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Thoughts_Arrive · November 2019

mickeyrat said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

hedonist said:

Some of that has to come from you; hopefully the psychiatrist, along with other means, can help you get there.

(I'm surprised this wasn't an option provided / taken before...?)

Rob, how are you doing?

What option? Seeing the psychiatrist?
What about noone asking how I'm going?

they say we train others how to treat us.

perhaps, just maybe , folks are afraid of the answer. when given honestly , instead of the I'm ok surface pleasanties.

So, they ask. You answer honestly. Then what? Isnt that an awkward position to be put in?

Most often, what you are experiencing, is about them and their fear of uncomfortability.
Does that make sense?

Yeah.

The thing is there is RUOK day here and all these other mental health awareness campaigns yet noone asks.

Thoughts_Arrive · November 2019

hedonist said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

hedonist said:

Some of that has to come from you; hopefully the psychiatrist, along with other means, can help you get there.

(I'm surprised this wasn't an option provided / taken before...?)

Rob, how are you doing?

What option? Seeing the psychiatrist?
What about noone asking how I'm going?

The psychiatrist option. Did you not seek it out or wasn't it available before now?

As for the other question, see below!

*edit - technically, above

I've seen one a few times before.

Last time about 2 years ago.

I can only get one or two sessions without charge. Today is the earliest I could get for free.

Thoughts_Arrive · November 2019

mickeyrat said:

deadendp said:

mickeyrat said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

hedonist said:

Some of that has to come from you; hopefully the psychiatrist, along with other means, can help you get there.

(I'm surprised this wasn't an option provided / taken before...?)

Rob, how are you doing?

What option? Seeing the psychiatrist?
What about noone asking how I'm going?

they say we train others how to treat us.

perhaps, just maybe , folks are afraid of the answer. when given honestly , instead of the I'm ok surface pleasanties.

So, they ask. You answer honestly. Then what? Isnt that an awkward position to be put in?

Most often, what you are experiencing, is about them and their fear of uncomfortability.
Does that make sense?

I was going to say just this.

There are so many times people are so worried about saying the wrong thing that they say nothing at all believing that causes less damage. And...honestly, that sometimes is the better option, particularly when speaking to people who lack a filter.

although that leads to feelings of being unloved or unworthy of caring.....

Exactly

Thoughts_Arrive · November 2019

To add,

I know one girl from university who suffers depression. I've checked in on her a number of times to see how she is. She's never reciprocated. You'd think that someone who understands would ask in return.

lastexitlondon · November 2019

hedonist said:

Some of that has to come from you; hopefully the psychiatrist, along with other means, can help you get there.

(I'm surprised this wasn't an option provided / taken before...?)

Rob, how are you doing?

Thank you for asking. You are kind.
But the answer is getting worse. I dont post as often as i want because its all very the same and i dont want to worry others . I spoke on the phone to the best dr I've spoken to. He listened and was kind. He told me i do not have the illness i think i do. He even sent me a txt with the words do NOT have in it so could read it over and over but sadly i cant seem to believe anyone only myself. He says what i do have is ocd. Health anxiety. Which is a fact. But as you all who know me a bit that doesn't answer my symptoms. I live in a black dark hell.

lastexitlondon · November 2019

I do believe there will just come a day that will be the end. That s all i can think

lastexitlondon · November 2019

And as this is an anxiety thread.
Something that makes me so upset is the upcoming tour and its making me so sad.
I used to be that person getting excited making plans and its gone for me and it breaks my heart.

deadendp · November 2019

Thoughts_Arrive said:

mickeyrat said:

deadendp said:

mickeyrat said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

hedonist said:

Some of that has to come from you; hopefully the psychiatrist, along with other means, can help you get there.

(I'm surprised this wasn't an option provided / taken before...?)

Rob, how are you doing?

What option? Seeing the psychiatrist?
What about noone asking how I'm going?

they say we train others how to treat us.

perhaps, just maybe , folks are afraid of the answer. when given honestly , instead of the I'm ok surface pleasanties.

So, they ask. You answer honestly. Then what? Isnt that an awkward position to be put in?

Most often, what you are experiencing, is about them and their fear of uncomfortability.
Does that make sense?

I was going to say just this.

There are so many times people are so worried about saying the wrong thing that they say nothing at all believing that causes less damage. And...honestly, that sometimes is the better option, particularly when speaking to people who lack a filter.

although that leads to feelings of being unloved or unworthy of caring.....

Exactly

Unfortunately, I absolutely agree. Just saying that they may not realize the damage they do.

mickeyrat · November 2019

lastexitlondon said:

I do believe there will just come a day that will be the end. That s all i can think

which is true for every one on the planet.....

Thoughts_Arrive · November 2019

lastexitlondon said:

hedonist said:

Some of that has to come from you; hopefully the psychiatrist, along with other means, can help you get there.

(I'm surprised this wasn't an option provided / taken before...?)

Rob, how are you doing?

Thank you for asking. You are kind.
But the answer is getting worse. I dont post as often as i want because its all very the same and i dont want to worry others . I spoke on the phone to the best dr I've spoken to. He listened and was kind. He told me i do not have the illness i think i do. He even sent me a txt with the words do NOT have in it so could read it over and over but sadly i cant seem to believe anyone only myself. He says what i do have is ocd. Health anxiety. Which is a fact. But as you all who know me a bit that doesn't answer my symptoms. I live in a black dark hell.

At least you know what you have which many find comforting.

Thoughts_Arrive · November 2019

deadendp said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

mickeyrat said:

deadendp said:

mickeyrat said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

hedonist said:

Some of that has to come from you; hopefully the psychiatrist, along with other means, can help you get there.

(I'm surprised this wasn't an option provided / taken before...?)

Rob, how are you doing?

What option? Seeing the psychiatrist?
What about noone asking how I'm going?

they say we train others how to treat us.

perhaps, just maybe , folks are afraid of the answer. when given honestly , instead of the I'm ok surface pleasanties.

So, they ask. You answer honestly. Then what? Isnt that an awkward position to be put in?

Most often, what you are experiencing, is about them and their fear of uncomfortability.
Does that make sense?

I was going to say just this.

There are so many times people are so worried about saying the wrong thing that they say nothing at all believing that causes less damage. And...honestly, that sometimes is the better option, particularly when speaking to people who lack a filter.

although that leads to feelings of being unloved or unworthy of caring.....

Exactly

Unfortunately, I absolutely agree. Just saying that they may not realize the damage they do.

How do I (or should I even) bring this up with family and friends? I fear losing my friends if I tell them how sad it makes me.

My best friend only asks how I am with physical ailments. Like recently he asked how my back is as I had pain.

My psychiatrist upped my dose.

lastexitlondon · November 2019

mickeyrat said:

lastexitlondon said:

I do believe there will just come a day that will be the end. That s all i can think

which is true for every one on the planet.....

Yes a fact

lastexitlondon · November 2019

Thoughts_Arrive said:

lastexitlondon said:

hedonist said:

Some of that has to come from you; hopefully the psychiatrist, along with other means, can help you get there.

(I'm surprised this wasn't an option provided / taken before...?)

Rob, how are you doing?

Thank you for asking. You are kind.
But the answer is getting worse. I dont post as often as i want because its all very the same and i dont want to worry others . I spoke on the phone to the best dr I've spoken to. He listened and was kind. He told me i do not have the illness i think i do. He even sent me a txt with the words do NOT have in it so could read it over and over but sadly i cant seem to believe anyone only myself. He says what i do have is ocd. Health anxiety. Which is a fact. But as you all who know me a bit that doesn't answer my symptoms. I live in a black dark hell.

At least you know what you have which many find comforting.

I don't believe what they say as i know what ive lost thats the problem. Daily life is not recognisable to how it was

Thoughts_Arrive · November 2019

What have you lost?

Thoughts_Arrive · November 2019

I feel like my friends don't really like me.
Anything I share on Facebook is ignored, noone interacts with me on there anymore.
I see them liking and commenting on other people's posts but mine are just ignored.
Why am I so unlovable?

lastexitlondon · November 2019

Leave social media its fake

lastexitlondon · November 2019

Thoughts_Arrive said:

What have you lost?

Memory and confusion is ridiculous.
All the drs say the same. Its from anxiety. Not anything else. I dont buy it.

mickeyrat · November 2019

Thoughts_Arrive said:

I feel like my friends don't really like me.
Anything I share on Facebook is ignored, noone interacts with me on there anymore.
I see them liking and commenting on other people's posts but mine are just ignored.
Why am I so unlovable?

do you love yourself?

Thoughts_Arrive · November 2019

I don't know what to say. Have you had a neuropsychological assessment done?

Thoughts_Arrive · November 2019

I am in this fucked up place where I don't want to live anymore but I am terrified of dying and death.
It is like being stuck in a nightmare. I want to die but I don't want to die.

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