soooooooo the decision has been made....now we get to do the fun stuff...anyone know a free laywer???
Hey there girl.. Aka.. Tasty ****!
You know I'm here for you at all times...any time of day!
Welcome to the dicvorcee club :(... It's not as bad as it seems. I'm finally coming to terms with it. The word itself is the worst part. Good luck and remember we're all here when you need an ear.
"I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
Hope everything goes well for you, always seemed like separation was more like delaying the inevitable. My wife said it doesn't cost too much if there isn't much contest. If there is no kids, it makes it much easier. Sorry to hear, but it sounds like you are OK with it. From what I gather, you are a good looking, fun loving type of person....you'll have pick of the litter;)
If a man speaks in a forest and there is no woman around to hear him, is he still wrong?
Hope everything goes well for you, always seemed like separation was more like delaying the inevitable. My wife said it doesn't cost too much if there isn't much contest. If there is no kids, it makes it much easier. Sorry to hear, but it sounds like you are OK with it. From what I gather, you are a good looking, fun loving type of person....you'll have pick of the litter;)
Thank you :-) the "litter" is a strange thought right now!!! i mean, dating is a little scary anyway, let alone when it's been as long as it's been for me.
Yeah--as soon as I moved out, we both knew that it was inevitable. Fortunately we have no kids, we don't own a home, etc, so in theory it should be fairly easy. It's still weird and will be interesting to see how the next few months pan out, but I feel strong and think I'm ready
soooooooo the decision has been made....now we get to do the fun stuff...anyone know a free laywer???
Hey there girl.. Aka.. Tasty ****!
You know I'm here for you at all times...any time of day!
Welcome to the dicvorcee club :(... It's not as bad as it seems. I'm finally coming to terms with it. The word itself is the worst part. Good luck and remember we're all here when you need an ear.
OH MY GOD--you broke out Tasty ****!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hahahahahahahahahahah
soooooooo the decision has been made....now we get to do the fun stuff...anyone know a free laywer???
Hey there girl.. Aka.. Tasty ****!
You know I'm here for you at all times...any time of day!
Welcome to the dicvorcee club :(... It's not as bad as it seems. I'm finally coming to terms with it. The word itself is the worst part. Good luck and remember we're all here when you need an ear.
OH MY GOD--you broke out Tasty ****!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hahahahahahahahahahah
What sucks right now for me, is that [he] is the one who asked for a divorce 3 times, and I've wanted one since the first year we were married. I thought when we first got married he just needed to grow up, but needless to say that didn't happen and NEVER will.
The problem I'm having now, is that he WON'T go to the courthouse and sign the divorce papers, :( which pretty much sucks for me. He is now saying that I'm trying to screw him somehow. I can't afford a lawyer or a mediator, and I just don't know what to do...
I'm so unhappy... If anyone has any good advice, I would truly appreciate it...
What sucks right now for me, is that [he] is the one who asked for a divorce 3 times, and I've wanted one since the first year we were married. I thought when we first got married he just needed to grow up, but needless to say that didn't happen and NEVER will.
The problem I'm having now, is that he WON'T go to the courthouse and sign the divorce papers, :( which pretty much sucks for me. He is now saying that I'm trying to screw him somehow. I can't afford a lawyer or a mediator, and I just don't know what to do...
I'm so unhappy... If anyone has any good advice, I would truly appreciate it...
Find a way to afford a lawyer. Hell, sell your wedding ring and anything else he ever gave you. Don't be passive about this.
Find a way to afford a lawyer. Hell, sell your wedding ring and anything else he ever gave you. Don't be passive about this.
I agree...someone you know who understands the situation should be able to either help you out or point you in the right direction...it's not fair for him to drag his feet and make you miserable. I hope you can find a wa to get out and move on
He's not in family law, but I'm sure soulsinging would be willing to work out a professional services barter/exchange deal
lil update from me:
my ex called the day after I posted everything in this thread, and told me a few things things that will help my divorce go thru within the next couple weeks...and she's got motivation to do so...she bought a house and needs me to sign a dower release or I still have a claim on the place....ah, I could play some real games now...but screw it, I just want it over. Things are def lookin up tho!
Find a way to afford a lawyer. Hell, sell your wedding ring and anything else he ever gave you. Don't be passive about this.
I agree...someone you know who understands the situation should be able to either help you out or point you in the right direction...it's not fair for him to drag his feet and make you miserable. I hope you can find a wa to get out and move on
This is all about his control he has over me. That he has had for years... I'm stuck up in another state, where I don't have any family or friends, and even if I did live near my family, they couldn't help me out in any way... I'm so damn depressed & mad...
He's not in family law, but I'm sure soulsinging would be willing to work out a professional services barter/exchange deal
lil update from me:
my ex called the day after I posted everything in this thread, and told me a few things things that will help my divorce go thru within the next couple weeks...and she's got motivation to do so...she bought a house and needs me to sign a dower release or I still have a claim on the place....ah, I could play some real games now...but screw it, I just want it over. Things are def lookin up tho!
Soulsinging, huh? I'll have to drop him a PM...
I'm glad things are looking up for you--and that you've decided not to play games...just doesn't seem worth it in the end, you know?
He's not in family law, but I'm sure soulsinging would be willing to work out a professional services barter/exchange deal
lil update from me:
my ex called the day after I posted everything in this thread, and told me a few things things that will help my divorce go thru within the next couple weeks...and she's got motivation to do so...she bought a house and needs me to sign a dower release or I still have a claim on the place....ah, I could play some real games now...but screw it, I just want it over. Things are def lookin up tho!
Soulsinging, huh? I'll have to drop him a PM...
I'm glad things are looking up for you--and that you've decided not to play games...just doesn't seem worth it in the end, you know?
HSB--just sent you a PM....
it wasn't even a consideration to mess with the closing of her house... just a bit of sweet justice that I have all the power at the moment ..I guess you could say I AM playing games...I told her I wasn't going to my lawyer twice, that I wanted a new divorce agreement to sign at the same time...game? maybe, but I want to get this done NOW, before she becomes a homeowner. it's been long enough.
Today, for the first time in a loooong time, I felt a twinge of jealousy :( She bought a house just down the road from the house I grew up in...was talking to my daughter about her mom's new house, and it dawned on me that the kids will be growing up in MY old 'hood, strolling as a family down my old street n whatnot...between that, and having to comfort my girl thru another bout of tears over 'not wanting two houses anymore', I was a bit bummed :( ...But I guess it's kinda cool that the kids will be going to the same schools I did...I'll still get to see them there
Lizard - was told it was creepy just the other day ...I was worried some people would recognize the nazi overtones, but not where the image is from...
(the avatar itself is stolen from a random site, I can't take credit for the gif).
*stands up* Hi, I'm John, I've been an alcoholic for...no wait, wrong post. It's been 4 days since my wife told me she wanted to file for divorce.
hey there...so sorry to hear your news :-( I hope you're OK....we're a pretty good bunch here, so if you need anything, send a PM...
Hi John, there are some really great people here. I myself am trying to get out of a marriage. I just want my freedom. I went from living with mom and dad to being married. I've never been on my on...
Thanks for the kind words. It's been a tough couple of months. Last weekend was so rough I ended up in the hospital Tuesday morning. I know it'll get easier and I just have to take it day by day.
Thanks for the kind words. It's been a tough couple of months. Last weekend was so rough I ended up in the hospital Tuesday morning. I know it'll get easier and I just have to take it day by day.
PM sent...I hope things start looking up for you soon
Thanks for the kind words. It's been a tough couple of months. Last weekend was so rough I ended up in the hospital Tuesday morning. I know it'll get easier and I just have to take it day by day.
PM sent...I hope things start looking up for you soon
Your awesome pearljgirl2010!! I just thought that needed to be said...
Not today Sir, Probably not tomorrow.............................................. bayfront arena st. pete '94
you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '14
It'll be a long waiting process, though. We both have moved to different states and have to wait for residency. I think the soonest we can file is October.
Doesn't really matter, I'm not talking to him anyway and we are living completely separate lives.
No kids, thank goodness, but I'm gonna miss my doggies.
I wish all the best to everyone else going through this.
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like a huge weight off your shoulders, I'm sure.
I understand the part about letting go a long time ago. I felt exactly the same.
You know I'm here for you at all times...any time of day!
Welcome to the dicvorcee club :(... It's not as bad as it seems. I'm finally coming to terms with it. The word itself is the worst part. Good luck and remember we're all here when you need an ear.
Thank you :-) the "litter" is a strange thought right now!!! i mean, dating is a little scary anyway, let alone when it's been as long as it's been for me.
Yeah--as soon as I moved out, we both knew that it was inevitable. Fortunately we have no kids, we don't own a home, etc, so in theory it should be fairly easy. It's still weird and will be interesting to see how the next few months pan out, but I feel strong and think I'm ready
Whatever you are, be a good one --Lincoln
OH MY GOD--you broke out Tasty ****!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hahahahahahahahahahah
Whatever you are, be a good one --Lincoln
I was at least discreet enough to send her a PM....HA HA HA HA HA!!! we haven't come up with hers yet...
Whatever you are, be a good one --Lincoln
hmmmm....what could those asterisks mean??
Well done!
The problem I'm having now, is that he WON'T go to the courthouse and sign the divorce papers, :( which pretty much sucks for me. He is now saying that I'm trying to screw him somehow. I can't afford a lawyer or a mediator, and I just don't know what to do...
I'm so unhappy...
Wish you were here...
♥~RIP Dad
Find a way to afford a lawyer. Hell, sell your wedding ring and anything else he ever gave you. Don't be passive about this.
I agree...someone you know who understands the situation should be able to either help you out or point you in the right direction...it's not fair for him to drag his feet and make you miserable. I hope you can find a wa to get out and move on
Whatever you are, be a good one --Lincoln
lil update from me:
my ex called the day after I posted everything in this thread, and told me a few things things that will help my divorce go thru within the next couple weeks...and she's got motivation to do so...she bought a house and needs me to sign a dower release or I still have a claim on the place....ah, I could play some real games now...but screw it, I just want it over. Things are def lookin up tho!
Wish you were here...
♥~RIP Dad
Soulsinging, huh? I'll have to drop him a PM...
I'm glad things are looking up for you--and that you've decided not to play games...just doesn't seem worth it in the end, you know?
HSB--just sent you a PM....
Whatever you are, be a good one --Lincoln
I just have to say: AWESOME avatar!!!
and good luck to all in this topic's situation.
Where I'm not ugly and you're lookin' at me
I've know how it feels to be on that side of it... Pm me if you need to talk at all.
it wasn't even a consideration to mess with the closing of her house... just a bit of sweet justice that I have all the power at the moment
Today, for the first time in a loooong time, I felt a twinge of jealousy :( She bought a house just down the road from the house I grew up in...was talking to my daughter about her mom's new house, and it dawned on me that the kids will be growing up in MY old 'hood, strolling as a family down my old street n whatnot...between that, and having to comfort my girl thru another bout of tears over 'not wanting two houses anymore', I was a bit bummed :( ...But I guess it's kinda cool that the kids will be going to the same schools I did...I'll still get to see them there
Lizard - was told it was creepy just the other day
(the avatar itself is stolen from a random site, I can't take credit for the gif).
PJ24 - ouch! that's fresh..best of luck to ya...
hey there...so sorry to hear your news :-( I hope you're OK....we're a pretty good bunch here, so if you need anything, send a PM...
Whatever you are, be a good one --Lincoln
I also hope your ok John...
Wish you were here...
♥~RIP Dad
PM sent...I hope things start looking up for you soon
Whatever you are, be a good one --Lincoln
Wish you were here...
♥~RIP Dad
aw shucks...thanks :oops:
Whatever you are, be a good one --Lincoln
Not today Sir, Probably not tomorrow.............................................. bayfront arena st. pete '94
you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '14
Whatever you are, be a good one --Lincoln
It'll be a long waiting process, though. We both have moved to different states and have to wait for residency. I think the soonest we can file is October.
Doesn't really matter, I'm not talking to him anyway and we are living completely separate lives.
No kids, thank goodness, but I'm gonna miss my doggies.
I wish all the best to everyone else going through this.