Should I ask Agnes out on a date?

mcgruff10

Yes

lastexitlondon said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

PJ_Soul said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

PJ_Soul said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

darwinstheory said:

^^^PJ_Soul seems like a logical choice here.

geography might be a slight issue here.........

Not to mention my extreme satisfaction with the single life, lol.

I was also going to say that, but I thought that might be overstepping my boundaries. 

That is actually pretty hard to do with me! I'm tempted to dare you to try.

let me rephrase.....i thought it's possible I wasn't going to be totally accurate. 

Want to argue about it?

Allie, are you interested in having kids or not your thing?

An offer? Fast work mcgruff

I have 5 kids and zero swimmers! Lol. I knew Allie was around my age so I was just wondering. 

PJ_Soul

Yes

mcgruff10 said:

lastexitlondon said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

PJ_Soul said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

PJ_Soul said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

darwinstheory said:

^^^PJ_Soul seems like a logical choice here.

geography might be a slight issue here.........

Not to mention my extreme satisfaction with the single life, lol.

I was also going to say that, but I thought that might be overstepping my boundaries. 

That is actually pretty hard to do with me! I'm tempted to dare you to try.

let me rephrase.....i thought it's possible I wasn't going to be totally accurate. 

Want to argue about it?

Allie, are you interested in having kids or not your thing?

An offer? Fast work mcgruff

I have 5 kids and zero swimmers! Lol. I knew Allie was around my age so I was just wondering. 

I always forget that you have so many kids! Holy crap!

OffSheGoes35

No

mcgruff10 said: no

lastexitlondon said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

PJ_Soul said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

PJ_Soul said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

darwinstheory said:

^^^PJ_Soul seems like a logical choice here.

geography might be a slight issue here.........

Not to mention my extreme satisfaction with the single life, lol.

I was also going to say that, but I thought that might be overstepping my boundaries. 

That is actually pretty hard to do with me! I'm tempted to dare you to try.

let me rephrase.....i thought it's possible I wasn't going to be totally accurate. 

Want to argue about it?

Allie, are you interested in having kids or not your thing?

An offer? Fast work mcgruff

I have 5 kids and zero swimmers! 

Is that a willpower thing? Can you will your swimmers to be lemmings instead? Lol

bflynn1

I'm 30 and I just recently decided that I don't want kids either. I knew it was a deal breaker for my gf so I finally had to let her know my thoughts and of course that ended the relationship a few weeks ago. There was nothing wrong with our relationsjip so it was a hard conversation to have knowing it was likely going to end it for us. I know it was the right thing to do though. She wants to be a mom and I couldn't hold her back from that. 

mcgruff10

Yes

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

lastexitlondon said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

PJ_Soul said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

PJ_Soul said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

darwinstheory said:

^^^PJ_Soul seems like a logical choice here.

geography might be a slight issue here.........

Not to mention my extreme satisfaction with the single life, lol.

I was also going to say that, but I thought that might be overstepping my boundaries. 

That is actually pretty hard to do with me! I'm tempted to dare you to try.

let me rephrase.....i thought it's possible I wasn't going to be totally accurate. 

Want to argue about it?

Allie, are you interested in having kids or not your thing?

An offer? Fast work mcgruff

I have 5 kids and zero swimmers! Lol. I knew Allie was around my age so I was just wondering. 

I always forget that you have so many kids! Holy crap!

Yeah it is the hardest greatest thing ever if that makes any sense lol.  Why do you think I am so interested in wine?!

OffSheGoes35

No

bflynn1 said:

I'm 30 and I just recently decided that I don't want kids either. I knew it was a deal breaker for my gf so I finally had to let her know my thoughts and of course that ended the relationship a few weeks ago. There was nothing wrong with our relationsjip so it was a hard conversation to have knowing it was likely going to end it for us. I know it was the right thing to do though. She wants to be a mom and I couldn't hold her back from that. 

That's the way love should be, but hardly ever is, unselfish. I'm sorry you're hurting.

PJ_Soul

Yes

bflynn1 said:

I'm 30 and I just recently decided that I don't want kids either. I knew it was a deal breaker for my gf so I finally had to let her know my thoughts and of course that ended the relationship a few weeks ago. There was nothing wrong with our relationsjip so it was a hard conversation to have knowing it was likely going to end it for us. I know it was the right thing to do though. She wants to be a mom and I couldn't hold her back from that. 

You'rw a good person for doing that. A lot of people, men and women, aren't open about that until after marriage, and that makes it so unfair to the one who wants kids, especially because sometimes it's resulted in it being too late for a woman who wanted the kids. Sorry it turned out that way with a person you cared about. But I guess the silver lining is that you're both now free to find people who are of the same mind.

mcgruff10

Yes

PJ_Soul said:

bflynn1 said:

I'm 30 and I just recently decided that I don't want kids either. I knew it was a deal breaker for my gf so I finally had to let her know my thoughts and of course that ended the relationship a few weeks ago. There was nothing wrong with our relationsjip so it was a hard conversation to have knowing it was likely going to end it for us. I know it was the right thing to do though. She wants to be a mom and I couldn't hold her back from that. 

You'rw a good person for doing that. A lot of people, men and women, aren't open about that until after marriage, and that makes it so unfair to the one who wants kids, especially because sometimes it's resulted in it being too late for a woman who wanted the kids. Sorry it turned out that way with a person you cared about. But I guess the silver lining is that you're both now free to find people who are of the same mind.

That just happened to my cousin. He wasn’t even married for a year and a half and his wife told him she didn’t want kids. They are now going through a divorce. 

mickeyrat

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

bflynn1 said:

I'm 30 and I just recently decided that I don't want kids either. I knew it was a deal breaker for my gf so I finally had to let her know my thoughts and of course that ended the relationship a few weeks ago. There was nothing wrong with our relationsjip so it was a hard conversation to have knowing it was likely going to end it for us. I know it was the right thing to do though. She wants to be a mom and I couldn't hold her back from that. 

You'rw a good person for doing that. A lot of people, men and women, aren't open about that until after marriage, and that makes it so unfair to the one who wants kids, especially because sometimes it's resulted in it being too late for a woman who wanted the kids. Sorry it turned out that way with a person you cared about. But I guess the silver lining is that you're both now free to find people who are of the same mind.

That just happened to my cousin. He wasn’t even married for a year and a half and his wife told him she didn’t want kids. They are now going through a divorce. 

important to have those discussions when things get more serious.

njnancy

Yes

mickeyrat said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

bflynn1 said:

I'm 30 and I just recently decided that I don't want kids either. I knew it was a deal breaker for my gf so I finally had to let her know my thoughts and of course that ended the relationship a few weeks ago. There was nothing wrong with our relationsjip so it was a hard conversation to have knowing it was likely going to end it for us. I know it was the right thing to do though. She wants to be a mom and I couldn't hold her back from that. 

You'rw a good person for doing that. A lot of people, men and women, aren't open about that until after marriage, and that makes it so unfair to the one who wants kids, especially because sometimes it's resulted in it being too late for a woman who wanted the kids. Sorry it turned out that way with a person you cared about. But I guess the silver lining is that you're both now free to find people who are of the same mind.

That just happened to my cousin. He wasn’t even married for a year and a half and his wife told him she didn’t want kids. They are now going through a divorce. 

important to have those discussions when things get more serious.

My marriage was based on a lie. I was not told that my ex-husband was not able to have children until after we were married. Prior to that we discussed having kids. He had a congenital disease - neurofibromatosis - and had lost a leg to the disease so we discussed the ramifications of this on having kids but I was not told the complete truth - I was given a sugar coated version. It was disclosed at a genetic counselor's office with his mommy along for the ride. Good times. We divorced. That was the cowardly thing to do. What @bflynn1 did was the only right answer and shows character and true love.

And I agree Ali, a woman's window of child bearing is limited; unlike a man's, and not being straight with someone is just plain wrong. 

bflynn1

Thanks everyone. I appreciate it. Everything will be fine. Like @PJ_Soul I've always been independent and fine with being single for as long as I feel like. She's taking it hard because naturally she thought we were going to get married. She did say that she wanted to be mad at me but couldn't because I was honest and did the right thing. I told her that I hope she can look back and appreciate me for it someday.

lastexitlondon

Yes

I have 4 kids. Love wine.
There are some very loving people here, good people.

tempo_n_groove

Yes

Kids= Love for wine.

Got it, lol!

mcgruff10

Yes

tempo_n_groove said:

Kids= Love for wine.

Got it, lol!

Wine/craft beer is key when having 5 kids.  Shit sometimes I am so stressed I mix the two together along with some ice for good measure.  

Spiritual_Chaos

OffSheGoes35 said:

^^^LOL!!

I like the headshot of the kid from The Goonies/Temple of Doom. Nice touch.

It's Satoru Iwata...

OffSheGoes35

No

Spiritual_Chaos said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

^^^LOL!!

I like the headshot of the kid from The Goonies/Temple of Doom. Nice touch.

It's Satoru Iwata...

Too late I already put up a photo of the kid from The Goonies on my wall!

mcgruff10

Yes

lastexitlondon said:

I have 4 kids. Love wine.
There are some very loving people here, good people.

Once you get out of the amt everyone is really cool. 

HesCalledDyer

"I don't want kids, ever." is a first-date disclaimer for me...  I don't get many second dates.

HughFreakingDillon

shit, my wife and I even discussed what religion or not we would raise our kids as before we were even living together. I can't imagine lying or not broaching the subject prior to marriage. that's crazy to me. 

Spiritual_Chaos

HughFreakingDillon said:

shit, my wife and I even discussed what religion or not we would raise our kids as before we were even living together. I can't imagine lying or not broaching the subject prior to marriage. that's crazy to me. 

Yeah.. isn't the first part of being together all about being up all night talking, and and trying to figure out Donnie Darko...