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  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    annenomies wrote:
    I totally know what you are going through. My husband and I just separated in January - been together for 15 years. It is really difficult but time does help the healing process. Start doing things you want to do - get a pedicure, go out for a drink, go to concerts! Hang in there, you've got friends! pm if you want to talk


    hey there...I'm sorry you're going thru this too. I'm working on doing things for me, because I'm important :-)
    and you ROCK too! :D
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    annenomies wrote:
    I totally know what you are going through. My husband and I just separated in January - been together for 15 years. It is really difficult but time does help the healing process. Start doing things you want to do - get a pedicure, go out for a drink, go to concerts! Hang in there, you've got friends! pm if you want to talk


    hey there...I'm sorry you're going thru this too. I'm working on doing things for me, because I'm important :-)
    and you ROCK too! :D

    i do.



    (and so do you :-) )
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  • Cinnamon Girl
    Cinnamon Girl Posts: 1,854
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    Cinnamon Girl wrote:
    what do scantily-clad pillows look like? 8-)

    PillowPeople_MrSandman.jpg

    :lol::lol::lol::lol:


    AAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH ha ha ha!!![/quote]


    Is it just me or is that one slutty-looking pillow?
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  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    Cinnamon Girl wrote:
    PillowPeople_MrSandman.jpg



    Is it just me or is that one slutty-looking pillow?
    she does look a little 'ready' for something.... and it ain't a pillow fight!!! :shock:
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    Cinnamon Girl wrote:
    PillowPeople_MrSandman.jpg



    Is it just me or is that one slutty-looking pillow?
    she does look a little 'ready' for something.... and it ain't a pillow fight!!! :shock:

    I hope we keep quoting the Pillow-picture, because it cracks me up every time!

    she's got some serious bedroom eyes :twisted:
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  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    PillowPeople_MrSandman.jpg




    I hope we keep quoting the Pillow-picture, because it cracks me up every time!

    she's got some serious bedroom eyes :twisted:
    if only she was wearing white pants! :mrgreen:
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • Cinnamon Girl
    Cinnamon Girl Posts: 1,854
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    PillowPeople_MrSandman.jpg




    I hope we keep quoting the Pillow-picture, because it cracks me up every time!

    she's got some serious bedroom eyes :twisted:
    if only she was wearing white pants! :mrgreen:

    :lol: nice.
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  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    PillowPeople_MrSandman.jpg




    I hope we keep quoting the Pillow-picture, because it cracks me up every time!

    she's got some serious bedroom eyes :twisted:
    if only she was wearing white pants! :mrgreen:

    LOL...she won't look as good in them...
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  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    PillowPeople_MrSandman.jpg



    LOL...she won't look as good in them...
    this is true... but if I recall it was Black pants that really "made the statement" !!!!! :shock: :shock: :shock:
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • PearlOfAGirl
    PearlOfAGirl Posts: 15,993
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    So, my husband and I are separating....and I am trying to figure out what the heck to do...I'm so overwhelmed. Any thoughts? Advice?

    I'm staying with a friend until i can find my own place...

    (I know a certain awesome someone here has been helping me a lot with this--THANK YOU)
    I'm filing for divorce, we had agreed on everything and now he's refusing to go before a notary to sign the papers. I've made up my mind, I want out and have for a long time now...

    Wish you were here...
    ♥~RIP Dad
  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    HeartShapedBox wrote:
    I'm filing for divorce, we had agreed on everything and now he's refusing to go before a notary to sign the papers. I've made up my mind, I want out and have for a long time now...[/quote]


    ahh...I'm sorry--that has to be so frustrating for you, knowing what you want and being stuck. I hope he steps up and does it soon :roll:
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  • Cinnamon Girl
    Cinnamon Girl Posts: 1,854
    HeartShapedBox wrote:
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    So, my husband and I are separating....and I am trying to figure out what the heck to do...I'm so overwhelmed. Any thoughts? Advice?

    I'm staying with a friend until i can find my own place...

    (I know a certain awesome someone here has been helping me a lot with this--THANK YOU)
    I'm filing for divorce, we had agreed on everything and now he's refusing to go before a notary to sign the papers. I've made up my mind, I want out and have for a long time now...

    This is what I'm most afraid of...I feel so confident of our commitment to make it amicable, but there are so many of these type of stories. I always seems to get ugly.

    I hope everything goes smoothly, HSB!
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  • guacamolejoe
    guacamolejoe Posts: 2,396
    Poncier wrote:
    Steve Dunne wrote:

    (and my gawd there are some good lookin' newly single pearl jam girls on here!!!)
    This statement shows how well conseling works!
    ;)






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  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    so I actually went out last night with a girlfriend...it was fascinating how many guys notice when a girl doesn't have a wedding ring on...i felt like i had a giant sign on my head saying "Newly Single-ish!"

    when you guys separated and went out on your own, what did you feel like? I almost didn't know what to with myself...
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  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    pearljgirl2010 wrote:
    so I actually went out last night with a girlfriend...it was fascinating how many guys notice when a girl doesn't have a wedding ring on...i felt like i had a giant sign on my head saying "Newly Single-ish!"

    when you guys separated and went out on your own, what did you feel like? I almost didn't know what to with myself...
    Its a strange feeling... At first the though of another man made me sick.... But after time it was fun, and I found I had more confidance then I used to because hey if it didn't work out I had already been married! It was a 'fuck it' attitude.... Before I felt like I HAD to find the right man. I probably scare em off quick cause I don't shy away from being divorced like my one friend does. She says 'I'm outta a long term relationship'... But then again I'm as open as they come, if ya couldn't tell already!

    Just go with it... Those 'other guys' will help you decide what you really wanna do in yiur marriage. I'm NOT saying to sleep with em, just that they can help you tell if your husband is/will give you what you need.

    It's a long road... And god knows I'm still on it... But it can be fun if you let it be. :)
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    Its a strange feeling... At first the though of another man made me sick.... But after time it was fun, and I found I had more confidance then I used to because hey if it didn't work out I had already been married! It was a 'fuck it' attitude.... Before I felt like I HAD to find the right man. I probably scare em off quick cause I don't shy away from being divorced like my one friend does. She says 'I'm outta a long term relationship'... But then again I'm as open as they come, if ya couldn't tell already!

    Just go with it... Those 'other guys' will help you decide what you really wanna do in yiur marriage. I'm NOT saying to sleep with em, just that they can help you tell if your husband is/will give you what you need.

    It's a long road... And god knows I'm still on it... But it can be fun if you let it be. :)


    yeahhhh...I didn't sleep with anyone....at first I was nervous but ended up having a really good time. I guess I have nothing to lose by meeting people. we'll have to facebook chat soon...so i can delve into more details :-)
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  • Earthgirl
    Earthgirl Posts: 695
    the best advice I can give you is to take it one day at a time and to stay positive. I'm divorced and even tho I was miserable in my marriage and he was emotionally abusive to me, I never bad mouthed him to anyone.. I focused on myself and my happiness. good luck and peace and love to you.
  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    Earthgirl wrote:
    the best advice I can give you is to take it one day at a time and to stay positive. I'm divorced and even tho I was miserable in my marriage and he was emotionally abusive to me, I never bad mouthed him to anyone.. I focused on myself and my happiness. good luck and peace and love to you.


    thank you...I'm focusing on that too--We're very fortunate to be on good terms, and neither of us has any reason to bad mouth the other...helps keep things amicable and positive.
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  • Cinnamon Girl
    Cinnamon Girl Posts: 1,854
    Earthgirl wrote:
    the best advice I can give you is to take it one day at a time and to stay positive. I'm divorced and even tho I was miserable in my marriage and he was emotionally abusive to me, I never bad mouthed him to anyone.. I focused on myself and my happiness. good luck and peace and love to you.

    great advice. :)
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  • PatrickBateman
    PatrickBateman Posts: 2,243
    I just may or may have not been convinced to get out
    If a man speaks in a forest and there is no woman around to hear him, is he still wrong?

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