Separating/Divorcing-Anyone in the process?

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  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    Cinnamon Girl wrote:
    hmmmm....what could those asterisks mean?? :| :? :o:mrgreen:
    I'm in awe of the proper progression of those smiles!
    Well done! :lol:
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • PearlOfAGirl
    PearlOfAGirl Posts: 15,993
    What sucks right now for me, is that [he] is the one who asked for a divorce 3 times, and I've wanted one since the first year we were married. I thought when we first got married he just needed to grow up, but needless to say that didn't happen and NEVER will.

    The problem I'm having now, is that he WON'T go to the courthouse and sign the divorce papers, :( which pretty much sucks for me. He is now saying that I'm trying to screw him somehow. I can't afford a lawyer or a mediator, and I just don't know what to do...

    I'm so unhappy... :cry: If anyone has any good advice, I would truly appreciate it...

    Wish you were here...
    ♥~RIP Dad
  • justam
    justam Posts: 21,415
    HeartShapedBox wrote:
    What sucks right now for me, is that [he] is the one who asked for a divorce 3 times, and I've wanted one since the first year we were married. I thought when we first got married he just needed to grow up, but needless to say that didn't happen and NEVER will.

    The problem I'm having now, is that he WON'T go to the courthouse and sign the divorce papers, :( which pretty much sucks for me. He is now saying that I'm trying to screw him somehow. I can't afford a lawyer or a mediator, and I just don't know what to do...

    I'm so unhappy... :cry: If anyone has any good advice, I would truly appreciate it...

    Find a way to afford a lawyer. Hell, sell your wedding ring and anything else he ever gave you. Don't be passive about this.
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  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    justam wrote:
    Find a way to afford a lawyer. Hell, sell your wedding ring and anything else he ever gave you. Don't be passive about this.


    I agree...someone you know who understands the situation should be able to either help you out or point you in the right direction...it's not fair for him to drag his feet and make you miserable. I hope you can find a wa to get out and move on :|
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  • Drowned Out
    Drowned Out Posts: 6,056
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    anyone know a free laywer???
    He's not in family law, but I'm sure soulsinging would be willing to work out a professional services barter/exchange deal ;):D

    lil update from me:
    my ex called the day after I posted everything in this thread, and told me a few things things that will help my divorce go thru within the next couple weeks...and she's got motivation to do so...she bought a house and needs me to sign a dower release or I still have a claim on the place....ah, I could play some real games now...but screw it, I just want it over. Things are def lookin up tho!
  • PearlOfAGirl
    PearlOfAGirl Posts: 15,993
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    justam wrote:
    Find a way to afford a lawyer. Hell, sell your wedding ring and anything else he ever gave you. Don't be passive about this.


    I agree...someone you know who understands the situation should be able to either help you out or point you in the right direction...it's not fair for him to drag his feet and make you miserable. I hope you can find a wa to get out and move on :|
    This is all about his control he has over me. That he has had for years... I'm stuck up in another state, where I don't have any family or friends, and even if I did live near my family, they couldn't help me out in any way... I'm so damn depressed & mad... :cry:

    Wish you were here...
    ♥~RIP Dad
  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    Drowned Out wrote:
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    anyone know a free laywer???
    He's not in family law, but I'm sure soulsinging would be willing to work out a professional services barter/exchange deal ;):D

    lil update from me:
    my ex called the day after I posted everything in this thread, and told me a few things things that will help my divorce go thru within the next couple weeks...and she's got motivation to do so...she bought a house and needs me to sign a dower release or I still have a claim on the place....ah, I could play some real games now...but screw it, I just want it over. Things are def lookin up tho!


    Soulsinging, huh? I'll have to drop him a PM...

    I'm glad things are looking up for you--and that you've decided not to play games...just doesn't seem worth it in the end, you know?

    HSB--just sent you a PM....
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  • Lizard
    Lizard So Cal Posts: 12,091
    Drowned Out wrote:
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    anyone know a free laywer???
    He's not in family law, but I'm sure soulsinging would be willing to work out a professional services barter/exchange deal ;):D

    I just have to say: AWESOME avatar!!!

    and good luck to all in this topic's situation.
    So I'll just lie down and wait for the dream
    Where I'm not ugly and you're lookin' at me
  • PearlJam24
    PearlJam24 Posts: 340
    *stands up* Hi, I'm John, I've been an alcoholic for...no wait, wrong post. It's been 4 days since my wife told me she wanted to file for divorce.
  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    PearlJam24 wrote:
    *stands up* Hi, I'm John, I've been an alcoholic for...no wait, wrong post. It's been 4 days since my wife told me she wanted to file for divorce.
    hi... I'm sorry to hear that.

    I've know how it feels to be on that side of it... Pm me if you need to talk at all.
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • Drowned Out
    Drowned Out Posts: 6,056
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    Drowned Out wrote:
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    anyone know a free laywer???
    He's not in family law, but I'm sure soulsinging would be willing to work out a professional services barter/exchange deal ;):D

    lil update from me:
    my ex called the day after I posted everything in this thread, and told me a few things things that will help my divorce go thru within the next couple weeks...and she's got motivation to do so...she bought a house and needs me to sign a dower release or I still have a claim on the place....ah, I could play some real games now...but screw it, I just want it over. Things are def lookin up tho!


    Soulsinging, huh? I'll have to drop him a PM...

    I'm glad things are looking up for you--and that you've decided not to play games...just doesn't seem worth it in the end, you know?

    HSB--just sent you a PM....

    it wasn't even a consideration to mess with the closing of her house... just a bit of sweet justice that I have all the power at the moment :lol:..I guess you could say I AM playing games...I told her I wasn't going to my lawyer twice, that I wanted a new divorce agreement to sign at the same time...game? maybe, but I want to get this done NOW, before she becomes a homeowner. it's been long enough.

    Today, for the first time in a loooong time, I felt a twinge of jealousy :( She bought a house just down the road from the house I grew up in...was talking to my daughter about her mom's new house, and it dawned on me that the kids will be growing up in MY old 'hood, strolling as a family down my old street n whatnot...between that, and having to comfort my girl thru another bout of tears over 'not wanting two houses anymore', I was a bit bummed :( ...But I guess it's kinda cool that the kids will be going to the same schools I did...I'll still get to see them there :)


    Lizard - was told it was creepy just the other day :D...I was worried some people would recognize the nazi overtones, but not where the image is from...
    (the avatar itself is stolen from a random site, I can't take credit for the gif).

    PJ24 - ouch! that's fresh..best of luck to ya...
  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    PearlJam24 wrote:
    *stands up* Hi, I'm John, I've been an alcoholic for...no wait, wrong post. It's been 4 days since my wife told me she wanted to file for divorce.

    hey there...so sorry to hear your news :-( I hope you're OK....we're a pretty good bunch here, so if you need anything, send a PM...
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    Whatever you are, be a good one --Lincoln
  • PearlOfAGirl
    PearlOfAGirl Posts: 15,993
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    PearlJam24 wrote:
    *stands up* Hi, I'm John, I've been an alcoholic for...no wait, wrong post. It's been 4 days since my wife told me she wanted to file for divorce.

    hey there...so sorry to hear your news :-( I hope you're OK....we're a pretty good bunch here, so if you need anything, send a PM...
    Hi John, there are some really great people here. I myself am trying to get out of a marriage. I just want my freedom. I went from living with mom and dad to being married. I've never been on my on...

    I also hope your ok John...

    Wish you were here...
    ♥~RIP Dad
  • PearlJam24
    PearlJam24 Posts: 340
    Thanks for the kind words. It's been a tough couple of months. Last weekend was so rough I ended up in the hospital Tuesday morning. I know it'll get easier and I just have to take it day by day.
  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    PearlJam24 wrote:
    Thanks for the kind words. It's been a tough couple of months. Last weekend was so rough I ended up in the hospital Tuesday morning. I know it'll get easier and I just have to take it day by day.

    PM sent...I hope things start looking up for you soon
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    Whatever you are, be a good one --Lincoln
  • PearlOfAGirl
    PearlOfAGirl Posts: 15,993
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    PearlJam24 wrote:
    Thanks for the kind words. It's been a tough couple of months. Last weekend was so rough I ended up in the hospital Tuesday morning. I know it'll get easier and I just have to take it day by day.

    PM sent...I hope things start looking up for you soon
    Your awesome pearljgirl2010!! I just thought that needed to be said...

    Wish you were here...
    ♥~RIP Dad
  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    HeartShapedBox wrote:
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:

    PM sent...I hope things start looking up for you soon
    Your awesome pearljgirl2010!! I just thought that needed to be said...


    aw shucks...thanks :oops:
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  • mickeyrat
    mickeyrat Posts: 44,714
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  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    edited June 2009
    I hope things get better for you....
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  • adropinthepark
    adropinthepark Posts: 475
    I'm finally ready to admit it's over.

    It'll be a long waiting process, though. We both have moved to different states and have to wait for residency. I think the soonest we can file is October.

    Doesn't really matter, I'm not talking to him anyway and we are living completely separate lives.

    No kids, thank goodness, but I'm gonna miss my doggies.

    I wish all the best to everyone else going through this.
    I carried a watermelon

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