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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    rgambs said:
    So many kind words for me, thank you all!  I checked in now and then to be sure you are all hanging in there.
    I didn't know I was unbanned yesterday because I was in the woods.  I put together a big magical treasure hunt for my son and his 2 cousins, ages 7, 5, and 4.  It was awesome, they totally thought the whole thing was real.  Fairies and pirate treasure and a troll to fear.  The frenetic pace of the set-up and the anticipation and expectation had me a little anxious, but only a natural and very manageable level.
    You guys nailed it, hiking and laying up the garden for winter lol
    Such a cool idea! :pirate:  Maybe you should be banned more often if it inspires that kind of magical thinking. ;)
    LOL
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • njnancy
    njnancy Posts: 5,096
    Welcome back @rgambs !! 

    So glad to retire #freegambs!!  I don't use my Twitter account but it surely would have gone viral!! 

    Amazing project that you undertook while you were away!! Lucky kids!!

    (Trump is yammering away on my TV, hence the liberal use of exclamation points. )

    :hug:
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Feeling down, alone and hopeless this morning :-(
    Feeling like the medication was a false hope.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    Some meds take a bit of time to do their thing.  Maybe chalk it up to that, or just a low period?

    And lastexit, I hope you're looking into other ways (rehab, therapy, etc.) to help you out.  There's never any shame in reaching out, in order to make your body and mind well.
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    edited October 2019
    The girl I met 2 weeks ago just walked right past me in the lecture theatre without saying hello after I made the above post. Why does nobody want to know me. I almost burst into tears in the middle of the lecture.
    Post edited by Thoughts_Arrive on
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • mickeyrat
    mickeyrat Posts: 44,430
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    The girl I met 2 weeks ago just walked right past me in the lecture theatre without saying hello after I made the above post. Why does nobody want to know me. I almost burst into tears in the middle of the lecture.
    any number of reasons to be lost in thought and oblivious to those around them.
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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    She was like a meter away walking up the stairs and past me where I was sitting next to the aisle. I'm never going to find love. My mum was right I will die alone.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    You help people with their assignments over Facebook or in person and don't get a hello. Everyone in my cohort is the same, they don't bother saying hello or wanting to know me. People just use me for my good heart.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • lastexitlondon
    lastexitlondon Posts: 14,896
    edited October 2019
    hedonist said:
    Some meds take a bit of time to do their thing.  Maybe chalk it up to that, or just a low period?

    And lastexit, I hope you're looking into other ways (rehab, therapy, etc.) to help you out.  There's never any shame in reaching out, in order to make your body and mind well.
    Ive lost all hope. I couldn't  get up at all . I seriously  think my time is up. Thanks  for all the love and care.
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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    hedonist said:
    Some meds take a bit of time to do their thing.  Maybe chalk it up to that, or just a low period?

    And lastexit, I hope you're looking into other ways (rehab, therapy, etc.) to help you out.  There's never any shame in reaching out, in order to make your body and mind well.
    It was working I felt, until today
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    lastexitlondon said:
    hedonist said:
    Some meds take a bit of time to do their thing.  Maybe chalk it up to that, or just a low period?

    And lastexit, I hope you're looking into other ways (rehab, therapy, etc.) to help you out.  There's never any shame in reaching out, in order to make your body and mind well.
    Ive lost all hope. I couldn't  get up at all . I seriously  think my time is up. Thanks  for all the love and care.
    Me too. I am being forced to apply for full time work and keep getting rejection emails. Can't find love, can't find work, can't do anything right it seems.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Fifthelement
    Fifthelement Lotusland Posts: 6,965
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    She was like a meter away walking up the stairs and past me where I was sitting next to the aisle. I'm never going to find love. My mum was right I will die alone.
    M, you need to check your expectations.  This woman doesn’t owe you anything, not even a greeting.  This does not mean that she doesn’t like you or want to know you.  Please try to recognise that just because a classmate, even one you’ve assisted, doesn’t say hello, it doesn’t mean you’ll end up alone forever.

    if you can, ask your therapist for CBT techniques you can use to help you manage your expectations. Work on small goals.  A coffee date, (or three!), lunch or dinner.  Small steps.  If you’re expecting love and marriage right off the bat, you’ll more than likely be doomed to disappointment.  That’s not her fault. You may be putting off vibes that you’re not even aware of when you size up every woman you encounter as a potential wife.  Some people are very sensitive to those vibes and will run like hell.

    Additionally, have you considered that your desperate need to prove your mother wrong is impeding your path to contentment?  From what you’ve said about her in the past, it’s important to recognise that she will probably never be happy and that’s not your fault, nor your responsibility.  Sending you hugs and good vibes.

    S xx
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  • Fifthelement
    Fifthelement Lotusland Posts: 6,965
    lastexitlondon said:
    hedonist said:
    Some meds take a bit of time to do their thing.  Maybe chalk it up to that, or just a low period?

    And lastexit, I hope you're looking into other ways (rehab, therapy, etc.) to help you out.  There's never any shame in reaching out, in order to make your body and mind well.
    Ive lost all hope. I couldn't  get up at all . I seriously  think my time is up. Thanks  for all the love and care.
    @lastexitlondon  Hey, Rob, I’m thinking of you and your family.  I’m hoping that you reach out for help.  Sending you (((hugs))).  S xx
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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    I understand she has a boyfriend but at least a simple greeting wouldn't hurt. Maybe as said above she was in her own world.
    Later in the day after posting the above, I was sitting on the floor outside the classroom where my tutorial was going to be and talking with a guy I know from the previous course I was enrolled in. When the tutorial finished she walked out and noticed me and and smiled and I waved hello and that was that. No, I wasn't stalking her, her tutorial is before mine and I was waiting.
    I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone in my circle is in love but me. I feel so alone and terrified I will never find someone. No antidepressant will fix that.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    edited October 2019
    I'm so down and anxiety ridden that I have chest pains (happens every time I am in a shit mood).
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    I just saw this video and realised I died nearly 20 years ago


    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    I should be happy as today was my last day of classes at university but I'm miserable
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    So there's no point to life? I'm a corporate slave for life.


    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • HughFreakingDillon
    HughFreakingDillon Winnipeg Posts: 39,473
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    I understand she has a boyfriend but at least a simple greeting wouldn't hurt. Maybe as said above she was in her own world.
    Later in the day after posting the above, I was sitting on the floor outside the classroom where my tutorial was going to be and talking with a guy I know from the previous course I was enrolled in. When the tutorial finished she walked out and noticed me and and smiled and I waved hello and that was that. No, I wasn't stalking her, her tutorial is before mine and I was waiting.
    I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone in my circle is in love but me. I feel so alone and terrified I will never find someone. No antidepressant will fix that.
    the problem I see here is that you don't allow others to be in their own world. who knows what was going on in her head when she walked passed you. people deal with their own shit, and can't always be concerned or notice absolutely every other person they know. sometimes it's just too hard. there are an infinite number of reasons she may have not said hi. 

    also, why didn't YOU say hi?
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  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,674
    edited October 2019
    HughFreakingDillon said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    I understand she has a boyfriend but at least a simple greeting wouldn't hurt. Maybe as said above she was in her own world.
    Later in the day after posting the above, I was sitting on the floor outside the classroom where my tutorial was going to be and talking with a guy I know from the previous course I was enrolled in. When the tutorial finished she walked out and noticed me and and smiled and I waved hello and that was that. No, I wasn't stalking her, her tutorial is before mine and I was waiting.
    I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone in my circle is in love but me. I feel so alone and terrified I will never find someone. No antidepressant will fix that.
    the problem I see here is that you don't allow others to be in their own world. who knows what was going on in her head when she walked passed you. people deal with their own shit, and can't always be concerned or notice absolutely every other person they know. sometimes it's just too hard. there are an infinite number of reasons she may have not said hi. 

    also, why didn't YOU say hi?
    I agree with all of this.
    I also think that this woman with the serious boyfriend isn't up for grabs anyway, and that there is no reason for you to be sweating something so much when all it is and all it can be is a casual friendship at most.
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