Are you trying to get to know them with a light sabre ? etc.?? I’m not sure what this is showing?
Just showing that every girl is frightened of me. Makes me feel like I am a movie villain.
Is it possible you feel this because you may be over analyzing yourself and your feelings internally and vocalizing everything you’re analyzing about yourself and are you analyzing everything the girls are saying and doing?
It's because women avoid me. If they see me on campus at university they try sneak past or pretend they didn't see me. One time in a lecture, the fold down desk on my chair was broken so I had to move to the seat next to me so I could write notes during the lecture. The girl next to me then moved one chair over, there was one chair empty between us but she still moved. Like wtf? Am I that creepy? Do I ooze scary Kylo Ren intimidation?
I don't mean to call you a liar or delusional, but I really doubt this description is accurate. Your perception is being skewed by preconceived bias.
I'm in a very happy and healthy marriage, but I'm pretty needy both physically and emotionally. Sometimes when I get rejected (rejection is a normal part of a relationship btw) I get to feeling downright dejected and then I start perceiving all sorts of rejections that are entirely unintended and often complete fabricated. Even from the literal other side of the planet I'm certain that's what is happening with you. It's absolutely normal for strangers and loose acquaintances to avoid eye contact and conversation in public. It's not because you frighten or disgust anyone, it's because they got shit to do and can't stop to talk to everyone they know. My wife would have scooted down away from you too, most people aren't all that extroverted.
I agree with the rejection even in a marriage or relationship . It's part if everyone's life
brixton 93
astoria 06
albany 06
hartford 06
reading 06
barcelona 06
paris 06
wembley 07
dusseldorf 07
nijmegen 07
this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
So advice on this situation... I really like this girl. Problem is over the last year we have become like best friends, I'm proper in the friend zone. We also work in the same office and I've heard her say she'd never data a co-worker.
I've always thought of her as a friend but in the last couple weeks I've realised I like her more than just a friend, especially when I've seen her flirt with other guys. I don't want to say anything as I'm convinced she doesn't feel the same and it will ruin our friendship.
Anyone been in a similar situation where they've fallen for a friend? Am I best in trying to wait it out and get over this?
I've only been in one relationship with a coworker but we weren't good friends going into it. Lasted a few months and then fizzled out. In the last couple of years at my office we have had about five or so work relationships turn into marriages or trending that way, so it definitely is doable. People work so much these days so pretty natural to have relationships at work.
Are you in the same group at work (i.e., working together on projects) or have different roles where you don't really have to interact on a daily basis? I assume you aren't her boss or vice versa (gotta tread carefully if so).
I'll let others with more work relationship experience respond with advice but hopefully asking something to the effect of "would you like to go out on a date?" versus "I've been madly in love with you for the last six months" won't ruin the friendship if she says no.
So advice on this situation... I really like this girl. Problem is over the last year we have become like best friends, I'm proper in the friend zone. We also work in the same office and I've heard her say she'd never data a co-worker.
I've always thought of her as a friend but in the last couple weeks I've realised I like her more than just a friend, especially when I've seen her flirt with other guys. I don't want to say anything as I'm convinced she doesn't feel the same and it will ruin our friendship.
Anyone been in a similar situation where they've fallen for a friend? Am I best in trying to wait it out and get over this?
I worked with a woman for four years, we became really good friends. Long story short, we were both going through a divorce and I asked her out to dinner. We ve now been married for over six years and things are awesome. My advice: you only got one shot at this. The worst she can say is no. Five years from me noe don’t want to second yourself on whether or not you should have asked that woman out.
I still think spiritual dropped the ball but he still has a chance if he plays his cards right.
No. She likes him as a friend. He needs to figure out if he can be friends with her and let go of his romantic feelings or not. She is not going to come around. It is difficult to have a guy (or girl, I suppose) friend who wants to 'be with you' when you only want to hang out with them. He needs to find Beth.
And we need an update about the bimonthly beer pretty soon. Work deadlines were a good excuse for postponing, but getting appendicitis was really going for a delay. I gotta give you dedication in putting this off SC. And I hope you're feeling better.
So advice on this situation... I really like this girl. Problem is over the last year we have become like best friends, I'm proper in the friend zone. We also work in the same office and I've heard her say she'd never data a co-worker.
I've always thought of her as a friend but in the last couple weeks I've realised I like her more than just a friend, especially when I've seen her flirt with other guys. I don't want to say anything as I'm convinced she doesn't feel the same and it will ruin our friendship.
Anyone been in a similar situation where they've fallen for a friend? Am I best in trying to wait it out and get over this?
Really early on in this thread we were talking about male and female friends. More and more examples of how friends become more in one person's eyes . I say Don t risk it
brixton 93
astoria 06
albany 06
hartford 06
reading 06
barcelona 06
paris 06
wembley 07
dusseldorf 07
nijmegen 07
this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
Really early on in this thread we were talking about male and female friends. More and more examples of how friends become more in one person's eyes . I say Don t risk it
So advice on this situation... I really like this girl. Problem is over the last year we have become like best friends, I'm proper in the friend zone. We also work in the same office and I've heard her say she'd never data a co-worker.
I've always thought of her as a friend but in the last couple weeks I've realised I like her more than just a friend, especially when I've seen her flirt with other guys. I don't want to say anything as I'm convinced she doesn't feel the same and it will ruin our friendship.
Anyone been in a similar situation where they've fallen for a friend? Am I best in trying to wait it out and get over this?
yes, but it's impossible to give real advice, as all people are different. you might be firmly in the friend zone, she might think she is. you might wreck the friendship, or, depending on the strength of your relationship, might go right back to being friends or you may not.
you really just have to read the room. do you have another friend in the office you could trust with this info to get their take on it? they might be like "dude, she's totally not into you at ALL", or "um, we've all seen how she flirts with you, we've all got an office pool going wondering when you'll ask her out".
I was once super good friends with a girl in my 20's. like, insanely close. we were both single for a while, so after a kind-of-awkward conversation, decided to give it a go. it was weird. lasted about a week before we both admitted to each other it seemed kind of icky. so we went back to being friends. (luckily, by that point, nothing significantly physical had occured).
I agree with those who say don't regret not doing something. honestly, the things you do that you regret are forgotten. the things you regret not doing are the things you remember forever.
Really early on in this thread we were talking about male and female friends. More and more examples of how friends become more in one person's eyes . I say Don t risk it
So advice on this situation... I really like this girl. Problem is over the last year we have become like best friends, I'm proper in the friend zone. We also work in the same office and I've heard her say she'd never data a co-worker.
I've always thought of her as a friend but in the last couple weeks I've realised I like her more than just a friend, especially when I've seen her flirt with other guys. I don't want to say anything as I'm convinced she doesn't feel the same and it will ruin our friendship.
Anyone been in a similar situation where they've fallen for a friend? Am I best in trying to wait it out and get over this?
I've been on the receiving end of this several times. It never works. I've never seen it work with other people, and it's never worked for me. In most cases, the woman would know that more is possible between her and a guy a LOT faster than that. If she isn't having the same feelings by now, she is very unlikely to ever have those feelings. Your only options are to 1) forget about it and either let the feelings go away or stop being her friend entirely so that you're not torturing yourself, or 2) express how you feel just to make sure she's not got the same feelings for you (obviously this option is riskier in terms of holding onto any possibility of a platonic friendship as you move forward, although that is definitely not impossible - I've seen that work).
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
What advice would you give Force Of Nature, Spiritual_Chaos?
If I worked with the person I would chill out.
If I didn't I would ask her out with a cool-as-a-cuccumber textmessage.
And if she would say "No thanks", I would stack up as many deadlines and surgeries and trips home I could so I wouldn't have to meet her again untill some things that should not have been forgotten were lost. History became legend. Legend became myth. And for two and a half thousand years, the ring passed out of all knowledge.
"Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"
What advice would you give Force Of Nature, Spiritual_Chaos?
If I worked with the person I would chill out.
If I didn't I would ask her out with a cool-as-a-cuccumber textmessage.
And if she would say "No thanks", I would stack up as many deadlines and surgeries and trips home I could so I wouldn't have to meet her again untill some things that should not have been forgotten were lost. History became legend. Legend became myth. And for two and a half thousand years, the ring passed out of all knowledge.
So advice on this situation... I really like this girl. Problem is over the last year we have become like best friends, I'm proper in the friend zone. We also work in the same office and I've heard her say she'd never data a co-worker.
I've always thought of her as a friend but in the last couple weeks I've realised I like her more than just a friend, especially when I've seen her flirt with other guys. I don't want to say anything as I'm convinced she doesn't feel the same and it will ruin our friendship.
Anyone been in a similar situation where they've fallen for a friend? Am I best in trying to wait it out and get over this?
I've been on the receiving end of this several times. It never works. I've never seen it work with other people, and it's never worked for me. In most cases, the woman would know that more is possible between her and a guy a LOT faster than that. If she isn't having the same feelings by now, she is very unlikely to ever have those feelings. Your only options are to 1) forget about it and either let the feelings go away or stop being her friend entirely so that you're not torturing yourself, or 2) express how you feel just to make sure she's not got the same feelings for you (obviously this option is riskier in terms of holding onto any possibility of a platonic friendship as you move forward, although that is definitely not impossible - I've seen that work).
Comments
astoria 06
albany 06
hartford 06
reading 06
barcelona 06
paris 06
wembley 07
dusseldorf 07
nijmegen 07
this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
astoria 06
albany 06
hartford 06
reading 06
barcelona 06
paris 06
wembley 07
dusseldorf 07
nijmegen 07
this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
I really like this girl. Problem is over the last year we have become like best friends, I'm proper in the friend zone.
We also work in the same office and I've heard her say she'd never data a co-worker.
I've always thought of her as a friend but in the last couple weeks I've realised I like her more than just a friend, especially when I've seen her flirt with other guys.
I don't want to say anything as I'm convinced she doesn't feel the same and it will ruin our friendship.
Anyone been in a similar situation where they've fallen for a friend?
Am I best in trying to wait it out and get over this?
I've only been in one relationship with a coworker but we weren't good friends going into it. Lasted a few months and then fizzled out. In the last couple of years at my office we have had about five or so work relationships turn into marriages or trending that way, so it definitely is doable. People work so much these days so pretty natural to have relationships at work.
Are you in the same group at work (i.e., working together on projects) or have different roles where you don't really have to interact on a daily basis? I assume you aren't her boss or vice versa (gotta tread carefully if so).
I'll let others with more work relationship experience respond with advice but hopefully asking something to the effect of "would you like to go out on a date?" versus "I've been madly in love with you for the last six months" won't ruin the friendship if she says no.
It's better to regret something you did than something you didn't do.
Butthole Surfers?
And we need an update about the bimonthly beer pretty soon. Work deadlines were a good excuse for postponing, but getting appendicitis was really going for a delay. I gotta give you dedication in putting this off SC. And I hope you're feeling better.
astoria 06
albany 06
hartford 06
reading 06
barcelona 06
paris 06
wembley 07
dusseldorf 07
nijmegen 07
this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
But I doubt she cares enough to search the thread out.
As in, she doesn't care enough about me. Boo-hoo.
YOU
COULD
BE
MIIIIIIII-IIIINEEEE
you really just have to read the room. do you have another friend in the office you could trust with this info to get their take on it? they might be like "dude, she's totally not into you at ALL", or "um, we've all seen how she flirts with you, we've all got an office pool going wondering when you'll ask her out".
I was once super good friends with a girl in my 20's. like, insanely close. we were both single for a while, so after a kind-of-awkward conversation, decided to give it a go. it was weird. lasted about a week before we both admitted to each other it seemed kind of icky. so we went back to being friends. (luckily, by that point, nothing significantly physical had occured).
I agree with those who say don't regret not doing something. honestly, the things you do that you regret are forgotten. the things you regret not doing are the things you remember forever.
www.headstonesband.com
www.headstonesband.com
What changed your mind?
If I didn't I would ask her out with a cool-as-a-cuccumber textmessage.
And if she would say "No thanks", I would stack up as many deadlines and surgeries and trips home I could so I wouldn't have to meet her again untill some things that should not have been forgotten were lost. History became legend. Legend became myth. And for two and a half thousand years, the ring passed out of all knowledge.
www.headstonesband.com