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Fighting Hellfish · November 2006

OK, tough question for the parents. Do you have people you don't trust bugging you to leave your babies with them? I do. The worst part is it is my in-laws. How do/would you handle it? This is mainly a saftey thing. For example, my mother in law and sister in law have always steadfastly refused to buckle babies in carseats, high chairs and strollers, while in the house. I would go over there, see the baby (Not mine) in his seat and cringe. If I mention buckling him, I would be quickly dismissed. Well, the first time we left jack there, we INSISTED on buckling. We can only hope he was. Well we were back there tonight, and jack's cousin (3 months) fell out of her carseat, onto the floor. She was asleep in her seat, unbuckled. She's fine, luckily. I did not want to leave him there before (and there are ample more reasons, such as a mother flipping out that her child's stroller is locked, so it can't move) Now I refuse to leave him there. My wife doesn't want to leave him there either, but she also doesn't want to piss off her family. Should I call Dr. Phil?

pacifier · November 2006

Fighting Hellfish wrote:

Should I call Dr. Phil?

That's about all you can do I think. I have someone like this but it is not my family so I just avoid them as much as possible and try to say things in a round about way if I am trying not to hurt their feelings about small things that I don't like them doing, or straight out if it is an obviously bad thing for the baby (Eg smoking, or in your case belt buckling).

Quiet Rhythm · November 2006

Unfortunately, I had to be very firm with both sides of the family. With my in laws it was the worst. My mother in law would feed my son dairy even tho she knows full well hes lactose intolerant. It came down to either respect my wishes and stop feeding him things that cause him so much pain, or you will only have visits supervised by me.

I had to do basically the same thing with my dad and step mom. They smoke in thier house, I don't. My dad would promise me that they would take it outside but numerous times I caught him smoking sitting right beside Joey. When it comes to my son's safety and well being, I dont care who I piss off or offend. I want my son to be safe and healthy and I definately dont appreicate being lied to. In my experience within the last 5 years, sometimes you have to step on a few toes to get your point across.

In your case, I would absolutely livid. In my area, car seat laws are very strict and can result in loss of points or even license and subjected to a hefty fine. I would put my foot down. Explain to them that either they buckle Jack or no more alone visits. Hopefully things change for you before, a child becomes seriously hurt and THEN your inlaws realize that they should be buckled.
Im sorry your going through this, Im nervous for you! I'd never ever leave my kid with anyone family or not would refused to buckle my son, especially in the car and high chairs.

Fighting Hellfish · November 2006

the scariest part is, after having to go to the hospital to have a baby checked out for being dropped on it s head, there was no change in their attitude. No, "Hey, maybe we should buckle her in at all times". Instead it was: "Hey, it was a freak accident, could have happened to anyone" For my wife's sake, I resisted the urge to yell "No it's not!! if she was buckled up like she is supposed to be, there'd be no accident. But a big part of me thinks I should have yelled that, for the babies sake.

Quiet Rhythm · November 2006

I would have yelled until I was blue in the face. But thats me and Im kinda a crazy mom when it comes to my son. :P

PissBottleMan · November 2006

We will sign the papers and pick up the keys for our new Grand Caravan tomorrow.

We're officially minivan people.

Hello 30's. Goodbye 20's.

PBM

genevieve · November 2006

I have much sympathy for you guys with problems trustiing people.
With me its my own parents and the fact that they get frustrated with kids.
At a wedding we went to this summer my mom wanted me to keep Adria at the table while she was fussing. I knew she would be tolerated but I didnt want to put other people out. My mom said "Here give her to me" But as soon as Adria started fussing again she said "Well shes your baby" and handed her back. So I enede up sitting in the lobby feeding her listening to the lounge pianist. I would go in for the next course, eat and go back out.

Then my dad flipped out on my brothers kids when he was looking after them.
Yelled at them for goofing around and then yelled at my sister in law.
Sheesh they are just kids. Get over it, you are a grown man.

My mom also had a nervous breakdown while I was preggo.
So I had to say no parents staying with us.
And unfortunatley we had to extend the rule to Erics parents to make things fair.
We really dont have the room for it anyway but my parents would be even more upset than they are already if it wasnt across the board.

PJaddicted · November 2006

To all of you with new babies.....DO NOT EVER LEAVE YOUR CHILDREN WITH PEOPLE YOU DON'T TRUST! EVER!

I am the parent of 4 teens and I won't go into details, but there were a few times that my heart was telling me NO and I left them anyway and things happened, nothing really bad, but that was by luck. Go with your heart.....your children are too precious to chance leaving them with dysfunctional people.

I've really enjoyed checking into this thread....I miss my kids being little. I love them as teens....it is easier for me and hubby....but they used to be soooo cute and it went far too quickly!

Also PBM.....try to support PBW to breast feed, even if it is only a few meals a day...you can do both. I didn't last long with my first son(10 days)...and he ended up allergic to most formulas....we went through 4 months of hell with him screaming in pain, awful to see a newborn so uncomfortable. With my other sons I went for the long haul, no formula ever....very thankful I did...no stomach problems at all and no prolonged crying either...Guess that's why I ended up with 4...they were too easy! Good luck with the C-Section!

oxc

genevieve · November 2006

I think everyone should give breastfeeding a try.
You never know.
You might love it!
IO thought it would be a real chore.
But over 6mos now and Im still loving it.

PJaddicted · November 2006

If I had my child to raise all over again, Id finger paint more, and point the finger less.

I'd do less correcting and more connecting.

Id take my eyes off my watch watch with my eyes.

I would care to know less, and know to care more.

Id take more hikes and fly more kites.

I'd stop playing serious and seriously play.

I WOULD RUN THROUGH MORE FIELDS AND GAZE AT MORE STARS

I'd do more hugging, and less tugging.

I would be firm less often and affirm much more

I'd build self-esteem first and the house later.

I'd teach less about the love of power and more about the power of love.

.....Diane Loomans, From Full Esteem Ahead

I thought all of you would enjoy this....I got very good advice when my sons were little, you can have a clean house when they grow up, don't waste a precious moment of their childhood cleaning, while they are awake. This came from several aunts, grandparents and parents. Guess what....they were right....my house is looking awesome now that they are teens and can help keep it that way. I had a blast with my kids~always going and doing....even if it was a simple walk down to a pond, or one of the farms to visit cows, goats, horses, or to the park. We didn't have much money so we did a ton of camping....I miss it all!

Enjoy everyone!

oxc

Brain of J.Lo · November 2006

Regarding breastfeeding...the best thing you can do, I think, is just relax about it and give it a shot.

It can be very natural and easy, but for some it is a ton of work, and still for others it's impossible. I got myself SO worked up over the whole thing that I was seriously crushed when it didn't work out. I even worked with 3 different lactation consultants, and Annabelle just wouldn't get a good latch. I had to take an antiobiotic for my infected c/s incision, which really upset the baby's stomach, so I had to pump and dump for a week... After that, she absolutely refused to even try the breast, and I ended up pumping my brains out for about 6 weeks or so because I really wanted to give her breast milk. Eventually I just had to stop because I had a baby sitting there who needed to be held more than she needed the breastmilk and because I was going insane, lol. SHE was sleeping through the night before I was, lol.

Looking back...I regret all the anxiety I put myself through, and I wish I would have just relaxed and accepted it when it wasn't working. I now know that my baby is thriving with formula and she's gonna be just fine. I'll definitely try it again with the next baby, though, because making and washing bottles is a pain, and because there are definitely health benefits to breastmilk, especially in the beginning.

PissBottleMan · November 2006

PJaddicted...thanks for the great thoughts.

Brain of J.Lo...thanks for the advice.

PBM

genevieve · November 2006

My aunts sister just had a baby.
She is having a hell of a time breastfeeding.
Her little girl is tongue tied.
So her latch is horrible and made ratshit out of her nipples.
Little Addison had the little flap of skin clipped so i think things will get better.

Kudos to mommy for still giving breastfeeding her all.
But Im not sure I wouldnt have given up.
Ouch!

PissBottleMan · December 2006

2 weeks from today we go into the hospital.

My parents come in a week from Friday.

Bought the Rocker/Ottoman on Saturday.

Thank You cards have been written.

Now, we wait.

PBM

PJaddicted · December 2006

Awwwww......great news PBM! It is the most organized you will be for a very long time!!!!

Enjoy your last moments as a couple alone.....you are almost a family!!!!

oxc

genevieve · December 2006

PJaddicted wrote:

It is the most organized you will be for a very long time!!!!

Truer words are hard to find!

Fighting Hellfish · December 2006

I'll 3rd That

DinghyDog · December 2006

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IamMine · December 2006

Congrats, PBM & PBW on the soon arrival of Xavier (I hope I spelled that right!)!!!

PJAddicted is WISE!

I'm still dealing with unorganized house and it's always a HUGE mess.

Screw it. lol.

Make APPOINTMENTS with me if you really want to visit a clean house, not us.

I read what you said about breastfeeding... it can be challenging at times!

It always took me a while with all four of mine.

I remember breastfeeding Tyler literally just bout all day.

Then I realized it was more of pacifiers for him! :rolleyes:

That explains why none of them liked the "fake" pacifiers - why not use their momma's?!!

ha.

I enjoyed that phase though... so much easier than making forumlas - except for hectic times like when I was in school and at times I didn't feel like breastfeeding and studying at the same time.

But I loved, loved, loved feeding them in bed. They'd put me to sleep!

All this talk made my husband wanting more kids... I think I will just shut up!

They do grow up so fast, it's not even funny.

My youngest will be five on April 11th and I'm thinking whaaaat happened?!

No more strollers, baby blankets and clothes that smell soooo good!!!

Now they all are talking people... lol.

Enjoy your baby years - it's only for a very, very short time though at times it seems like forever!

It isn't. :(

hugs to everyone and their babies!!

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