I can't even move into a share house because I am ashamed of having hardly any friends. What will housemates think of me when I have nowhere to go out to socialise.
It's sad that you limit yourself. I think it's quite common people have few friends when they move there for studies. It would be a good chance for you to live in a shared home I think. Try stop being ashamed because it doesn't help you.
Thoughts Arrive, Please find somewhere to volunteer. What is your passion... animals, outdoors, homeless, church, food bank, etc. I volunteer at a park, and I'm always recruiting volunteers. We have volunteers from all walks of life, every income bracket, gender identification, etc. Some people volunteer almost every day, some people come in for a 'one and done' project. Everyone is welcomed and valued for their time and efforts. Even if you have only one hour per month to volunteer, I'm sure you can find a place to volunteer your time and/or talent. Good luck!
Thanks Bootlegger. Lately I've been looking up people I went to high school with to see what they're up to and most are married with kids. It's been getting me down. I don't know why I do it when it hurts.
You will also find that it's likely just as many people you went to school with are single, either by choice, divorce or they 2 haven't met someone that they want to settle down with.
I've pretty much looked up nearly everyone I went to school with and they are all in relationships. I'm like the only one single.
It does not mean that their life is all that happy...
Thoughts Arrive, Please find somewhere to volunteer. What is your passion... animals, outdoors, homeless, church, food bank, etc. I volunteer at a park, and I'm always recruiting volunteers. We have volunteers from all walks of life, every income bracket, gender identification, etc. Some people volunteer almost every day, some people come in for a 'one and done' project. Everyone is welcomed and valued for their time and efforts. Even if you have only one hour per month to volunteer, I'm sure you can find a place to volunteer your time and/or talent. Good luck!
I was considering this for a while actually. Just have to overcome my hesitation because the volunteer groups are religious based and make you pray before each shift.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
Make you pray? No one can make you pray. They can pray while you just hang quietly for 30 seconds or so. No one is going to give you any dirty looks because they'll all be praying. And even if they do, big fucking deal.
My son's scout leader gave me the hairy eyeball because I didn't say the pledge of allegiance like the rest of the mindless fucking zombies in the room (my son included). Who gives a fuck?!? I now wear my Condition Critical short every time I have to take my son to some bullshit scout thing. Fuck that guy. Probably a fucking pederast.
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Make you pray? No one can make you pray. They can pray while you just hang quietly for 30 seconds or so. No one is going to give you any dirty looks because they'll all be praying. And even if they do, big fucking deal.
My son's scout leader gave me the hairy eyeball because I didn't say the pledge of allegiance like the rest of the mindless fucking zombies in the room (my son included). Who gives a fuck?!? I now wear my Condition Critical short every time I have to take my son to some bullshit scout thing. Fuck that guy. Probably a fucking pederast.
Not only that, but based on what I just searched, there are a plethora of organizations in Australia that don't "make you pray". If I can find that info from across the world, you can do it from right there - assuming you honestly want to pursue it. If so, do your research, toss the cop-outs aside, and take a small step, otherwise this will continue on as it's been for as long as....
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Make you pray? No one can make you pray. They can pray while you just hang quietly for 30 seconds or so. No one is going to give you any dirty looks because they'll all be praying. And even if they do, big fucking deal.
My son's scout leader gave me the hairy eyeball because I didn't say the pledge of allegiance like the rest of the mindless fucking zombies in the room (my son included). Who gives a fuck?!? I now wear my Condition Critical short every time I have to take my son to some bullshit scout thing. Fuck that guy. Probably a fucking pederast.
Make you pray? No one can make you pray. They can pray while you just hang quietly for 30 seconds or so. No one is going to give you any dirty looks because they'll all be praying. And even if they do, big fucking deal.
My son's scout leader gave me the hairy eyeball because I didn't say the pledge of allegiance like the rest of the mindless fucking zombies in the room (my son included). Who gives a fuck?!? I now wear my Condition Critical short every time I have to take my son to some bullshit scout thing. Fuck that guy. Probably a fucking pederast.
Thanks Bootlegger. Lately I've been looking up people I went to high school with to see what they're up to and most are married with kids. It's been getting me down. I don't know why I do it when it hurts.
They would all be jealous of you being single if you got out there and mixed it up.
Doubt it. Probably laugh at me. A guy I was friends with (not from school) asked his parents who are my parents' friends if I've found someone yet. Everyone is wondering why I still have not been in a relationship at 34 years of age. I'm a joke.
Dude, I’m 41 and single. The only relationship I’ve ever had that lasted any length of time ended nearly 18 years ago. Other than that I’ve never had anything go on longer than a month or two. I’ve spent many hours and many days wondering what it is about me that no one wants to stick around. Why women don’t flirt with me or respond acceptingly to my flirtations. Why everyone I know has no trouble finding relationships and never goes more than a month without being in one. Trust me, I know first hand how frustrating it is and how defeated you can feel by it. And it’s ok to feel negative about it. I still do, quite a bit actually. No one is happy 24/7/365. Even what may seem to be the happiest, most joyous person has bad days. Whether it’s bad hair, bad personal interactions, bad day at work, failed a test, lost a pet, wrecked their car, etc. But don’t ever call yourself a joke, or think you’ve failed, or think others are better off because believe me, we all go through shit. We all fight battles everyday. Bottom line is that you have to figure out the things that give you joy & satisfaction to combat that, and do those things. Take care of yourself first and make yourself happy because, believe me, no one else is gonna do it for you. You are you, you are defined by your characteristics and the things or enjoy. So give those things to yourself instead of denying them because you don’t have a partner or you worry about what people think. Let them think. They aren’t you, and if they are focused on you, that’s a reflection of their own unhappiness. You’ll eventually realize the freedom you have to do things you enjoy without having someone to answer to.
And P.S. Social media is a terrible way to get a glimpse on anyone else. Even though it seems like some people post their entire lives on there, I can assure you you’re only seeing the highlights and not viewing the whole game.
Thoughts Arrive, Please find somewhere to volunteer. What is your passion... animals, outdoors, homeless, church, food bank, etc. I volunteer at a park, and I'm always recruiting volunteers. We have volunteers from all walks of life, every income bracket, gender identification, etc. Some people volunteer almost every day, some people come in for a 'one and done' project. Everyone is welcomed and valued for their time and efforts. Even if you have only one hour per month to volunteer, I'm sure you can find a place to volunteer your time and/or talent. Good luck!
I was considering this for a while actually. Just have to overcome my hesitation because the volunteer groups are religious based and make you pray before each shift.
?? There is no way that all volunteer opportunities are religion-based. Sorry, no offense and I'm sorry for getting personal, but you always seem to have some excuse as to why you won't do something you seem to need to do for your own benefit, and none of them are really legit excuses. I hope you get past that self-imposed roadblock.
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With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
My friend and his partner volunteered there until they moved to a new town. They told me they say a prayer before each shift and everyone is expected to join in. Most volunteer groups are religious based here. I hate organised religion and praying. I give money to the homeless when I walk past them.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
Thanks Bootlegger. Lately I've been looking up people I went to high school with to see what they're up to and most are married with kids. It's been getting me down. I don't know why I do it when it hurts.
They would all be jealous of you being single if you got out there and mixed it up.
Doubt it. Probably laugh at me. A guy I was friends with (not from school) asked his parents who are my parents' friends if I've found someone yet. Everyone is wondering why I still have not been in a relationship at 34 years of age. I'm a joke.
Dude, I’m 41 and single. The only relationship I’ve ever had that lasted any length of time ended nearly 18 years ago. Other than that I’ve never had anything go on longer than a month or two. I’ve spent many hours and many days wondering what it is about me that no one wants to stick around. Why women don’t flirt with me or respond acceptingly to my flirtations. Why everyone I know has no trouble finding relationships and never goes more than a month without being in one. Trust me, I know first hand how frustrating it is and how defeated you can feel by it. And it’s ok to feel negative about it. I still do, quite a bit actually. No one is happy 24/7/365. Even what may seem to be the happiest, most joyous person has bad days. Whether it’s bad hair, bad personal interactions, bad day at work, failed a test, lost a pet, wrecked their car, etc. But don’t ever call yourself a joke, or think you’ve failed, or think others are better off because believe me, we all go through shit. We all fight battles everyday. Bottom line is that you have to figure out the things that give you joy & satisfaction to combat that, and do those things. Take care of yourself first and make yourself happy because, believe me, no one else is gonna do it for you. You are you, you are defined by your characteristics and the things or enjoy. So give those things to yourself instead of denying them because you don’t have a partner or you worry about what people think. Let them think. They aren’t you, and if they are focused on you, that’s a reflection of their own unhappiness. You’ll eventually realize the freedom you have to do things you enjoy without having someone to answer to.
And P.S. Social media is a terrible way to get a glimpse on anyone else. Even though it seems like some people post their entire lives on there, I can assure you you’re only seeing the highlights and not viewing the whole game.
Girls avoid me which is hard on me. I feel like I am some intimidating person. I feel the same, everyone I know finds a partner so easy and it makes me wonder why I fail. Sick of being assumed to be gay by people. I feel ashamed to meet someone and have to tell them they're my first girlfriend and I am a virgin. It's too late for me. People will get turned off by my story. Thank you for your kind words.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
Sorry for the thread derail. Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property. Back to Agnes....
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
I'm serious when I say some therapy You do have issues surrounding this whole subject and as a friend I would say work on that and the rest will all fall into place. I have no doubt you are a sound guy. The planet is full to breaking point . Millions of lovely souls out there. It's your hang ups that stop you. I hope you can see one day the view you set of yourself is off.
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Sorry for the thread derail. Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property. Back to Agnes....
Do like animals? If so, get a dog ... Take the dog for walks in the park. Trust me, Dogs are great conversation starters. Whenever I have been out with my dog someone almost always wants to pet the dog and that leads to conversations and what not. In my case my encounter with people end after the conversation, but that's because I am not looking for friends or a relationship...
I can not emphasize this enough, you are far from the only person who feels lonely...chances are there is plenty of people in your area who also feel the same way...
Hang in there. When I met my wife, it just happened, neither of us was even looking. Life works that way sometimes.
Sorry for the thread derail. Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property. Back to Agnes....
Do like animals? If so, get a dog ... Take the dog for walks in the park. Trust me, Dogs are great conversation starters. Whenever I have been out with my dog someone almost always wants to pet the dog and that leads to conversations and what not. In my case my encounter with people end after the conversation, but that's because I am not looking for friends or a relationship...
I can not emphasize this enough, you are far from the only person who feels lonely...chances are there is plenty of people in your area who also feel the same way...
Hang in there. When I met my wife, it just happened, neither of us was even looking. Life works that way sometimes.
Yeah I love animals. I would have a dog if I didn't live with my parents, they don't want animals here. I have my sister's dog. Love seeing him. I met a girl at university as we were waiting to cross the road to get to a lecture. She had a therapy dog. It is how we got talking. So I agree with you there. Later she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Avoided me. People are so fickle. I've been waiting for it to happen without looking for years and it hasn't. Thanks for your kindness.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
Sorry for the thread derail. Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property. Back to Agnes....
Do like animals? If so, get a dog ... Take the dog for walks in the park. Trust me, Dogs are great conversation starters. Whenever I have been out with my dog someone almost always wants to pet the dog and that leads to conversations and what not. In my case my encounter with people end after the conversation, but that's because I am not looking for friends or a relationship...
I can not emphasize this enough, you are far from the only person who feels lonely...chances are there is plenty of people in your area who also feel the same way...
Hang in there. When I met my wife, it just happened, neither of us was even looking. Life works that way sometimes.
Yeah I love animals. I would have a dog if I didn't live with my parents, they don't want animals here. I have my sister's dog. Love seeing him. I met a girl at university as we were waiting to cross the road to get to a lecture. She had a therapy dog. It is how we got talking. So I agree with you there. Later she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Avoided me. People are so fickle. I've been waiting for it to happen without looking for years and it hasn't. Thanks for your kindness.
Would your sister let you take her dog to a park? If so, you can take her dog to the park. Just be honest about the dog not being yours.
You love animals. You want to volunteer. Combine the 2, and instantly you have a common interest with someone else who is volunteering at an animal shelter. Animal shelters likely do not pray before each shift, at least I hope not. Trust me, if I were ever to get into the dating the scene, I'd be lost ... really lost, not so much at how to meet someone ... more as to how to interact with them.
Sorry for the thread derail. Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property. Back to Agnes....
Do like animals? If so, get a dog ... Take the dog for walks in the park. Trust me, Dogs are great conversation starters. Whenever I have been out with my dog someone almost always wants to pet the dog and that leads to conversations and what not. In my case my encounter with people end after the conversation, but that's because I am not looking for friends or a relationship...
I can not emphasize this enough, you are far from the only person who feels lonely...chances are there is plenty of people in your area who also feel the same way...
Hang in there. When I met my wife, it just happened, neither of us was even looking. Life works that way sometimes.
Yeah I love animals. I would have a dog if I didn't live with my parents, they don't want animals here. I have my sister's dog. Love seeing him. I met a girl at university as we were waiting to cross the road to get to a lecture. She had a therapy dog. It is how we got talking. So I agree with you there. Later she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Avoided me. People are so fickle. I've been waiting for it to happen without looking for years and it hasn't. Thanks for your kindness.
Would your sister let you take her dog to a park? If so, you can take her dog to the park. Just be honest about the dog not being yours.
You love animals. You want to volunteer. Combine the 2, and instantly you have a common interest with someone else who is volunteering at an animal shelter. Animal shelters likely do not pray before each shift, at least I hope not. Trust me, if I were ever to get into the dating the scene, I'd be lost ... really lost, not so much at how to meet someone ... more as to how to interact with them.
Yeah, she's let me take him for a walk around the neighbourhood before. Good idea with the volunteering. I don't want to try online dating. I find it so stupid. Reducing someone to a 2D commodity. Tinder is the worst, so superficial. Dating sites, well with them I find introductions so lame. Wouldn't know what to write about myself, I'm quite boring. When it comes to interacting, I struggle, I am not a good small talker. Awkward.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
Sorry for the thread derail. Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property. Back to Agnes....
Do like animals? If so, get a dog ... Take the dog for walks in the park. Trust me, Dogs are great conversation starters. Whenever I have been out with my dog someone almost always wants to pet the dog and that leads to conversations and what not. In my case my encounter with people end after the conversation, but that's because I am not looking for friends or a relationship...
I can not emphasize this enough, you are far from the only person who feels lonely...chances are there is plenty of people in your area who also feel the same way...
Hang in there. When I met my wife, it just happened, neither of us was even looking. Life works that way sometimes.
Yeah I love animals. I would have a dog if I didn't live with my parents, they don't want animals here. I have my sister's dog. Love seeing him. I met a girl at university as we were waiting to cross the road to get to a lecture. She had a therapy dog. It is how we got talking. So I agree with you there. Later she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Avoided me. People are so fickle. I've been waiting for it to happen without looking for years and it hasn't. Thanks for your kindness.
Would your sister let you take her dog to a park? If so, you can take her dog to the park. Just be honest about the dog not being yours.
You love animals. You want to volunteer. Combine the 2, and instantly you have a common interest with someone else who is volunteering at an animal shelter. Animal shelters likely do not pray before each shift, at least I hope not. Trust me, if I were ever to get into the dating the scene, I'd be lost ... really lost, not so much at how to meet someone ... more as to how to interact with them.
Yeah, she's let me take him for a walk around the neighbourhood before. Good idea with the volunteering. I don't want to try online dating. I find it so stupid. Reducing someone to a 2D commodity. Tinder is the worst, so superficial. Dating sites, well with them I find introductions so lame. Wouldn't know what to write about myself, I'm quite boring. When it comes to interacting, I struggle, I am not a good small talker. Awkward.
Sorry for the thread derail. Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property. Back to Agnes....
Do like animals? If so, get a dog ... Take the dog for walks in the park. Trust me, Dogs are great conversation starters. Whenever I have been out with my dog someone almost always wants to pet the dog and that leads to conversations and what not. In my case my encounter with people end after the conversation, but that's because I am not looking for friends or a relationship...
I can not emphasize this enough, you are far from the only person who feels lonely...chances are there is plenty of people in your area who also feel the same way...
Hang in there. When I met my wife, it just happened, neither of us was even looking. Life works that way sometimes.
Yeah I love animals. I would have a dog if I didn't live with my parents, they don't want animals here. I have my sister's dog. Love seeing him. I met a girl at university as we were waiting to cross the road to get to a lecture. She had a therapy dog. It is how we got talking. So I agree with you there. Later she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Avoided me. People are so fickle. I've been waiting for it to happen without looking for years and it hasn't. Thanks for your kindness.
Would your sister let you take her dog to a park? If so, you can take her dog to the park. Just be honest about the dog not being yours.
You love animals. You want to volunteer. Combine the 2, and instantly you have a common interest with someone else who is volunteering at an animal shelter. Animal shelters likely do not pray before each shift, at least I hope not. Trust me, if I were ever to get into the dating the scene, I'd be lost ... really lost, not so much at how to meet someone ... more as to how to interact with them.
Yeah, she's let me take him for a walk around the neighbourhood before. Good idea with the volunteering. I don't want to try online dating. I find it so stupid. Reducing someone to a 2D commodity. Tinder is the worst, so superficial. Dating sites, well with them I find introductions so lame. Wouldn't know what to write about myself, I'm quite boring. When it comes to interacting, I struggle, I am not a good small talker. Awkward.
an extremely attractive female friend of mine (seriously, if I wasn't involved with my now-wife at the time, i would have jumped) got tired of failing at relationships. she went to plenty of fish. she is now married to the guy with two kids. it's not stupid. it's the way to go for people who don't want to try to meet drunk people at the bar.
Sorry for the thread derail. Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property. Back to Agnes....
Do like animals? If so, get a dog ... Take the dog for walks in the park. Trust me, Dogs are great conversation starters. Whenever I have been out with my dog someone almost always wants to pet the dog and that leads to conversations and what not. In my case my encounter with people end after the conversation, but that's because I am not looking for friends or a relationship...
I can not emphasize this enough, you are far from the only person who feels lonely...chances are there is plenty of people in your area who also feel the same way...
Hang in there. When I met my wife, it just happened, neither of us was even looking. Life works that way sometimes.
Yeah I love animals. I would have a dog if I didn't live with my parents, they don't want animals here. I have my sister's dog. Love seeing him. I met a girl at university as we were waiting to cross the road to get to a lecture. She had a therapy dog. It is how we got talking. So I agree with you there. Later she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Avoided me. People are so fickle. I've been waiting for it to happen without looking for years and it hasn't. Thanks for your kindness.
Would your sister let you take her dog to a park? If so, you can take her dog to the park. Just be honest about the dog not being yours.
You love animals. You want to volunteer. Combine the 2, and instantly you have a common interest with someone else who is volunteering at an animal shelter. Animal shelters likely do not pray before each shift, at least I hope not. Trust me, if I were ever to get into the dating the scene, I'd be lost ... really lost, not so much at how to meet someone ... more as to how to interact with them.
Yeah, she's let me take him for a walk around the neighbourhood before. Good idea with the volunteering. I don't want to try online dating. I find it so stupid. Reducing someone to a 2D commodity. Tinder is the worst, so superficial. Dating sites, well with them I find introductions so lame. Wouldn't know what to write about myself, I'm quite boring. When it comes to interacting, I struggle, I am not a good small talker. Awkward.
I know several married couples who met through online dating. FWIW.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
Sorry for the thread derail. Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property. Back to Agnes....
Do like animals? If so, get a dog ... Take the dog for walks in the park. Trust me, Dogs are great conversation starters. Whenever I have been out with my dog someone almost always wants to pet the dog and that leads to conversations and what not. In my case my encounter with people end after the conversation, but that's because I am not looking for friends or a relationship...
I can not emphasize this enough, you are far from the only person who feels lonely...chances are there is plenty of people in your area who also feel the same way...
Hang in there. When I met my wife, it just happened, neither of us was even looking. Life works that way sometimes.
Yeah I love animals. I would have a dog if I didn't live with my parents, they don't want animals here. I have my sister's dog. Love seeing him. I met a girl at university as we were waiting to cross the road to get to a lecture. She had a therapy dog. It is how we got talking. So I agree with you there. Later she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Avoided me. People are so fickle. I've been waiting for it to happen without looking for years and it hasn't. Thanks for your kindness.
Would your sister let you take her dog to a park? If so, you can take her dog to the park. Just be honest about the dog not being yours.
You love animals. You want to volunteer. Combine the 2, and instantly you have a common interest with someone else who is volunteering at an animal shelter. Animal shelters likely do not pray before each shift, at least I hope not. Trust me, if I were ever to get into the dating the scene, I'd be lost ... really lost, not so much at how to meet someone ... more as to how to interact with them.
Yeah, she's let me take him for a walk around the neighbourhood before. Good idea with the volunteering. I don't want to try online dating. I find it so stupid. Reducing someone to a 2D commodity. Tinder is the worst, so superficial. Dating sites, well with them I find introductions so lame. Wouldn't know what to write about myself, I'm quite boring. When it comes to interacting, I struggle, I am not a good small talker. Awkward.
Sorry for the thread derail. Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property. Back to Agnes....
Do like animals? If so, get a dog ... Take the dog for walks in the park. Trust me, Dogs are great conversation starters. Whenever I have been out with my dog someone almost always wants to pet the dog and that leads to conversations and what not. In my case my encounter with people end after the conversation, but that's because I am not looking for friends or a relationship...
I can not emphasize this enough, you are far from the only person who feels lonely...chances are there is plenty of people in your area who also feel the same way...
Hang in there. When I met my wife, it just happened, neither of us was even looking. Life works that way sometimes.
Yeah I love animals. I would have a dog if I didn't live with my parents, they don't want animals here. I have my sister's dog. Love seeing him. I met a girl at university as we were waiting to cross the road to get to a lecture. She had a therapy dog. It is how we got talking. So I agree with you there. Later she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Avoided me. People are so fickle. I've been waiting for it to happen without looking for years and it hasn't. Thanks for your kindness.
Would your sister let you take her dog to a park? If so, you can take her dog to the park. Just be honest about the dog not being yours.
You love animals. You want to volunteer. Combine the 2, and instantly you have a common interest with someone else who is volunteering at an animal shelter. Animal shelters likely do not pray before each shift, at least I hope not. Trust me, if I were ever to get into the dating the scene, I'd be lost ... really lost, not so much at how to meet someone ... more as to how to interact with them.
Yeah, she's let me take him for a walk around the neighbourhood before. Good idea with the volunteering. I don't want to try online dating. I find it so stupid. Reducing someone to a 2D commodity. Tinder is the worst, so superficial. Dating sites, well with them I find introductions so lame. Wouldn't know what to write about myself, I'm quite boring. When it comes to interacting, I struggle, I am not a good small talker. Awkward.
an extremely attractive female friend of mine (seriously, if I wasn't involved with my now-wife at the time, i would have jumped) got tired of failing at relationships. she went to plenty of fish. she is now married to the guy with two kids. it's not stupid. it's the way to go for people who don't want to try to meet drunk people at the bar.
What is plenty of fish? Is it a speed dating thing?
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
Sorry for the thread derail. Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property. Back to Agnes....
Do like animals? If so, get a dog ... Take the dog for walks in the park. Trust me, Dogs are great conversation starters. Whenever I have been out with my dog someone almost always wants to pet the dog and that leads to conversations and what not. In my case my encounter with people end after the conversation, but that's because I am not looking for friends or a relationship...
I can not emphasize this enough, you are far from the only person who feels lonely...chances are there is plenty of people in your area who also feel the same way...
Hang in there. When I met my wife, it just happened, neither of us was even looking. Life works that way sometimes.
Yeah I love animals. I would have a dog if I didn't live with my parents, they don't want animals here. I have my sister's dog. Love seeing him. I met a girl at university as we were waiting to cross the road to get to a lecture. She had a therapy dog. It is how we got talking. So I agree with you there. Later she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Avoided me. People are so fickle. I've been waiting for it to happen without looking for years and it hasn't. Thanks for your kindness.
Would your sister let you take her dog to a park? If so, you can take her dog to the park. Just be honest about the dog not being yours.
You love animals. You want to volunteer. Combine the 2, and instantly you have a common interest with someone else who is volunteering at an animal shelter. Animal shelters likely do not pray before each shift, at least I hope not. Trust me, if I were ever to get into the dating the scene, I'd be lost ... really lost, not so much at how to meet someone ... more as to how to interact with them.
Yeah, she's let me take him for a walk around the neighbourhood before. Good idea with the volunteering. I don't want to try online dating. I find it so stupid. Reducing someone to a 2D commodity. Tinder is the worst, so superficial. Dating sites, well with them I find introductions so lame. Wouldn't know what to write about myself, I'm quite boring. When it comes to interacting, I struggle, I am not a good small talker. Awkward.
an extremely attractive female friend of mine (seriously, if I wasn't involved with my now-wife at the time, i would have jumped) got tired of failing at relationships. she went to plenty of fish. she is now married to the guy with two kids. it's not stupid. it's the way to go for people who don't want to try to meet drunk people at the bar.
What is plenty of fish? Is it a speed dating thing?
Just a regular dating website that is very popular. Many people find their spouses on it. I'm sure most went through plenty of duds before they found the right one though. That's normal with or without dating websites.
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With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
I was communicating with a lady over the past few days on facebook as we both commented on a Simpsons related post. She commented in that post days after we stopped commenting to each other asking if I had joined a Simpsons group she suggested and told me how she felt about one I suggested. I thought hmmm, she's remembered me days after we stopped exchanging comments on this post so maybe she's someone who might be interested in knowing me further. Anyhow, I decided to send her a friend request last night (because we both love Simpsons and I find her attractive) and she added me. We chatted for a few hours last night over messenger. I seriously thought she is my age or younger but she is 8 years older. We have a lot in common artistically. However, she has a very big social group, seems extroverted, goes to many events and loves electronic music and not rock. Not sure we'd be compatible as I have few friends, prefer the quiet life, and love rock. What my social psychology unit at university has taught me is that birds of a feather flock together and that opposites do not attract, they repel. Maybe she might think I am too young as well. Will see how things go. I am not going to get my hopes up as I've been in similar situations before where nothing happened. If she starts initiating conversation first then I'll take it as a sign of interest and try summon the courage to ask her out for a coffee. But I doubt it will happen given the age difference and different lives we live. But boy is she pretty.
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You know, I read that and at first read "but she is years old". I was all :tired: . But then I read again.
Who cares if she's 8 years older? Hell, Emmanuel Macron's wife is 25 years older than he is, they're madly in love, and nobody gives a shit. 8 years isn't a big gap. Remember, you wouldn't have brought the age gap up if she was the man. So forget about the sexist double standards.
Good luck!
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With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
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Try stop being ashamed because it doesn't help you.
Please find somewhere to volunteer. What is your passion... animals, outdoors, homeless, church, food bank, etc.
I volunteer at a park, and I'm always recruiting volunteers. We have volunteers from all walks of life, every income bracket, gender identification, etc.
Some people volunteer almost every day, some people come in for a 'one and done' project. Everyone is welcomed and valued for their time and efforts.
Even if you have only one hour per month to volunteer, I'm sure you can find a place to volunteer your time and/or talent.
Good luck!
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Just have to overcome my hesitation because the volunteer groups are religious based and make you pray before each shift.
My son's scout leader gave me the hairy eyeball because I didn't say the pledge of allegiance like the rest of the mindless fucking zombies in the room (my son included). Who gives a fuck?!? I now wear my Condition Critical short every time I have to take my son to some bullshit scout thing. Fuck that guy. Probably a fucking pederast.
And it’s ok to feel negative about it. I still do, quite a bit actually. No one is happy 24/7/365. Even what may seem to be the happiest, most joyous person has bad days. Whether it’s bad hair, bad personal interactions, bad day at work, failed a test, lost a pet, wrecked their car, etc. But don’t ever call yourself a joke, or think you’ve failed, or think others are better off because believe me, we all go through shit. We all fight battles everyday.
Bottom line is that you have to figure out the things that give you joy & satisfaction to combat that, and do those things. Take care of yourself first and make yourself happy because, believe me, no one else is gonna do it for you. You are you, you are defined by your characteristics and the things or enjoy. So give those things to yourself instead of denying them because you don’t have a partner or you worry about what people think. Let them think. They aren’t you, and if they are focused on you, that’s a reflection of their own unhappiness. You’ll eventually realize the freedom you have to do things you enjoy without having someone to answer to.
And P.S. Social media is a terrible way to get a glimpse on anyone else. Even though it seems like some people post their entire lives on there, I can assure you you’re only seeing the highlights and not viewing the whole game.
They told me they say a prayer before each shift and everyone is expected to join in.
Most volunteer groups are religious based here.
I hate organised religion and praying. I give money to the homeless when I walk past them.
I feel like I am some intimidating person.
I feel the same, everyone I know finds a partner so easy and it makes me wonder why I fail.
Sick of being assumed to be gay by people.
I feel ashamed to meet someone and have to tell them they're my first girlfriend and I am a virgin. It's too late for me. People will get turned off by my story.
Thank you for your kind words.
Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property.
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You do have issues surrounding this whole subject and as a friend I would say work on that and the rest will all fall into place. I have no doubt you are a sound guy. The planet is full to breaking point .
Millions of lovely souls out there. It's your hang ups that stop you. I hope you can see one day the view you set of yourself is off.
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I can not emphasize this enough, you are far from the only person who feels lonely...chances are there is plenty of people in your area who also feel the same way...
Hang in there. When I met my wife, it just happened, neither of us was even looking. Life works that way sometimes.
I have my sister's dog. Love seeing him.
I met a girl at university as we were waiting to cross the road to get to a lecture. She had a therapy dog. It is how we got talking. So I agree with you there.
Later she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Avoided me. People are so fickle.
I've been waiting for it to happen without looking for years and it hasn't.
Thanks for your kindness.
You love animals. You want to volunteer. Combine the 2, and instantly you have a common interest with someone else who is volunteering at an animal shelter. Animal shelters likely do not pray before each shift, at least I hope not. Trust me, if I were ever to get into the dating the scene, I'd be lost ... really lost, not so much at how to meet someone ... more as to how to interact with them.
Good idea with the volunteering.
I don't want to try online dating. I find it so stupid. Reducing someone to a 2D commodity.
Tinder is the worst, so superficial. Dating sites, well with them I find introductions so lame. Wouldn't know what to write about myself, I'm quite boring.
When it comes to interacting, I struggle, I am not a good small talker. Awkward.
Here you go:
https://dogshome.com/volunteer-at-lost-dogs-home/volunteer-overview/
https://www.victoriandogrescue.org.au/how-you-can-help/become-a-volunteer.html
https://rspcavic.org/volunteering/
www.headstonesband.com
She commented in that post days after we stopped commenting to each other asking if I had joined a Simpsons group she suggested and told me how she felt about one I suggested. I thought hmmm, she's remembered me days after we stopped exchanging comments on this post so maybe she's someone who might be interested in knowing me further.
Anyhow, I decided to send her a friend request last night (because we both love Simpsons and I find her attractive) and she added me. We chatted for a few hours last night over messenger.
I seriously thought she is my age or younger but she is 8 years older. We have a lot in common artistically. However, she has a very big social group, seems extroverted, goes to many events and loves electronic music and not rock. Not sure we'd be compatible as I have few friends, prefer the quiet life, and love rock. What my social psychology unit at university has taught me is that birds of a feather flock together and that opposites do not attract, they repel.
Maybe she might think I am too young as well.
Will see how things go. I am not going to get my hopes up as I've been in similar situations before where nothing happened. If she starts initiating conversation first then I'll take it as a sign of interest and try summon the courage to ask her out for a coffee. But I doubt it will happen given the age difference and different lives we live. But boy is she pretty.