Who wants kids?

pandora

Mamasan23 wrote:

JOEJOEJOE wrote:

Why question someone who obviously knows whats best for everyone?

The nerve of you! :?

Drats....I knew I was missing the boat somewhere there!!

I and those with children, very much respect peoples decisions not to have kids,
we certainly don't want children raised unwanted.

But I and we, as others have shared, are enjoying a love that is outside ourselves,
a special bond and of course because it is very fulfilling we share the news about that.

Not trying to change anyone's mind just speaking of our experience.
Those with special kids in their lives are enjoying similar
and perhaps from this will someday decide to have a child of their own.

It is a huge decision to make... fun is wonderful, no parenting responsibility might be great
but for some that is incomparable to being a Mother or Father. Just two sides to the coin.

dimitrispearljam

Sprunkn7 wrote:

I don't have any and wish I did. My fertile years were not in my favor I'm afraid. Most of the time I'm good with it. Every so often it sneaks up on me and makes me sad. That feeling usually goes away pretty fast. I love my life

you are so lovely person....whatever happens,you know how to share love..thats important..

Black Diamond

Can we change the title to who wants my kids?

dimitrispearljam

Black Diamond wrote:

Can we change the title to who wants my kids?

i want loganator!!!!

81

Black Diamond wrote:

Can we change the title to who wants my kids?

do they come with child support and how much is it.

rick1zoo2

Black Diamond wrote:

Can we change the title to who wants my kids?

maybe we could arrange a trade

LloydXmas

rick1zoo2 wrote:

Black Diamond wrote:

Can we change the title to who wants my kids?

maybe we could arrange a trade

How about a three team trade?

rick1zoo2

LloydXmas wrote:

rick1zoo2 wrote:

Black Diamond wrote:

Can we change the title to who wants my kids?

maybe we could arrange a trade

How about a three team trade?

I'll throw in the ex and I'll take all of them from both of you guys

Black Diamond

rick1zoo2 wrote:

LloydXmas wrote:

How about a three team trade?

I'll throw in the ex and I'll take all of them from both of you guys

:think:

dimitrispearljam

rick1zoo2 wrote:

I'll throw in the ex and I'll take all of them from both of you guys

you will never have luck now to make this trade after this

hedonist

pandora wrote:

I and those with children, very much respect peoples decisions not to have kids,
we certainly don't want children raised unwanted.

But I and we, as others have shared, are enjoying a love that is outside ourselves,
a special bond and of course because it is very fulfilling we share the news about that.

Not trying to change anyone's mind just speaking of our experience.
Those with special kids in their lives are enjoying similar
and perhaps from this will someday decide to have a child of their own.

It is a huge decision to make... fun is wonderful, no parenting responsibility might be great
but for some that is incomparable to being a Mother or Father. Just two sides to the coin.

pandora, I'd bet that overall, you've been a good mother to your children.

However, love is love.

Let me say it again:

LOVE IS LOVE.

It’s all within, and outside, ourselves.

Loving honestly doesn’t require children, and it certainly doesn’t elevate parents to some mystical status above the childless.

Making the choice to not have children is, to me, quite noble...well, maybe not noble, but painfully honest. I’m proud of myself for realizing I’d not make a good parent, the kind a child deserves. And while a life without having children is one thing, to say “fun is wonderful” comes off as a bit patronizing. Fuck knows my guy and I have dealt with our own non-fun shit – health issues, death of loved ones, family problems.

It’s not an all-or-none thing, either way.

pandora

hedonist wrote:

pandora wrote:

I and those with children, very much respect peoples decisions not to have kids,
we certainly don't want children raised unwanted.

But I and we, as others have shared, are enjoying a love that is outside ourselves,
a special bond and of course because it is very fulfilling we share the news about that.

Not trying to change anyone's mind just speaking of our experience.
Those with special kids in their lives are enjoying similar
and perhaps from this will someday decide to have a child of their own.

It is a huge decision to make... fun is wonderful, no parenting responsibility might be great
but for some that is incomparable to being a Mother or Father. Just two sides to the coin.

pandora, I'd bet that overall, you've been a good mother to your children.

However, love is love.

Let me say it again:

LOVE IS LOVE.

It’s all within, and outside, ourselves.

Loving honestly doesn’t require children, and it certainly doesn’t elevate parents to some mystical status above the childless.

Making the choice to not have children is, to me, quite noble...well, maybe not noble, but painfully honest. I’m proud of myself for realizing I’d not make a good parent, the kind a child deserves. And while a life without having children is one thing, to say “fun is wonderful” comes off as a bit patronizing. Fuck knows my guy and I have dealt with our own non-fun shit – health issues, death of loved ones, family problems.

It’s not an all-or-none thing, either way.

Yes two sides of a coin.
A couple posts back I did mention some of the why's behind the choices
and yes people have very good reasons to not choose to be a parent,
never questioning that. I would not question their choice based on not wanting
the responsibility. I haven't questioned at all only shared my experiences
and those I know of. People know what is right for them at least what they believe
at the time.

I think you have misunderstood I never said loving requires a child.

I disagree though about love is love. Love between parent and child is really like no other.
It is not anything like spousal love, friendship love, sibling love. This what parents find out
and what many have shared in the thread here. This love is like no other,
this challenge like no other, this reward is like no other.

But I agree all love is grand!

.

dimitrispearljam

im pretty sure that love for your children,is away different love than any other kind...

seriously,this must be unbeatable feeling...

Black Diamond

dimitrispearljam wrote:

im pretty sure that love for your children,is away different love than any other kind...

seriously,this must be unbeatable feeling...

I think may be for women more? But I love my wife as much or maybe more than my kids... Might be in Minority on this.

dimitrispearljam

Black Diamond wrote:

dimitrispearljam wrote:

im pretty sure that love for your children,is away different love than any other kind...

seriously,this must be unbeatable feeling...

I think may be for women more? But I love my wife as much or maybe more than my kids... Might be in Minority on this.

you are...but if i had a woman like yours,ill love her more too..

DS1119

I don't like cats.

comebackgirl

DS1119 wrote:

I don't like cats.

I think you protest too much

BinauralJam

I think about adopting sometimes, but i dont want one of those things ripping out of my wife's body.

pandora

DS1119 wrote:

I don't like cats.

oh funny

peacefrompaul

Absolutely not