Should I ask Agnes out on a date?

Spiritual_Chaos said:

Why isn't this thread focusing on me anymore.

OffSheGoes35 said:

darwinstheory said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

Why isn't this thread focusing on me anymore.

Okay okay, how about asking Agnes if she wants to be "fb's". You're both single. Both with needs. Maybe at least a casual lay would serve the both of you well?

That's like asking someone for a bite of their food, having them say no, and then asking for all the food that surrounds that bite instead.

HughFreakingDillon said:

oftenreading said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

rgambs said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

PJ_Soul said:

rgambs said:

PJ_Soul said:

Why do you think that people without kids and lots of free time waste their time?? I do indeed have tons of free time, which I relish, and I'm not wasting my life, thanks.

I wasn't talking about you, I was talking about people in real life.
Watching dancing with the stars and shopping for junk at outlet malls and flea markets is a waste of a life, whether a person is content with it or not, IMO.

In real life, I have tons of free time and am not wasting it, lol.

I figure that whatever makes a person content and satisfied in life is never a waste of time or a life. Who are we to judge how someone finds contentment in their own life?? Now if someone is lying there on the couch watching garbage TV all the time and they're miserable and depressed and fucking hate themselves for it, then that's a waste, yes (and they should really talk to a professional about it). But if they're content and happy doing that? Or get real joy out of going to flea markets everyday? Not at all. IMO.

I would agree. saying someone who is content and happy is wasting their life because it doesn't fit your definition of a full life is assinine.  

It's not asinine, you just don't like it.  Wouldn't you be perfectly willing to consider a life wasted if it was spent languishing in a heroin stupor?  It makes them content and happy, but you'd still consider it a waste.  
I draw the line a few miles from there, but it's not as extreme as it sounds, I know people way more extreme than that.
People who live in a way that is essentially, if you aren't on the edge you are taking up too much space.

I stand by it. alright, assinine may have been a bit strong, but I still find it ridiculous that a content life is a wasted life. that makes zero sense. 

the entire point of life is to be happy, not someone else's version of happy. 

Interesting. I don't share the view that the point of life is to be happy. I cringe a bit when I hear parents tell their kids that they should do whatever makes them happy. I think life has to be about more than happiness; I think it has to have at least some purpose that involves giving of yourself to others, otherwise it's empty. The "others" absolutely don't have to be children, but it needs to be something other than an entire focus on yourself and your own wants. 

but a large part of what makes good people happy is helping others, contributing to society, etc. I dont' equate personal happiness necessarily with selfishness. 

oftenreading said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

oftenreading said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

rgambs said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

PJ_Soul said:

rgambs said:

PJ_Soul said:

Why do you think that people without kids and lots of free time waste their time?? I do indeed have tons of free time, which I relish, and I'm not wasting my life, thanks.

I wasn't talking about you, I was talking about people in real life.
Watching dancing with the stars and shopping for junk at outlet malls and flea markets is a waste of a life, whether a person is content with it or not, IMO.

In real life, I have tons of free time and am not wasting it, lol.

I figure that whatever makes a person content and satisfied in life is never a waste of time or a life. Who are we to judge how someone finds contentment in their own life?? Now if someone is lying there on the couch watching garbage TV all the time and they're miserable and depressed and fucking hate themselves for it, then that's a waste, yes (and they should really talk to a professional about it). But if they're content and happy doing that? Or get real joy out of going to flea markets everyday? Not at all. IMO.

I would agree. saying someone who is content and happy is wasting their life because it doesn't fit your definition of a full life is assinine.  

It's not asinine, you just don't like it.  Wouldn't you be perfectly willing to consider a life wasted if it was spent languishing in a heroin stupor?  It makes them content and happy, but you'd still consider it a waste.  
I draw the line a few miles from there, but it's not as extreme as it sounds, I know people way more extreme than that.
People who live in a way that is essentially, if you aren't on the edge you are taking up too much space.

I stand by it. alright, assinine may have been a bit strong, but I still find it ridiculous that a content life is a wasted life. that makes zero sense. 

the entire point of life is to be happy, not someone else's version of happy. 

Interesting. I don't share the view that the point of life is to be happy. I cringe a bit when I hear parents tell their kids that they should do whatever makes them happy. I think life has to be about more than happiness; I think it has to have at least some purpose that involves giving of yourself to others, otherwise it's empty. The "others" absolutely don't have to be children, but it needs to be something other than an entire focus on yourself and your own wants. 

but a large part of what makes good people happy is helping others, contributing to society, etc. I dont' equate personal happiness necessarily with selfishness. 

Sure. I probably didn't elaborate enough on my comment. I was more referring to what I would see as the self-involved quest for happiness as its own goal, rather than happiness coming from a rich life. 

HesCalledDyer said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

oftenreading said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

oftenreading said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

rgambs said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

PJ_Soul said:

rgambs said:

PJ_Soul said:

Why do you think that people without kids and lots of free time waste their time?? I do indeed have tons of free time, which I relish, and I'm not wasting my life, thanks.

I wasn't talking about you, I was talking about people in real life.
Watching dancing with the stars and shopping for junk at outlet malls and flea markets is a waste of a life, whether a person is content with it or not, IMO.

In real life, I have tons of free time and am not wasting it, lol.

I figure that whatever makes a person content and satisfied in life is never a waste of time or a life. Who are we to judge how someone finds contentment in their own life?? Now if someone is lying there on the couch watching garbage TV all the time and they're miserable and depressed and fucking hate themselves for it, then that's a waste, yes (and they should really talk to a professional about it). But if they're content and happy doing that? Or get real joy out of going to flea markets everyday? Not at all. IMO.

I would agree. saying someone who is content and happy is wasting their life because it doesn't fit your definition of a full life is assinine.  

It's not asinine, you just don't like it.  Wouldn't you be perfectly willing to consider a life wasted if it was spent languishing in a heroin stupor?  It makes them content and happy, but you'd still consider it a waste.  
I draw the line a few miles from there, but it's not as extreme as it sounds, I know people way more extreme than that.
People who live in a way that is essentially, if you aren't on the edge you are taking up too much space.

I stand by it. alright, assinine may have been a bit strong, but I still find it ridiculous that a content life is a wasted life. that makes zero sense. 

the entire point of life is to be happy, not someone else's version of happy. 

Interesting. I don't share the view that the point of life is to be happy. I cringe a bit when I hear parents tell their kids that they should do whatever makes them happy. I think life has to be about more than happiness; I think it has to have at least some purpose that involves giving of yourself to others, otherwise it's empty. The "others" absolutely don't have to be children, but it needs to be something other than an entire focus on yourself and your own wants. 

but a large part of what makes good people happy is helping others, contributing to society, etc. I dont' equate personal happiness necessarily with selfishness. 

Sure. I probably didn't elaborate enough on my comment. I was more referring to what I would see as the self-involved quest for happiness as its own goal, rather than happiness coming from a rich life. 

yeah, I guess I just don't believe that a self-involved quest for happiness ever ends up successful. not long term anyway. 

"Sorry is the fool who trades his soul for a Corvette"