The wedding thread

Heineken Helen

redrock wrote:

Helen, your case is so much more difficult. I don't know the extent of the problems with your mum, but a mum is a mum. Then again, they can be such bitches and dragons. Is this a good time to reconcile or not?

I considered that... but no, I think the wedding is probably the worst time to try. My sister has tried before with things like christenings and that, and it's always ended in disaster. Also, her presence would make everyone uncomfortable... aunts and uncles and stuff. But her not being there will probably raise questions from other people. Really, there is no way to win. It was a long time ago what happened... and I've calmed down a lot about it. BUT calmed down to the point where I don't care at all... she's just someone who's tried to mess up a lot of lives... and not someone I would ever have a relationship with... so I guess to have her at the wedding would probably be just for show on my part.

I guess it's a whole other thread but one I don't really wanna get into.

Sian-of-the-dead

redrock wrote:

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

If only the fickle people could see how awesome he is :(

He would be even more awesome if he would get you a kittygirl

I'd ask for one as a wedding gift but our landlady won't allow us to have another :(

Heineken Helen

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

Ohhh I wouldn't want to be in your shoes. My mum can be a pain in the arse but I've never felt like that. I'm afraid I can't even begin to give you advice on it. I know you though and I know you wouldn't take a decision like that lightly... You need to do whatever makes you comfortable. You know I'm here if you need to rant about stuff like this though.

I think that is the case with my dilemma... I think they would draw a line under the friendship if they don't get a day invite but really, it'll be me drawing the line... maybe you're right, maybe I am ready to do that. It's sad but it may be true... I can only hope that our relationship does improve and i'll feel comfortable enough that I want them there all day. I genuinely do hope that but I can't see it happening :(

Can I just say though, Dave has been brilliant in all of this. He has said that he will accept if I want them there all day and won't make a deal out of it. He's said that it's entirely my decision and he supports me in whatever I do... If only the fickle people could see how awesome he is :(

Thank you :oops: maybe closer to the time it might be an issue... but right now I'm cool about it.

At least you've got another few months before you've to sort out your final list and do your invitations... so maybe spend a bit of time with them and see how you're feeling? If you're willing to draw a line under it, maybe have a chat... since there's nothing to lose?

Heineken Helen

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

redrock wrote:

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

If only the fickle people could see how awesome he is :(

He would be even more awesome if he would get you a kittygirl

I'd ask for one as a wedding gift but our landlady won't allow us to have another :(

Ooohh ask for a house then

redrock

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

redrock wrote:

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

If only the fickle people could see how awesome he is :(

He would be even more awesome if he would get you a kittygirl

I'd ask for one as a wedding gift but our landlady won't allow us to have another :(

She must have been thinking you are traumatizing your cats, making them wear jackets and doesn't want to be part of anymore animal cruelty!

Sian-of-the-dead

Heineken Helen wrote:

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

redrock wrote:

He would be even more awesome if he would get you a kittygirl

I'd ask for one as a wedding gift but our landlady won't allow us to have another :(

Ooohh ask for a house then

We're already asking for a honeymoon! We can't take the piss!

redrock wrote:

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

redrock wrote:

He would be even more awesome if he would get you a kittygirl

I'd ask for one as a wedding gift but our landlady won't allow us to have another :(

She must have been thinking you are traumatizing your cats, making them wear jackets and doesn't want to be part of anymore animal cruelty!

Enough of that! I told you why he has to wear the jacket! :evil:

It just kinda helps that it's funny, he goes all schmoozy in it and looks cute :oops:

Heineken Helen

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

We're already asking for a honeymoon! We can't take the piss!

Oh it's worth a try!

redrock

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

It just kinda helps that it's funny, he goes all schmoozy in it and looks cute :oops:

He's just trendy.

Heineken Helen

right... can somebody tell me how to find out where to get these shoes:

http://www.weddingsdesigns.com/page/40/

They pop up everywhere on a google image search... but none of the sites tell you what they are.

redrock

Those are pretty!

Heineken Helen

redrock wrote:

Those are pretty!

and then there are these:

http://www.crystalbridalaccessories.co. ... a-hill.htm

mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm! Yeh I'm starting to get the whole shoe thing.

dottles

Heineken Helen wrote:

right... can somebody tell me how to find out where to get these shoes:

http://www.weddingsdesigns.com/page/40/

They pop up everywhere on a google image search... but none of the sites tell you what they are.

Post on Confetti or somewhere I am sure someone has tracked them down

redrock

Heineken Helen wrote:

mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm! Yeh I'm starting to get the whole shoe thing.

Welcome to the dark side!

Heineken Helen

dottles wrote:

Heineken Helen wrote:

right... can somebody tell me how to find out where to get these shoes:

http://www.weddingsdesigns.com/page/40/

They pop up everywhere on a google image search... but none of the sites tell you what they are.

Post on Confetti or somewhere I am sure someone has tracked them down

good idea... are you like the wedding guru or wha?

Dissidentman

Getting married in a little over a month, not even sure of the venue yet.

Sian-of-the-dead

Dissidentman wrote:

Getting married in a little over a month, not even sure of the venue yet.

Are you joking? Please tell me you're joking :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:

chime

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

Dissidentman wrote:

Getting married in a little over a month, not even sure of the venue yet.

Are you joking? Please tell me you're joking :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:

My sister's whole wedding was planned start to finish in 6 weeks

Dissidentman

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

Dissidentman wrote:

Getting married in a little over a month, not even sure of the venue yet.

Are you joking? Please tell me you're joking :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:

Nope! It will be one of two places... We should know on Friday. Still plenty of time!

Sian-of-the-dead

*reads posts*

*meltdown*

dottles

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

*reads posts*

*meltdown*

calm down Sian, calm down!!

Heineken Helen wrote:

good idea... are you like the wedding guru or wha?

Nah, I am just one of these very inane people, they call me google in my office - how sad is that!
Plus my family is huge, thus lots of weddings

redrock

chime wrote:

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

Dissidentman wrote:

Getting married in a little over a month, not even sure of the venue yet.

Are you joking? Please tell me you're joking :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:

My sister's whole wedding was planned start to finish in 6 weeks

So was mine. Actually planned within a week of deciding on possible date. Started with registry office - got the date, got venue same day (after calling a couple of venues who panicked when I was talking about 6 weeks away, we got one of those boats going down the river towards Windsor). The rest of the week was for the cake, catering, invitations, etc. Oh... my outfit was a bit at the last minute - the week-end before :oops:

It can be done Sian!

Sian-of-the-dead

redrock wrote:

chime wrote:

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

Are you joking? Please tell me you're joking :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:

My sister's whole wedding was planned start to finish in 6 weeks

So was mine. Actually planned within a week of deciding on possible date. Started with registry office - got the date, got venue same day (after calling a couple of venues who panicked when I was talking about 6 weeks away, we got one of those boats going down the river towards Windsor). The rest of the week was for the cake, catering, invitations, etc. Oh... my outfit was a bit at the last minute - the week-end before :oops:

It can be done Sian!

I don't believe you :P

To be honest, our wedding plans would probably take that long if we sat down and condensed them, but, as i'm making a lot of stuff myself, it'll take a while. I do plan on having a couple of months free before the wedding though, as in everything done. I wouldn't be so bothered but my MoH is getting married 4 weeks before me... in Scotland :roll:

Claireack

Dissidentman wrote:

Getting married in a little over a month, not even sure of the venue yet.

Booked ours on the Tuesday or Wednesday - got married on the Friday.

Dissidentman

Claireack wrote:

Dissidentman wrote:

Getting married in a little over a month, not even sure of the venue yet.

Booked ours on the Tuesday or Wednesday - got married on the Friday.

That way he couldn't chicken out?

Claireack

Dissidentman wrote:

Claireack wrote:

Dissidentman wrote:

Getting married in a little over a month, not even sure of the venue yet.

Booked ours on the Tuesday or Wednesday - got married on the Friday.

That way he couldn't chicken out?

Was still convinced right until we got there that he would!! (nagging works!)

Heineken Helen

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

*reads posts*

*meltdown*

it's ok Sian... it's not YOUR wedding

Lizard

Sian's cake selections:

Sian-of-the-dead

Lizard wrote:

Sian's cake selections:

Haha! Thanks! Although I do really like those... you couldn't be further away from our cake

My friend had a Corpse Bride topper on a chocolate cake at her wedding 5 years ago, looked lovely so it did

Sian-of-the-dead

Heineken Helen wrote:

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

*reads posts*

*meltdown*

it's ok Sian... it's not YOUR wedding

*breathes into paper bag*

I'm ok... i'm ok... I just had scare for a minute there... I thought he said he's getting married in little over a month and doesn't have a venue yet!

:wtf:

Heineken Helen

Sian-of-the-dead wrote:

Haha! Thanks! Although I do really like those... you couldn't be further away from our cake

My friend had a Corpse Bride topper on a chocolate cake at her wedding 5 years ago, looked lovely so it did

I've asked my brother to make the cake I think he's terrified lol but I know he would do an amazing job if he figures out where to start. Even if it's a mess, I reckon it will be great.

For flowers, we haven't really got a budget :oops: so I might just buy my own bouquet and improvise with the rest. Anyone got any suggestions? :oops: I was in Italy a couple of weeks ago and there were a couple of weddings and they had this netting all over the place tied into bows and it looked lovely and really simple and classy so I might do something like that.