A safe place for anxiety sufferers to share.

Thoughts_Arrive · December 2019

Thank you camsjam

lastexitlondon · December 2019

Thank you cam.
Another bad night .

Thoughts_Arrive · December 2019

Left my art class tonight feeling better. Always good to be around like minded people.

Matts3221 · December 2019

Lastexit

I really am pulling for you even though I don't know you. I thin that you come on and post is a good thing. Some people just slip away not talking to anyone. As much as you feel hopeless posting shows you still care.

Thoughts

Also doing some sort of volunteering is huge. To go to a soup kitchen can sometimes make you realize that others are struggling so hard and to give them a helping hand and see their thankfulness can put things in perspective for you. Not that your pain should be minimized at all ( we all have the right to feel hurt of sad ) but it just opens your eyes to certain things going on.

For me I have to say the gym has been huge ( all I do is jog on the treadmill ) for anyone feeing nervous about a gym I can tell you my fears are all gone , no one is looking at you or judging you they are there to just work on themselves. Being going 3-4 times a week for the past three weeks for about 45-60 mins at a time. May not work for everyone but I highly suggest it. That said I have been suggesting it to myself for 10 years and finally joined a month ago.

Fifthelement · December 2019

Thinking of everyone here. Sending out warm thoughts.

Thoughts_Arrive · December 2019

Thank you S and Matts.

I used to have bad anxiety the first time I went to a gym. I thought everyone was looking at and judging me.

hedonist · December 2019

TA, most people don't give a fuck; they're too concerned with themselves.

Hell, when I go for physical therapy, my mindset is of the don't-give-a-fuck variety. We're all there for something, for improvement of some sort. All struggling, all in pain, all persevering and even triumphing. Who gives a shit if it gets awkward?

LIFE is awkward. We all are.

deadendp · December 2019

hedonist said:

TA, most people don't give a fuck; they're too concerned with themselves.

Hell, when I go for physical therapy, my mindset is of the don't-give-a-fuck variety. We're all there for something, for improvement of some sort. All struggling, all in pain, all persevering and even triumphing. Who gives a shit if it gets awkward?

LIFE is awkward. We all are.

+1

You wanna see awkward? You should see me dance.

hedonist · December 2019

deadendp said:

hedonist said:

TA, most people don't give a fuck; they're too concerned with themselves.

Hell, when I go for physical therapy, my mindset is of the don't-give-a-fuck variety. We're all there for something, for improvement of some sort. All struggling, all in pain, all persevering and even triumphing. Who gives a shit if it gets awkward?

LIFE is awkward. We all are.

+1

You wanna see awkward? You should see me dance.

One of these days, Elaine. I’ll be doing “the kick” right there with you

Thoughts_Arrive · December 2019

Depends on the gym I guess.

Some are full of meatheads that like to stare and think everyone is their competition.

mickeyrat · December 2019

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Depends on the gym I guess.
Some are full of meatheads that like to stare and think everyone is their competition.

so whos problem is that?

not yours, even if you find your selfconsiousness sometimes paralysing.

HughFreakingDillon · December 2019

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Thank you S and Matts.
I used to have bad anxiety the first time I went to a gym. I thought everyone was looking at and judging me.

dude, women fart in hot yoga, with their asses in the air, with people behind them. no one's judging shit. and remember, if someone is judging, that's THEIR insecurity, not a reflection of you.

hedonist · December 2019

TA, not to come down on you, but it seems I'm missing something here. Is there a reason you haven't even tried any of these suggestions more than once and / or are discarding them altogether?

People aren't just blowing smoke here...they / we are genuinely trying to support you, whether through simply listening or offering what helps themselves on occasion.

It's just frustrating, confusing even (for me; I speak for no one else), that this thread has been rife with means of finding relief, self-confidence, etc., for years.

We can't do it for you. That, TA, is work YOU need to do. If you're willing to.

Just know that discomfort and failure are part of life. Avoiding either only shortchanges yourself of the possibilities to move through those times and learn from them.

Fifthelement · December 2019

Very wise words Hedo and one can see that it comes from a place of live and concern.

I think everyone who participates in this thread has gone through challenging times. Advice offered comes from personal experience. It’s not meant as a “just get over it” that each of us has probably heard in the past from people who do not know that the struggle is real.

She is absolutely right though, only one person can do the work and that’s the one currently experiencing crises/depression/anxiety, etc. You have to make the choice to deal with it (I.e. meds, diet, exercise, meditation, cut toxic people from your life, even if they are family, etc.) or to not deal with it. Either way, it’s a choice.

We’ll be here to offer support and compassion, but we can’t physically change things for the person in need (although we often wish we could!). Good luck.

Thoughts_Arrive · December 2019

Motivation and anxiety

mickeyrat · December 2019

perhaps one day (sooner rather than later I hope) the fear of remaining stuck where you are, as you are will become greater than the fear of change.....

JPPJ84 · December 2019

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Motivation and anxiety

„Motivation“?! May I please come down there, kick your butt and scream at you?! Do something, M.!! Please, for your sake! This apathy is so unhealthy and no doubt triggered by your anxiety but if you don’t do something about it and step out of your comfort zone, nothing will ever change. And seriously, how much comfort do you actually find in your comfort zone?!

Thoughts_Arrive · December 2019

I struggle to even find the motivation to work on my art which I need to do for homework as part of my weekly art classes. I've become super apathetic in recent years. No motivation to do anything than spend time on social media. No motivation to find a job, to look for love, to play guitar, to read a book, to live.

I know what I need to do. I've heard all your advice. I just don't know if I have it in me to do anything. Thus, I'll stop venting on this forum from now on.

Fifthelement · December 2019

M, nobody wants you to stop venting. We understand the fear and the lack of motivation. We know that it’s not easy. We know that it’s not comfortable. But we also know that your current situation is not healthy. We want the best for you. We don’t want you to feel that we’re ganging up on you.

Remember, you don’t have to try everything at once. Try one thing, like walking around your neighbourhood for an hour or so for three days in a week. Clear your head, sketch some scenes. If you can manage that and don’t feel overwhelmed, try it again in another neighbourhood or city park. Small, manageable steps are the goal. A safe space to clear your head. (((Hugs)))

Thoughts_Arrive · December 2019

I hate what I have become. I have no spark, no zest for life. I'm a walking corpse. Always lazy, always lacking energy, tired. I don't even care that I have successfully completed my university degree with a GPA of 6.70 out of 7. Studying was the only thing I cared to do over the last 4 years but I really struggled to be motivated this year and am not sure how I'll push through the demands of honours next year.

Decided to read up on apathy.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/evolution-the-self/201604/the-curse-apathy-sources-and-solutions

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