Should I ask her out?

81

shep wrote:

I would like to see that list of references just out of curiosity though... :twisted:

my cigar payment is coming next month for one, and i've secured a spot at the head table for the other.

mikalina

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Get this, today she invited me to a movies night she organised for next week, a catch up with people she hasn't seen in ages including me. I am tentative about this as I have fallen out with some of these people.
I texted her back and asked if she wants to catch up for coffee, she agreed and only a few mins ago via Facebook chat did we agree Wednesday night at a local cafe. Anxious has hell now.
Wish me luck.
My last date at this place was a disaster.
I always fear not having things to talk about, I am a quiet guy and not a great conversationalist.

:thumbup: Good luck to you and just relax....

comebackgirl

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Get this, today she invited me to a movies night she organised for next week, a catch up with people she hasn't seen in ages including me. I am tentative about this as I have fallen out with some of these people.
I texted her back and asked if she wants to catch up for coffee, she agreed and only a few mins ago via Facebook chat did we agree Wednesday night at a local cafe. Anxious has hell now.
Wish me luck.
My last date at this place was a disaster.
I always fear not having things to talk about, I am a quiet guy and not a great conversationalist.

That is awesome! Some nervousness is normal - she's probably feeling some too. Don't stress too much - this is a good chance to see how well you guys connect and find out more about what stuff you do have in common. Take the pressure off of yourself and focus on the connection - she has to keep the conversation going too - it's not all just on you. Someone who is a good fit for you will probably be someone who is able to help set you at ease. Good luck and try to have fun!

mikalina

RS151862 wrote:

Getting shot down is never as bad as youve made it out to be in your head.

Just be honest.. Hey Mikalina I see you like hiking, why don't you hike on over to PIttsburgh and ill take you out for some trail mix and a wheat grass smoothie. Unless of course you're a Cleveland Browns fan, and I retract my previous offer. Hey Paulina I see you're from Poland...

btw - I'm NOT a Cleveland Browns fan - as for hiking, I'll wait till the weather warms up a bit - way too cold for me. I'll need more than trail mix and a smoothie, an entire dinner would be much better

shep

81 wrote:

shep wrote:

I would like to see that list of references just out of curiosity though... :twisted:

my cigar payment is coming next month for one, and i've secured a spot at the head table for the other.

So... i'm unclear... are you a smoking, matchmaker baby, or a pimp?

81

shep wrote:

81 wrote:

shep wrote:

I would like to see that list of references just out of curiosity though... :twisted:

my cigar payment is coming next month for one, and i've secured a spot at the head table for the other.

So... i'm unclear... are you a smoking, matchmaker baby, or a pimp?

depends on what you are looking for

shep

81 wrote:

depends on what you are looking for

Next time I'm in Chicago I'll give you a ring.

Mamasan23

Just saw this thread, congrats Thoughts_Arrive! Good luck, just be cool and yourself, try not to over-analyze it. Keep us posted!!

PJ_Soul

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Get this, today she invited me to a movies night she organised for next week, a catch up with people she hasn't seen in ages including me. I am tentative about this as I have fallen out with some of these people.
I texted her back and asked if she wants to catch up for coffee, she agreed and only a few mins ago via Facebook chat did we agree Wednesday night at a local cafe. Anxious has hell now.
Wish me luck.
My last date at this place was a disaster.
I always fear not having things to talk about, I am a quiet guy and not a great conversationalist.

Yay!! Good luck!

whispering hands

PJ_Soul wrote:

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Get this, today she invited me to a movies night she organised for next week, a catch up with people she hasn't seen in ages including me. I am tentative about this as I have fallen out with some of these people.
I texted her back and asked if she wants to catch up for coffee, she agreed and only a few mins ago via Facebook chat did we agree Wednesday night at a local cafe. Anxious has hell now.
Wish me luck.
My last date at this place was a disaster.
I always fear not having things to talk about, I am a quiet guy and not a great conversationalist.

Yay!! Good luck!

Yay! You did it! So happy! Just relax, listen to some good PJ before you
go, and enjoy the moment! Take each breath as if it were the last, and be
yourself! Most if all,have fun!! Good luck my friend, let us know how it goes

RKCNDY

Well sheesh! this place can certainly give a person the swift kick of confidence in the a$$!

If you're nervous, tell her! "sorry, I haven't seen you in a while, I'm a little nervous" she will put you at ease. It's better than being nervous, and she wonder's if you are sick or something.

81

RKCNDY wrote:

Well sheesh! this place can certainly give a person the swift kick of confidence in the a$$!

If you're nervous, tell her! "sorry, I haven't seen you in a while, I'm a little nervous" she will put you at ease. It's better than being nervous, and she wonder's if you are sick or something.

you never say you are nervous. it's better to fake it.

PJ_Soul

81 wrote:

RKCNDY wrote:

Well sheesh! this place can certainly give a person the swift kick of confidence in the a$$!

If you're nervous, tell her! "sorry, I haven't seen you in a while, I'm a little nervous" she will put you at ease. It's better than being nervous, and she wonder's if you are sick or something.

you never say you are nervous. it's better to fake it.

I was just about to say that it's a good idea to say you're nervous if you really are, because it will explain a lot if you're acting weird and at the same time is endearing. Most women take it as a compliment.

81

really?

put on a double dose of anti persperant

mydogmookieblaylock

81 wrote:

RKCNDY wrote:

Well sheesh! this place can certainly give a person the swift kick of confidence in the a$$!

If you're nervous, tell her! "sorry, I haven't seen you in a while, I'm a little nervous" she will put you at ease. It's better than being nervous, and she wonder's if you are sick or something.

you never say you are nervous. it's better to fake it.

or fake being nervous ....

whatever you do - make sure it is fake. girls love it when you deceive them.

PJ_Soul

mydogmookieblaylock wrote:

81 wrote:

RKCNDY wrote:

Well sheesh! this place can certainly give a person the swift kick of confidence in the a$$!

If you're nervous, tell her! "sorry, I haven't seen you in a while, I'm a little nervous" she will put you at ease. It's better than being nervous, and she wonder's if you are sick or something.

you never say you are nervous. it's better to fake it.

or fake being nervous ....

whatever you do - make sure it is fake. girls love it when you deceive them.

81

faking confidence is not the same thing as being fake.

PJ_Soul

81 wrote:

faking confidence is not the same thing as being fake.

No it's not... But a confident person can still be nervous. The two aren't really the same things. Not that Thoughts Arrived couldn't use more confidence. It's just that if he's nervous, it's okay for the girl to know it. It at least means he gives a shit.

donnaruhl

You guy's are beating a dead horse with this one. It's never gonna happen!

PJ_Soul

donnaruhl wrote:

You guy's are beating a dead horse with this one. It's never gonna happen!

:nono:
Dude's going out with her on Wednesday!