A safe place for anxiety sufferers to share.

OffSheGoes35 · October 2019

Thoughts_Arrive said:

I'm so down and anxiety ridden that I have chest pains (happens every time I am in a shit mood).

If you're still in a shit mood when you read this, just don't do things that are going to make you even more upset. Do something creative, even if you know it is going to turn out to be shit. Let it be shit. Log out of FB, log out of this forum, and create something.

Thoughts_Arrive · October 2019

My anxiety level is through the roof this morning. I didn't sleep well. I'm seeing my GP soon.

Thoughts_Arrive · October 2019

HughFreakingDillon said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

I understand she has a boyfriend but at least a simple greeting wouldn't hurt. Maybe as said above she was in her own world.
Later in the day after posting the above, I was sitting on the floor outside the classroom where my tutorial was going to be and talking with a guy I know from the previous course I was enrolled in. When the tutorial finished she walked out and noticed me and and smiled and I waved hello and that was that. No, I wasn't stalking her, her tutorial is before mine and I was waiting.
I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone in my circle is in love but me. I feel so alone and terrified I will never find someone. No antidepressant will fix that.

the problem I see here is that you don't allow others to be in their own world. who knows what was going on in her head when she walked passed you. people deal with their own shit, and can't always be concerned or notice absolutely every other person they know. sometimes it's just too hard. there are an infinite number of reasons she may have not said hi.

also, why didn't YOU say hi?

I ask myself this same question all the time too. I have always had this anxiety and shyness when it comes to approaching someone to say hi. There was this girl I liked in high school who I would see on the bus to school in the mornings and I would pretend I didn't see her as I was terrified of saying hello.

Thoughts_Arrive · October 2019

PJ_Soul said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

I understand she has a boyfriend but at least a simple greeting wouldn't hurt. Maybe as said above she was in her own world.
Later in the day after posting the above, I was sitting on the floor outside the classroom where my tutorial was going to be and talking with a guy I know from the previous course I was enrolled in. When the tutorial finished she walked out and noticed me and and smiled and I waved hello and that was that. No, I wasn't stalking her, her tutorial is before mine and I was waiting.
I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone in my circle is in love but me. I feel so alone and terrified I will never find someone. No antidepressant will fix that.

the problem I see here is that you don't allow others to be in their own world. who knows what was going on in her head when she walked passed you. people deal with their own shit, and can't always be concerned or notice absolutely every other person they know. sometimes it's just too hard. there are an infinite number of reasons she may have not said hi.

also, why didn't YOU say hi?

I agree with all of this.
I also think that this woman with the serious boyfriend isn't up for grabs anyway, and that there is no reason for you to be sweating something so much when all it is and all it can be is a casual friendship at most.

I agree. I hate the way my mind works.

Thoughts_Arrive · October 2019

OffSheGoes35 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

I'm so down and anxiety ridden that I have chest pains (happens every time I am in a shit mood).

If you're still in a shit mood when you read this, just don't do things that are going to make you even more upset. Do something creative, even if you know it is going to turn out to be shit. Let it be shit. Log out of FB, log out of this forum, and create something.

I wanted to draw something last night but couldn't motivate myself.

Thoughts_Arrive · October 2019

My GP increased my dose.
She said what I was on was not a therapeutic dose, it was just to ease my way onto this new drug.
I am sorry about the shit that came out of my keyboard last night.

Fifthelement · October 2019

Thoughts_Arrive said:

My GP increased my dose.
She said what I was on was not a therapeutic dose, it was just to ease my way onto this new drug.
I am sorry about the shit that came out of my keyboard last night.

No apologies necessary. Good luck as you work towards finding a dosage that works for you. Don’t give up hope during the process. Recognise that it will take time.

Thoughts_Arrive · October 2019

Thanks S.
I feel better today, albeit tired from a lack of sleep. I managed to go shopping after my GP to get out and keep busy. Had to buy some things for the kitchen.

HughFreakingDillon · October 2019

Thoughts_Arrive said:

My GP increased my dose.
She said what I was on was not a therapeutic dose, it was just to ease my way onto this new drug.
I am sorry about the shit that came out of my keyboard last night.

the title of the thread is a SAFE PLACE. don't apologize. it's not necessary here.

Matts3221 · October 2019

PJ_Soul said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

I understand she has a boyfriend but at least a simple greeting wouldn't hurt. Maybe as said above she was in her own world.
Later in the day after posting the above, I was sitting on the floor outside the classroom where my tutorial was going to be and talking with a guy I know from the previous course I was enrolled in. When the tutorial finished she walked out and noticed me and and smiled and I waved hello and that was that. No, I wasn't stalking her, her tutorial is before mine and I was waiting.
I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone in my circle is in love but me. I feel so alone and terrified I will never find someone. No antidepressant will fix that.

the problem I see here is that you don't allow others to be in their own world. who knows what was going on in her head when she walked passed you. people deal with their own shit, and can't always be concerned or notice absolutely every other person they know. sometimes it's just too hard. there are an infinite number of reasons she may have not said hi.

also, why didn't YOU say hi?

I agree with all of this.
I also think that this woman with the serious boyfriend isn't up for grabs anyway, and that there is no reason for you to be sweating something so much when all it is and all it can be is a casual friendship at most.

I agree with both of the above. Thoughts_Arrived if you don't mind me asking how old are you? I think that too much is placed on humans that you need to have a partner at a certain age or need to be in love or need to have a certain job.

When really every human is so different, I had no serious girlfriend from 19-32 , just hung out with my friends , honestly did not want to be in a relationship and even when I was I would self sabotage it with my fears , worries or depression. I would project what I was feeling the other person was thinking on them. So in my mind I would assume someone was upset with me , I would then be upset with them and not even ask what was going on.

I believe one cannot truly love until you love yourself for who you are. It took me over 10 years to realize that I loved myself for who I was , all my flaws , all my issues , my happiness my sadness it is what makes me who I am for better or worst.

I am not trying to make you feel bad at all because this is a safe space but it feels like you are putting a lot on you have to meet someone , you have to be with someone now and if you are not then you will be alone forever. That can sometimes create some desperation and I can tell you that those who do love themselves can smell that desperation a mile away. Try to take it day by day , don't think that just because someone does not say hello it is a slight to you , they could have found out someone in their family has a serious illness or they could also be depressed or have anxiety and think you are not saying hi to them.

Just take it day by day , you will get there. If everyday you are looking to fall in love it is really not going to happen , just take a deep breath , when you feel slighted don't bury the emotions you have. Let them fester for five mins or so and then move on from there.

HughFreakingDillon · October 2019

Matts3221 said:

PJ_Soul said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

I understand she has a boyfriend but at least a simple greeting wouldn't hurt. Maybe as said above she was in her own world.
Later in the day after posting the above, I was sitting on the floor outside the classroom where my tutorial was going to be and talking with a guy I know from the previous course I was enrolled in. When the tutorial finished she walked out and noticed me and and smiled and I waved hello and that was that. No, I wasn't stalking her, her tutorial is before mine and I was waiting.
I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone in my circle is in love but me. I feel so alone and terrified I will never find someone. No antidepressant will fix that.

the problem I see here is that you don't allow others to be in their own world. who knows what was going on in her head when she walked passed you. people deal with their own shit, and can't always be concerned or notice absolutely every other person they know. sometimes it's just too hard. there are an infinite number of reasons she may have not said hi.

also, why didn't YOU say hi?

I agree with all of this.
I also think that this woman with the serious boyfriend isn't up for grabs anyway, and that there is no reason for you to be sweating something so much when all it is and all it can be is a casual friendship at most.

I agree with both of the above. Thoughts_Arrived if you don't mind me asking how old are you? I think that too much is placed on humans that you need to have a partner at a certain age or need to be in love or need to have a certain job.
When really every human is so different, I had no serious girlfriend from 19-32 , just hung out with my friends , honestly did not want to be in a relationship and even when I was I would self sabotage it with my fears , worries or depression. I would project what I was feeling the other person was thinking on them. So in my mind I would assume someone was upset with me , I would then be upset with them and not even ask what was going on.
I believe one cannot truly love until you love yourself for who you are. It took me over 10 years to realize that I loved myself for who I was , all my flaws , all my issues , my happiness my sadness it is what makes me who I am for better or worst.
I am not trying to make you feel bad at all because this is a safe space but it feels like you are putting a lot on you have to meet someone , you have to be with someone now and if you are not then you will be alone forever. That can sometimes create some desperation and I can tell you that those who do love themselves can smell that desperation a mile away. Try to take it day by day , don't think that just because someone does not say hello it is a slight to you , they could have found out someone in their family has a serious illness or they could also be depressed or have anxiety and think you are not saying hi to them.
Just take it day by day , you will get there. If everyday you are looking to fall in love it is really not going to happen , just take a deep breath , when you feel slighted don't bury the emotions you have. Let them fester for five mins or so and then move on from there.

matt is right. this really is the biggest thing. I know from experience. a healthy relationship can only exist if both parties are confident about their own selves. hating yourself will only attract people that will treat you accordingly.

work on yourself and the rest will flow.

Thoughts_Arrive · October 2019

Matts3221 said:

PJ_Soul said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

I understand she has a boyfriend but at least a simple greeting wouldn't hurt. Maybe as said above she was in her own world.
Later in the day after posting the above, I was sitting on the floor outside the classroom where my tutorial was going to be and talking with a guy I know from the previous course I was enrolled in. When the tutorial finished she walked out and noticed me and and smiled and I waved hello and that was that. No, I wasn't stalking her, her tutorial is before mine and I was waiting.
I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone in my circle is in love but me. I feel so alone and terrified I will never find someone. No antidepressant will fix that.

the problem I see here is that you don't allow others to be in their own world. who knows what was going on in her head when she walked passed you. people deal with their own shit, and can't always be concerned or notice absolutely every other person they know. sometimes it's just too hard. there are an infinite number of reasons she may have not said hi.

also, why didn't YOU say hi?

I agree with all of this.
I also think that this woman with the serious boyfriend isn't up for grabs anyway, and that there is no reason for you to be sweating something so much when all it is and all it can be is a casual friendship at most.

I agree with both of the above. Thoughts_Arrived if you don't mind me asking how old are you? I think that too much is placed on humans that you need to have a partner at a certain age or need to be in love or need to have a certain job.
When really every human is so different, I had no serious girlfriend from 19-32 , just hung out with my friends , honestly did not want to be in a relationship and even when I was I would self sabotage it with my fears , worries or depression. I would project what I was feeling the other person was thinking on them. So in my mind I would assume someone was upset with me , I would then be upset with them and not even ask what was going on.
I believe one cannot truly love until you love yourself for who you are. It took me over 10 years to realize that I loved myself for who I was , all my flaws , all my issues , my happiness my sadness it is what makes me who I am for better or worst.
I am not trying to make you feel bad at all because this is a safe space but it feels like you are putting a lot on you have to meet someone , you have to be with someone now and if you are not then you will be alone forever. That can sometimes create some desperation and I can tell you that those who do love themselves can smell that desperation a mile away. Try to take it day by day , don't think that just because someone does not say hello it is a slight to you , they could have found out someone in their family has a serious illness or they could also be depressed or have anxiety and think you are not saying hi to them.
Just take it day by day , you will get there. If everyday you are looking to fall in love it is really not going to happen , just take a deep breath , when you feel slighted don't bury the emotions you have. Let them fester for five mins or so and then move on from there.

Thanks for the words.

I'm 35.

My parents are unhappy that I have not married and had kids.

Thoughts_Arrive · October 2019

HughFreakingDillon said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

My GP increased my dose.
She said what I was on was not a therapeutic dose, it was just to ease my way onto this new drug.
I am sorry about the shit that came out of my keyboard last night.

the title of the thread is a SAFE PLACE. don't apologize. it's not necessary here.

Thanks for understanding

tempo_n_groove · October 2019

lastexitlondon said:

hedonist said:

Some meds take a bit of time to do their thing. Maybe chalk it up to that, or just a low period?

And lastexit, I hope you're looking into other ways (rehab, therapy, etc.) to help you out. There's never any shame in reaching out, in order to make your body and mind well.

Ive lost all hope. I couldn't get up at all . I seriously think my time is up. Thanks for all the love and care.

Woah!

Message me. I don't ck my Whts app often but message me here.

I'll take none of this nonsense. My friend is in there and I'd like to talk to him please!!!

Rob, my friend. Give me a jingle please!

PS, yes I posted this publicly, you can tell me I'm a wanker later...

lastexitlondon · October 2019

Sorry chris. Ive whatsapped you. Ive never been this bad. Nothing works im in distress all day all night. My race seems to be ran.
I can only thank everyone over the last few years for listening to my plight with warm hearts. Good souls. Im sorry all i would write will be upsetting others maybe. Ive tried not to post.

Thoughts_Arrive · October 2019

I am so sorry, I struggle to comprehend how no facility will help you.
Have you tried looking for psychologists that specialise in health anxiety?

SD48277 · October 2019

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Matts3221 said:

PJ_Soul said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

I understand she has a boyfriend but at least a simple greeting wouldn't hurt. Maybe as said above she was in her own world.
Later in the day after posting the above, I was sitting on the floor outside the classroom where my tutorial was going to be and talking with a guy I know from the previous course I was enrolled in. When the tutorial finished she walked out and noticed me and and smiled and I waved hello and that was that. No, I wasn't stalking her, her tutorial is before mine and I was waiting.
I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone in my circle is in love but me. I feel so alone and terrified I will never find someone. No antidepressant will fix that.

the problem I see here is that you don't allow others to be in their own world. who knows what was going on in her head when she walked passed you. people deal with their own shit, and can't always be concerned or notice absolutely every other person they know. sometimes it's just too hard. there are an infinite number of reasons she may have not said hi.

also, why didn't YOU say hi?

I agree with all of this.
I also think that this woman with the serious boyfriend isn't up for grabs anyway, and that there is no reason for you to be sweating something so much when all it is and all it can be is a casual friendship at most.

I agree with both of the above. Thoughts_Arrived if you don't mind me asking how old are you? I think that too much is placed on humans that you need to have a partner at a certain age or need to be in love or need to have a certain job.
When really every human is so different, I had no serious girlfriend from 19-32 , just hung out with my friends , honestly did not want to be in a relationship and even when I was I would self sabotage it with my fears , worries or depression. I would project what I was feeling the other person was thinking on them. So in my mind I would assume someone was upset with me , I would then be upset with them and not even ask what was going on.
I believe one cannot truly love until you love yourself for who you are. It took me over 10 years to realize that I loved myself for who I was , all my flaws , all my issues , my happiness my sadness it is what makes me who I am for better or worst.
I am not trying to make you feel bad at all because this is a safe space but it feels like you are putting a lot on you have to meet someone , you have to be with someone now and if you are not then you will be alone forever. That can sometimes create some desperation and I can tell you that those who do love themselves can smell that desperation a mile away. Try to take it day by day , don't think that just because someone does not say hello it is a slight to you , they could have found out someone in their family has a serious illness or they could also be depressed or have anxiety and think you are not saying hi to them.
Just take it day by day , you will get there. If everyday you are looking to fall in love it is really not going to happen , just take a deep breath , when you feel slighted don't bury the emotions you have. Let them fester for five mins or so and then move on from there.

Thanks for the words.
I'm 35.
My parents are unhappy that I have not married and had kids.

Then that is on them. You have to live your life, not the life others want for you.

deadendp · October 2019

I don't know that there are many of us living the life our parents planned for us. My parents? Yes. I could balance a ball on my nose and they would be good with it. However, neither my husband or I am good enough with anything we do in my in-law's eyes.

I am not who they chose for their son.

Their son does not have a job high level enough for them.

My job is not high level enough for them.

We adopted a county baby and not a foreign baby.

We don't live in a big enough house with big enough cars and super sized egos.

We do not care what they think. We do not care what others think. We live the life that makes three of us in our home happy.

Be happy in your own skin. Don't worry about others.

hedonist · October 2019

Wise words from my dear friends above.

TA, being a Tool fan, you may have heard / appreciate this. The lyrics helped me to finally take that bite and change my life, in ways, for the better. For myself.

https://youtu.be/cF8s3qw3Xzg

Fifthelement · October 2019

lastexitlondon said:

Sorry chris. Ive whatsapped you. Ive never been this bad. Nothing works im in distress all day all night. My race seems to be ran.
I can only thank everyone over the last few years for listening to my plight with warm hearts. Good souls. Im sorry all i would write will be upsetting others maybe. Ive tried not to post.

Rob, you are not thinking clearly. Things are too big and unmanageable for you right now. You NEED to check yourself into hospital right now. Things are bad for you now, but they can get better. Please DO NOT give up on yourself! Your are a good soul who just needs a break. Hospitalisation may be the reset that can get you back on the path to a manageable life. We are all in your corner rooting for you. Please seek help.

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