Should I ask her out?

Thoughts_Arrive

pjfan31 wrote:

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

I still haven't asked. It's not just the brother. I just feel like I am not good enough. She'd most likely prefer the tanned muscles type over a skinny pale guy with no biceps like me.

Thoughts, (can I call you thoughts?), I have asked girls out before, I have even mulled over it on here like you and it can be nerve racking. If she says no, life goes on. You live another day. Girls like confidence. Get in there and do your thing... Come couple of weeks/month, you will not regret it. I guarantee it...

You sure can, actually call me coward guy.
I spent hours watching dating videos on Youtube, some guru was saying how being single leaves a massive hole in your life. It made me depressed because it is true. I never go out as I only have one friend and he is in a long term relationship so how will I ever meet someone I have a dating website profile but don't have a photo of me nor have I ever contacted anyone. Cannot get over this fear and anxiety. Internet dating is frowned upon in my family anyways. So how will I ever meet someone, feel like my life is over.

dimitrispearljam

you will find your way...

small steps...give it a try...

i think you can do this...not overthinking..its just a date for coffee....

and if she dont like coffee,order ice cream..almost all women like ice cream...

if she dont like ice cream...she will like diet coke...

mfc2006

in a word.....YES.

what do you have to lose by meeting up for coffee? go for it!

comebackgirl

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

I still haven't asked. It's not just the brother. I just feel like I am not good enough. She'd most likely prefer the tanned muscles type over a skinny pale guy with no biceps like me.

Don't make the decision for her. At least give her the chance to say yes to you and find out if you have more in common - that's the whole purpose of dating - to get to know each other better and find out if you're a good fit. Give it a shot!

mfc2006

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sD8vwxhxKpA

smithnic

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

I still haven't asked. It's not just the brother. I just feel like I am not good enough. She'd most likely prefer the tanned muscles type over a skinny pale guy with no biceps like me.

The dude with muscles isn't going to listen to her nor is he going to show her the world! Tanned and muscle dudes are so boring and stupid! Step up and ask her out as you'll never regret trying only never doing it!

Paulina87

81 wrote:

Paulina87 wrote:

the wolf wrote:

better to regret asking and her saying no, then to regret not asking her and never knowing.

exactly!!
and good luck with that!

hey paulina, you wanna go out friday for drinks. :corn:

sure, where u wanna take me? :corn:

Paulina87

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

pjfan31 wrote:

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

I still haven't asked. It's not just the brother. I just feel like I am not good enough. She'd most likely prefer the tanned muscles type over a skinny pale guy with no biceps like me.

Thoughts, (can I call you thoughts?), I have asked girls out before, I have even mulled over it on here like you and it can be nerve racking. If she says no, life goes on. You live another day. Girls like confidence. Get in there and do your thing... Come couple of weeks/month, you will not regret it. I guarantee it...

You sure can, actually call me coward guy.
I spent hours watching dating videos on Youtube, some guru was saying how being single leaves a massive hole in your life. It made me depressed because it is true. I never go out as I only have one friend and he is in a long term relationship so how will I ever meet someone I have a dating website profile but don't have a photo of me nor have I ever contacted anyone. Cannot get over this fear and anxiety. Internet dating is frowned upon in my family anyways. So how will I ever meet someone, feel like my life is over.

stop watching videos of so-called "dating gurus" and just ask her out.
You can meet nice person in the most unexpected moment, don't have to go out every week for that.
Maybe she'll say yes without any hesitation and you both will spend some nice time together

Thoughts_Arrive

Still considering it, she's into clubbing and this trendy social scene, which is totally opposite what I am into, but we've always gotten along.
Am I silly for expecting someone to have similar interests to me?
Imagine we get serious then she'll try drag me to nightclubs, yuck.

Thoughts_Arrive

Not mentally right for a date right now, disregard this thread. Thank you all.

SPEEDY MCCREADY

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Not mentally right for a date right now, disregard this thread. Thank you all.

I hope you feel better.
I hope you ask her out.
Good luck, my friend.

sandgroper

If you're not ready now, when will you be?

I can understand the anxiety involved when asking someone out, being a shy person myself, you reach a point in life when you stop giving a fuck of what people think about you. Most of my dates these days are through online dating sites, and i think it's a great tool for building confidence. I'll go on a date with a guy having no expectations and i don't get offended if he's not interested, you move on.

And don't judge someone because they listen to a certain type of music or their lifestyle is different to yours, they could be a really nice person and could help open your eyes to different ideas.

SD48277

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Not mentally right for a date right now, disregard this thread. Thank you all.

I hope you feel better.
Please don't over think this. You are getting ahead of yourself, thinking about her dragging you out clubbing. Just go for coffee. Are you afraid she will say "yes"? Don't be. Be bold. You can do it. You have a whole group of people (whom you have never met) cheering you on. Good luck.

The Juggler

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Not mentally right for a date right now, disregard this thread. Thank you all.

fuck it dude. imagine if she says yes. you're mental state will be through the roof. if she says no, you'll still be in the same place but might feel better knowing your took a little bit of a risk. the risk is worth the reward.

hit send, enjoy a little adrenaline rush, pound a few beers and see what happens.

mikalina

Yes, ask her out - the worst she can do is say no, and if she does go out with you its great for your mental state of mind. Go for it !!!!

SPEEDY MCCREADY

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Not mentally right for a date right now, disregard this thread. Thank you all.

I think you should ask Mikalina out.

mikalina

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Not mentally right for a date right now, disregard this thread. Thank you all.

I think you should ask Mikalina out.

smithnic

You're too much in your own head man. It's just coffee to hang out and get to know each other. Who knows, she could be totally not right for you.

Asterisk on the Street

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Still considering it, she's into clubbing and this trendy social scene, which is totally opposite what I am into, but we've always gotten along.
Am I silly for expecting someone to have similar interests to me?
Imagine we get serious then she'll try drag me to nightclubs, yuck.

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Not mentally right for a date right now, disregard this thread. Thank you all.

Take the pressure off of yourself and don't worry about tomorrow.

Ask her to go out for coffee. Don't think of it as a date, just spending time with a friend today.

SPEEDY MCCREADY

mikalina wrote:

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Not mentally right for a date right now, disregard this thread. Thank you all.

I think you should ask Mikalina out.

If I was 10 years younger...
30lbs lighter...
Had a better job...
And not married....

I would definitely ask you out!!!!