On-line dating? I give up!

soulsinging wrote:

well, i dont know if ill ever actually get a date from my okcupid profile (ps, worst website name ever), but i do know that those questions they have on there have helped me kill hours at work.

hahaha yes, I love the tests! some of them are actually pretty fun. OKC has been driving me nuts lately though. Every time I log on, I am immediately bombarded with IM's from guys ages like 22-52 just asking me for sex. Just flat out asking me for sex, that night. They always say, "so are you into the fun, casual thing?" (though they usually use "u" instead of "you" and other attractive shortcuts and misspelling like that). They also seem to think that telling me I'm cute or beautiful is going to be magic word that seals the deal.

I don't get how "fun/casual"=having sex with someone you don't know right this instant. My thought is, I meet a guy, it can go a bunch of different ways, one them being just a more casual relationship. I hate how many guys have a preset goal of what type of relationship they want before they even meet someone. To me that sort of thing just leads to disaster. Ba-humbug. If only I could meet someone as cool as I am .

locked wrote:

locked wrote:

its been three years and I am still single..

The woman I meet all seem to have the following:
- Constantly talk about nothing but themsleves.
- Expect to be provided for (money, gifts, travel) in their entirety.
- Have a secret wish to have a child despite denying so on profile
- Have an overblown opinion of their own attractiveness level.
- Have an overblown idea of what man they want/ think they can date (Brad Pitt / George clooney cross over)
- Have a very little sense of humor..

and finally.... Do not give a damn about Pearl Jam or hard rock music in general...

I posted it before...

I NEED A PJ GIRL!!!!! PLEASE GOD!?

For anyone keeping score at home.. these statistics remain 100% accurate after my most recent date!
(EVERY one of them in fact!)

Ugh..the search continues ..

dude...that sucks!
keep on rockin', it will all work out.
I'm an advocate of "I'd rather be alone than wish I was"......

soulsinging wrote:

Corso wrote:

Never been married; single, no children, getting old, never tried the on-line date service not sure that I would. I mean it may increase a person chance and it takes less time but how many couples actually have a good time or become committed to each other through a dating service? A passport would increase a person chance. I need to get mine...

how many couples have a good time or become committed to each other through getting drunk at a bar? seems as reasonable a way to meet someone as any other, and it makes more sense to me than trying to get to know someone while shouting over the noise in a dark bar or club.

what's a passport got to do with anything?

agreed.
if you're open to it, and can work for you...if you want it to. if you don't, you don't...and so it goes. a lot of people like to be proactive in their dating, others like to leave it simply to chance. there's no one right or wrong way, just what you're comfortable with.

as to the passport thing, i imagine it's simply to broaden your circle, meet new people?

my oldest sister met her 2nd husband thru newspaper personals, preinternet...and she met her current BF online. i met my husband thru mutual friends at a party, but 'knew' each other for years...my middle sister met most of her BFs, and her now husband, at bars. whatever works!




locked - is it bad that i laughed at your latest post? :oops: i don't laugh at your pain - i feel for ya buddy, but your words were simply too funny! hang in there buddy!

soulsinging wrote:

meeting my first girl from the interweb for coffee tonight. we'll see how this goes.

Have fun! One person I met through the internet was so shy it took an hour before he would look me in the eye when he was talking to me. He had a kind face, but I didn't realize that for most of the dinner.

soulsinging wrote:

Ms. Haiku wrote:

soulsinging wrote:

meeting my first girl from the interweb for coffee tonight. we'll see how this goes.

Have fun! One person I met through the internet was so shy it took an hour before he would look me in the eye when he was talking to me. He had a kind face, but I didn't realize that for most of the dinner.

wow. i'm nowhere near that shy. people seem to find me easy to talk to. i've met several people from on here and it's never been awkward. i get the impression there are a lot of nuts in the online dating world, so i'm hoping to stand out by default of being a pretty normal, nice guy, hehe. just wish i'd managed to get my hair cut this weekend as i intended, and that i'd slept more than 5 hours last night!

Remember to clean the pipes before you go out

Good Luck!

soulsinging wrote:

anyway, date went well. she was actually far prettier in person, which was a nice surprise. and she's a sweet girl. but she's also looking for something a lot more serious than i am, so i don't think i'm going to let it go much past friends and hanging out. i've a bad habit of serial monogamy that i need to work on breaking.

I always find the idea of "looking for" a particular type of relationship very odd. I feel that if I meet a new person, that relationship is new too. It's not like any other relationship I have with anyone else. And it has the possibility of going anywhere, you know? We could end up just having one ok date, we could end up "casually" dating for a few months, we could end up spending the rest of our lives committed to each other. I think the type of relationship you have is defined by the relationship between the two people in it, not by some kind of idea I have before it even starts. Now if I could only meet guys who think this way. It seems like everyone I've ever gone out with is trying to decide whether he wants a "girlfriend" or a "good time" and doesn't even seem to consider how he actually feels about me personally. They also make a lot of assumptions about what I want...(I'm female, so obviously I won't be happy until I have a ring on my finger) and that really frustrates me :(. Boo. I don't know what's gotten into me lately, but I've been wanting to meet people the last few months and it's getting frustrating that okcupid isn't helping!