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  • mickeyrat
    mickeyrat Posts: 45,168
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    mickeyrat said:
    RunIntoTheRain said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    How is everyone doing?
    As for me, I'm okay. Just dealing with butthurt parents that cannot accept I am an atheist. 
    You need to perfect the art of giving zero fucks what your parents think. Seriously. Zero fucks.
    good book.....

    I'm listening to "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life" on Scribd. Check it out: https://www.scribd.com/audiobook/323820252

    this links the audio version on scribd. also available in print here or through amazon, kindle and audible

      I have read that book.
    maybe read it again.  and apply the philosophy
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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    Does it work?
    Kind of because I'm thinking about it a lot.
    It's so ridiculous asking me to worship who hasn't been proven to exist yet I'm the crazy person.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • lastexitlondon
    lastexitlondon Posts: 15,011
    Why  do you care. ?
    Think about that. And write down why you care. I bet you cant know why.
    So stop


    this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
  • JPPJ84
    JPPJ84 Hamburg, Germany Posts: 3,464
    lastexitlondon said:
    Why  do you care. ?
    Think about that. And write down why you care. I bet you cant know why.
    So stop
    „They’re my parents“ is not a good enough reason so scratch that right away 
  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    I know I'm in the minority on this one, but "they're my parents" works for me. I didn't talk to my father for quite a few years, and it isn't such a black and white decision. It is complicated and painful as fuck.
  • JPPJ84
    JPPJ84 Hamburg, Germany Posts: 3,464
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    I know I'm in the minority on this one, but "they're my parents" works for me. I didn't talk to my father for quite a few years, and it isn't such a black and white decision. It is complicated and painful as fuck.
    True, it’s not black and white! I rather meant that when people constantly treat you badly, them being your parents should not be an excuse for them. It shouldn’t mean you have to let them do it „just because they’re your parents“
  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    JPPJ84 said:
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    I know I'm in the minority on this one, but "they're my parents" works for me. I didn't talk to my father for quite a few years, and it isn't such a black and white decision. It is complicated and painful as fuck.
    True, it’s not black and white! I rather meant that when people constantly treat you badly, them being your parents should not be an excuse for them. It shouldn’t mean you have to let them do it „just because they’re your parents“
    I understand, thank you for explaining. :). 
  • mickeyrat
    mickeyrat Posts: 45,168
    yep. any family or friend can still be family and friend. just from over there. waaaaay over there.
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    you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
    memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
    another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '14
  • lastexitlondon
    lastexitlondon Posts: 15,011
    I dont speak to my dad and im pleased. I didn't  want to feel shit  about  his behaviours  anymore. Sometimes you have to stop them the only  way is  distance.


    this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
  • stuckinline
    stuckinline Posts: 3,407
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    RunIntoTheRain said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    How is everyone doing?
    As for me, I'm okay. Just dealing with butthurt parents that cannot accept I am an atheist. 
    You need to perfect the art of giving zero fucks what your parents think. Seriously. Zero fucks.
    It's hard when they have a frown on their faces all day long. They both look so angry and depressed. Mum isn't talking to me and dad won't speak to me in a nice manner. Very short and with attitude. I hate that it destroys them this much because I feel responsible.
    Thoughts_Arrive, just checking in to see how you are doing.

  • deadendp
    deadendp Northeast Ohio Posts: 10,434
    lastexitlondon said:
    I dont speak to my dad and im pleased. I didn't  want to feel shit  about  his behaviours  anymore. Sometimes you have to stop them the only  way is  distance.
    Just reminding T_A-- I disowned my biological father when I was 15, asked my step dad to adopt me and had a legal name change. I don't regret it. I ended up being the only one of us who fully cut communication. I've said it before. He was such a fucker in the end that his dying wish was that I be left out of the obituary. Did I care? Hell no. I kind of celebrated being left out. 

    Light that match. 

    Burn that bridge. 

    Will your parents accept your atheism? No. You don't want them to change you, and you shouldn't expect to change them. 

    We're handing you that book of matches. Take them. 
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    2016: Lexington and Wrigley 1
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    edited December 2019
    stuckinline said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    RunIntoTheRain said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    How is everyone doing?
    As for me, I'm okay. Just dealing with butthurt parents that cannot accept I am an atheist. 
    You need to perfect the art of giving zero fucks what your parents think. Seriously. Zero fucks.
    It's hard when they have a frown on their faces all day long. They both look so angry and depressed. Mum isn't talking to me and dad won't speak to me in a nice manner. Very short and with attitude. I hate that it destroys them this much because I feel responsible.
    Thoughts_Arrive, just checking in to see how you are doing.

    I'm okay. Thank you for checking in. 

    And I agree with previous posts, one day I will have the distance I so desire. I'll be dead to them, to everyone who does not understand me.
    I dream of flying free.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    lastexitlondon said:
    Why  do you care. ?
    Think about that. And write down why you care. I bet you cant know why.
    So stop
    Mainly because I am so self conscious and the fact they are worried about me and probably think I am possessed or something makes me so self conscious. I feel like a freak in their eyes.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • lastexitlondon
    lastexitlondon Posts: 15,011
    But you can see that THEY are in the wrong and you are not unusual or odd.?Their attitude and actions are odd.


    this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Being the minority makes me feel like a freak

    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    New years eve is almost here and I once again have noone to ring it in with.
    I feel so lonely.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • JPPJ84
    JPPJ84 Hamburg, Germany Posts: 3,464
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    New years eve is almost here and I once again have noone to ring it in with.
    I feel so lonely.
    Have you asked any of your friends what their plans are and if you can join? You‘ve got to make an effort, even though you’re anxious about it!
     I’m in a Facebook group „new in Hamburg“ and let me tell you, for the past week people have been writing about being alone for New Year’s and hooking up with others for nice get togethers. I know this may not be your thing but you won’t meet new people unless you put yourself out there 
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    edited December 2019
    I know. I just feel everyone has their own lives now. I feel like I'm intruding. I don't know who to ask.
    Post edited by Thoughts_Arrive on
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    New years eve is almost here and I once again have noone to ring it in with.
    I feel so lonely.
    Find the right book. That is what works for me anyway. People are overrated, books are great company.
  • stuckinline
    stuckinline Posts: 3,407
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    stuckinline said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    RunIntoTheRain said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    How is everyone doing?
    As for me, I'm okay. Just dealing with butthurt parents that cannot accept I am an atheist. 
    You need to perfect the art of giving zero fucks what your parents think. Seriously. Zero fucks.
    It's hard when they have a frown on their faces all day long. They both look so angry and depressed. Mum isn't talking to me and dad won't speak to me in a nice manner. Very short and with attitude. I hate that it destroys them this much because I feel responsible.
    Thoughts_Arrive, just checking in to see how you are doing.

    I'm okay. Thank you for checking in. 

    And I agree with previous posts, one day I will have the distance I so desire. I'll be dead to them, to everyone who does not understand me.
    I dream of flying free.
    Glad to hear you are doing okay!

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