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  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    neilybabes86 wrote:
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    AAH HA HA HA....that would be my happy dance :D and I apologize for my singing...but MAN did we have fun!

    you turned to my gf early on and complimented her singing on corduroy lol

    and yes twas a good night


    that's awesome :-)

    this past tour was my reward to myself for going thru this divorce on my terms...I had a blast at every show i went to....maybe we'll see you guys again this tour :-)
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  • neilybabes86
    neilybabes86 Posts: 16,057
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    neilybabes86 wrote:
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    AAH HA HA HA....that would be my happy dance :D and I apologize for my singing...but MAN did we have fun!

    you turned to my gf early on and complimented her singing on corduroy lol

    and yes twas a good night


    that's awesome :-)

    this past tour was my reward to myself for going thru this divorce on my terms...I had a blast at every show i went to....maybe we'll see you guys again this tour :-)


    i would have zero problem sitting behind you again :mrgreen:;)
    i post on the board of a band that doesn't exsist anymore .......i need my head examined.......
  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    neilybabes86 wrote:
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:

    that's awesome :-)

    this past tour was my reward to myself for going thru this divorce on my terms...I had a blast at every show i went to....maybe we'll see you guys again this tour :-)


    i would have zero problem sitting behind you again :mrgreen:;)

    LOL! you and my BF can sit behind me and your GF...and she and I can sing together ;)
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  • neilybabes86
    neilybabes86 Posts: 16,057
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    neilybabes86 wrote:
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:

    that's awesome :-)

    this past tour was my reward to myself for going thru this divorce on my terms...I had a blast at every show i went to....maybe we'll see you guys again this tour :-)


    i would have zero problem sitting behind you again :mrgreen:;)

    LOL! you and my BF can sit behind me and your GF...and she and I can sing together ;)


    HEY NOW!!
    i post on the board of a band that doesn't exsist anymore .......i need my head examined.......
  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    neilybabes86 wrote:
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    i would have zero problem sitting behind you again :mrgreen:;)

    LOL! you and my BF can sit behind me and your GF...and she and I can sing together ;)

    HEY NOW!![/quote]

    what!?!?!? seems like a great time to me!!! If there's a show around March 11, we can all celebrate my official change in marital status!
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  • FearTheBeard
    FearTheBeard Posts: 666
    So I am going in tomorrow to sign documents to get the dissolution of marriage under way. I do not really know what to expect. :? My wife left about 7 months ago, and I feel like I have been doing pretty well. I am working out quite a bit, started p90x a few weeks ago. it is all just a little weird going through this at 31 years old. I guess I feel like I should not be. Thank you everyone here who provided support in the past. I really do appreciate it.
  • he still stands
    he still stands Posts: 2,835
    ucsbflipflop wrote:
    So I am going in tomorrow to sign documents to get the dissolution of marriage under way. I do not really know what to expect. :? My wife left about 7 months ago, and I feel like I have been doing pretty well. I am working out quite a bit, started p90x a few weeks ago. it is all just a little weird going through this at 31 years old. I guess I feel like I should not be. Thank you everyone here who provided support in the past. I really do appreciate it.

    good luck. keep your chin up!
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  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    ucsbflipflop wrote:
    So I am going in tomorrow to sign documents to get the dissolution of marriage under way. I do not really know what to expect. :? My wife left about 7 months ago, and I feel like I have been doing pretty well. I am working out quite a bit, started p90x a few weeks ago. it is all just a little weird going through this at 31 years old. I guess I feel like I should not be. Thank you everyone here who provided support in the past. I really do appreciate it.

    hey....i know we've discussed the similarities in our respective situations, but you're welcome to call/text if you want to talk. When this all started for me (at 30), I felt like I had suddenly grown up a LOT...I've felt pretty good over the past 6-8 months...but it was strange to get the final paperwork showing the date that i'll be "single" again. not strange in a bad way, but strange in that it was really happening and going to be over in 5 weeks.

    I hope it goes well for you tomorrow...just make sure that you do whatever you need to do to be happy in the long run...good luck, G!
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  • Jeff Murray
    Jeff Murray Posts: 1,259
    ucsbflipflop wrote:
    So I am going in tomorrow to sign documents to get the dissolution of marriage under way. I do not really know what to expect. :? My wife left about 7 months ago, and I feel like I have been doing pretty well. I am working out quite a bit, started p90x a few weeks ago. it is all just a little weird going through this at 31 years old. I guess I feel like I should not be. Thank you everyone here who provided support in the past. I really do appreciate it.

    Sorry to hear you are going through the process. The workout is a common and healthy way to cope with your situation. Good luck with what lies a head and remember that it gets better.
    If there were no Angels would there be no sin?
  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    sooo....updates on my situation:

    today would have been our 7th anniversary...which is a little weird.

    Our divorce is final in 5 days.

    Oh, two weeks ago, my ex told me that he and he girlfriend are having a baby.
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  • mickeyrat
    mickeyrat Posts: 44,715
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    sooo....updates on my situation:

    today would have been our 7th anniversary...which is a little weird.

    Our divorce is final in 5 days.

    Oh, two weeks ago, my ex told me that he and he girlfriend are having a baby.
    My ex will be getting remarried on the 19th. 7 months and a week since it was final. Real kick in the balls that one is. I still don't know how or where it went wrong.
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  • Franny
    Franny Posts: 2,054
    mickeyrat wrote:
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    sooo....updates on my situation:

    today would have been our 7th anniversary...which is a little weird.

    Our divorce is final in 5 days.

    Oh, two weeks ago, my ex told me that he and he girlfriend are having a baby.
    My ex will be getting remarried on the 19th. 7 months and a week since it was final. Real kick in the balls that one is. I still don't know how or where it went wrong.


    Yep I feel for both of you. Nothing like those types of revelations to knock the wind out of your sails. Whilst I never married him, I was with my x for eight years. I left him when I was pregnant, lots of shit to bring that on, but the final straw for me was that I had this overwhelming feeling he was being unfaithful. Just lots of things weren't adding up and so-called friends clamm ing up on me.

    Eventually he admitted it months later, and in the same breath proposed to me and said he would stop seeing her!!!! WTF!!!!! we were no longer together, but still it gutted me when he said it.

    So 5&1/2 years later, I have had a long time to heal, and there are probably certain things that will never be the same in me. I see characteristics in guys that remind me of his behaviours and it just turns me right off.

    But I am finally doing the things I want to do that I could never have done with him.

    They say the past makes you who you are....makes you stronger.

    Sending you both lots of strength and perhaps a few drinks too! :D
  • BhagavadGita
    BhagavadGita Posts: 1,748
    Is anybody's relationship ending? :lol:

    Well, my marriage ended 15 years ago.

    My current relationship found me sitting in my car at 4am in a parking lot wondering what I have been doing with a man who doesn't want to marry me after 12 years.

    Everything is just peachy. :|
  • Starfall
    Starfall Posts: 548
    My marriage officially ended in Dec 2005, but in reality it was over almost as soon as it started. She had some very strong issues with men, stemming from her own relationship with her father, that had sabotaged every relationship she's ever had, including ours, and as much as I tried, I could not be strong enough to keep holding it up forever.

    So I left in Jan of 2002, and never looked back.

    On the bright side, our children, who are 18 and 12 1/2 now, are happier and much more comfortable about relationships in general - they learned that the basis of a good marriage is not arguing day and night and fighting endlessly and affairs on the side, and it's better to their parents to be apart and happy than together and miserable. (Although my son occasionally lets loose that my ex gripes about me in front of them, while I never malign her in front of my kids).

    It took her a while to come to grips with the whole situation though. She went through a series of relationships after I left, all of them soured eventually. She's still single and looking. At least we're civil to each other.

    As for me, I'm perfectly content being single atm. I've learned that I don't need a relationship to be happy. Happiness will never be found outside oneself - only from within.

    So good luck... and remember, it all stems from within. :)
    "It's not hard to own something. Or everything. You just have to know that it's yours, and then be willing to let it go." - Neil Gaiman, "Stardust"
  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    it definitely upset me at first, when he told me about the baby--I think the timing hurt more than anything. i mean, couldn't they have been a bit more careful for another few weeks until the D was finalized!?!?!? It doesn't bother me anymore bc it's his life and i do want him to be happy...i'm just glad that it's not ME who's preggers!
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  • neilybabes86
    neilybabes86 Posts: 16,057
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    it definitely upset me at first, when he told me about the baby--I think the timing hurt more than anything. i mean, couldn't they have been a bit more careful for another few weeks until the D was finalized!?!?!? It doesn't bother me anymore bc it's his life and i do want him to be happy...i'm just glad that it's not ME who's preggers!


    what would possess someone to drop you ?

    dumbass :mrgreen:
    i post on the board of a band that doesn't exsist anymore .......i need my head examined.......
  • PearlOfAGirl
    PearlOfAGirl Posts: 15,993
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    it definitely upset me at first, when he told me about the baby--I think the timing hurt more than anything. i mean, couldn't they have been a bit more careful for another few weeks until the D was finalized!?!?!? It doesn't bother me anymore bc it's his life and i do want him to be happy...i'm just glad that it's not ME who's preggers!
    It's his loss!! ;):D
    I'm still waiting for mine to fill out the damn papers to file. :evil:

    Wish you were here...
    ♥~RIP Dad
  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    neilybabes86 wrote:
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    it definitely upset me at first, when he told me about the baby--I think the timing hurt more than anything. i mean, couldn't they have been a bit more careful for another few weeks until the D was finalized!?!?!? It doesn't bother me anymore bc it's his life and i do want him to be happy...i'm just glad that it's not ME who's preggers!


    what would possess someone to drop you ?

    dumbass :mrgreen:


    LOL! I know, right?? I mean, I know that I'm awesome. he didn't!

    and HSB--I hope he gets his paperwork done soon so you can start moving on here...you've been so so so patient!
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  • PatrickBateman
    PatrickBateman Posts: 2,243
    wife is moving out as I type.

    next week will be our 14th anniversary
    If a man speaks in a forest and there is no woman around to hear him, is he still wrong?
  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    PatrickBateman wrote:
    wife is moving out as I type.

    next week will be our 14th anniversary


    ugh...i'm sorry :-( i know you've been struggling with this for a little while...you know where to find me if you wanna talk!
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