Should I ask Agnes out on a date?

OffSheGoes35

No

I want to know why @Black35 voted no in this poll, he never did say. 

Are you the board's Nostradamus? Do you put leaves in your coffee and divine the future?

dudeman

Should have asked in person. That way, you could pump your crotch during the whole conversation. Even if she said "no", you could both have a good laugh about it later.

Better luck next time, bro.

OffSheGoes35

No

dudeman said:

Should have asked in person. That way, you could pump your crotch during the whole conversation. Even if she said "no", you could both have a good laugh about it later.

Better luck next time, bro.

That's an unconventional method. You're married aren't you, dudeman? I'm interested in your marriage proposal methods. 

mcgruff10

Yes

OffSheGoes35 said:

dudeman said:

Should have asked in person. That way, you could pump your crotch during the whole conversation. Even if she said "no", you could both have a good laugh about it later.

Better luck next time, bro.

That's an unconventional method. You're married aren't you, dudeman? I'm interested in your marriage proposal methods. 

I proposed in Disney world on my hotel balcony. The most nerve racking moment was going through airport security with the ring in my bag. 

njnancy

Yes

OffSheGoes35 said:

njnancy said:

oftenreading said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

rgambs said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

PJ_Soul said:

rgambs said:

PJ_Soul said:

Why do you think that people without kids and lots of free time waste their time?? I do indeed have tons of free time, which I relish, and I'm not wasting my life, thanks.

I wasn't talking about you, I was talking about people in real life.
Watching dancing with the stars and shopping for junk at outlet malls and flea markets is a waste of a life, whether a person is content with it or not, IMO.

In real life, I have tons of free time and am not wasting it, lol.

I figure that whatever makes a person content and satisfied in life is never a waste of time or a life. Who are we to judge how someone finds contentment in their own life?? Now if someone is lying there on the couch watching garbage TV all the time and they're miserable and depressed and fucking hate themselves for it, then that's a waste, yes (and they should really talk to a professional about it). But if they're content and happy doing that? Or get real joy out of going to flea markets everyday? Not at all. IMO.

I would agree. saying someone who is content and happy is wasting their life because it doesn't fit your definition of a full life is assinine.  

It's not asinine, you just don't like it.  Wouldn't you be perfectly willing to consider a life wasted if it was spent languishing in a heroin stupor?  It makes them content and happy, but you'd still consider it a waste.  
I draw the line a few miles from there, but it's not as extreme as it sounds, I know people way more extreme than that.
People who live in a way that is essentially, if you aren't on the edge you are taking up too much space.

I stand by it. alright, assinine may have been a bit strong, but I still find it ridiculous that a content life is a wasted life. that makes zero sense. 

the entire point of life is to be happy, not someone else's version of happy. 

Interesting. I don't share the view that the point of life is to be happy. I cringe a bit when I hear parents tell their kids that they should do whatever makes them happy. I think life has to be about more than happiness; I think it has to have at least some purpose that involves giving of yourself to others, otherwise it's empty. The "others" absolutely don't have to be children, but it needs to be something other than an entire focus on yourself and your own wants. 

 

I think that we all do the best that we can at any particular point in our life and no one knows what life is going to hand them. You can only except your situation and find the best way to make it work. Life, marriage, being a single parent, careers, ,  raising children - they are all difficult.  Anything worthwhile is difficult Most of life is spent finding the happy medium between the high and lows of emotions and life events.  And through dark and difficult times we find the joyous and happy moments to be ever so much more precious. Happiness is fleeting, it is not a state that someone lives in for long periods. And there are moments of my life that would fit under your definition of a life well lived and there are periods of my life that would fit under the life wasted definition. I do know that the first time I ever held my son I felt the deepest, unconditional love and I can still feel that at this moment. There have been horrendous events that have occurred because his father is a truly evil person. I would never change my decision to have him. I was absolutely ready to have a child and being a mom is the greatest and most difficult joy of my life. Better than the career I had to leave due to illness that allowed me to travel and thrive and do so many great things. Every life is different. Different periods of anyone's life can be polar opposites. My life is in a not good place right now, but I don't think that I am not worthy of a life because I have had a shit hand dealt to me. I had awesome deals too. It is life. No one knows what is really going on with someone else. Extending a hand to someone in need is just as important as say base jumping. Being in Hawaii was absolutely one of the most excellent things I have done in my life. I was privileged to be able to do so. So having an adult son and an aging mother living with me while I am dealing with illness and financial difficulty is what I need to deal with at this point in my life. The excellent things that we are able to do sustain us through the extremely difficult things that we live through. Some lives are more blessed. Some lives have more bumps in the road. Some people are resilient and some people are not. But life is a journey that is personal and I don't think that someone else should judge another's life. You have every right to your opinion, of course. I just have seen to much to think that any life should be considered a waste.  

Well said, njnancy! There were a few things you mentioned, that I too have felt, but couldn't find the right words to express...

For instance, living through horrendous events...one only thinks they know how they would handle such things. Life has a way of showing us exactly how weak we are, and if we manage to live through it, you don't forget that feeling of being brought to your knees, it makes you less judgmental and harsh about your own and others frailties.

Thank you. You put it quite well yourself!!

A fine AA saying is that for all our complaining, if we were to all throw our 'problems' onto a table, we would end up taking our own back. We know them. 

njnancy

Yes

mcgruff10 said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

dudeman said:

Should have asked in person. That way, you could pump your crotch during the whole conversation. Even if she said "no", you could both have a good laugh about it later.

Better luck next time, bro.

That's an unconventional method. You're married aren't you, dudeman? I'm interested in your marriage proposal methods. 

I proposed in Disney world on my hotel balcony. The most nerve racking moment was going through airport security with the ring in my bag. 

Awwww...

dudeman

OffSheGoes35 said:

dudeman said:

Should have asked in person. That way, you could pump your crotch during the whole conversation. Even if she said "no", you could both have a good laugh about it later.

Better luck next time, bro.

That's an unconventional method. You're married aren't you, dudeman? I'm interested in your marriage proposal methods. 

Married, yes. Unconventional? Maybe. 

I guess I'm less Don Juan and more Frank Zappa.

Works for me.

mace1229

Yes

All this kid talk....
I have 2 kids.
Will trade for ‘98 LA n2 or a Cracker Jack. Must take both, not going to separate.

23scidoo

mace1229 said:

All this kid talk....
I have 2 kids.
Will trade for ‘98 LA n2 or a Cracker Jack. Must take both, not going to separate.

LOL..nice trade

mcgruff10

Yes

mace1229 said:

All this kid talk....
I have 2 kids.
Will trade for ‘98 LA n2 or a Cracker Jack. Must take both, not going to separate.

I ll trade all five of mine for a Pitt 2013.  Meaning I ll give you a Pitt 2013 if you take my kids for a few nights. 

Meltdown99

Yes

oftenreading said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

rgambs said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

PJ_Soul said:

rgambs said:

PJ_Soul said:

Why do you think that people without kids and lots of free time waste their time?? I do indeed have tons of free time, which I relish, and I'm not wasting my life, thanks.

I wasn't talking about you, I was talking about people in real life.
Watching dancing with the stars and shopping for junk at outlet malls and flea markets is a waste of a life, whether a person is content with it or not, IMO.

In real life, I have tons of free time and am not wasting it, lol.

I figure that whatever makes a person content and satisfied in life is never a waste of time or a life. Who are we to judge how someone finds contentment in their own life?? Now if someone is lying there on the couch watching garbage TV all the time and they're miserable and depressed and fucking hate themselves for it, then that's a waste, yes (and they should really talk to a professional about it). But if they're content and happy doing that? Or get real joy out of going to flea markets everyday? Not at all. IMO.

I would agree. saying someone who is content and happy is wasting their life because it doesn't fit your definition of a full life is assinine.  

It's not asinine, you just don't like it.  Wouldn't you be perfectly willing to consider a life wasted if it was spent languishing in a heroin stupor?  It makes them content and happy, but you'd still consider it a waste.  
I draw the line a few miles from there, but it's not as extreme as it sounds, I know people way more extreme than that.
People who live in a way that is essentially, if you aren't on the edge you are taking up too much space.

I stand by it. alright, assinine may have been a bit strong, but I still find it ridiculous that a content life is a wasted life. that makes zero sense. 

the entire point of life is to be happy, not someone else's version of happy. 

Interesting. I don't share the view that the point of life is to be happy. I cringe a bit when I hear parents tell their kids that they should do whatever makes them happy. I think life has to be about more than happiness; I think it has to have at least some purpose that involves giving of yourself to others, otherwise it's empty. The "others" absolutely don't have to be children, but it needs to be something other than an entire focus on yourself and your own wants. 

I have attended different work related workshop in which they discuss volunteering, and the common theme I alsweays come away with is that those who volunteer and give of themselves say they happier...So maybe happiness and giving of yourself go hand in hand.

Spiritual_Chaos

Why isn't this thread focusing on me anymore.

njnancy

Yes

Spiritual_Chaos said:
Why isn't this thread focusing on me anymore.

There is no thread integrity to uphold.

It's all Agnes' fault.

lastexitlondon

Yes

Let's concentrate  on s.c

bootlegger10

Yes

Spiritual_Chaos said:

Why isn't this thread focusing on me anymore.

What would you like us to discuss about you?

mcgruff10

Yes

Spiritual_Chaos said:

Why isn't this thread focusing on me anymore.

Such a nice millennial response lol. 

OffSheGoes35

No

If Agnes said she would go out with you if you ate some bacon, would you consider it?

OffSheGoes35

No

S_C, I think you sabotaged this thing, because you really want a woman named Beth.

lastexitlondon

Yes

OffSheGoes35 said:

If Agnes said she would go out with you if you ate some bacon, would you consider it?

This ^^^^ I say  it's a yes 

darwinstheory

Yes

mcgruff10 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

Why isn't this thread focusing on me anymore.

Such a nice millennial response lol. 

HAHAHAHA...my sentiments exactly.