will never find someone. No antidepressant will fix that.
the problem I see here is that you don't allow others to be in their own world. who knows what was going on in her head when she walked passed you. people deal with their own shit, and can't always be concerned or notice absolutely every other person they know. sometimes it's just too hard. there are an infinite number of reasons she may have not said hi.
also, why didn't YOU say hi?
I agree with all of this.
I also think that this woman with the serious boyfriend isn't up for grabs anyway, and that there is no reason for you to be sweating something so much when all it is and all it can be is a casual friendship at most.
I agree with both of the above. Thoughts_Arrived if you don't mind me asking how old are you? I think that too much is placed on humans that you need to have a partner at a certain age or need to be in love or need to have a certain job.
When really every human is so different, I had no serious girlfriend from 19-32 , just hung out with my friends , honestly did not want to be in a relationship and even when I was I would self sabotage it with my fears , worries or depression. I would project what I was feeling the other person was thinking on them. So in my mind I would assume someone was upset with me , I would then be upset with them and not even ask what was going on.
I believe one cannot truly love until you love yourself for who you are. It took me over 10 years to realize that I loved myself for who I was , all my flaws , all my issues , my happiness my sadness it is what makes me who I am for better or worst.
I am not trying to make you feel bad at all because this is a safe space but it feels like you are putting a lot on you have to meet someone , you have to be with someone now and if you are not then you will be alone forever. That can sometimes create some desperation and I can tell you that those who do love themselves can smell that desperation a mile away. Try to take it day by day , don't think that just because someone does not say hello it is a slight to you , they could have found out someone in their family has a serious illness or they could also be depressed or have anxiety and think you are not saying hi to them.
Just take it day by day , you will get there. If everyday you are looking to fall in love it is really not going to happen , just take a deep breath , when you feel slighted don't bury the emotions you have. Let them fester for five mins or so and then move on from there.
Thanks for the words.
I'm 35.
My parents are unhappy that I have not married and had kids.
learn to live your own life and stop giving two fucking shits what anyone else thinks. parents, friends, relatives, profs, you name it. they aren't you, so they can't judge SHIT. my sister has been trying her whole life to "make me better". i was never good enough the way i was. i told her one day, well, several times, over the years, to back the fuck up and fuck the hell off. and look at her now: she had a shit marriage and her husband fucking died of alcoholism.
see, most people who try to improve others are just sad about their own shitty lives and can't bear to deal with it, so they try to prop themselves up by 'teaching' others how they should be. it's text book unhappiness projection. or narcissism. either way, it's toxic as fuck and you need to rid yourself of it.
you keep making excuses why you don't move out. school, no money, whatever it is. people do it. you can do it. your life will continue to suck as long as you stay under that roof.
happiness does not come from satisfying others alone. i love making people happy. but i wouldn't be able to if i wasn't happy myself.
it's so frustrating to sit here and see you complain over and over again what other people think of you. WHO CARES. seriously, WHO FUCKING CARES. as i said before, you need to take the bull by the horns and talk to people. initiate initiate initiate. if people don't reciprocate, then accept it and move on. don't watch someone walk by and then wonder to yourself why they didn't open up their life to you. you are responsible for how your day goes. if they don't say hi. you say hi. very simple. do you think any one of us have been accepted as 'awesome' by every person we've ever met? fuck no. i'm sure there are people that don't care for me, don't like me, even fucking hate me. guess what. i don't know because i don't give a shit. hang out and commiserate with people i know like me, and i like them. the rest of them, there's fucking 7 billion of em. all i do is try to be nice and respectful to everyone, friend or stranger, and the rest takes care of itself.
pick up that guitar. force yourself. write a song. do something for yourself that makes you proud of yourself or at least satisfies you once a day.
take a walk. go walk a dog at a shelter. go get a record or a cd at a used shop and put it on and get lost in it. go to a movie alone.
i learned to relish, even love, being alone after my first long term relationship ended. those two years were amazing. only then, when i was happy with myself, did things start coming together. people seemed to gravitate towards me and want to hang out. because i was happy with myself, fun to be with, and it didn't matter that i was 27, working two dead end part time jobs 60 hours a week. living with a male room mate who looked like drew carey with no front teeth. i was on my own, without the witch that was dragging me down, and it was great. my parents were happy that i was happy.
you gotta walk your own walk man. no one's going to walk it for you. and waiting for people to come around just won't work. it won't happen. not until you work on yourself first.
Thanks for that. And sorry.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
Not today Sir, Probably not tomorrow.............................................. bayfront arena st. pete '94
you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '14
Sadly no good m. Its all too much. Mickey i tried to read it but straight away saw the illness that im scared of and couldn't not read any further. I cant even see the word. Not your fault mine. I cant even see the word.
brixton 93
astoria 06
albany 06
hartford 06
reading 06
barcelona 06
paris 06
wembley 07
dusseldorf 07
nijmegen 07
this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
Sorry to hear. Are you on any anti-anxiety medication? Are you in a position to look for psychologists that specialise in health anxiety? I had a Google search for psychologists specialising in health anxiety in the UK and I found this site. If you scroll to the profiles of the psychologists you will see there are London based psychologists and one does Skype sessions which you could consider if this particular psychologist is not in London. https://theprivatetherapyclinic.co.uk/health-anxiety/
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
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She said what I was on was not a therapeutic dose, it was just to ease my way onto this new drug.
I am sorry about the shit that came out of my keyboard last night.
I feel better today, albeit tired from a lack of sleep. I managed to go shopping after my GP to get out and keep busy. Had to buy some things for the kitchen.
www.headstonesband.com
I agree with both of the above. Thoughts_Arrived if you don't mind me asking how old are you? I think that too much is placed on humans that you need to have a partner at a certain age or need to be in love or need to have a certain job.
When really every human is so different, I had no serious girlfriend from 19-32 , just hung out with my friends , honestly did not want to be in a relationship and even when I was I would self sabotage it with my fears , worries or depression. I would project what I was feeling the other person was thinking on them. So in my mind I would assume someone was upset with me , I would then be upset with them and not even ask what was going on.
I believe one cannot truly love until you love yourself for who you are. It took me over 10 years to realize that I loved myself for who I was , all my flaws , all my issues , my happiness my sadness it is what makes me who I am for better or worst.
I am not trying to make you feel bad at all because this is a safe space but it feels like you are putting a lot on you have to meet someone , you have to be with someone now and if you are not then you will be alone forever. That can sometimes create some desperation and I can tell you that those who do love themselves can smell that desperation a mile away. Try to take it day by day , don't think that just because someone does not say hello it is a slight to you , they could have found out someone in their family has a serious illness or they could also be depressed or have anxiety and think you are not saying hi to them.
Just take it day by day , you will get there. If everyday you are looking to fall in love it is really not going to happen , just take a deep breath , when you feel slighted don't bury the emotions you have. Let them fester for five mins or so and then move on from there.
work on yourself and the rest will flow.
www.headstonesband.com
Message me. I don't ck my Whts app often but message me here.
I'll take none of this nonsense. My friend is in there and I'd like to talk to him please!!!
Rob, my friend. Give me a jingle please!
PS, yes I posted this publicly, you can tell me I'm a wanker later...
I can only thank everyone over the last few years for listening to my plight with warm hearts. Good souls. Im sorry all i would write will be upsetting others maybe. Ive tried not to post.
astoria 06
albany 06
hartford 06
reading 06
barcelona 06
paris 06
wembley 07
dusseldorf 07
nijmegen 07
this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
Have you tried looking for psychologists that specialise in health anxiety?
I am not who they chose for their son.
Their son does not have a job high level enough for them.
My job is not high level enough for them.
We adopted a county baby and not a foreign baby.
We don't live in a big enough house with big enough cars and super sized egos.
We do not care what they think. We do not care what others think. We live the life that makes three of us in our home happy.
Be happy in your own skin. Don't worry about others.
2016: Lexington and Wrigley 1
TA, being a Tool fan, you may have heard / appreciate this. The lyrics helped me to finally take that bite and change my life, in ways, for the better. For myself.
see, most people who try to improve others are just sad about their own shitty lives and can't bear to deal with it, so they try to prop themselves up by 'teaching' others how they should be. it's text book unhappiness projection. or narcissism. either way, it's toxic as fuck and you need to rid yourself of it.
you keep making excuses why you don't move out. school, no money, whatever it is. people do it. you can do it. your life will continue to suck as long as you stay under that roof.
happiness does not come from satisfying others alone. i love making people happy. but i wouldn't be able to if i wasn't happy myself.
it's so frustrating to sit here and see you complain over and over again what other people think of you. WHO CARES. seriously, WHO FUCKING CARES. as i said before, you need to take the bull by the horns and talk to people. initiate initiate initiate. if people don't reciprocate, then accept it and move on. don't watch someone walk by and then wonder to yourself why they didn't open up their life to you. you are responsible for how your day goes. if they don't say hi. you say hi. very simple. do you think any one of us have been accepted as 'awesome' by every person we've ever met? fuck no. i'm sure there are people that don't care for me, don't like me, even fucking hate me. guess what. i don't know because i don't give a shit. hang out and commiserate with people i know like me, and i like them. the rest of them, there's fucking 7 billion of em. all i do is try to be nice and respectful to everyone, friend or stranger, and the rest takes care of itself.
pick up that guitar. force yourself. write a song. do something for yourself that makes you proud of yourself or at least satisfies you once a day.
take a walk.
go walk a dog at a shelter.
go get a record or a cd at a used shop and put it on and get lost in it.
go to a movie alone.
i learned to relish, even love, being alone after my first long term relationship ended. those two years were amazing. only then, when i was happy with myself, did things start coming together. people seemed to gravitate towards me and want to hang out. because i was happy with myself, fun to be with, and it didn't matter that i was 27, working two dead end part time jobs 60 hours a week. living with a male room mate who looked like drew carey with no front teeth. i was on my own, without the witch that was dragging me down, and it was great. my parents were happy that i was happy.
you gotta walk your own walk man. no one's going to walk it for you. and waiting for people to come around just won't work. it won't happen. not until you work on yourself first.
www.headstonesband.com
2016: Lexington and Wrigley 1
This song is very good. I need to check out APC and Puscifer.
Thanks for sharing.
And sorry.
Not today Sir, Probably not tomorrow.............................................. bayfront arena st. pete '94
you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '14
Mickey i tried to read it but straight away saw the illness that im scared of and couldn't not read any further. I cant even see the word. Not your fault mine. I cant even see the word.
astoria 06
albany 06
hartford 06
reading 06
barcelona 06
paris 06
wembley 07
dusseldorf 07
nijmegen 07
this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
Are you in a position to look for psychologists that specialise in health anxiety?
I had a Google search for psychologists specialising in health anxiety in the UK and I found this site. If you scroll to the profiles of the psychologists you will see there are London based psychologists and one does Skype sessions which you could consider if this particular psychologist is not in London.
https://theprivatetherapyclinic.co.uk/health-anxiety/
Google search was: "health anxiety psychologist UK"