A safe place for anxiety sufferers to share.

lastexitlondon

Its times like these i look at her and hope i can survive to see her become a young lady like my other girls. 

Annafalk

lastexitlondon said:

Its times like these i look at her and hope i can survive to see her become a young lady like my other girls. 

You truly are a lucky man ! 

lastexitlondon

Im blessed with wonderful children. Im sure without them i would be gone. Ive just seen all my kids together and i laugh non stop.

i_lov_it

I hope People are doing Good here?...I'm trying to come to Terms with my most recent Ex talking to another Guy behind my back about her Exams rather then talking me...I mean seriously...who does that???...by the way it was the same Guy who she bought a Birthday Present for on the day of his Birthday and yet didn't get me one until a week after my Birthday...

i_lov_it

Try this for an anxiety inducing Ex...we were having romantic time together and half of the time She was messaging another Guy...yep you guessed it the same Guy who I've mentioned before...

i_lov_it

This is a Good Thread to have...my Ex didn't even get me a Birthday Present...and to rub salt into the wound she spoke to another Guy behind my back about her Exam...

brianlux

i_lov_it said:

Try this for an anxiety inducing Ex...we were having romantic time together and half of the time She was messaging another Guy...yep you guessed it the same Guy who I've mentioned before...

Many years ago, I had a girlfriend and she and I were getting closer to being ex's.  She started talking more about this other guy.  I would have done well back then to just let her go out of my life and visa versa and let the air clear.  You might find that the healthiest way to deal with it at this point. I know, that's hard to do, but in the long run, for the best.

i_lov_it

brianlux said:

i_lov_it said:

Try this for an anxiety inducing Ex...we were having romantic time together and half of the time She was messaging another Guy...yep you guessed it the same Guy who I've mentioned before...

Many years ago, I had a girlfriend and she and I were getting closer to being ex's.  She started talking more about this other guy.  I would have done well back then to just let her go out of my life and visa versa and let the air clear.  You might find that the healthiest way to deal with it at this point. I know, that's hard to do, but in the long run, for the best.

Thank you for your Good advice Brian...when your partner start treating you that way...you already know right?

mickeyrat

i_lov_it said:

This is a Good Thread to have...my Ex didn't even get me a Birthday Present...and to rub salt into the wound she spoke to another Guy behind my back about her Exam...

but you speak about this all like she ISNT an ex?

perhaps I'm confused on the timeline here.....

myoung321

http://community.pearljam.com/discussion/270253/shocked-by-my-heart-icd-ouch#latest

Wanna know what 

brianlux

i_lov_it said:

brianlux said:

i_lov_it said:

Try this for an anxiety inducing Ex...we were having romantic time together and half of the time She was messaging another Guy...yep you guessed it the same Guy who I've mentioned before...

Many years ago, I had a girlfriend and she and I were getting closer to being ex's.  She started talking more about this other guy.  I would have done well back then to just let her go out of my life and visa versa and let the air clear.  You might find that the healthiest way to deal with it at this point. I know, that's hard to do, but in the long run, for the best.

Thank you for your Good advice Brian...when your partner start treating you that way...you already know right?

Exactly.  I knew for a long time but I was too afraid to leave even when the handwriting was on the wall.  All my friends saw it.  They saw what it was doing to me and they all told me to leave for my own sake.  It was a hard life lesson. 

Fortunately, several years later she and I exchanged a few letters and made peace.  Never saw or heard from her again after that but that's OK too.

brianlux

myoung321 said:

http://community.pearljam.com/discussion/270253/shocked-by-my-heart-icd-ouch#latest

Wanna know what 

I can only imagine.  No thanks!  Yes, anxiety can certainly be induced by medical issues- anything from a broken tooth at midnight on a Sunday in the middle of nowhere (no fun!) to what you went through. 

I don't think you can put a meter on anxiety.  We all experience that emotion at least a little different.   The famed mountaineer, Ed Viesturs, talks about the anxiety being in a dangerous situation in the "death zone" above 8,000 meters (26,247 feet), and yet those who go there do so on their own accord.  I don't think I would ever put myself in that position (but I sure enjoy reading about that kind of thing).

lastexitlondon

myoung321 said:8

http://community.pearljam.com/discussion/270253/shocked-by-my-heart-icd-ouch#latest

Wanna know what anxiety feels like? try this

I read  that and that like many critical or life long medical conditions induce a huge anxiety. Infact trauma of any kind are causes and not one bigger or more than the other. Some inspiring people i have met with diseases and life changing circumstances are actually not anxious which im in awe of.  

lastexitlondon

I want to type more than i can manage at the moment. Im being put in a very stressful situation and im not coping. I stopped drinking 2 weeks ago which for me is hard. But the last few days ive started smoking weed again after4 days i just want to be stoned all the time. Im living a very dangerous way and can't find a path out. Im missing meds some days because it makes me feel awful i can't understand anything

Meltdown99

lastexitlondon said:

I want to type more than i can manage at the moment. Im being put in a very stressful situation and im not coping. I stopped drinking 2 weeks ago which for me is hard. But the last few days ive started smoking weed again after4 days i just want to be stoned all the time. Im living a very dangerous way and can't find a path out. Im missing meds some days because it makes me feel awful i can't understand anything

Im a medicinal user ... i quit taking anti-depressants and now just use my medicinal weed to deal with anxiety, its the best thing I've done medically...I'm down to one pharmaceutical my life...and to me that is one to many.  And its far safer for you than alcohol and anti-depressants, with anti-depressants you are relying on a proper diagnosis in order to get the right meds...

lastexitlondon

How much weed do you use a day?

Meltdown99

lastexitlondon said:

How much weed do you use a day?

It varies, maybe 2-3 grams ... mostly at night before bed, that’s when my anxiety is at its worst.  I’m know expert, but I’ve often wondered that if you use regularly and builds up in your system...that maybe it controls axiety long term...I’m not nearly as anxious.

other things weed as helped me with, shooting nerve pain in my feet, sleep, anxiety...however it does not help me with pain.

lastexitlondon

Just out of interest do you smoke it in a pipe 

Meltdown99

lastexitlondon said:

Just out of interest do you smoke it in a pipe 

Yes, I pipe...but I also vape when indoors...

my my personal preference is my pipe...

lastexitlondon

Cool thats what i do

Meltdown99

lastexitlondon said:

Cool thats what i do

I also find if I smoke when drinking, the depressant that alcohol causes isn’t there...that could just be me.

also I might be coming to the realization that my marriage is over...

lastexitlondon

How does that make you feel? I mean are you looking at it with hope for the future or is it the end of your world

Meltdown99

It makes me feel hopeful ... 

i

lastexitlondon

That is good because there is a future . Believe me ive been there

i_lov_it

brianlux said:

i_lov_it said:

brianlux said:

i_lov_it said:

Try this for an anxiety inducing Ex...we were having romantic time together and half of the time She was messaging another Guy...yep you guessed it the same Guy who I've mentioned before...

Many years ago, I had a girlfriend and she and I were getting closer to being ex's.  She started talking more about this other guy.  I would have done well back then to just let her go out of my life and visa versa and let the air clear.  You might find that the healthiest way to deal with it at this point. I know, that's hard to do, but in the long run, for the best.

Thank you for your Good advice Brian...when your partner start treating you that way...you already know right?

Exactly.  I knew for a long time but I was too afraid to leave even when the handwriting was on the wall.  All my friends saw it.  They saw what it was doing to me and they all told me to leave for my own sake.  It was a hard life lesson. 

Fortunately, several years later she and I exchanged a few letters and made peace.  Never saw or heard from her again after that but that's OK too.

Your advice made me feel a bit better Brian...I know what you mean it is so clear and yet you choose to ignore it...and yes you are right these past two years was a hard life lesson...

i_lov_it

Did I also mention I sat and waited for her...but yet she never did the same for me???

i_lov_it

Yep that's right...I sat around waiting for her and yet she never did the same for me...

i_lov_it

mickeyrat said:

i_lov_it said:

This is a Good Thread to have...my Ex didn't even get me a Birthday Present...and to rub salt into the wound she spoke to another Guy behind my back about her Exam...

but you speak about this all like she ISNT an ex?

perhaps I'm confused on the timeline here.....

She's my most recent Ex...so it's still fresh...I sat around waiting for her but yet she couldn't do the same...

i_lov_it

Actually I had a little bit of a laugh just now...I was just thinking or imagining my most recent Ex doing what I did for her for the next year and a half???...yeah right 

lastexitlondon

Can i ask how long was this relationship and what are your ages?