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  • _
    _ Posts: 6,657
    I just have to figure out how to actually see him again without seeming like a stalker. I don't think I could pull off the bumping-into-him-outside-his-office routine. :oops:
  • polaris_x
    polaris_x Posts: 13,559
    _ wrote:
    I just have to figure out how to actually see him again without seeming like a stalker. I don't think I could pull off the bumping-into-him-outside-his-office routine. :oops:

    send him an email ... say you've seen him around and ask him to go for lunch ... ;)
  • of.the.girl
    of.the.girl Posts: 10,026
    _ wrote:
    I just have to figure out how to actually see him again without seeming like a stalker. I don't think I could pull off the bumping-into-him-outside-his-office routine. :oops:

    How did you run into him the last time? Make it non chalent like that.
  • rick1zoo2
    rick1zoo2 between a rock and a dumb place Posts: 12,632
    I don't understand the question? :geek:
  • norm
    norm Posts: 31,146
    _ wrote:
    I just have to figure out how to actually see him again without seeming like a stalker. I don't think I could pull off the bumping-into-him-outside-his-office routine. :oops:

    here's the thing...you're thinking like a woman...most guys would love to be pursued like this
  • Black Diamond
    Black Diamond Posts: 25,109
    norm wrote:
    _ wrote:
    I just have to figure out how to actually see him again without seeming like a stalker. I don't think I could pull off the bumping-into-him-outside-his-office routine. :oops:

    here's the thing...you're thinking like a woman...most guys would love to be pursued like this
    +1
    And if he isn't flattered, he's crazy...
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  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    Black Diamond wrote:
    norm wrote:
    here's the thing...you're thinking like a woman...most guys would love to be pursued like this
    +1
    And if he isn't flattered, he's crazy...

    I guess I knew too many crazy guys... :(
    The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.

    - Christopher McCandless
  • of.the.girl
    of.the.girl Posts: 10,026
    Black Diamond wrote:
    norm wrote:
    _ wrote:
    I just have to figure out how to actually see him again without seeming like a stalker. I don't think I could pull off the bumping-into-him-outside-his-office routine. :oops:

    here's the thing...you're thinking like a woman...most guys would love to be pursued like this
    +1
    And if he isn't flattered, he's crazy...

    Is that what the problem is?
  • Black Diamond
    Black Diamond Posts: 25,109
    RKCNDY wrote:
    Black Diamond wrote:
    norm wrote:
    here's the thing...you're thinking like a woman...most guys would love to be pursued like this
    +1
    And if he isn't flattered, he's crazy...

    I guess I knew too many crazy guys... :(
    Seriously? And I say this as a very happily married man...
    You wouldn't have had to ask me twice...
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  • dimitrispearljam
    dimitrispearljam Posts: 139,725
    sheila0225 wrote:
    Black Diamond wrote:
    +1
    And if he isn't flattered, he's crazy...

    Is that what the problem is?
    i know what you mean,and this is very intresting question..
    there are some man,that freak out when women act like that ,cos they feel fear that cant control them..
    "...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
    "..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
    “..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
  • of.the.girl
    of.the.girl Posts: 10,026
    dimitrispearljam wrote:
    sheila0225 wrote:
    Black Diamond wrote:
    +1
    And if he isn't flattered, he's crazy...

    Is that what the problem is?
    i know what you mean,and this is very intresting question..
    there are some man,that freak out when women act like that ,cos they feel fear that cant control them..

    maybe it's because the man is typically the pursuer...not the pursuited.
  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    Black Diamond wrote:
    Seriously? And I say this as a very happily married man...
    You wouldn't have had to ask me twice...

    :| ...that's another thread all on it's own.

    but _, just make sure he's single, and just ask. Make it casual...coffee. (There isn't anything you could ask him for his help on at the school?) Then at coffee you can ask him to drinks...he might ask you to dinner. I've been turned down and stood up numerous times...but "I, oh, I'm still alive"
    The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.

    - Christopher McCandless
  • _
    _ Posts: 6,657
    polaris_x wrote:
    send him an email ... say you've seen him around and ask him to go for lunch ... ;)

    You think so?? I actually wrote him an email earlier, but then called a friend before hitting send and she said I would seem like I was stalking him. :(
    sheila0225 wrote:
    How did you run into him the last time? Make it non chalent like that.

    I saw him when I went out with some friends for karaoke. He was part of a big group of people my friends were meeting up with, but we all had different tables and he wasn't near ours. I didn't try to talk to him because he was with a girl. So I've never even met him. :oops:

    But I noticed him across the room and thought he was gorgeous (which never happens to me). Then my friends (who know who he is, but don't really know him) told me about him and their info made him even more attractive. Then he sang and I melted. And then I looked him up on our university website and on YouTube and that sealed it - I'm just smitten. :P

    Not only do I not know how to run in to him again, but I also don't know how to tell him I find him attractive for more than just his looks and his voice without giving it away that I looked him up online. :oops:
  • voidofman
    voidofman Posts: 4,009
    The biggest thing is to not come on too strong right away, that might freak out some people as they might not even know who you are and you're telling them all these things. Let him get to know you if that's possible. :mrgreen:

    Good luck!
  • dimitrispearljam
    dimitrispearljam Posts: 139,725
    sheila0225 wrote:
    [maybe it's because the man is typically the pursuer...not the pursuited.
    its not that..trust me..they feel fear....fear of independence woman,woman with confidence...
    the ones know what they want...isnt difficult to scare men,or freak them out,im not gonna tell you how,thow.. :mrgreen:
    "...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
    "..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
    “..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
  • norm
    norm Posts: 31,146
    Black Diamond wrote:
    You wouldn't have had to ask me twice...

    actually, she'd probably have to ask me twice since i wouldn't believe her :lol:
  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    _ wrote:

    I saw him when I went out with some friends for karaoke. Then he sang and I melted. And then I looked him up on our university website and on YouTube and that sealed it - I'm just smitten. :P

    Not only do I not know how to run in to him again, but I also don't know how to tell him I find him attractive for more than just his looks and his voice without giving it away that I looked him up online. :oops:

    you can't ask your friends about him? seems you have mutual friends...or you could just send him an email, and say, "I saw you at karaoke, and thought you sang really well, my friend told me who you were, and I'd love to see an encore...wanna grab drinks sometime?"
    The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.

    - Christopher McCandless
  • norm
    norm Posts: 31,146
    _ wrote:
    but I also don't know how to tell him I find him attractive for more than just his looks and his voice without giving it away that I looked him up online. :oops:

    ok well don't lead with that! ;):lol:
  • of.the.girl
    of.the.girl Posts: 10,026
    dimitrispearljam wrote:
    sheila0225 wrote:
    [maybe it's because the man is typically the pursuer...not the pursuited.
    its not that..trust me..they feel fear....fear of independence woman,woman with confidence...
    the ones know what they want...isnt difficult to scare men,or freak them out,im not gonna tell you how,thow.. :mrgreen:

    Fear of what? How is it that they can pursue you....and then the tables are flipped and you are pursuing them and they freak out? what gives?
  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    sheila0225 wrote:
    dimitrispearljam wrote:
    sheila0225 wrote:
    [maybe it's because the man is typically the pursuer...not the pursuited.
    its not that..trust me..they feel fear....fear of independence woman,woman with confidence...
    the ones know what they want...isnt difficult to scare men,or freak them out,im not gonna tell you how,thow.. :mrgreen:

    Fear of what? How is it that they can pursue you....and then the tables are flipped and you are pursuing them and they freak out? what gives?

    yeah what gives?

    woman: 'I had a great time tonight we should go out again"
    man: 'uuhhh uhhh"....runs away

    what's up with that?
    (shelia, maybe we should start a new thread)
    The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.

    - Christopher McCandless

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