Should I ask her out?

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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    donnaruhl wrote:
    Sound's to me that yuo're weighing out the odd's by explaining the why I shouldn't.I think Wolf was right, You'll never know either way unless you ask.It's all casual. Now had you asked her years ago when you had the crush on her it probably would have scared you for some time. So just hit send. :)

    Held onto how I feel from her for a long time.
    Kept it locked in me.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    STAYSEA wrote:
    ASK HER BROTHER, FIRST.

    Siblings are honest and very direct, usually.

    If it's just a catch up over coffee or whatever it's not like I am going out with her right?
    If it were to go to another level then I'd tell her brother.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • STAYSEA
    STAYSEA Posts: 3,814
    edited January 2013
    I suppose Female opinions don't count.

    :roll:

    Just Coffee!
    But The Bro is your friend... If it goes farther. Just ask him. She could be a flake?
    Casual.
    PM if it goes nutz
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  • donnaruhl
    donnaruhl Posts: 2,157
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    Only downside she is a RnB chick lol

    You are telling us about the con's but you're not telling us the pro's. You need to weight this out in your own mind.
    What do you have in common?
  • 81
    81 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    If the brother is sort of out of the picture, fuck him.
    81 is now off the air

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  • 81
    81 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    Only downside she is a RnB chick lol
    Who cares, this isnt about a wedding, its about going on a date
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  • SD48277
    SD48277 Posts: 12,243
    Ask her!
    ELITIST FUK
  • iOnlyownMymind
    iOnlyownMymind Posts: 2,969
    I think I'm probably as chicken as you, but there's no harm in going out for coffee. I don't think I'd worry about the brother either unless he's super defensive about her.
  • the wolf
    the wolf Posts: 7,027
    81 wrote:
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    Only downside she is a RnB chick lol
    Who cares, this isnt about a wedding, its about going on a date

    This.
    Peace, Love.

    "To question your government is not unpatriotic --
    to not question your government is unpatriotic."
    -- Sen. Chuck Hagel
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    STAYSEA wrote:
    I suppose Female opinions don't count.

    :roll:

    Just Coffee!
    But The Bro is your friend... If it goes farther. Just ask him. She could be a flake?
    Casual.
    PM if it goes nutz

    I haven't spoken to her brother in over a year now, wouldn't say he's a friend if he's stopped calling me.
    I didn't say your opinion don't count, I just disagree sorry.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • dimitrispearljam
    dimitrispearljam Posts: 139,726
    as it seems all will tell you the same...ask he out..
    from the moment you know her brother,then go slowly,with a coffee first..
    if goes ok,and want to see eachother again,better be hosest to the brother..
    trust me,is better he hears first from you,than someone see you out with his sister and tell him about it
    "...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
    "..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
    “..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
  • 81
    81 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    81 wrote:
    Pics?



    I'd wait till she was online and then ask her then, but i would ask her.

    You think it'd be creepy if she wasn't online or..?

    Given the choice, i would prefer her online, but offline is ok ...

    Maybe something super simple like...

    Hey, just thinking....we should go out for a drink sometime...here's my number, feel free to text and we can figure out the details
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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    donnaruhl wrote:
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    Only downside she is a RnB chick lol

    You are telling us about the con's but you're not telling us the pro's. You need to weight this out in your own mind.
    What do you have in common?

    Our ethnicity lol.
    I have to talk to her more to see if we have more common ground.
    I find it hard to meet women, so she's the only one I know who I have contact with and who is single.
    To be honest I don't have much in common with anyone, noone likes the music I like, or art, or guitar...
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • peacefrompaul
    peacefrompaul Posts: 25,293
    You don't need to ask the brother... she isn't a little girl.

    Just do it
  • SD48277
    SD48277 Posts: 12,243
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    Our ethnicity lol.
    I have to talk to her more to see if we have more common ground.
    I find it hard to meet women, so she's the only one I know who I have contact with and who is single.
    To be honest I don't have much in common with anyone, noone likes the music I like, or art, or guitar...
    You may have more in common than you realize. Ask her out.
    ELITIST FUK
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    dimitrispearljam wrote:
    as it seems all will tell you the same...ask he out..
    from the moment you know her brother,then go slowly,with a coffee first..
    if goes ok,and want to see eachother again,better be hosest to the brother..
    trust me,is better he hears first from you,than someone see you out with his sister and tell him about it

    I know dude. I am not like that, I'd tell him, I'd even go over to his house or call him.
    For just a catch up over coffee I don't think he needs to know, if I were to tell him before asking her out then it would imply that I want a romantic relationship and that might scare her away.
    This is all too complicated, my life is that way. :(
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    peacefrompaul wrote:
    You don't need to ask the brother... she isn't a little girl.

    Just do it

    They are twins, twins are close.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • peacefrompaul
    peacefrompaul Posts: 25,293
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    peacefrompaul wrote:
    You don't need to ask the brother... she isn't a little girl.

    Just do it

    They are twins, twins are close.

    I missed that
  • iOnlyownMymind
    iOnlyownMymind Posts: 2,969
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    This is all too complicated, my life is that way. :(


    Would you like to go out for coffee sometime? SEND

    Not complicated ;):)
  • SD48277
    SD48277 Posts: 12,243
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    This is all too complicated, my life is that way. :(
    Keep it simple. As 81 says, this isn't a wedding--you are just getting together to catch up and hang out with someone you like. Don't put unnecessary pressure on yourself.
    ELITIST FUK

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