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Meltdown99

Thoughts_Arrive said:

And I can't get over people not liking me. Everytime I post something on Facebook I get no comments or likes. Plus the fact hardly anyone on Facebook wished me a happy birthday recently makes me think if I am very much disliked. 

Do you have a hobby, favourite sports team etc?  Because facebook is a toxic place for some, this place is becoming toxic.  The reason I ask is that I belong to a forum of my favourite NFL team.  Trust me to find a place where you all have common interests and bans all political discussion.  The forums I visit are no-nonsense...well moderated and I'd say 99.9 % of posters are respectful.  They also have a real ignore feature that if you ignore them you will never ever see a post even if their post is quoted.  The ignore feature here is weak and too restrictive.

There are less toxic places.  Find one and you interact with people that have a common interest.

Thoughts_Arrive

Yeah I have a hobby or two. But I don't spend time on any hobbies because of a lack of motivation lately. I spend most of my days on social media. The only thing that breaks that up is university commitments. This semester I have only one subject so I have more time to spend on social media. It's an addiction for me. 

lastexitlondon

For me. I say  do not use any social  media its vile amd harmful to anyone like us. 
Grow  food. Be with nature. Look within not outside

Thoughts_Arrive

lastexitlondon said:

For me. I say  do not use any social  media its vile amd harmful to anyone like us. 
Grow  food. Be with nature. Look within not outside

Most posts I make do not get any comments or likes, I just feel like people ignore me.
What's the point of being on there?

lastexitlondon

No point 

Thoughts_Arrive

I must be on the nose on Facebook.

Meltdown99

Thoughts_Arrive said:

lastexitlondon said:

For me. I say  do not use any social  media its vile amd harmful to anyone like us. 
Grow  food. Be with nature. Look within not outside

Most posts I make do not get any comments or likes, I just feel like people ignore me.
What's the point of being on there?

I really do not know what to tell you.  If facebook bothers you delete your account or give it a break.  I get where you're coming from.  The world is too political today.  I am so sick of politics and its toxicity I have to skip voting in our federal election October 21.  None of those clowns running deserve me wasting my time worrying about them and their nanny policies...

Thoughts_Arrive

Maybe my political posts have rubbed people the wrong way

Meltdown99

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Maybe my political posts have rubbed people the wrong way

Just the closed-minded people.  You seem like a stand-up dude.

HughFreakingDillon

Thoughts_Arrive said:

lastexitlondon said:

For me. I say  do not use any social  media its vile amd harmful to anyone like us. 
Grow  food. Be with nature. Look within not outside

Most posts I make do not get any comments or likes, I just feel like people ignore me.
What's the point of being on there?

stop giving a shit about likes and comments. it's false reinforcement. we're heading towards a culture where everyone is depressed or lacking confidence because they don't get enough likes/retweets/comments/etc. 

I finally deleted my facebook account a few months back, after being on it for 10 years. social media itself can be like an addiction, with real life addiction-like consequences. it's not a place for sensitive souls, let me tell you. even when you get "likes", it gives you the rush that makes you want to out perform that post next time, to be funnier, more insightful, etc. it's actually stressful for some. the best way to eliminate that stress is to eliminate social media. 

Thoughts_Arrive

HughFreakingDillon said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

lastexitlondon said:

For me. I say  do not use any social  media its vile amd harmful to anyone like us. 
Grow  food. Be with nature. Look within not outside

Most posts I make do not get any comments or likes, I just feel like people ignore me.
What's the point of being on there?

stop giving a shit about likes and comments. it's false reinforcement. we're heading towards a culture where everyone is depressed or lacking confidence because they don't get enough likes/retweets/comments/etc. 

I finally deleted my facebook account a few months back, after being on it for 10 years. social media itself can be like an addiction, with real life addiction-like consequences. it's not a place for sensitive souls, let me tell you. even when you get "likes", it gives you the rush that makes you want to out perform that post next time, to be funnier, more insightful, etc. it's actually stressful for some. the best way to eliminate that stress is to eliminate social media. 

That's true and that's one thing.

But I don't get how people didn't know its my birthday. I always get notifications when it's someone's birthday. People I expected to wish me a happy birthday didn't and it stings

HughFreakingDillon

Thoughts_Arrive said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

lastexitlondon said:

For me. I say  do not use any social  media its vile amd harmful to anyone like us. 
Grow  food. Be with nature. Look within not outside

Most posts I make do not get any comments or likes, I just feel like people ignore me.
What's the point of being on there?

stop giving a shit about likes and comments. it's false reinforcement. we're heading towards a culture where everyone is depressed or lacking confidence because they don't get enough likes/retweets/comments/etc. 

I finally deleted my facebook account a few months back, after being on it for 10 years. social media itself can be like an addiction, with real life addiction-like consequences. it's not a place for sensitive souls, let me tell you. even when you get "likes", it gives you the rush that makes you want to out perform that post next time, to be funnier, more insightful, etc. it's actually stressful for some. the best way to eliminate that stress is to eliminate social media. 

That's true and that's one thing.

But I don't get how people didn't know its my birthday. I always get notifications when it's someone's birthday. People I expected to wish me a happy birthday didn't and it stings

not everyone is on FB every day. I find that a lot of people have switched to instagram or twitter, or one of the younger ones, or left facebook altogether, because of what facebook has turned into. I hated all the "suggested posts", the ads I had to scroll past, I honestly wasted more time looking at stuff I didn't want to than stuff I did. Part of the reason I deleted it. 

mickeyrat

Thoughts_Arrive said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

lastexitlondon said:

For me. I say  do not use any social  media its vile amd harmful to anyone like us. 
Grow  food. Be with nature. Look within not outside

Most posts I make do not get any comments or likes, I just feel like people ignore me.
What's the point of being on there?

stop giving a shit about likes and comments. it's false reinforcement. we're heading towards a culture where everyone is depressed or lacking confidence because they don't get enough likes/retweets/comments/etc. 

I finally deleted my facebook account a few months back, after being on it for 10 years. social media itself can be like an addiction, with real life addiction-like consequences. it's not a place for sensitive souls, let me tell you. even when you get "likes", it gives you the rush that makes you want to out perform that post next time, to be funnier, more insightful, etc. it's actually stressful for some. the best way to eliminate that stress is to eliminate social media. 

That's true and that's one thing.

But I don't get how people didn't know its my birthday. I always get notifications when it's someone's birthday. People I expected to wish me a happy birthday didn't and it stings

can I suggest you lower your expectations? it leaves room for being surprised when low expectations are exceeded.

curious though, what are your expectations based on? what you yourself would do?

Thoughts_Arrive

I wish all those dear to me a happy birthday. Every single time.

My expectations are based on me treating people how I wish to be treated.

HughFreakingDillon

Thoughts_Arrive said:

I wish all those dear to me a happy birthday. Every single time.

My expectations are based on me treating people how I wish to be treated.

I am ultra-sensitive. I learned a long time ago that I cannot expect the same from people that I do for them. Especially being a guy, I can't expect the majority of my guy friends to remember the same shit I do, to understand how certain things make me feel, etc. I have always gravitated towards females in the friend department, and that's the reason why. they get me more than other guys do. 

my best male friend hasn't wished me happy birthday in years. he hasn't asked me about my kids. he has occasionally asked me about my wife. never about my parents. stuff like that. it's just not on his radar. 

when I ask a guy friend how his kids are, for example, most of them look at me like a confused dog. "why do you give a shit?" is the look I get. because I'm not grunting and asking him about his latest car project. I'm more interested in the human aspects of life, whereas most of them are not. Which is why the guy friends I do gravitate to, they tend to be musicians and artists. I know this sounds all very generalized and stereotypical, but it honestly is how people in my life generally behave. 

mickeyrat

Thoughts_Arrive said:

I wish all those dear to me a happy birthday. Every single time.

My expectations are based on me treating people how I wish to be treated.

thats great you do that. my experience is, its a surefire way to disappointment at a minimum to expect the same from others. hope for it sure, but expect it? doesnt work out as often as it could.

Thoughts_Arrive

HughFreakingDillon said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

I wish all those dear to me a happy birthday. Every single time.

My expectations are based on me treating people how I wish to be treated.

I am ultra-sensitive. I learned a long time ago that I cannot expect the same from people that I do for them. Especially being a guy, I can't expect the majority of my guy friends to remember the same shit I do, to understand how certain things make me feel, etc. I have always gravitated towards females in the friend department, and that's the reason why. they get me more than other guys do. 

my best male friend hasn't wished me happy birthday in years. he hasn't asked me about my kids. he has occasionally asked me about my wife. never about my parents. stuff like that. it's just not on his radar. 

when I ask a guy friend how his kids are, for example, most of them look at me like a confused dog. "why do you give a shit?" is the look I get. because I'm not grunting and asking him about his latest car project. I'm more interested in the human aspects of life, whereas most of them are not. Which is why the guy friends I do gravitate to, they tend to be musicians and artists. I know this sounds all very generalized and stereotypical, but it honestly is how people in my life generally behave. 

Yeah I prefer the same types of friends. I am not a stereotypical guy. I rather hang out with artistic sensitive males and females.
My best friend always texts me happy birthday rather than doing it over Facebook which means a lot. I guess I should be grateful for that. I just wish others I am friends with would.

Thoughts_Arrive

mickeyrat said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

I wish all those dear to me a happy birthday. Every single time.

My expectations are based on me treating people how I wish to be treated.

thats great you do that. my experience is, its a surefire way to disappointment at a minimum to expect the same from others. hope for it sure, but expect it? doesnt work out as often as it could.

That makes me sad too. I try not to but still hope for it.

Thoughts_Arrive

I have booked an appointment with a GP for this afternoon for an ear complaint. Not sure if I should say I want to go off my medication. I feel it does nothing at all. It's stopped working. Waste of money. Been on medication for 5 yrs approx now.

HughFreakingDillon

Thoughts_Arrive said:

I have booked an appointment with a GP for this afternoon for an ear complaint. Not sure if I should say I want to go off my medication. I feel it does nothing at all. It's stopped working. Waste of money. Been on medication for 5 yrs approx now.

don't go off of it without your GP knowing. it was the worst mistake i ever made! if it isn't working, then fine, but talk about other options with him/her.