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  • Pamela0222
    Pamela0222 Posts: 1,544
    Haven't found a guy who doesn't play games in awhile.

    Sheila: Fill me in on your gameplan please!!! I want in!!!
    The thing I like most about time is that it's not real. It's all in the head. Sure, it's a useful trick to use if you want to meet someone at a specific place in the universe and have tea or coffee- but that's all it is- a trick. There is no such thing as the past. It exists only in the memory. There is no such thing as the future. It exists only in our imagination. If our watches were truly accurate, the only thing they would ever say is "Now". That's what time it is. It's "Now". - Damien Echols
  • of.the.girl
    of.the.girl Posts: 10,026
    Pamela0222 wrote:
    Haven't found a guy who doesn't play games in awhile.

    Sheila: Fill me in on your gameplan please!!! I want in!!!

    When I figure that one out...I'll let you know. :lol:
  • stargirl69
    stargirl69 Posts: 6,387
    sheila0225 wrote:



    ME TOO!!! Headgames are the worst. I never used to be forward...and in recent months...I've been confident..which lead me to be a little more up front. But it seems to be backfiring. Oh well. Back to the drawing board

    I agree,I have met and dated men who all say they want a women with a strong character, with confidence and intelligence who has opinions and ideas and can hold a conversation.
    They get al that then decide they don't like it as much as they first claim,then the head games and drama starts.
    They seem to feel emasculated when faced with what they think the want.Than I am left confused and uncertain.
    This has happened to me so often I have all but given up
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  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    _ wrote:
    RKCNDY wrote:
    I've always been up front and honest when I was single, guys didn't seem to like that. They'd stop calling, and so I'd forget about them, then they start calling again...I hate head games!

    Yes, that's my experience too. :(

    last time I was single was in '99...guys haven't changed. I was really progressive back then...now I see they are telling single girls "don't date just one guy...too much pressure on 'trying to make it work', date several guys so you keep your options open" that didn't work back then...does it work now?
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  • chadwick
    chadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    it's not hard at all
    ya see someone ya like
    and ya talk to em
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    "Hear me, my chiefs!
    I am tired; my heart is
    sick and sad. From where
    the sun stands I will fight
    no more forever."

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  • chadwick
    chadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    edited February 2012
    stargirl69 wrote:
    sheila0225 wrote:



    ME TOO!!! Headgames are the worst. I never used to be forward...and in recent months...I've been confident..which lead me to be a little more up front. But it seems to be backfiring. Oh well. Back to the drawing board

    I agree,I have met and dated men who all say they want a women with a strong character, with confidence and intelligence who has opinions and ideas and can hold a conversation.
    They get al that then decide they don't like it as much as they first claim,then the head games and drama starts.
    They seem to feel emasculated when faced with what they think the want.Than I am left confused and uncertain.
    This has happened to me so often I have all but given up
    well you are in Scotland for christ sakes
    Scot men physically are unable to show feelings, fact. hell, Scotsmen cannot even shed a full tear, fact.
    dating, or even having sex with a Scotmen would be difficult. as all they wanna do is throw rocks, wear kilts, play the bag, and drink lots of super dark strong ales
    Post edited by chadwick on
    for poetry through the ceiling. ISBN: 1 4241 8840 7

    "Hear me, my chiefs!
    I am tired; my heart is
    sick and sad. From where
    the sun stands I will fight
    no more forever."

    Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
  • GivenToLukinKP
    GivenToLukinKP Chicago Posts: 3,076
    sheila0225 wrote:
    _ wrote:
    RKCNDY wrote:
    yeah what gives?

    woman: 'I had a great time tonight we should go out again"
    man: 'uuhhh uhhh"....runs away

    what's up with that?
    (shelia, maybe we should start a new thread)

    Don't start a new thread on my account. I'd love to know the answer to this too! I've had the same problem before and don't want to have it again now.


    ME TOO!!! Headgames are the worst. I never used to be forward...and in recent months...I've been confident..which lead me to be a little more up front. But it seems to be backfiring. Oh well. Back to the drawing board

    RE: Headgames....
    Once you get past the meeting them/going out at least once, I think it comes down to this:
    If he likes you, he will make it a point to talk to you/see you.

    If he says and acts like he 'had a great time' and then doesn't call/completley ignores you, he is an immature d-bag and does not DESERVE your attention. at all. My number one rule: DO NOT be the crazy girl. Ever. Its OK to reach out after you see him once, but don't keep calling him and leaving messages, stop texting him, stop stalking his facebook/other online activities, stop checking your phone and your email obsessively...stop. Just stop. I have seen SO many friends go through this...TOO many! Don't fool yourself or make excuses, just move on. There are plenty of great guys out there, you just gotta stop chasing the assholes.
    Makes much more sense...

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  • chadwick wrote:
    stargirl69 wrote:
    sheila0225 wrote:



    ME TOO!!! Headgames are the worst. I never used to be forward...and in recent months...I've been confident..which lead me to be a little more up front. But it seems to be backfiring. Oh well. Back to the drawing board

    I agree,I have met and dated men who all say they want a women with a strong character, with confidence and intelligence who has opinions and ideas and can hold a conversation.
    They get al that then decide they don't like it as much as they first claim,then the head games and drama starts.
    They seem to feel emasculated when faced with what they think the want.Than I am left confused and uncertain.
    This has happened to me so often I have all but given up
    well you are in Scotland for christ sakes
    Scot men physically are unable to show feelings, fact. hell, Scotsmen cannot even shed a full tear, fact.
    dating, or even having sex with a Scotmen would be difficult. as all they wanna do is throw rocks, wear kilts, play the bag-thing, and drink lots of super dark strong ales
    Don't forget fudd punching...
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  • chadwick
    chadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    Don't forget fudd punching...
    see, even adam knows stuff.
    for poetry through the ceiling. ISBN: 1 4241 8840 7

    "Hear me, my chiefs!
    I am tired; my heart is
    sick and sad. From where
    the sun stands I will fight
    no more forever."

    Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
  • of.the.girl
    of.the.girl Posts: 10,026
    chadwick wrote:
    Don't forget fudd punching...
    see, even adam knows stuff.

    what the hell is fudd punching? :lol:
  • chadwick wrote:
    Don't forget fudd punching...
    see, even adam knows stuff.
    :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:
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  • sheila0225 wrote:
    chadwick wrote:
    Don't forget fudd punching...
    see, even adam knows stuff.

    what the hell is fudd punching? :lol:
    viewtopic.php?f=14&t=182052&p=4211814&hilit=fudd#p4211793
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  • mfc2006
    mfc2006 HTOWN Posts: 37,491
    i'm not a shy guy at all...but my wife made the first move & it worked! :D
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  • of.the.girl
    of.the.girl Posts: 10,026
    sheila0225 wrote:
    Don't forget fudd punching...

    what the hell is fudd punching? :lol:
    viewtopic.php?f=14&t=182052&p=4211814&hilit=fudd#p4211793

    but what the hell is a fudd? :lol:
  • sheila0225 wrote:
    but what the hell is a fudd? :lol:
    I was always afraid to ask :lol:
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  • mfc2006 wrote:
    i'm not a shy guy at all...but my wife made the first move & it worked! :D
    awesome!!! :)
    "...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
    "..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
    “..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
  • chadwick
    chadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    you women hold all the cards, all the time
    and...78% - 86% of you do not even know it

    the ones who are in this group
    hold a lot of power and they themselves
    are blinded to this amazing brilliance

    moments ago i lost a wonderful little piece for this thread
    but this computer blows ass and it is forever deleted
    lost
    and
    i am am pissy

    i had 10 rules of men getting for you women to check out
    for poetry through the ceiling. ISBN: 1 4241 8840 7

    "Hear me, my chiefs!
    I am tired; my heart is
    sick and sad. From where
    the sun stands I will fight
    no more forever."

    Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    sheila0225 wrote:
    but what the hell is a fudd? :lol:
    I was always afraid to ask :lol:

    a Scottish slang term for a woman's 'hoo-ha'
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    - Christopher McCandless
  • of.the.girl
    of.the.girl Posts: 10,026
    sheila0225 wrote:
    but what the hell is a fudd? :lol:
    I was always afraid to ask :lol:

    Well, now I'm asking....what in the sam hell is a "fudd"? :lol: Do I need to ask dunkman himself? :lol:
  • eeriepadave
    eeriepadave West Chester, PA Posts: 43,400
    _ wrote:
    How would you take it if a woman you didn't know had the hots for you & wanted to go out? How could the woman best approach the situation with you?

    wish this would happen to me :)
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