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  • Fifthelement
    Fifthelement Lotusland Posts: 6,965
    Matts3221 said:

    LastExit and everyone else on this board.

    Just checking in to say hello and I love you to everyone on here. Holidays can be rough and I just wanted everyone who reads this to know you have a community that cares about you. If you don't have anyone else to talk to at least we have this board.

    Be safe , be health , be strong. There is hope and light at the end of the tunnel no matter how long it may seem.

    Thanks Matts, I agree wholeheartedly with your post.  Be well.
    "What the CANUCK happened?!? - Esquimalt Barber Shop
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Thanks Matts!
    Appreciate your thoughts.
    I hope you have a great day.
    It's morning here. So far so good.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    My family is so fucked up.
    My sister and nieces did not even bother to wish me or my parents a merry Christmas.
    My parents help them out a lot and I have been a good uncle yet they don't care.
    My other sister is estranged from everyone in my family except my dad. Her husband came over this morning with nephew and niece which was nice. Except for the part where my brother in law asked me what I think of Trump and started talking about how great Trump is for the American economy. Kind of annoying he assumes I'm a right winger when I have never discussed my political leanings with him.
    I see my friends posting photos of their family Christmas gatherings on social media and they're all having fun but my family are fucked up. My parents are sad that my sister and nieces did not wish them a merry Christmas.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • mickeyrat
    mickeyrat Posts: 44,473
    interesting article......


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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    When my mum blames my best friend for my life choices it insults my intelligence
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    I'm so enraged right now I want to smash things up and am having suicidal thoughts
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • mickeyrat
    mickeyrat Posts: 44,473
    edited December 2019
    I dont understand why her thoughts and opinions are so important to you.

    and before you say some varient of of well its supposed to be like.......

    live in the reality of the situation. Accept the fact she isnt how you wish her to be and dismiss her thoughts and beliefs. THEY ARE IRRELEVANT.
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    Not today Sir, Probably not tomorrow.............................................. bayfront arena st. pete '94
    you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
    memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
    another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '14
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Because she thinks I don't have a mind of my own. She thinks others control my life. She blames my best friend for me choosing to be atheist. She looks at me like I'm possessed by satan and need an exorcism. My brother in law thinks I am right winger. Noone knows me in my family 
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • mickeyrat
    mickeyrat Posts: 44,473
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Because she thinks I don't have a mind of my own. She thinks others control my life. She blames my best friend for me choosing to be atheist. She looks at me like I'm possessed by satan and need an exorcism. My brother in law thinks I am right winger. Noone knows me in my family 

    Is any of it true? then so fucking what, what they think. wrong is wrong.

    Frankly , its a good thing they dont know you. really, its easier then to cut them off. which you absolutely MUST do.
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    Not today Sir, Probably not tomorrow.............................................. bayfront arena st. pete '94
    you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
    memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
    another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '14
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    I can't wait.
    After I finish university I am moving out of my city and an hour away to be closer to those that matter to me.
    I thought I'd stay here because of my nieces but they don't give a fuck about me in their selfish little worlds.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    How is everyone doing?
    As for me, I'm okay. Just dealing with butthurt parents that cannot accept I am an atheist. 
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • RunIntoTheRain
    RunIntoTheRain Texas Posts: 1,032
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    How is everyone doing?
    As for me, I'm okay. Just dealing with butthurt parents that cannot accept I am an atheist. 
    You need to perfect the art of giving zero fucks what your parents think. Seriously. Zero fucks.
  • mickeyrat
    mickeyrat Posts: 44,473
    RunIntoTheRain said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    How is everyone doing?
    As for me, I'm okay. Just dealing with butthurt parents that cannot accept I am an atheist. 
    You need to perfect the art of giving zero fucks what your parents think. Seriously. Zero fucks.
    good book.....

    I'm listening to "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life" on Scribd. Check it out: https://www.scribd.com/audiobook/323820252

    this links the audio version on scribd. also available in print here or through amazon, kindle and audible

    _____________________________________SIGNATURE________________________________________________

    Not today Sir, Probably not tomorrow.............................................. bayfront arena st. pete '94
    you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
    memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
    another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '14
  • Fifthelement
    Fifthelement Lotusland Posts: 6,965
    RunIntoTheRain said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    How is everyone doing?
    As for me, I'm okay. Just dealing with butthurt parents that cannot accept I am an atheist. 
    You need to perfect the art of giving zero fucks what your parents think. Seriously. Zero fucks.
    Good advice!
    "What the CANUCK happened?!? - Esquimalt Barber Shop
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    RunIntoTheRain said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    How is everyone doing?
    As for me, I'm okay. Just dealing with butthurt parents that cannot accept I am an atheist. 
    You need to perfect the art of giving zero fucks what your parents think. Seriously. Zero fucks.
    It's hard when they have a frown on their faces all day long. They both look so angry and depressed. Mum isn't talking to me and dad won't speak to me in a nice manner. Very short and with attitude. I hate that it destroys them this much because I feel responsible.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    mickeyrat said:
    RunIntoTheRain said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    How is everyone doing?
    As for me, I'm okay. Just dealing with butthurt parents that cannot accept I am an atheist. 
    You need to perfect the art of giving zero fucks what your parents think. Seriously. Zero fucks.
    good book.....

    I'm listening to "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life" on Scribd. Check it out: https://www.scribd.com/audiobook/323820252

    this links the audio version on scribd. also available in print here or through amazon, kindle and audible

      I have read that book.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    RunIntoTheRain said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    How is everyone doing?
    As for me, I'm okay. Just dealing with butthurt parents that cannot accept I am an atheist. 
    You need to perfect the art of giving zero fucks what your parents think. Seriously. Zero fucks.
    It's hard when they have a frown on their faces all day long. They both look so angry and depressed. Mum isn't talking to me and dad won't speak to me in a nice manner. Very short and with attitude. I hate that it destroys them this much because I feel responsible.
    I'm sorry you're going through that right now. It sucks to know your parents are suffering, (even when you don't get along with them).
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    RunIntoTheRain said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    How is everyone doing?
    As for me, I'm okay. Just dealing with butthurt parents that cannot accept I am an atheist. 
    You need to perfect the art of giving zero fucks what your parents think. Seriously. Zero fucks.
    It's hard when they have a frown on their faces all day long. They both look so angry and depressed. Mum isn't talking to me and dad won't speak to me in a nice manner. Very short and with attitude. I hate that it destroys them this much because I feel responsible.
    I'm sorry you're going through that right now. It sucks to know your parents are suffering, (even when you don't get along with them).
    Thanks. It's like emotional blackmail.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    Does it work?
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    RunIntoTheRain said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    How is everyone doing?
    As for me, I'm okay. Just dealing with butthurt parents that cannot accept I am an atheist. 
    You need to perfect the art of giving zero fucks what your parents think. Seriously. Zero fucks.
    It's hard when they have a frown on their faces all day long. They both look so angry and depressed. Mum isn't talking to me and dad won't speak to me in a nice manner. Very short and with attitude. I hate that it destroys them this much because I feel responsible.
    Mind games.

    You may feel culpable (and maybe you are, for not personifying what they want), but they are responsible for how they treat you, what they say, and on.

    Consider this further proof that (I believe) it would benefit your state of mind to distance yourself from them, both literally and figuratively.  At least, until you're at a point where you really DON'T give any fucks.


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