Who wants kids?

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  • Indifference71
    Indifference71 Chicago Posts: 14,915
    Not just yet. I've only been married for a month. We'll probably start trying in a couple years.
  • Mamasan23
    Mamasan23 Posts: 16,390
    pandora wrote:
    BinFrog wrote:
    If you don't want kids, don't have them.

    If you want kids, and have the mental capacity to raise them effectively, then have them.

    Simple.
    If I had gave it that much thought I wouldn't have two lovely 20 somethings,

    nobody is perfect... no parent, no child, no love.

    But oh what a love! :D

    I often wonder what people are afraid of? Can't be love, right?
    Maybe lack of love, failing?
    I'm not afraid of anything...I just like my life the way it is. Kids just aren't for everybody is all.
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  • pandora
    pandora Posts: 21,855
    Mamasan23 wrote:
    pandora wrote:
    BinFrog wrote:
    If you don't want kids, don't have them.

    If you want kids, and have the mental capacity to raise them effectively, then have them.

    Simple.
    If I had gave it that much thought I wouldn't have two lovely 20 somethings,

    nobody is perfect... no parent, no child, no love.

    But oh what a love! :D

    I often wonder what people are afraid of? Can't be love, right?
    Maybe lack of love, failing?
    I'm not afraid of anything...I just like my life the way it is. Kids just aren't for everybody is all.
    I liked my life too before I had them now I can't imagine life without them.
    I guess like love.
    I guess like puppies ;) or kitties ;) kidding... sort of.

    But you are very right some people do not want kids. I do think some, not you of course,
    choose not to based on poor relationships, disappointing relationships and fear
    to some degree plays a part. Some don't find the right partner, some one partner
    does not want to be a parent, time gets away.

    In my age group, approaching 60, some of the double income no kids
    they wish they had chosen different. Mortality can do that to a person.
    They wonder an awful lot what would have been.

    I see they would have been great parents and I miss knowing their offspring.
    Life is a gift we give each other.
  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    Mamasan23 wrote:
    I'm not afraid of anything...I just like my life the way it is. Kids just aren't for everybody is all.

    neither am I...I just feel that kids are like bad music, "only tolerable in very small doses".
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  • DS1119
    DS1119 Posts: 33,497
    Weird thing is kids like me. I walk into a room and I can't shake them. They're like lint I can't get off a sweater.
  • 81
    81 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    kids are good for yard work and snow shoveling and wiping my ass when i'm 85
    81 is now off the air

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  • JOEJOEJOE
    JOEJOEJOE Posts: 10,829
    Mamasan23 wrote:
    pandora wrote:
    BinFrog wrote:
    If you don't want kids, don't have them.

    If you want kids, and have the mental capacity to raise them effectively, then have them.

    Simple.
    If I had gave it that much thought I wouldn't have two lovely 20 somethings,

    nobody is perfect... no parent, no child, no love.

    But oh what a love! :D

    I often wonder what people are afraid of? Can't be love, right?
    Maybe lack of love, failing?
    I'm not afraid of anything...I just like my life the way it is. Kids just aren't for everybody is all.


    Why question someone who obviously knows whats best for everyone?

    The nerve of you! :?
  • Mamasan23
    Mamasan23 Posts: 16,390
    JOEJOEJOE wrote:

    Why question someone who obviously knows whats best for everyone?

    The nerve of you! :?

    Drats....I knew I was missing the boat somewhere there!! :lol:
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  • comebackgirl
    comebackgirl Posts: 9,885
    DS1119 wrote:
    Weird thing is kids like me. I walk into a room and I can't shake them. They're like lint I can't get off a sweater.
    kids and cats always gravitate to the people that don't like them...best way to get them to avoid you is to act like you like them :lol:
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  • DS1119
    DS1119 Posts: 33,497
    comebackgirl wrote:
    DS1119 wrote:
    Weird thing is kids like me. I walk into a room and I can't shake them. They're like lint I can't get off a sweater.
    kids and cats always gravitate to the people that don't like them...best way to get them to avoid you is to act like you like them :lol:


    I knew you would say cats too and they do. My buddy's ex wife had two cats...Kurt and Kelly...and whenever I was over I couldn't shake those little fuckers. I'd wake up in the middle of the night and they would be sleeping on my pillow and shit like that. :fp:
  • comebackgirl
    comebackgirl Posts: 9,885
    Mamasan23 wrote:
    JOEJOEJOE wrote:

    Why question someone who obviously knows whats best for everyone?

    The nerve of you! :?

    Drats....I knew I was missing the boat somewhere there!! :lol:
    :lol:

    I have several older co-workers who have never had children and are very happy with their decision and don't seem to regret it a bit. I don't know why it's so hard for some people to respect that decision :? I always said I would rather not have kids and regret that decision than have them and regret having them.
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  • comebackgirl
    comebackgirl Posts: 9,885
    DS1119 wrote:
    comebackgirl wrote:
    DS1119 wrote:
    Weird thing is kids like me. I walk into a room and I can't shake them. They're like lint I can't get off a sweater.
    kids and cats always gravitate to the people that don't like them...best way to get them to avoid you is to act like you like them :lol:


    I knew you would say cats too and they do. My buddy's ex wife had two cats...Kurt and Kelly...and whenever I was over I couldn't shake those little fuckers. I'd wake up in the middle of the night and they would be sleeping on my pillow and shit like that. :fp:
    you spooned them, didn't you, you sick sob? I knew it :fp: :lol:
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  • DS1119
    DS1119 Posts: 33,497
    comebackgirl wrote:
    you spooned them, didn't you, you sick sob? I knew it :fp: :lol:


    :nono:
  • dimitrispearljam
    dimitrispearljam Posts: 139,725
    i respect all opinions,and we all should do that..if someone wants or doesnt want kids is their business..noone cant judge that..
    actually,i found more clear the answer,the ones said,i dont want kids..
    seriosly,i prefer someone not have kids,than someone have kids and do bad parenting..cos u cant take that back..
    but as a general,even i dont have kids,i feel kids is blessing to somoene..
    i hope all having kids,realise,that the main role of them is to be parents and try hard..
    is a non stop thing..
    the rest of us,that maybe we never find out..we just guessing and assuming things

    but ill add something to that..after my sis bring my nephew to the world,i felt in love with that buddy..same with the kids of my favo girl..
    its really so amazing those little ones..
    cant imagine how will be to have mine..
    and for sure..feels i can bever stop worry for them like crazy..

    so..who know..i dont have an answer if i want or not..

    but i know ill love them more than everything
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  • mikalina
    mikalina Posts: 7,206
    I like what you said Dimi -

    " i prefer someone not have kids,than someone have kids and do bad parenting..cos u cant take that back"..


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  • BinFrog
    BinFrog MA Posts: 7,314
    dimitrispearljam wrote:
    but ill add something to that..after my sis bring my nephew to the world,i felt in love with that buddy..

    I was an uncle 2x before I had my own child. I was enamoured with my niece and nephew (still am), and it was a great learning experience. I babysat overnight, fed them, changed diapers....you name it. Best experience possible before having your own.
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  • dimitrispearljam
    dimitrispearljam Posts: 139,725
    BinFrog wrote:
    dimitrispearljam wrote:
    but ill add something to that..after my sis bring my nephew to the world,i felt in love with that buddy..

    I was an uncle 2x before I had my own child. I was enamoured with my niece and nephew (still am), and it was a great learning experience. I babysat overnight, fed them, changed diapers....you name it. Best experience possible before having your own.
    im doing the same with my 2 nephews :)
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    "..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
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  • mfc2006
    mfc2006 HTOWN Posts: 37,491
    we can't wait! :D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D
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  • Sprunkn7
    Sprunkn7 Posts: 5,286
    I don't have any and wish I did. My fertile years were not in my favor I'm afraid. Most of the time I'm good with it. Every so often it sneaks up on me and makes me sad. That feeling usually goes away pretty fast. I love my life :)
    Thank you fellow 10 clubber for saving my ass....again!!!
  • pandora
    pandora Posts: 21,855
    Sprunkn7 wrote:
    I don't have any and wish I did. My fertile years were not in my favor I'm afraid. Most of the time I'm good with it. Every so often it sneaks up on me and makes me sad. That feeling usually goes away pretty fast. I love my life :)
    I think you just love period! :clap:

    You are an amazing person, generous, and you change peoples lives! :D

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