Yeah, I agree you should try asking her out alone again instead of waiting for movie night.
As for not being a good conversationalist... why not? Is it that you can't think of anything to say at the moment, feel uncomfortable saying what you're thinking about, or you don't have anything going on in your brain? If it's the former two, sounds like you just need to be comfortable and relax.... if the latter... well... you might want to give up.
Yeah I can't think of what to say.
when you run out of things to say, it's time to bang.
She invited me to the movie night before our date.
I already know these people going to the movie night and I don't have anything in common with them. Add to that I don't particularly like some of these people they are immature tools. Not keen on going.
She is nice and talkative but I wasn't 100% sold on her because:
* admitted to me during the date she never cooks and cannot cook, I need someone I can settle down with and I won't have to do all the cooking.
* Not to sound mean but she isn't as articulate as me and I don't feel she is on the same level intellectually, not saying she is stupid but I just felt more mature during conversation.
* I don't like her friends and her uncle and cousins (we had a fall out over some lies they spread about me and my family)
* I am friends with her brother but we haven't seen each other in a long time.
Don't know what to do, feel like keeping it as friends only even though she is attractive and probably likes me.
:shock: Those complaints are pretty substantial. Forget anything I may have said earlier. Don't bother going to the movies or on another date. You don't respect this person or her friends and famy very much and find her intellectually inferior. Why bother? Unless you think you can just get laid and move on I guess...
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
She invited me to the movie night before our date.
I already know these people going to the movie night and I don't have anything in common with them. Add to that I don't particularly like some of these people they are immature tools. Not keen on going.
She is nice and talkative but I wasn't 100% sold on her because:
* admitted to me during the date she never cooks and cannot cook, I need someone I can settle down with and I won't have to do all the cooking.
* Not to sound mean but she isn't as articulate as me and I don't feel she is on the same level intellectually, not saying she is stupid but I just felt more mature during conversation.
* I don't like her friends and her uncle and cousins (we had a fall out over some lies they spread about me and my family)
* I am friends with her brother but we haven't seen each other in a long time.
Don't know what to do, feel like keeping it as friends only even though she is attractive and probably likes me.
Regarding the above post I made. Am I being too picky?
I think I need a smart PJ girl from here lol
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
She invited me to the movie night before our date.
I already know these people going to the movie night and I don't have anything in common with them. Add to that I don't particularly like some of these people they are immature tools. Not keen on going.
She is nice and talkative but I wasn't 100% sold on her because:
* admitted to me during the date she never cooks and cannot cook, I need someone I can settle down with and I won't have to do all the cooking.
* Not to sound mean but she isn't as articulate as me and I don't feel she is on the same level intellectually, not saying she is stupid but I just felt more mature during conversation.
* I don't like her friends and her uncle and cousins (we had a fall out over some lies they spread about me and my family)
* I am friends with her brother but we haven't seen each other in a long time.
Don't know what to do, feel like keeping it as friends only even though she is attractive and probably likes me.
Regarding the above post I made. Am I being too picky?
I think I need a smart PJ girl from here lol
I don't think that wanting to find someone who you feel is your intellectual equal or whose family and friends you at least respect isn't being too picky. The cooking thing might be... I mean, you're not getting married, so who cares if she can cook? You could use her as practice and sowing some oats. But I don't mean USE her. If you feel like she's not a match as far as intelligence goes, I don't see why you'd date her. It's important to feel like you're well suited on that level. And maybe you're wrong. Maybe doubt is clouding your judgement. Try one more date if you're not sure, and then decide.
There are a lot of great 10c girls!!
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With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
Yeah, I agree you should try asking her out alone again instead of waiting for movie night.
As for not being a good conversationalist... why not? Is it that you can't think of anything to say at the moment, feel uncomfortable saying what you're thinking about, or you don't have anything going on in your brain? If it's the former two, sounds like you just need to be comfortable and relax.... if the latter... well... you might want to give up.
Yeah I can't think of what to say.
Why's that do you think? Because you have a lot to say here! You seem pretty open and express yourself fully.
When someone you feel naturally comfortable with comes along you'll know it because you won't struggle to think of things to say, and silences won't be uncomfortable.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
go out ... have fun ... do kids like to have fun these days? ... forget about settling down and stuff ... i am pretty sure you are still young ... if you meet a girl you absolutely feel like is your soulmate ... sure ... but just enjoy what comes your way ... be honest about what you want and all will be good ...
Yeah, I agree you should try asking her out alone again instead of waiting for movie night.
As for not being a good conversationalist... why not? Is it that you can't think of anything to say at the moment, feel uncomfortable saying what you're thinking about, or you don't have anything going on in your brain? If it's the former two, sounds like you just need to be comfortable and relax.... if the latter... well... you might want to give up.
Yeah I can't think of what to say.
Why's that do you think? Because you have a lot to say here! You seem pretty open and express yourself fully.
Online chat is different. People take me as loud and confident until they meet me in person.
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go out ... have fun ... do kids like to have fun these days? ... forget about settling down and stuff ... i am pretty sure you are still young ... if you meet a girl you absolutely feel like is your soulmate ... sure ... but just enjoy what comes your way ... be honest about what you want and all will be good ...
Turning 29 this year. Not exactly young and I have grey hairs. Tick tock time is running out for me.
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go out ... have fun ... do kids like to have fun these days? ... forget about settling down and stuff ... i am pretty sure you are still young ... if you meet a girl you absolutely feel like is your soulmate ... sure ... but just enjoy what comes your way ... be honest about what you want and all will be good ...
Turning 29 this year. Not exactly young and I have grey hairs. Tick tock time is running out for me.
No it's not - not even close. Many men aren't getting married until their mid to late 30s these days, if that. Don't worry about it. Plus, time is running out for what exactly?? It's not like you have to worry about not being able to get pregnant if you wait too long.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
Turning 29 this year. Not exactly young and I have grey hairs. Tick tock time is running out for me.
you're still young ... you're still maturing and growing as a person ... something that is much better achieved through life experiences of which relationships are important ... it's not really about being too picky as it is not being open to possibilities ... maybe she is smarter than you think? ... maybe she can't cook but she's got a big heart ... there is no perfect combination ... it's really about how you two connect and in what ways ... worst case scenario is it doesn't last but you find out more about yourself as it relates to experiences ...
Why's that do you think? Because you have a lot to say here! You seem pretty open and express yourself fully.
Online chat is different. People take me as loud and confident until they meet me in person.
I guess... though I don't quite understand. If the thoughts are available to you in your head, why not just say them out loud? Is it because you're self-conscious about what others will think about what comes put of your mouth? ... Obviously I just can't relate to this one (I know that many people struggle with it). Sometimes I have to remind myself to shut up - a different struggle, but a struggle all the same. But one fail-safe trick: if yoibcan't think of anything to say, just ask her questions about herself, and then ask questions about her answers.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
go out ... have fun ... do kids like to have fun these days? ... forget about settling down and stuff ... i am pretty sure you are still young ... if you meet a girl you absolutely feel like is your soulmate ... sure ... but just enjoy what comes your way ... be honest about what you want and all will be good ...
Turning 29 this year. Not exactly young and I have grey hairs. Tick tock time is running out for me.
bullshit , puppy. You sir are reaching for any little inconsequential excuse to stay in your shell, where FOR A FACT you will wind up alone. There is ZERO reward without equal risk. Take a chance. If it doesnt work out, learn from it and press on.
Not today Sir, Probably not tomorrow.............................................. bayfront arena st. pete '94
you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '14
fine dude, you don't sound so keen on her except for the fact that she is a female and she likes you.
Go out with her a few times, hell I dated guys I didn't think I would like, but at least it helped me figure out what I truly didn't want in a potential mate.
You are not going to go out on one date and fall madly in love and that's that, you gotta test the waters a little. Date a snobby girl, date a hippie girl, date a nerdy girl.
The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.
She invited me to the movie night before our date.
I already know these people going to the movie night and I don't have anything in common with them. Add to that I don't particularly like some of these people they are immature tools. Not keen on going.
She is nice and talkative but I wasn't 100% sold on her because:
* admitted to me during the date she never cooks and cannot cook, I need someone I can settle down with and I won't have to do all the cooking.
* Not to sound mean but she isn't as articulate as me and I don't feel she is on the same level intellectually, not saying she is stupid but I just felt more mature during conversation.
* I don't like her friends and her uncle and cousins (we had a fall out over some lies they spread about me and my family)
* I am friends with her brother but we haven't seen each other in a long time.
Don't know what to do, feel like keeping it as friends only even though she is attractive and probably likes me.
Regarding the above post I made. Am I being too picky?
I think I need a smart PJ girl from here lol
Yes you are being too picky....
I am seeing a girl atm who doesn't cook and doesn't clean... I cook, so that's alright.. I told her if ever we move out together that she is on cleaning and I will cook...
But what she lacks in that department is that her family are ridiculously rich... so, who knows, we might get a cleaner...
One thing I learnt in my years is this... Nobody is perfect. We all have our faults. You have yours, she has hers. Just man up, go on a few more dates. And worst comes to worst, use it as practice for further dating. Dude, if you do not go on another date with her because you are too picky, I will reach my hand through this computer screen, through yours and wring your neck...
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am i the only one here that wants to shag this girl already?
go out ... have fun ... do kids like to have fun these days? ... forget about settling down and stuff ... i am pretty sure you are still young ... if you meet a girl you absolutely feel like is your soulmate ... sure ... but just enjoy what comes your way ... be honest about what you want and all will be good ...
Turning 29 this year. Not exactly young and I have grey hairs. Tick tock time is running out for me.
No it's not - not even close. Many men aren't getting married until their mid to late 30s these days, if that. Don't worry about it. Plus, time is running out for what exactly?? It's not like you have to worry about not being able to get pregnant if you wait too long.
When I am all grey hairs and wrinkly noone will want me.
I am under pressure from family to get married, it is a cultural thing as well.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
I guess... though I don't quite understand. If the thoughts are available to you in your head, why not just say them out loud? Is it because you're self-conscious about what others will think about what comes put of your mouth? ... Obviously I just can't relate to this one (I know that many people struggle with it). Sometimes I have to remind myself to shut up - a different struggle, but a struggle all the same. But one fail-safe trick: if yoibcan't think of anything to say, just ask her questions about herself, and then ask questions about her answers.
The problem is I often have no thoughts in my when in the presence of others, I have no idea what to say.
Quite contrary to my username here, well then again, only negative thoughts arrive like butterflies.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
She invited me to the movie night before our date.
I already know these people going to the movie night and I don't have anything in common with them. Add to that I don't particularly like some of these people they are immature tools. Not keen on going.
She is nice and talkative but I wasn't 100% sold on her because:
* admitted to me during the date she never cooks and cannot cook, I need someone I can settle down with and I won't have to do all the cooking.
* Not to sound mean but she isn't as articulate as me and I don't feel she is on the same level intellectually, not saying she is stupid but I just felt more mature during conversation.
* I don't like her friends and her uncle and cousins (we had a fall out over some lies they spread about me and my family)
* I am friends with her brother but we haven't seen each other in a long time.
Don't know what to do, feel like keeping it as friends only even though she is attractive and probably likes me.
Regarding the above post I made. Am I being too picky?
I think I need a smart PJ girl from here lol
Yes you are being too picky....
I am seeing a girl atm who doesn't cook and doesn't clean... I cook, so that's alright.. I told her if ever we move out together that she is on cleaning and I will cook...
But what she lacks in that department is that her family are ridiculously rich... so, who knows, we might get a cleaner...
One thing I learnt in my years is this... Nobody is perfect. We all have our faults. You have yours, she has hers. Just man up, go on a few more dates. And worst comes to worst, use it as practice for further dating. Dude, if you do not go on another date with her because you are too picky, I will reach my hand through this computer screen, through yours and wring your neck...
Shoot me instead.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
She invited me to the movie night before our date.
I already know these people going to the movie night and I don't have anything in common with them. Add to that I don't particularly like some of these people they are immature tools. Not keen on going.
She is nice and talkative but I wasn't 100% sold on her because:
* admitted to me during the date she never cooks and cannot cook, I need someone I can settle down with and I won't have to do all the cooking.
* Not to sound mean but she isn't as articulate as me and I don't feel she is on the same level intellectually, not saying she is stupid but I just felt more mature during conversation.
* I don't like her friends and her uncle and cousins (we had a fall out over some lies they spread about me and my family)
* I am friends with her brother but we haven't seen each other in a long time.
Don't know what to do, feel like keeping it as friends only even though she is attractive and probably likes me.
Regarding the above post I made. Am I being too picky?
I think I need a smart PJ girl from here lol
yup.
and you're successfully talking yourself out of even a chance of having a good time with this chick.
She invited me to the movie night before our date.
I already know these people going to the movie night and I don't have anything in common with them. Add to that I don't particularly like some of these people they are immature tools. Not keen on going.
She is nice and talkative but I wasn't 100% sold on her because:
* admitted to me during the date she never cooks and cannot cook, I need someone I can settle down with and I won't have to do all the cooking.
* Not to sound mean but she isn't as articulate as me and I don't feel she is on the same level intellectually, not saying she is stupid but I just felt more mature during conversation.
* I don't like her friends and her uncle and cousins (we had a fall out over some lies they spread about me and my family)
* I am friends with her brother but we haven't seen each other in a long time.
Don't know what to do, feel like keeping it as friends only even though she is attractive and probably likes me.
Regarding the above post I made. Am I being too picky?
I think I need a smart PJ girl from here lol
yup.
and you're successfully talking yourself out of even a chance of having a good time with this chick.
29 is not old.
this thread is now making me angry. :x
Thank you Juggler. I lose brain cells reading this. Obviously OP, You don't dig her. Plenty of fish in other ponds
Hey my friend, I as well have the picky type problem...
But what has been brought up here has a lot of merit. You
Can have standards and still have fun.., I am very shy in
person, yet very open and talkative on here. I have very
High standard and rules to my life, but if the opportunity to
meet people ( or see those I know already, but have bad
History with) I usually make myself go., if for nothing else, then
forcing myself to remain open minded. Sounds like you just
May have to for-go the expectations and see what actually
lies ahead here. As for the family part, you are all adults,
and therefor have a choice in whether you allow the other to
have either negative or positive effects on one another.
But I know how you feel man ! I turn 40 this year and have
Spent most of my life alone waiting for that one guy that
Satisfies all my requirements! I am terribly old fashioned like
that, and will most likely due alone, cause I won't budge.., but
hey, if that happens, I still feel like I was true to myself and what
I want out of life. Still wishing you luck !
Hey my friend, I as well have the picky type problem...
But what has been brought up here has a lot of merit. You
Can have standards and still have fun.., I am very shy in
person, yet very open and talkative on here. I have very
High standard and rules to my life, but if the opportunity to
meet people ( or see those I know already, but have bad
History with) I usually make myself go., if for nothing else, then
forcing myself to remain open minded. Sounds like you just
May have to for-go the expectations and see what actually
lies ahead here. As for the family part, you are all adults,
and therefor have a choice in whether you allow the other to
have either negative or positive effects on one another.
But I know how you feel man ! I turn 40 this year and have
Spent most of my life alone waiting for that one guy that
Satisfies all my requirements! I am terribly old fashioned like
that, and will most likely due alone, cause I won't budge.., but
hey, if that happens, I still feel like I was true to myself and what
I want out of life. Still wishing you luck !
Wait it was a girl.. now it's this one guy that is satisfactory ?
"I'm sick to death of hearing things,
from uptight, short sighted, narrow minded hypocrites,
all I want is the truth,
just gimme some truth."
:roll:
Hey my friend, I as well have the picky type problem...
But what has been brought up here has a lot of merit. You
Can have standards and still have fun.., I am very shy in
person, yet very open and talkative on here. I have very
High standard and rules to my life, but if the opportunity to
meet people ( or see those I know already, but have bad
History with) I usually make myself go., if for nothing else, then
forcing myself to remain open minded. Sounds like you just
May have to for-go the expectations and see what actually
lies ahead here. As for the family part, you are all adults,
and therefor have a choice in whether you allow the other to
have either negative or positive effects on one another.
But I know how you feel man ! I turn 40 this year and have
Spent most of my life alone waiting for that one guy that
Satisfies all my requirements! I am terribly old fashioned like
that, and will most likely due alone, cause I won't budge.., but
hey, if that happens, I still feel like I was true to myself and what
I want out of life. Still wishing you luck !
Wait it was a girl.. now it's this one guy that is satisfactory ?
"I'm sick to death of hearing things,
from uptight, short sighted, narrow minded hypocrites,
all I want is the truth,
just gimme some truth."
:roll:
Turning 29 this year. Not exactly young and I have grey hairs. Tick tock time is running out for me.
No it's not - not even close. Many men aren't getting married until their mid to late 30s these days, if that. Don't worry about it. Plus, time is running out for what exactly?? It's not like you have to worry about not being able to get pregnant if you wait too long.
When I am all grey hairs and wrinkly noone will want me.
I am under pressure from family to get married, it is a cultural thing as well.
Ah, well, that kind of pressure must be tough... but surely your family wouldn't want you to marry someone you don't love, so you're gonna have to do your best and wait until the right thing comes along just like everyone else. It could take years and years... in fact, you'd be lucky to find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with (only half make it, and probably only half of them are actually happy). So you might want to just take a deep breath and change your focus from finding someone to finding someone you love.
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With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
Hey my friend, I as well have the picky type problem...
But what has been brought up here has a lot of merit. You
Can have standards and still have fun.., I am very shy in
person, yet very open and talkative on here. I have very
High standard and rules to my life, but if the opportunity to
meet people ( or see those I know already, but have bad
History with) I usually make myself go., if for nothing else, then
forcing myself to remain open minded. Sounds like you just
May have to for-go the expectations and see what actually
lies ahead here. As for the family part, you are all adults,
and therefor have a choice in whether you allow the other to
have either negative or positive effects on one another.
But I know how you feel man ! I turn 40 this year and have
Spent most of my life alone waiting for that one guy that
Satisfies all my requirements! I am terribly old fashioned like
that, and will most likely due alone, cause I won't budge.., but
hey, if that happens, I still feel like I was true to myself and what
I want out of life. Still wishing you luck !
Thank you, good luck to you too.
I stay true to myself even if it means lonely weekends.
I have often been asked to come along to nightclubs (where I could have met someone) but refused being this punk rock guy, not my scene. Clubbing types are so stupid here.
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Please don't buy the myth that there is only one perfect mate for you out there! Definitely not true! Yes it's necessary to have a physical spark, mutual respect, like interests and similar goals. I also think similar religious/philosophical beliefs are necessary for long term satisfaction with your relationship. However, love can grow from all of that and from unexpected places. I believe that love often comes later and if you are waiting for the perfect ONE you are likely to be disappointed. This is why I don't let my kids read fairy tale princess and Prince Charming stories. Just sets (especially girls) up for disappointment when their lives don't match the tale. TAKE A CHANCE, find out what is really important and what you can't compromise but BE FLEXIBLE because the love you need could be right in front of you. You don't want to miss it.
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when you run out of things to say, it's time to bang.
Regarding the above post I made. Am I being too picky?
I think I need a smart PJ girl from here lol
There are a lot of great 10c girls!!
When someone you feel naturally comfortable with comes along you'll know it because you won't struggle to think of things to say, and silences won't be uncomfortable.
i thought he said it was a bunch of people she never gets to see
Online chat is different. People take me as loud and confident until they meet me in person.
Turning 29 this year. Not exactly young and I have grey hairs. Tick tock time is running out for me.
you're still young ... you're still maturing and growing as a person ... something that is much better achieved through life experiences of which relationships are important ... it's not really about being too picky as it is not being open to possibilities ... maybe she is smarter than you think? ... maybe she can't cook but she's got a big heart ... there is no perfect combination ... it's really about how you two connect and in what ways ... worst case scenario is it doesn't last but you find out more about yourself as it relates to experiences ...
Not today Sir, Probably not tomorrow.............................................. bayfront arena st. pete '94
you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '14
Go out with her a few times, hell I dated guys I didn't think I would like, but at least it helped me figure out what I truly didn't want in a potential mate.
You are not going to go out on one date and fall madly in love and that's that, you gotta test the waters a little. Date a snobby girl, date a hippie girl, date a nerdy girl.
- Christopher McCandless
Yes you are being too picky....
I am seeing a girl atm who doesn't cook and doesn't clean... I cook, so that's alright.. I told her if ever we move out together that she is on cleaning and I will cook...
But what she lacks in that department is that her family are ridiculously rich... so, who knows, we might get a cleaner...
One thing I learnt in my years is this... Nobody is perfect. We all have our faults. You have yours, she has hers. Just man up, go on a few more dates. And worst comes to worst, use it as practice for further dating. Dude, if you do not go on another date with her because you are too picky, I will reach my hand through this computer screen, through yours and wring your neck...
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we need pic
When I am all grey hairs and wrinkly noone will want me.
I am under pressure from family to get married, it is a cultural thing as well.
The problem is I often have no thoughts in my when in the presence of others, I have no idea what to say.
Quite contrary to my username here, well then again, only negative thoughts arrive like butterflies.
Shoot me instead.
yup.
and you're successfully talking yourself out of even a chance of having a good time with this chick.
29 is not old.
this thread is now making me angry. :x
Thank you Juggler. I lose brain cells reading this. Obviously OP, You don't dig her. Plenty of fish in other ponds
But what has been brought up here has a lot of merit. You
Can have standards and still have fun.., I am very shy in
person, yet very open and talkative on here. I have very
High standard and rules to my life, but if the opportunity to
meet people ( or see those I know already, but have bad
History with) I usually make myself go., if for nothing else, then
forcing myself to remain open minded. Sounds like you just
May have to for-go the expectations and see what actually
lies ahead here. As for the family part, you are all adults,
and therefor have a choice in whether you allow the other to
have either negative or positive effects on one another.
But I know how you feel man ! I turn 40 this year and have
Spent most of my life alone waiting for that one guy that
Satisfies all my requirements! I am terribly old fashioned like
that, and will most likely due alone, cause I won't budge.., but
hey, if that happens, I still feel like I was true to myself and what
I want out of life. Still wishing you luck !
Wait it was a girl.. now it's this one guy that is satisfactory ?
"I'm sick to death of hearing things,
from uptight, short sighted, narrow minded hypocrites,
all I want is the truth,
just gimme some truth."
:roll:
STAYSEA.., I was relating my own angle as a female, relative
to his qualms.
Thank you, good luck to you too.
I stay true to myself even if it means lonely weekends.
I have often been asked to come along to nightclubs (where I could have met someone) but refused being this punk rock guy, not my scene. Clubbing types are so stupid here.
I don't like my chances.
Jen
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