why do men have to be so feckin obvious?

Heineken Helen

catefrances wrote:

take it as a challenge helen. they stare at you, you stare back at them. whoever blinks first loses. tis like chicken without the cars and possible needless death.

lol, yeh sometimes I do that... other times I think 'just stop fucking looking at me' :rolleyes:

ah well!

MattCameronKicksButt

dunkman wrote:

gross is french for big... so guilty as charged on both counts

You're a smart ass too!

MattCameronKicksButt

catefrances wrote:

take it as a challenge helen. they stare at you, you stare back at them. whoever blinks first loses. tis like chicken without the cars and possible needless death.

I know this is advice for Helen but I might try it as well. Pretty funny - make people think you're a real bitch!

dunkman

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

You're a smart ass too!

see... you've been checking out my ass

but i caught you


*puts on spanking glove*

Heineken Helen

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

I know this is advice for Helen but I might try it as well. Pretty funny - make people think you're a real bitch!

Yeh, but sometimes you just can't be arsed... like I said if it's only one or two, I do that all the time... but you can't take on 6, 7 or 8 at a time and make them all feel bad for staring. Two of them did look away after I glared but the others kept looking and even when I walked past them and got to the door I could see the reflection of them STILL looking at me and that's just not nice. Anyway I'm going to lunch before they all get to the canteen before me :mad:

catefrances

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

I know this is advice for Helen but I might try it as well. Pretty funny - make people think you're a real bitch!

tis not about making people think youre a bitch. tis more about standing your ground and not being intimidated. just like staring down a wild animal. which is basically what youre doing anyway.

dunkman

Heineken Helen wrote:

Yeh, but sometimes you just can't be arsed... like I said if it's only one or two, I do that all the time... but you can't take on 6, 7 or 8 at a time and make them all feel bad for staring. Two of them did look away after I glared but the others kept looking and even when I walked past them and got to the door I could see the reflection of them STILL looking at me and that's just not nice. Anyway I'm going to lunch before they all get to the canteen before me :mad:

did you have bog roll trailing from your arse maybe?

catefrances

dunkman wrote:

see... you've been checking out my ass

but i caught you


*puts on spanking glove*

ah man, you use a glove? that muffles the sound. you just dont get the right amount of thwack! :(

MattCameronKicksButt

Heineken Helen wrote:

Yeh, but sometimes you just can't be arsed... like I said if it's only one or two, I do that all the time... but you can't take on 6, 7 or 8 at a time and make them all feel bad for staring. Two of them did look away after I glared but the others kept looking and even when I walked past them and got to the door I could see the reflection of them STILL looking at me and that's just not nice. Anyway I'm going to lunch before they all get to the canteen before me :mad:

Awww.

Mind you, it would be literally impossible to stare at more than one person. So it's just not fair.

P.S. dunk. You're very quick, you smart ass, you.

iluvcats

Heineken Helen wrote:

it's clear now... I'd people standing around my desk so couldn't delete.

I got into facebook. that first link you gave me did not work, second one did.
I sent you a message

iluvcats

helen, is your hair red? the starers might be wondering if you have a firey temper.

Heineken Helen

iluvcats wrote:

helen, is your hair red? the starers might be wondering if you have a firey temper.

No, not really there's kinda a hint of red but not when I'm out in the sun really. But if they thought i'd a firey temper they definitely wouldn't stare ok lunch.

FinsburyParkCarrots

It's better to be looked over, than overlooked.

dunkman

catefrances wrote:

ah man, you use a glove? that muffles the sound. you just dont get the right amount of thwack! :(

leather glove ma dear... that and a phenomenally proportioned bicep give the desired thwack!

actually you're right... bare palm spank makes the best noise... so unlike that mental killing freak in se7en.. i like to leave fingerprints

dunkman

FinsburyParkCarrots wrote:

It's better to be looked over, than overlooked.

Danny De Vito says that all the time

catefrances

dunkman wrote:

leather glove ma dear... that and a phenomenally proportioned bicep give the desired thwack!

actually you're right... bare palm spank makes the best noise... inlike that mental killing freak in se7en.. i like to leave fingerprints

well tis not like anyone's gonna be able to see them there anyway.

Gossard_Is_God

Heineken Helen wrote:

I went to one of the other offices there a few minutes ago and there were a group of guys standing outside and they all turned and looked at me walking the whole way, all looking me up and down and I felt really paranoid. I glared at them til they all looked away. I mean, I'm not even wearing a really low cut top today... but just felt so dirty.

So if you're a man... don't stare, it's fuckin RUDE! :mad:

lol im guilty as hell for that,fuck it. If I want a ganders il have one :P

catefrances

Gossard_Is_God wrote:

lol im guilty as hell for that,fuck it. If I want a ganders il have one :P

oh the irony.

dunkman

helen wrote:

why do men have to be so feckin obvious?

i knew you were going to start this thread

soulsinging

Heineken Helen wrote:

I went to one of the other offices there a few minutes ago and there were a group of guys standing outside and they all turned and looked at me walking the whole way, all looking me up and down and I felt really paranoid. I glared at them til they all looked away. I mean, I'm not even wearing a really low cut top today... but just felt so dirty.

So if you're a man... don't stare, it's fuckin RUDE! :mad:

how come when we're admiring your attractiveness we're too obvious and then when you want to date us and we don't want you, it's all whining about how we like to play games?

soulsinging

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

I don't know why guys do it. What are they thinking? Are they TRYING to make you feel uncomfortable???

P.S. Guys don't stare at me anymore, in case I sound big headed.

no, we're just trying to remember the details for our jerkoff session later.

Buru

dunkman wrote:

so you never stare at a man's bum? chest? crotchal regions?

I guess the difference is we are less obvious when we stare.

soulsinging

Heineken Helen wrote:

lol possibly... nah, I've never seen them before but maybe word gets around

well I've told myself it's cos I look good today (whether it is or not) so I've given myself a spring in my step... fuck em

oh how quick they change... it's cos men are perverts when the girl's feeling bad. then suddenly they're all giggly and flattered at the attention :rolleyes:

GreenTeaDisease

dunkman wrote:

if you were wearing a low cut top then its ok to stare... i mean why else do women wear such clothing... to get ogled.

this goes back to my Summer Cleavage thread... women wear tops and short skirts to show off parts of their body... so i look... quite simple really

that's not really how it works. Sure some women show off certain parts to get noticed, but most don't. A woman usually picks out clothes based on if she likes the style and color and if it flatters her figure (doesn't make her look "fat") and if it's comfortable and if it's affordable. Sometimes you pick out a top because it's cute and it happens to be a little more low-cut. I don't know anyone who picks out a top specifically because it's low-cut (though I'm sure they're out there).

soulsinging

Heineken Helen wrote:

like I said if it's only one or two, I do that all the time... but you can't take on 6, 7 or 8 at a time

just couldn't resist taking this out of context. and i beg to differ, i've definitely seen girls take on 6, 7, or 8 at a time.

Heineken Helen

dunkman wrote:

did you have bog roll trailing from your arse maybe?

Hahaha NO, I always TRIPLE check

Heineken Helen

FinsburyParkCarrots wrote:

It's better to be looked over, than overlooked.

great point! Well right now I feel good about it and have convinced myself I must look good today but at the time you just feel like some kinda sex object.

when I went for lunch, I went over with another girl who's quite thin and really pretty and they were even worse :eek: . Some even looking in the window it's fucking ridiculous. It's not the Irish guys though in fairness, this seems to be mainly a foreign thing, the Irish guys look away or smile and say something when you stare. At least if they say something I have SEVERAL comebacks ready in my head.... but when they don't say anything it's just sleazy.

Heineken Helen

soulsinging wrote:

how come when we're admiring your attractiveness we're too obvious and then when you want to date us and we don't want you, it's all whining about how we like to play games?

:rolleyes: You're confusing me for someone who gives a fuck about your personal issues

I'M not one of those people, whatever you think about women in general so stop asking me stupid rhetorical questions like that :cool:

Heineken Helen

soulsinging wrote:

just couldn't resist taking this out of context. and i beg to differ, i've definitely seen girls take on 6, 7, or 8 at a time.

You HAVE? That's doubtful

Brain of J.Lo

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

that's not really how it works. Sure some women show off certain parts to get noticed, but most don't. A woman usually picks out clothes based on if she likes the style and color and if it flatters her figure (doesn't make her look "fat") and if it's comfortable and if it's affordable. Sometimes you pick out a top because it's cute and it happens to be a little more low-cut. I don't know anyone who picks out a top specifically because it's low-cut (though I'm sure they're out there).

There's definitely some truth to this. Much to my husband's delight, I actually happen to look best in a deep V-neck. So, cleavage does show...but, that's not the main reason I wear that style. It's just more flattering on me than other necklines.

Then again, I don't really care if people check me out. I've always felt that way. It doesn't really bother me if someone wants to look...as long as they aren't too aggressive or make rude comments. The only time in my life where it really made me uncomfortable was when I was working in the men's section of a department store. I would get customers that would make me uncomfortable, and this old guy that worked in the area across from me was always on the borderline of harrassing me.