A safe place for anxiety sufferers to share.

ConorKavanagh · February 2019

When I was going through an episode where nothing made sense years ago, I decided to just put all of my faith in what the doctor told me. I put one foot in front of the other and eventually I got through it. From the sounds of things the other options haven't been working for you, lastexitlondon.

lastexitlondon · February 2019

True my friend. 1 and a half years this episode has been. After 15 years of OCD . Health anxiety. Now this. I've run out of any hope and all strength. I've been growing veg and doing my allotment but now even that is confusing. I just want it all to end. I've been listening to audioslave and Chris solo a lot and i hear the same pain

ConorKavanagh · February 2019

Look man, I would suggest that you go to the G.P. You have probably heard that a thousand times. But even if you think that what the doctor is telling you is a load of rubbish, just go along with it. A person told me at an A.A meeting before, fake it til you make it. I did that, I just went along with what was being said, and eventually I slowly began to feel better. I'm thinking of you man. I know you've had a hard battle. But do persevere.

lastexitlondon · February 2019

Thank you very much. I'm just back from the g.p he upped my medication that does fuck all. But yeah I have a fortnightly appointment and I tell him every time how bad it is and my fears. He says it's not what I think it is .

Meltdown99 · February 2019

lastexitlondon said:

Thank you very much. I'm just back from the g.p he upped my medication that does fuck all. But yeah I have a fortnightly appointment and I tell him every time how bad it is and my fears. He says it's not what I think it is .

Can you get a referral to a mental health professional ( Psychiatrist or Psychologist)? I know they are not easy to get into seeing one where I am at.

lastexitlondon · February 2019

Yes I've seen some
And they have said I've had all the service can offer. I.e counselling. Therapy and groups

Meltdown99 · February 2019

lastexitlondon said:

Yes I've seen some
And they have said I've had all the service can offer. I.e counselling. Therapy and groups

That's not right that you are being brushed off. That kind of attitude by health care professionals is what discourages people from seeking help. I hope you find someone that can help you, but it sounds like they are not LISTENING to you and your concerns, and that is problematic. I encourage you to continue to try to get help and never give up. Just curious, are these older health care professionals you are seeing?

Fifthelement · February 2019

@lastexitlondon I’m holding you in my heart and thoughts and sending healing vibes in your direction. Step-by-step, one day at a time.

brianlux · February 2019

lastexitlion, anxiety is such a nasty rascal. I've been trying to conquer it, accept it, ignore it, kill it, embrace it and drug it for 26 years. Of all the techniques and coping methods (some very good, some flat out terrible) the best I've come up with are these things: One, is to accept that it is real and even though I cannot just make it go away, at the same time I remind myself that anxiety is just a part of me and I am so much more than that. When it comes on strong, I put it into context and say, "OK, yeah I see you and yeah I am feeling rotten because of what you are, but you are only a part of me and sooner or later you will go back to your lair and I will feel better."

Another thing I do is really amp up my gratitude when I am feeling better and remind myself in those times that it is very fine to be in the here and now and remember that, as long as I've struggled with this, I'm still here and good things will continue to come my way.

And lastly, I look to those whom I admire who inspire me with their persistence to overcome adversity. This may not work for all and it may sound an awful lot like hero worship, but there are times where it helps me. There's an interview I once saw of Paul Westerberg where he talks about a song suicide that he wrote called "The Ledge". He says he did not at all mean to glorify the idea of suicide but rather to use it to encourage those who feel despondent to hang in there. He says (with great sincerity) "If I can do it (survive), anyone can." And what's interesting is that sitting right next to Paul while he's he saying all this is Slim Dunlap who is looking at the floor and shaking his head in agreement and who has since suffered a severely debilitating stroke which he has managed to survive for seven years now. I wish I could find that clip on YouTube. If I do, I'll post it.

Hang in there lastexit. You are not alone, you have friends here. Please keep us posted.

lastexitlondon · February 2019

Thanks all. Very kind

HughFreakingDillon · February 2019

Meltdown99 said:

lastexitlondon said:

Yes I've seen some
And they have said I've had all the service can offer. I.e counselling. Therapy and groups

That's not right that you are being brushed off. That kind of attitude by health care professionals is what discourages people from seeking help. I hope you find someone that can help you, but it sounds like they are not LISTENING to you and your concerns, and that is problematic. I encourage you to continue to try to get help and never give up. Just curious, are these older health care professionals you are seeing?

it's not necessarily being brushed off. the medical community can only do so much. I can't speak for lastexit, but in my situation, unfortunately the medical community is pretty much grasping at straws trying to help people with these conditions as it is not like taking antibiotics. every single situation is unique, and they simply do not have the time nor the manpower to get to the bottom of it all. that's why they throw pills at people, which works for some, so they justify it. if not, they tell you to seek psychological help, which helps some people. but your average GP can only run tests and do what he/she is medically trained to do. for lastexit, all of those tests have come up negative, so what more can they do? refer him for psych help.

I have done an immense amount of reading on this because of my own struggles, and I am convinced all of my physical pains/discomforts/etc have everything to do with my mental state. why? because it's not constant. And, when my brain is not able to deal with the trauma, i.e: my wife was out of town for 5 days, and one of my kids fell ill, all of my issues magically disappeared because I simply did not have the time to be lying in bed with symptoms, and my brain knew it.

at least that's the conclusion I came to yesterday. Because all of my symptoms came back the second I was about to pick up my wife from the airport. and as tempting as a "marriage will do that to you" joke may be here, it's not applicable.

Meltdown99 · February 2019

HughFreakingDillon said:

Meltdown99 said:

lastexitlondon said:

Yes I've seen some
And they have said I've had all the service can offer. I.e counselling. Therapy and groups

That's not right that you are being brushed off. That kind of attitude by health care professionals is what discourages people from seeking help. I hope you find someone that can help you, but it sounds like they are not LISTENING to you and your concerns, and that is problematic. I encourage you to continue to try to get help and never give up. Just curious, are these older health care professionals you are seeing?

it's not necessarily being brushed off. the medical community can only do so much. I can't speak for lastexit, but in my situation, unfortunately the medical community is pretty much grasping at straws trying to help people with these conditions as it is not like taking antibiotics. every single situation is unique, and they simply do not have the time nor the manpower to get to the bottom of it all. that's why they throw pills at people, which works for some, so they justify it. if not, they tell you to seek psychological help, which helps some people. but your average GP can only run tests and do what he/she is medically trained to do. for lastexit, all of those tests have come up negative, so what more can they do? refer him for psych help.

I have done an immense amount of reading on this because of my own struggles, and I am convinced all of my physical pains/discomforts/etc have everything to do with my mental state. why? because it's not constant. And, when my brain is not able to deal with the trauma, i.e: my wife was out of town for 5 days, and one of my kids fell ill, all of my issues magically disappeared because I simply did not have the time to be lying in bed with symptoms, and my brain knew it.

at least that's the conclusion I came to yesterday. Because all of my symptoms came back the second I was about to pick up my wife from the airport. and as tempting as a "marriage will do that to you" joke may be here, it's not applicable.

I cannot disagree with you there. From my own experience, GP's are not the best equipped to deal with mental health issues, they are not councillors and in Ontario, a GP is not allowed to diagnose mental health issues, only psychologist and psychiatrist can ... and about the only tool in a GP's tool belt are pills. I know from my experience, navigating the mental health system is an exercise in frustration at times, and people at the height of anxiety do not always cope well with frustrating situations, I know I didn't. That's why I encourage him to not give up.

In my case, a local hospital has excellent 3-week anxiety/depression program that teaches wonderful coping skills. When I say brush off, I mean it more in terms like his GP needs to get him into a mental health program.

I suffered from anxiety for years, it sucks. Any uncontrolled anxiety is terrible. I feel for anyone suffering from anxiety.

I feel governments need to create a ministry of mental health, to focus on mental health issues by experts in mental health.

I have no idea how other provinces work but in Ontario Counselling is not covered, it should be covered...

camsjam · February 2019

Sorry to hear you're having a dark time Rob. Since you haven't posted in this thread in a long time I assumed things were going okay for you. I don't have anything to add other than what's already posted above, please don't give up and you have good people here who really care. You're a kind and thoughtful person we all want to see get well. Hang in there.

PJ_Soul · March 2019

Not for anxiety, but for depression that no treatment work against... I thought some here might find this interesting.

In biggest advance for depression in years, FDA approves novel treatment for hardest cases

https://www.washingtonpost.com/health/2019/03/06/biggest-advance-depression-years-fda-approves-novel-treatment-hardest-cases/?utm_term=.2061648e7d33

josevolution · March 2019

Sorry to hear lastexit that things haven’t gotten any better anxiety totally sucks my daughter suffers from it as I do , these last two yrs it has gotten really bad for me I’m cutting out all caffeine and sugars from my diet ...

lastexitlondon · July 2019

Hi im writing here as a last resort. Im in the worst situation of my life and im scared.

mickeyrat · July 2019

lastexitlondon said:

Hi im writing here as a last resort. Im in the worst situation of my life and im scared.

understandable. when is the procedure?

Fifthelement · July 2019

@lastexitlondon

Checking in on you. Hope you’re holding on my friend. Sending positive thoughts your way.

If you can, maybe write down what you’re feeling. Sometimes, for me, writing down what I’m angry or scared about can lessen my anxiety. Sort of like purging an infected wound.

lastexitlondon · July 2019

mickeyrat said:

lastexitlondon said:

Hi im writing here as a last resort. Im in the worst situation of my life and im scared.

understandable. when is the procedure?

Nobody has called yet. I wait for a call and then a date. It feels so slow. Now i cant walk. My big toe is swollen and feels like ive been stabbed in it. I give up

lastexitlondon · July 2019

Fifthelement said:

@lastexitlondon

Checking in on you. Hope you’re holding on my friend. Sending positive thoughts your way.

If you can, maybe write down what you’re feeling. Sometimes, for me, writing down what I’m angry or scared about can lessen my anxiety. Sort of like purging an infected wound.

Thank you

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