I'm totally skipping the thread and only reading the title....
YES
Why the hell not?
I agree and same (didn't read whole thread). Saying 'do you want to have coffee' is a nice non-scary way to get together, that's not really a 'date'. Then depending on how it goes you take it from there.
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I'm totally skipping the thread and only reading the title....
YES
Why the hell not?
I agree and same (didn't read whole thread). Saying 'do you want to have coffee' is a nice non-scary way to get together, that's not really a 'date'. Then depending on how it goes you take it from there.
we all agree with that,but some people need their time,have their rythm,their style..
and need to feel confortable for move things..
and ofcourse,i think he must do it,maybe he needs his time
"...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
"..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
“..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
better to regret asking and her saying no, then to regret not asking her and never knowing.
exactly!!
and good luck with that!
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better to regret asking and her saying no, then to regret not asking her and never knowing.
exactly!!
and good luck with that!
hey paulina, you wanna go out friday for drinks. :corn:
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Absolutely ask her out brother. If you have her number already, I would just give her a call. But you should absolutely do it. Just be cool, calm, collective, and confident.....the killer Cs.
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I still haven't asked. It's not just the brother. I just feel like I am not good enough. She'd most likely prefer the tanned muscles type over a skinny pale guy with no biceps like me.
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I still haven't asked. It's not just the brother. I just feel like I am not good enough. She'd most likely prefer the tanned muscles type over a skinny pale guy with no biceps like me.
Thoughts, (can I call you thoughts?), I have asked girls out before, I have even mulled over it on here like you and it can be nerve racking. If she says no, life goes on. You live another day. Girls like confidence. Get in there and do your thing... Come couple of weeks/month, you will not regret it. I guarantee it...
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I still haven't asked. It's not just the brother. I just feel like I am not good enough. She'd most likely prefer the tanned muscles type over a skinny pale guy with no biceps like me.
Thoughts, (can I call you thoughts?), I have asked girls out before, I have even mulled over it on here like you and it can be nerve racking. If she says no, life goes on. You live another day. Girls like confidence. Get in there and do your thing... Come couple of weeks/month, you will not regret it. I guarantee it...
You sure can, actually call me coward guy.
I spent hours watching dating videos on Youtube, some guru was saying how being single leaves a massive hole in your life. It made me depressed because it is true. I never go out as I only have one friend and he is in a long term relationship so how will I ever meet someone I have a dating website profile but don't have a photo of me nor have I ever contacted anyone. Cannot get over this fear and anxiety. Internet dating is frowned upon in my family anyways. So how will I ever meet someone, feel like my life is over.
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
i think you can do this...not overthinking..its just a date for coffee....
and if she dont like coffee,order ice cream..almost all women like ice cream...
if she dont like ice cream...she will like diet coke...
"...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
"..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
“..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
I still haven't asked. It's not just the brother. I just feel like I am not good enough. She'd most likely prefer the tanned muscles type over a skinny pale guy with no biceps like me.
Don't make the decision for her. At least give her the chance to say yes to you and find out if you have more in common - that's the whole purpose of dating - to get to know each other better and find out if you're a good fit. Give it a shot!
"I need your strength for me to be strong...I need your love to feel loved"
I still haven't asked. It's not just the brother. I just feel like I am not good enough. She'd most likely prefer the tanned muscles type over a skinny pale guy with no biceps like me.
The dude with muscles isn't going to listen to her nor is he going to show her the world! Tanned and muscle dudes are so boring and stupid! Step up and ask her out as you'll never regret trying only never doing it!
better to regret asking and her saying no, then to regret not asking her and never knowing.
exactly!!
and good luck with that!
hey paulina, you wanna go out friday for drinks. :corn:
sure, where u wanna take me? :corn:
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I still haven't asked. It's not just the brother. I just feel like I am not good enough. She'd most likely prefer the tanned muscles type over a skinny pale guy with no biceps like me.
Thoughts, (can I call you thoughts?), I have asked girls out before, I have even mulled over it on here like you and it can be nerve racking. If she says no, life goes on. You live another day. Girls like confidence. Get in there and do your thing... Come couple of weeks/month, you will not regret it. I guarantee it...
You sure can, actually call me coward guy.
I spent hours watching dating videos on Youtube, some guru was saying how being single leaves a massive hole in your life. It made me depressed because it is true. I never go out as I only have one friend and he is in a long term relationship so how will I ever meet someone I have a dating website profile but don't have a photo of me nor have I ever contacted anyone. Cannot get over this fear and anxiety. Internet dating is frowned upon in my family anyways. So how will I ever meet someone, feel like my life is over.
stop watching videos of so-called "dating gurus" and just ask her out.
You can meet nice person in the most unexpected moment, don't have to go out every week for that.
Maybe she'll say yes without any hesitation and you both will spend some nice time together
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Still considering it, she's into clubbing and this trendy social scene, which is totally opposite what I am into, but we've always gotten along.
Am I silly for expecting someone to have similar interests to me?
Imagine we get serious then she'll try drag me to nightclubs, yuck.
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I can understand the anxiety involved when asking someone out, being a shy person myself, you reach a point in life when you stop giving a fuck of what people think about you. Most of my dates these days are through online dating sites, and i think it's a great tool for building confidence. I'll go on a date with a guy having no expectations and i don't get offended if he's not interested, you move on.
And don't judge someone because they listen to a certain type of music or their lifestyle is different to yours, they could be a really nice person and could help open your eyes to different ideas.
Not mentally right for a date right now, disregard this thread. Thank you all.
I hope you feel better.
Please don't over think this. You are getting ahead of yourself, thinking about her dragging you out clubbing. Just go for coffee. Are you afraid she will say "yes"? Don't be. Be bold. You can do it. You have a whole group of people (whom you have never met) cheering you on. Good luck.
Not mentally right for a date right now, disregard this thread. Thank you all.
fuck it dude. imagine if she says yes. you're mental state will be through the roof. if she says no, you'll still be in the same place but might feel better knowing your took a little bit of a risk. the risk is worth the reward.
hit send, enjoy a little adrenaline rush, pound a few beers and see what happens.
Still considering it, she's into clubbing and this trendy social scene, which is totally opposite what I am into, but we've always gotten along.
Am I silly for expecting someone to have similar interests to me?
Imagine we get serious then she'll try drag me to nightclubs, yuck.
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I agree and same (didn't read whole thread). Saying 'do you want to have coffee' is a nice non-scary way to get together, that's not really a 'date'. Then depending on how it goes you take it from there.
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R.i.p. Black Tail (cat) - Sept. 20, 2008
and need to feel confortable for move things..
and ofcourse,i think he must do it,maybe he needs his time
"..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
“..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
exactly!!
and good luck with that!
hey paulina, you wanna go out friday for drinks. :corn:
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East Troy, WI - 9.4.11
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I totally agree with this....from the female perspective....
I will walk w/my face blood
I will walk w/my shadow flag
Memories back when she was smooth and strong
and waiting for the world to come along...
Eddie solo Vegas Oct 31,Nov 1 2012
Thoughts, (can I call you thoughts?), I have asked girls out before, I have even mulled over it on here like you and it can be nerve racking. If she says no, life goes on. You live another day. Girls like confidence. Get in there and do your thing... Come couple of weeks/month, you will not regret it. I guarantee it...
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EV Sydney 19/03/2011
EV Sydney 20/03/2011
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Sydney 26/01/2014
EV Sydney 13/02/2014
You sure can, actually call me coward guy.
I spent hours watching dating videos on Youtube, some guru was saying how being single leaves a massive hole in your life. It made me depressed because it is true. I never go out as I only have one friend and he is in a long term relationship so how will I ever meet someone
small steps...give it a try...
i think you can do this...not overthinking..its just a date for coffee....
and if she dont like coffee,order ice cream..almost all women like ice cream...
if she dont like ice cream...she will like diet coke...
"..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
“..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
what do you have to lose by meeting up for coffee? go for it!
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The dude with muscles isn't going to listen to her nor is he going to show her the world! Tanned and muscle dudes are so boring and stupid! Step up and ask her out as you'll never regret trying only never doing it!
sure, where u wanna take me? :corn:
stop watching videos of so-called "dating gurus" and just ask her out.
You can meet nice person in the most unexpected moment, don't have to go out every week for that.
Maybe she'll say yes without any hesitation and you both will spend some nice time together
Am I silly for expecting someone to have similar interests to me?
Imagine we get serious then she'll try drag me to nightclubs, yuck.
I hope you ask her out.
Good luck, my friend.
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
I can understand the anxiety involved when asking someone out, being a shy person myself, you reach a point in life when you stop giving a fuck of what people think about you. Most of my dates these days are through online dating sites, and i think it's a great tool for building confidence. I'll go on a date with a guy having no expectations and i don't get offended if he's not interested, you move on.
And don't judge someone because they listen to a certain type of music or their lifestyle is different to yours, they could be a really nice person and could help open your eyes to different ideas.
I hope you feel better.
Please don't over think this. You are getting ahead of yourself, thinking about her dragging you out clubbing. Just go for coffee. Are you afraid she will say "yes"? Don't be. Be bold. You can do it. You have a whole group of people (whom you have never met) cheering you on. Good luck.
fuck it dude. imagine if she says yes. you're mental state will be through the roof. if she says no, you'll still be in the same place but might feel better knowing your took a little bit of a risk. the risk is worth the reward.
hit send, enjoy a little adrenaline rush, pound a few beers and see what happens.
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
Take the pressure off of yourself and don't worry about tomorrow.
Ask her to go out for coffee. Don't think of it as a date, just spending time with a friend today.
30lbs lighter...
Had a better job...
And not married....
I would definitely ask you out!!!!
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....