Sister is in a Abusive relationship ...

pandora wrote:

I recall the irony that it was my sister committed for treatment after he left her broken and her x husband went on in life to torment more women.
I said before in my post if there are no victims there can be no abusers speaking of empowering women as you say but unfortunately I agree with 4 and 20, often the damage has been done
to the strongest of women, even empowered women. In many cases the women leave but are stalked even killed because of leaving.

It's hard for me to believe 41 years later, since my sisters experience, men are still beating women.
What's it gonna take?
Men need to show men this won't be tolerated in whatever way is needed.
It is still a man's world and they need to protect their sisters.

eyedclaar wrote:

My experiences have taught me that human beings are cowards, especially bullies who would pick on women and children. Confront them and they back down like scared little dogs.:

norm wrote:

Dissidentman wrote:

To the rest of your post - ya just don't fuck with a dude who knowingly leaves his house wearing Crocs.

true...he might hit you with his purse

eyedclaar wrote:

My experiences have taught me that human beings are cowards, especially bullies who would pick on women and children. Confront them and they back down like scared little dogs. You probably wouldn't even have to actually physically harm the individual as long as they truly believe that you are fully capable of it. Hell, I once challenged an entire frat to a fight, in their house no less, and even after a dozen of them had assembled, not one was willing to step forward, let alone the whole group. One of my most stupid, but proudest moments...

catefrances wrote:

g under p wrote:

I totally understand your situation and I probably would feel the same way. However, in the situation with the OP sister beating him up I feel will only create an even worse situation.

peace

agreed. he may well blame her for his beating and visit upon her tenfold what was visited upon him to teach her a lesson.

_ wrote:

g under p wrote:

VIOLENCE only Begets More VIOLENCE


Matthew 26:52, NIV: "Put your sword back in its place," Jesus said to him, "for all who draw the sword will die by the sword".

I can only see this violent situation his sister is in will only escalate with her in the middle of it. A dear love of mine escaped her extremely violent ex husband when he was arrested and sent away to jail for 2.5 years. He threatened to kill her while there but she had made up her mind and followed through with a divorce. Kept her house and all of her children.

His time there I think changed his violent ways and has now helped her out from time to time with the 4 children. We have not walked a mile in his sister shoes as to why she is still defending him and her husband may look at any retaliation against him as a home invasion and react with even more violence.

Peace

Finally some sense around here. OP, don't risk putting your sister's life into more danger on the advice of some macho message-board wankers.

tinkerbell wrote:

I totally agree with you prism.

g under p wrote:

eyedclaar wrote:

G under P, I am curious as to why you ever joined the military if you think violence can't solve anything. Part of a secret elite debating team? While I realize that violence can and does breed violence, I've never had anyone take me up on any kind of offer. Not once. Like I said, I'll stick with what I know and if it was my sister, the bastard would pay. Right or wrong, that's how I'm wired.

Well like you said, you, myself and all of us are wired in all sorts of ways whether that is right or if it is wrong. To answer your question...I joined the military not seeking violence but to become an officer and to be a leader and a leader of men.

I was trained not only to lead these men but to be a soldier in doing so and while becoming a soldier I was also trained to kill. I was Special Forces trained to kill in hand to hand combat and in firearms which I excelled in both. I also became an expert shot/rifleman. As time went by I saw a change in me that I didn't like, I saw that killing was so easy, death became something that didn't faze me to the point where I was begging for a war somewhere anywhere in this world.

It was at this point I realized I had to get out of the military and I did. I feared this death and mayhem side of me would bring it's rath on society. One of the reasons I use the username g under p (Grace Under Pressure) other than my love of the band RUSH is to constantly remind me of that side of me that knows how to kill and hurt as a soldier. Under pressure situations I try to keep grace and be graceful cause I know the things I'm capable of. Another is my use of the word Peace at the end of 90% of my posts.

Now if I was to ever seek so called justice or to threathen someone over abuse to let's say my sister i know exactly what would happen. That is someone is going to be killed, either it's going to him or me more than likely him. As a soldier the training of being a killer which hasn't entirely left me would come to the forefront. I don't do most things half assed it's all or nothing with me and that's how I am wired.

What exactly would be my gain in this action of mine? My sister's abuse would end yes....I would be in jail for the rest of my life...my daughter's life would be miserable and fatherless....and most importantly my sister would dispise my guts to no end if she was still defending her abusive husband.

So in the end what would this apparent macho violent action of mine gain for me ABSOLUTELY NOTHING?

Peace

g under p wrote:

eyedclaar wrote:

G under P, I am curious as to why you ever joined the military if you think violence can't solve anything. Part of a secret elite debating team? While I realize that violence can and does breed violence, I've never had anyone take me up on any kind of offer. Not once. Like I said, I'll stick with what I know and if it was my sister, the bastard would pay. Right or wrong, that's how I'm wired.

Well like you said, you, myself and all of us are wired in all sorts of ways whether that is right or if it is wrong. To answer your question...I joined the military not seeking violence but to become an officer and to be a leader and a leader of men.

I was trained not only to lead these men but to be a soldier in doing so and while becoming a soldier I was also trained to kill. I was Special Forces trained to kill in hand to hand combat and in firearms which I excelled in both. I also became an expert shot/rifleman. As time went by I saw a change in me that I didn't like, I saw that killing was so easy, death became something that didn't faze me to the point where I was begging for a war somewhere anywhere in this world.

It was at this point I realized I had to get out of the military and I did. I feared this death and mayhem side of me would bring it's rath on society. One of the reasons I use the username g under p (Grace Under Pressure) other than my love of the band RUSH is to constantly remind me of that side of me that knows how to kill and hurt as a soldier. Under pressure situations I try to keep grace and be graceful cause I know the things I'm capable of. Another is my use of the word Peace at the end of 90% of my posts.

Now if I was to ever seek so called justice or to threathen someone over abuse to let's say my sister i know exactly what would happen. That is someone is going to be killed, either it's going to him or me more than likely him. As a soldier the training of being a killer which hasn't entirely left me would come to the forefront. I don't do most things half assed it's all or nothing with me and that's how I am wired.

What exactly would be my gain in this action of mine? My sister's abuse would end yes....I would be in jail for the rest of my life...my daughter's life would be miserable and fatherless....and most importantly my sister would dispise my guts to no end if she was still defending her abusive husband.

So in the end what would this apparent macho violent action of mine gain for me ABSOLUTELY NOTHING?

Peace

chadwick wrote:

you would learn to control yourself and not take his life? i think a few broken ribs, busted nose, and whatever else would probably fix the problem. doing zero action is a bullshit move. a man's sister needs help. ya fucking help by caving in some dickhead's frickin face.

good morning 10 clubbers.

edit... oh yeah, i forget to add. that's just me and how i am wired.