So...my husband had an affair.

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  • acoustic guy
    acoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    This type of shit makes me feel so bad for the children. Ofcourse I am sorry for you also but adults bounce back easier then children. It makes me so sad when children are involved. I went through it when I was young and I dont wish it upon anyone.
    Good luck woman.
    FYI, when you are ready to move on....the old ways of thinking that a woman with kids is not a good catch is total bullshit. You will find the right guy when your ready.
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  • yellowled24
    yellowled24 Posts: 3,118
    My thoughts are with you Cinn...focus on your precious children, there is reason in everything.

    xxx
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  • Cinnamon Girl
    Cinnamon Girl Posts: 1,854
    Thanks so much for the new posts. I've been doing very well lately. The emotions are under control and I am making all my families choices based on facts, not feelings. I've been focusing on school (just got accepted for nursing!) and my kids, so my brain is pretty full. I don't have much chance to stop and feel sorry for myself.

    I agree about the kids. I feel terrible that they have to be involved in this. But I would rather my children see me as a person who won't be treated badly. I have no trust for my husband and I don't want them thinking that that is normal or acceptable. I tried for many year with my husband, he just never tried too. He is a good father and we are open and agreeable when it comes to raising our kids.

    The support from this place has been unbelievable! There are some good caring folks here. :)
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  • norm
    norm Posts: 31,146
    Cinnamon Girl wrote:
    (just got accepted for nursing!)


    congrats!!!

    good to hear you are doing well :)
  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    Cinnamon Girl wrote:
    (just got accepted for nursing!)
    YEAH!!! This calls for a celebration!!! :D:D:D
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • Cinnamon Girl
    Cinnamon Girl Posts: 1,854
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    Cinnamon Girl wrote:
    (just got accepted for nursing!)
    YEAH!!! This calls for a celebration!!! :D:D:D

    I'm looking forward to it!! You'll be celebrating with me, right? ;)
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  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    Cinnamon Girl wrote:
    I'm looking forward to it!! You'll be celebrating with me, right? ;)
    Of course!!!!! :D
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • demetrios
    demetrios Posts: 97,891
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    Cinnamon Girl wrote:
    I'm looking forward to it!! You'll be celebrating with me, right? ;)
    Of course!!!!! :D

    Me too! :)
  • stuckinline
    stuckinline Posts: 3,407
    congrats on the nursing school !!!!!!!!!
    nice hair cut!
  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    demetrios wrote:
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    Cinnamon Girl wrote:
    I'm looking forward to it!! You'll be celebrating with me, right? ;)
    Of course!!!!! :D

    Me too! :)
    You gonna be in toronto next week! :D lol!
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • PJRock75
    PJRock75 Posts: 869
    As hard and as painful as it seems now....it is for the best (I've been divorced from my H.S. sweetheart for 2 1/2 years now). Think of it like life is giving you a second chance at happiness. Your free!! He wasn't right for you, as hard as that may seem. You can't plan life...you can only let it happen.c Good luck to you.
    "If you want a friend, feed any animal." - JA
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  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    PJRock75 wrote:
    As hard and as painful as it seems now....it is for the best (I've been divorced from my H.S. sweetheart for 2 1/2 years now). Think of it like life is giving you a second chance at happiness. Your free!! He wasn't right for you, as hard as that may seem. You can't plan life...you can only let it happen.c Good luck to you.
    This is very good advice. While you're 'in it' it's hard to see how you could be better off with out them. But from the other side I now see it's for the best... And all I was hopeful for then was a life I was 'comfortabl'e being in... Not one I was happy in.
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • arq
    arq Posts: 8,101
    Cinnamon girl in your old avatar you looked sweet but in the new avatar you look Hot :shock: :oops:
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  • Cinnamon Girl
    Cinnamon Girl Posts: 1,854
    arq wrote:
    Cinnamon girl in your old avatar you looked sweet but in the new avatar you look Hot :shock: :oops:

    The new pic is actually an older (pre-haircut) pic...but thanks none the less. :oops:
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  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    Cinnamon Girl wrote:
    arq wrote:
    Cinnamon girl in your old avatar you looked sweet but in the new avatar you look Hot :shock: :oops:

    The new pic is actually an older (pre-haircut) pic...but thanks none the less. :oops:

    it's a great haircut and a BIG congrats on your nursing school endeavor--good for you!
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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    arq wrote:
    Cinnamon girl in your old avatar you looked sweet but in the new avatar you look Hot :shock: :oops:

    I concur :oops:
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  • BrinkofForever
    BrinkofForever Posts: 373
    I'm about a month late on this, but it's the first time I've been back to the ex-message pit in a while. I'm sorry to hear about your situation... went through something very similar a few years back with a woman I too had moved far away from home to be with. We were never married but were together for six years before she cheated and things fell apart. I came here, well, to the pit anyway and was humbled to get so much support from fellow Jammers.
    Good to know you are moving forward in all of this. That is all you can do really... once a cheater always a cheater. It's unfortunate for children in situations like this, but I think it is worse when parents who don't love each other stick together for the sake of the kids. Children aren't dummies and that kind of environment can be very harmful emotionally when they are old enough to realize what is going on.
    Good luck in the future and hang in there! :)
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  • davidtrios
    davidtrios Posts: 9,732
    edited May 2013
    Cinnamon Girl wrote:
    I know that this is really personal, but I'm just so sad and lonely right now. We've been married for 7 years and have 2 kids. Our marriage is over...I have been with him since I was 13. He was my first boyfriend and the only man I've ever been with. I feel so lost.

    We moved here 3 months ago because he got a job here. The girl he had an affair with is beautiful...and younger, of course. I moved away from my friends and family. I feel stuck.

    I don't mean to sound so pathetic, and I'm really embarrassed about how it sounds, but I just need to get it out.

    I guess I'm looking for people who have been through this before. Has anyone here survived this pain and feels like giving me some wise words.

    thanks for listening.

    :(
    Post edited by davidtrios on
  • rival.
    rival. Chicago Posts: 7,775
    yeah.... not the best bump.

    no need to dig up old scars for some board members.
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