The wedding thread

Heineken Helen

Ok, I kinda feel like we need some sort of support group :oops: as I know I'm not the only one getting married soon... 8 months to go and I've a feeling there's stuff I HAVE to be doing now... but there's just so much of it to do that I can't really think about each individual thing... just how much I have to do. And I'm just not getting things for as cheap as I thought I'd get them

So far I've got the man, the dress, the venue and the necklace! So how's everyone elses plans coming along? Any tips or suggestions or advice? :oops:

Sian-of-the-dead

I have the man, the venue, the date and the dress (although that hasn't actually been purchased yet)... 15 months to go.

Great thread idea Hels

redrock

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

... the dress...

Already :shock: Saving up for those perfect shoes too? Or are they just too expensive?

Just make lists Helen. Sian will help you with that!

Heineken Helen

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

I have the man, the venue, the date and the dress...

Great thread idea Hels

WOAH... that was a lightning fast reply... was just gonna send you the link and you already found it

You have the dress????? You going for the one we discussed then?

Nobody tells you all the stuff you're supposed to simply KNOW when it comes to things like booking venues and trying on dresses. Like I noticed you're waiting on the 'contract' for your venue... :oops: ehhh... I don't have one! I have an email confirming the package we have and that's about it.

Sian-of-the-dead

redrock wrote:

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

... the dress...

Already :shock: Saving up for those perfect shoes too? Or are they just too expensive?

It has been chosen but not purchased. I will still be trying on other dresses but i've pretty much decided what I want

I just showed it to my mum for the first time and she agees, it's perfect

Heineken Helen

redrock wrote:

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

... the dress...

Already :shock: Saving up for those perfect shoes too? Or are they just too expensive?

Just make lists Helen. Sian will help you with that!

Oh I have lists... fucking millions of em and I have all the spreadsheets and all the budgets and all the timelines done out... but still... I like to do things that I know HOW to do... but what the fuck do I know about flowers? Or about hiring a band? Or about table centrepieces and chair sashes and all that shite? :shock:

Backspacer 76

This is where I will be going next year to get married.
My future wife and I will be making a big party out of it.

redrock

Sian - talk to people - at work, friends, etc. They might know a band, a good florist, etc. Recommendations are the best. I guess you have an idea of what you like/want and what would look good in the venue - take it from there.

Heineken Helen

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

redrock wrote:

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

... the dress...

Already :shock: Saving up for those perfect shoes too? Or are they just too expensive?

It has been chosen but not purchased. I will still be trying on other dresses but i've pretty much decided what I want

I just showed it to my mum for the first time and she agees, it's perfect

awww... at least you've plenty of time, dress wise, so if you still want the same one then, you'll be even more in love with it . I knew what I wanted but couldn't find it til I'd spent hours trying on hundreds of dresses (well ok, maybe 20)

Heineken Helen

Backspacer 76 wrote:

This is where I will be going next year to get married.
My future wife and I will be making a big party out of it.

That certainly looks like fun Low key or no holding back?

Sian-of-the-dead

Heineken Helen wrote:

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

I have the man, the venue, the date and the dress...

Great thread idea Hels

WOAH... that was a lightning fast reply... was just gonna send you the link and you already found it

You have the dress????? You going for the one we discussed then?

Nobody tells you all the stuff you're supposed to simply KNOW when it comes to things like booking venues and trying on dresses. Like I noticed you're waiting on the 'contract' for your venue... :oops: ehhh... I don't have one! I have an email confirming the package we have and that's about it.

Soooo true. When we went to view venues it was like we were supposed to just KNOW what to say, how to act, what to ask... :roll:
We have a contract and we'll be signing it on Saturday and handing over £1000 deposit :shock:

The dress is not the one we discussed... I found THE ONE while trailing through the interwebs half arsed one day. I've fallen completely in love with it and it will be mine :twisted:

In answer to your question Rita, no, THE SHOES will not be purchased. I sinply can't afford to spend nearly £400 on shoes :?

Sian-of-the-dead

redrock wrote:

Sian - talk to people - at work, friends, etc. They might know a band, a good florist, etc. Recommendations are the best. I guess you have an idea of what you like/want and what would look good in the venue - take it from there.

Thanks Rita. I'm really arty so I can think about how I want the venue, flowers etc to look... It's Dave that's having problems with all that jazz, bless him, he just can't envisage arty farty things :(

I know what I want for flowers and centre pieces, how the ceremony room will look, what i'm wearing and even down to what kind of confetti we're having... we just have to make it all happen :think:

Backspacer 76

Heineken Helen wrote:

Backspacer 76 wrote:

This is where I will be going next year to get married.
My future wife and I will be making a big party out of it.

That certainly looks like fun Low key or no holding back?

A little bit of both.
Gonna be just me and her. No guests. (sorry mom)
Going to party and gamble while we are there then rent a car and do a lot of sightseeing.

Congratulations by the way :thumbup:

Heineken Helen

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

Soooo true. When we went to view venues it was like we were supposed to just KNOW what to say, how to act, what to ask... :roll:
We have a contract and we'll be signing it on Saturday and handing over £1000 deposit :shock:

The dress is not the one we discussed... I found THE ONE while trailing through the interwebs half arsed one day. I've fallen completely in love with it and it will be mine :twisted:

In answer to your question Rita, no, THE SHOES will not be purchased. I sinply can't afford to spend nearly £400 on shoes :?

Brilliant but awww... ya sure ya can't make the shoes? I went dress shopping with a budget of £400 lol and came away with a dress for a LOT more than that Maybe you could have a 'shoe fund' as well as a honeymoon fund . Instead of a hen party, just get everyone to contribute towards the shoes?

I wish I knew how I wanted everything to look the way you do... but I haven't a clue and am depending on the knowledge of the people who do these things every day. It will probably LOOK quite generic but the people there will make it mine! I'd still like it to LOOK like mine though but I've no idea what mine would look like... and now I'm rambling!

redrock

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

It's Dave that's having problems with all that jazz, bless him, he just can't envisage arty farty things :( :

Awww... bless That's why he has you. He knows you know so he doesn't have to worry!

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

.... even down to what kind of confetti we're having..

I'm impressed!

Heineken Helen

Backspacer 76 wrote:

Heineken Helen wrote:

Backspacer 76 wrote:

This is where I will be going next year to get married.
My future wife and I will be making a big party out of it.

That certainly looks like fun Low key or no holding back?

A little bit of both.
Gonna be just me and her. No guests. (sorry mom)
Going to party and gamble while we are there then rent a car and do a lot of sightseeing.

Congratulations by the way :thumbup:

Thank you... and you too it's pretty exciting though and I do love the planning bit!

We were thinking of something like that for our honeymoon. We're not gonna decide on that for another few months though.

Cradles Broken Glass

My wedding is a distant, horrible memory...almost seven years ago to be exact. I'm the wrong person to be on a wedding thread, but I would like to give some advice, do a destination wedding with only you and your soon-to-be spouse. I thought I would miss out on something if I didn't have it in the church where my parents were married and surrounded by friends and family. I'm actually planning on renewing our vowels on our 10 year anniversary, just the two of us, hopefully some where tropical or European. This time I'm doing it my way. My best advice to anyone who is planning a big wedding is, don't stress you can only do so much. Do it your way and if everything doesn't turn out perfectly, that's ok, just have fun with it.

Heineken Helen

Cradles Broken Glass wrote:

My wedding is a distant, horrible memory...almost seven years ago to be exact. I'm the wrong person to be on a wedding thread, but I would like to give some advice, do a destination wedding with only you and your soon-to-be spouse. I thought I would miss out on something if I didn't have it in the church where my parents were married and surrounded by friends and family. I'm actually planning on renewing our vowels on our 10 year anniversary, just the two of us, hopefully some where tropical or European. This time I'm doing it my way. My best advice to anyone who is planning a big wedding is, don't stress you can only do so much. Do it your way and if everything doesn't turn out perfectly, that's ok, just have fun with it.

sounds like some good advice there I won't stress any more than I want to. Once the stress actually starts bothering me, I'll take a few steps back.. but for now I'm enjoying it.

I kinda hope everything DOESN'T go to plan... cos it's things like that which make for funny stories and make people remember it.

Sian-of-the-dead

Heineken Helen wrote:

Cradles Broken Glass wrote:

My wedding is a distant, horrible memory...almost seven years ago to be exact. I'm the wrong person to be on a wedding thread, but I would like to give some advice, do a destination wedding with only you and your soon-to-be spouse. I thought I would miss out on something if I didn't have it in the church where my parents were married and surrounded by friends and family. I'm actually planning on renewing our vowels on our 10 year anniversary, just the two of us, hopefully some where tropical or European. This time I'm doing it my way. My best advice to anyone who is planning a big wedding is, don't stress you can only do so much. Do it your way and if everything doesn't turn out perfectly, that's ok, just have fun with it.

sounds like some good advice there I won't stress any more than I want to. Once the stress actually starts bothering me, I'll take a few steps back.. but for now I'm enjoying it.

I kinda hope everything DOESN'T go to plan... cos it's things like that which make for funny stories and make people remember it.

Oh god don't say that!!! I HATE for something to go wrong on the day... 15 months of planning for something to fuck up?! That'd be my worst nightmare :oops:

We had the final contract through this morning via email... we go and sign tomorrow and hand over £1000... i'm kinda scared and excited all at once

Eurgh, my Mum came over last night. I love her dearly but she's got to learn to understand that this is OUR wedding and that both myself and Dave are VERY choosey and set on what we want/don't want. I think she wants me to have this grand wedding where MoTB is also centre of attention and gets to make all the decisions... I tell you, it's gonna be a huge headache and battle ahead :(

markymark550

congrats to everyone getting married!


the toughest part for me and my wife was deciding on how many people to invite and who to actually invite.....other than that everything went pretty smoothly

Sian-of-the-dead

markymark550 wrote:

congrats to everyone getting married!


the toughest part for me and my wife was deciding on how many people to invite and who to actually invite.....other than that everything went pretty smoothly

That's been a bit of a headache for us too... to the point that we've decided to skip the three course meal in favour of paying for more guests to attend... we're upto 150 at the minute :roll: