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  • Sian-of-the-dead
    Sian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    Morning :wave:

    Well that's it! We have a date and £1000 has been handed over as a deposit :mrgreen:

    25th November 2011.... 473 days to go :shock: :mrgreen:8-)

    We're not having cars either Helen, saves a lot of money... and besides, that way I get to spend the night before in the hotel drinking cocktails, eating food and getting a massage :D
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
  • dottles
    dottles Posts: 9,209
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    I really want an old style convertible beetle but those are hard to get :oops: so really were not too bothered about the transport. It's 300 we could put towards something else.

    Sorry for intruding, I was being nosey in this thread - shouldn't really be here.
    Helen, if you did want a convertible beetle (I am presuming by old you mean pre 67 so one with sloping headlamps rather than a post 67 with the bulbus headlamps, or a modern one), have a word with your local VW club.
    When I was with my ex we had a 1967 beetle with a rag top sunroof, and went to the VW jamborees, there are clubs all over the country . The club we were in were often approached by people who wanted a VW beetle/camper for their wedding, and most of the time members were happy to oblige in driving brides to and from the venue etc, for a small fee or gift to charity/the club. They want to show the car off as much as anything. This was a few years ago now, but the scene is still going strong and I am sure they'd help you out.
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  • BhagavadGita
    BhagavadGita Posts: 1,748
    edited August 2010
    Without seeming negative but it will..

    In my 20's I dreamed of a wedding. The perfect wedding, slowly I forgot the reason I was to have this party. The celebration blanketed the us in details and material choices......was that worth it. Is not love just simply love without a 10,000 price tag? I know I love a wedding, but they all seem so fake now since i've seen so many divorces. Treasure every moment before your day, reveal in each other not being husband and wife yet. Stay in that innocent courtship for as long as you can. And for God's sake, no agruments on wedding details.

    After it's over is what one could be mindful about.
    Sorry to rain on your parade. I wish you all happy marriages.

    They just don't always need a giant party to tell the one you love you love them. The distractions from planing a party makes some forget what a miracle love is, even without a 5 piece band and a sit down dinner. Whatever makes you happy. :)

    Again, i Hope someone is happy. :)
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  • redrock
    redrock Posts: 18,341
    Well... that put a damper on a nice/happy (even if panicky!) thread! :roll:

    Anyway.. back to fun.... I LOVE the idea of a classic Beetle. How fun. Good suggestion Leanne - afriend of mine did the same with a classic Harley in the US (a long, long time ago!). LOADS of bikers were more than happy to take the bride and groom anywhere they wanted on their shiny/clean bikes (and they even scrubbed themselves up too!)!

    Cool Sian! The deal is sealed now :mrgreen::mrgreen:

    BTW Helen... when is yours again? (senior moment :oops:)
  • markymark550
    markymark550 Columbia, SC Posts: 5,219
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    markymark550 wrote:
    Yeah, I had forgotten exactly how much stuff you have to take care of....it is alot. Doing things early is definitely the way to go. We were engaged for around 11 months and got everything done with about 3 to go, so at the end it was mainly my wife making sure the little details were taken care of.

    You missed one important thing though....you've still got to plan for the honeymoon, the best part of the whole wedding process :D
    Oh my god, those 3 months must have been hell for her :shock: :mrgreen: I can't imagine doing it in 3... that's why I'm panicking now so I don't have to panic then.

    Ooohh the honeymoon's HIS responsibility (but my choice :mrgreen: ). While I'm saving the extra for the wedding, he's saving for the honeymoon and we're keeping them separate. Not gonna book or decide anything for a few months though... maybe the January sales.
    No, no...I think you misunderstood. We got everything done in those first 8 months. The last 3 leading up to the event were pretty easy...basically just making sure that the services we booked were still good to go and decorating the church (which wasn't difficult at all).

    Honeymoon was basically the only thing I was fully in charge of planning. I highly recommend a cruise...we took a cruise on the Caribbean and it was great.
  • BhagavadGita
    BhagavadGita Posts: 1,748
    edited August 2010
    A damper was not my intention. I notice I"m not the only one to speak from a different perspective.

    If you noticed at all, I wished the bride well.

    As far as I know this a forum where everyone is allowed to speak out if the need arises.
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  • JOEJOEJOE
    JOEJOEJOE Posts: 10,827
    BhagavadGita wrote:
    A damper was not my intention. I notice I"m not the only one to speak from a different perspective.

    If you noticed at all, I wished the bride well.

    As far as I know this a forum where everyone is allowed to speak out if asked.

    Everyone is allowed to speak out, but this is a thread to share wedding planning experiences...not really a place to express your negative feelings about weddings/marriages.

    If you want company for your misery, perhaps you may want to start your own thread?
  • JOEJOEJOE
    JOEJOEJOE Posts: 10,827
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    JOEJOEJOE wrote:
    We started planning our November wedding in January...I am glad we started early.

    We made our arrangements in the following order:

    I proposed in December
    She accepted straight away!
    Found venue in January
    Found photographer in February
    Wedding Gown ordered in February
    Got our DJ in March
    Got wedding insurance in March
    Arranged for flowers in April
    Sent out save-the-dates in May
    Ordered Cupcakes/Cake Topper in July (after very carefully tasting many samples!)
    Found Rabbi in August
    Did our gift registries in August
    Invitation design still in process....artist going very slow, but it will be worth it
    Did our engagement photos in August

    Still Pending:

    Seating arrangements
    Wedding favors - ( we may give out football (soccer) jerseys that have a crest with "Diane & Joe United"


    Damn, thats a lot of stuff!

    We are planning/paying for the wedding on our own, so luckily, no family members have any influence!

    It was difficult to make the guest list, but we got it done.

    There will always be people who are surprised by their inclusion or exclusion.....can't please everyone, I reckon!
    woah, you sound super organised. Luckily our deal with the venue includes the favours and a lot of stuff like table centrepieces and chair covers and sashes, etc. They seem to have most things covered. Otherwise our budget wouldn't have stretched for these things.
    We made sure to get a lot done in the beginning so that we wouldn't have to stress out too much as the day approaches. We'd make a few arrangements, then stop for a week or so. Once we realized that we were lagging, we'd get motivated to make a few more arrangements.
  • BhagavadGita
    BhagavadGita Posts: 1,748
    JOEJOEJOE wrote:
    BhagavadGita wrote:
    A damper was not my intention. I notice I"m not the only one to speak from a different perspective.

    If you noticed at all, I wished the bride well.

    As far as I know this a forum where everyone is allowed to speak out if asked.

    Everyone is allowed to speak out, but this is a thread to share wedding planning experiences...not really a place to express your negative feelings about weddings/marriages.

    If you want company for your misery, perhaps you may want to start your own thread?

    Perhaps you lack the ability to see the truth for many people. Sorry, happy endings are not always happy. Wake up.
  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    dottles wrote:
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    I really want an old style convertible beetle but those are hard to get :oops: so really were not too bothered about the transport. It's 300 we could put towards something else.

    Sorry for intruding, I was being nosey in this thread - shouldn't really be here.
    Helen, if you did want a convertible beetle (I am presuming by old you mean pre 67 so one with sloping headlamps rather than a post 67 with the bulbus headlamps, or a modern one), have a word with your local VW club.
    When I was with my ex we had a 1967 beetle with a rag top sunroof, and went to the VW jamborees, there are clubs all over the country . The club we were in were often approached by people who wanted a VW beetle/camper for their wedding, and most of the time members were happy to oblige in driving brides to and from the venue etc, for a small fee or gift to charity/the club. They want to show the car off as much as anything. This was a few years ago now, but the scene is still going strong and I am sure they'd help you out.
    Thank you... that sounds like brilliant advice that I'm definitely gonna look into. Ooohh... I bet they have forums and all :D Our venue is only about a mile from the church and won't be far from wherever I'm getting ready (don't know where that will be yet :oops: am kinda considering booking a dorm in a hostel for me and the bridesmaids the night before and going from there.. but just don't know).

    Red... 3rd April :D less than 8 months :)
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    BhagavadGita wrote:
    Without seeming negative, I must speak my mind on this topic.

    In my 20's I dreamed of a wedding. The perfect wedding, slowly I forgot the reason I was to have this party. The celebration blanketed the us in details and material choices......was that worth it. Is not love just simply love without a 10,000 price tag? I know I love a wedding, but they all seem so fake now since i've seen so many divorces. Treasure every moment before your day, reveal in each other not being husband and wife yet. Stay in that innocent courtship for as long as you can. And for God's sake, no agruments on wedding details.

    After it's over is what one could be mindful about. Believe me. How many people end in divorce these days. I know I was like you all, planning, happy, excited. When it was over, i said, "now what." A baby? then what? I wish you not to have my luck.

    Sorry to rain on your parade. I wish you all happy marriages.

    They just don't always need a giant party to tell the one you love you love them. In fact, if I were to do it again, the distractions from planing a party makes some forget what a miracle love is, even without a 5 piece band and a sit down dinner. Whatever makes you happy. :)

    Again, i Hope someone is happy. :)
    I think most people who know me and the other half know that we're massively in love and don't NEED a big party to prove this. However, we WANT one... and is there any better reason to celebrate? :mrgreen: I'm also kinda religious and we are having the church wedding. I think a wedding is a nice way to thank everyone who got both of you that far and for them to send you on your way. I'm sure we WILL argue about wedding details... just as we argue about anything else... and I'm sure we'll resolve it and compromise just as we do with anything else. I'm sure I'll break down a few times during the planning... but I would with anything else. I love planning stuff. :D
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    markymark550 wrote:
    No, no...I think you misunderstood. We got everything done in those first 8 months. The last 3 leading up to the event were pretty easy...basically just making sure that the services we booked were still good to go and decorating the church (which wasn't difficult at all).

    Honeymoon was basically the only thing I was fully in charge of planning. I highly recommend a cruise...we took a cruise on the Caribbean and it was great.
    ah see that sounds much better :mrgreen: . I wouldn't mind a cruise but I think he hates the thought of it so cruises are out. I had another thread about honeymoons... I think it's most likely gonna be a road trip in the states somewhere. Details to follow :D
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • Sian-of-the-dead
    Sian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    BhagavadGita wrote:
    JOEJOEJOE wrote:
    BhagavadGita wrote:
    A damper was not my intention. I notice I"m not the only one to speak from a different perspective.

    If you noticed at all, I wished the bride well.

    As far as I know this a forum where everyone is allowed to speak out if asked.

    Everyone is allowed to speak out, but this is a thread to share wedding planning experiences...not really a place to express your negative feelings about weddings/marriages.

    If you want company for your misery, perhaps you may want to start your own thread?

    Perhaps you lack the ability to see the truth for many people. Sorry, happy endings are not always happy. Wake up.

    And I believe you lack the ability to see that some people are happy and will always be happy.
    This thread was created by the OP to talk wedding plans and to share happy experiences in the run up to her big day. Now, I know the OP very well, she's a close friend of mine and has been a huge help since my own engagement two months ago. I understand that you wish her well but using words such as 'fake' and suggesting that people who wed nowadays only want to put a price tag on their wedding, is a negative opinion and completely wrong when in context of the OP and myself... In fact you couldn't be further from the truth.
    I'm sorry if you've had a bad experience with marriage and weddings but this isn't the place to vent that. Remember that not all weddings end in divorce and many people spend their ruby and even diamond anniversary's together.

    There's an old saying: If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
  • Sian-of-the-dead
    Sian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    markymark550 wrote:
    No, no...I think you misunderstood. We got everything done in those first 8 months. The last 3 leading up to the event were pretty easy...basically just making sure that the services we booked were still good to go and decorating the church (which wasn't difficult at all).

    Honeymoon was basically the only thing I was fully in charge of planning. I highly recommend a cruise...we took a cruise on the Caribbean and it was great.
    ah see that sounds much better :mrgreen: . I wouldn't mind a cruise but I think he hates the thought of it so cruises are out. I had another thread about honeymoons... I think it's most likely gonna be a road trip in the states somewhere. Details to follow :D

    Make sure you visit Tenessee for us... some Jack would go down a treat ;)

    I want to go to Rome... but it all depends on where our guests send us :? :D
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    JOEJOEJOE wrote:
    We made sure to get a lot done in the beginning so that we wouldn't have to stress out too much as the day approaches. We'd make a few arrangements, then stop for a week or so. Once we realized that we were lagging, we'd get motivated to make a few more arrangements.
    Yeh, we're at a point now where there's a few things we need to do in the next couple of weeks... and then we can relax til the next stage :mrgreen:

    There will come a point a couple of weeks before the wedding where whatever's not organised can be done without. When I pack for travel, I have a list that says 'ticket, money, passport'. Anything else can be done without or bought. For the wedding, once I have the man, the priest and the guests (ok... and the dress :mrgreen: ) what more is actually NEEDED?
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • chime
    chime Posts: 7,839
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    JOEJOEJOE wrote:
    We made sure to get a lot done in the beginning so that we wouldn't have to stress out too much as the day approaches. We'd make a few arrangements, then stop for a week or so. Once we realized that we were lagging, we'd get motivated to make a few more arrangements.
    Yeh, we're at a point now where there's a few things we need to do in the next couple of weeks... and then we can relax til the next stage :mrgreen:

    There will come a point a couple of weeks before the wedding where whatever's not organised can be done without. When I pack for travel, I have a list that says 'ticket, money, passport'. Anything else can be done without or bought. For the wedding, once I have the man, the priest and the guests (ok... and the dress :mrgreen: ) what more is actually NEEDED?

    *coughs* the SHOOOOOEEEEESSSSSSSS!!!!!! :mrgreen:;)
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  • unlost dogs
    unlost dogs Greater Boston Posts: 12,553
    Sian-of-the-dead wrote:
    Morning :wave:

    Well that's it! We have a date and £1000 has been handed over as a deposit :mrgreen:

    25th November 2011.... 473 days to go :shock: :mrgreen:8-)

    We're not having cars either Helen, saves a lot of money... and besides, that way I get to spend the night before in the hotel drinking cocktails, eating food and getting a massage :D

    Outstanding, Sian!
    So when do the lottery sales start? I'm really hoping for a front table seat.
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  • dottles
    dottles Posts: 9,209
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    dottles wrote:
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    I really want an old style convertible beetle but those are hard to get :oops: so really were not too bothered about the transport. It's 300 we could put towards something else.

    Sorry for intruding, I was being nosey in this thread - shouldn't really be here.
    Helen, if you did want a convertible beetle (I am presuming by old you mean pre 67 so one with sloping headlamps rather than a post 67 with the bulbus headlamps, or a modern one), have a word with your local VW club.
    When I was with my ex we had a 1967 beetle with a rag top sunroof, and went to the VW jamborees, there are clubs all over the country . The club we were in were often approached by people who wanted a VW beetle/camper for their wedding, and most of the time members were happy to oblige in driving brides to and from the venue etc, for a small fee or gift to charity/the club. They want to show the car off as much as anything. This was a few years ago now, but the scene is still going strong and I am sure they'd help you out.
    Thank you... that sounds like brilliant advice that I'm definitely gonna look into. Ooohh... I bet they have forums and all :D Our venue is only about a mile from the church and won't be far from wherever I'm getting ready (don't know where that will be yet :oops: am kinda considering booking a dorm in a hostel for me and the bridesmaids the night before and going from there.. but just don't know).

    Red... 3rd April :D less than 8 months :)

    Glad you didn't think I was intruding :D
    Yeah they do have forums and are usually a good bunch :lol:;)
    This might help to get you started - http://www.volkszone.com/VZi/local_links.php?catid=1
    (feels odd to be on VW forums, not been on them for a while!)
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    2012 - Manchester i & ii, Berlin i & ii, Stockholm. 2014 - Amsterdam i & ii, Trieste, Vienna, Berlin, Leeds, Milton Keynes.
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  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    BhagavadGita wrote:
    JOEJOEJOE wrote:
    BhagavadGita wrote:
    A damper was not my intention. I notice I"m not the only one to speak from a different perspective.

    If you noticed at all, I wished the bride well.

    As far as I know this a forum where everyone is allowed to speak out if asked.

    Everyone is allowed to speak out, but this is a thread to share wedding planning experiences...not really a place to express your negative feelings about weddings/marriages.

    If you want company for your misery, perhaps you may want to start your own thread?

    Perhaps you lack the ability to see the truth for many people. Sorry, happy endings are not always happy. Wake up.
    I don't think anyone's deluded here. He and I both come from divorced parents... but thanks for looking out for us. I think this actually makes us appreciate eachother more. I am actually IN a relationship I didn't think possible :D
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • Sian-of-the-dead
    Sian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    unlost dogs wrote:
    Sian-of-the-dead wrote:
    Morning :wave:

    Well that's it! We have a date and £1000 has been handed over as a deposit :mrgreen:

    25th November 2011.... 473 days to go :shock: :mrgreen:8-)

    We're not having cars either Helen, saves a lot of money... and besides, that way I get to spend the night before in the hotel drinking cocktails, eating food and getting a massage :D

    Outstanding, Sian!
    So when do the lottery sales start? I'm really hoping for a front table seat.

    Ah now that would be telling ;) If I give you the heads up now it doesn't give a fair chance to everyone else :lol:

    We do have an ever expanding guest list... should sort that really :?
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.

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