Acquaintance Rape

Spunkie
Spunkie i come from downtown. Posts: 7,095
edited October 2023 in All Encompassing Trip
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I was swimming in the Great Barrier Reef 
Animals were hiding behind the Coral 
Except for little Turtle
I could swear he's trying to talk to me 
Gurgle Gurgle
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  • Indian Summer
    Indian Summer Posts: 2,296
    maybe he took it as a "booty call".....and what exactly were you wearing?
    "It's all happening"
  • chadwick
    chadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    tish wrote:
    Last weekend, I invited a man over to watch videos since the snow didn't call for going out for coffee. This guy took the invitation as sexual rights. Except for him (respecting) my "No's", I'd say he did everything but rape me. He said I was asking for it by the way I was dressed. And if I wouldn't do this, would I do that? And since I wouldn't do that, would I do this? In the words of Avril Lavigne, it was "badder than it sounds." I held the door open for him to leave and that took 15 painful minutes.

    The experience rates #2 in my top two worst times with a male. (The first, worst time being when I nearly divorced yet managed to help write a few hit songs...)


    That fucking sucks.
    Good thing you're ok & nuttin bad happened to you.

    btw, what hit songs are you speaking of?

    btw again, shall we break his arm?
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  • MattCameronKicksButt
    MattCameronKicksButt Posts: 4,317
    chadwick wrote:
    btw again, shall we break his arm?

    Yeah! Get chadwick to break his arm!
  • Spunkie
    Spunkie i come from downtown. Posts: 7,095
    edited October 2023
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    Post edited by Spunkie on
    I was swimming in the Great Barrier Reef 
    Animals were hiding behind the Coral 
    Except for little Turtle
    I could swear he's trying to talk to me 
    Gurgle Gurgle
  • Indian Summer
    Indian Summer Posts: 2,296
    tish wrote:
    It doesn't matter what I was wearing.

    sure it does.....this guy was apparently picking up some sort of signals from you. Sounds like you were being sort of a tease to get behavior like that out of him. I know it still doesn't make it right for him to keep it up after saying "no"...but I feel like you're not painting the whole picture....after all there are two sides to every story.
    "It's all happening"
  • justjoshingu
    justjoshingu Posts: 538
    as a man i feel like this

    why would i want a woman who wouldnt want me?

    granted i know a lot of women throw mixed signals but telling a guy to leave for 15 minutes is pretty damn obvious. i'm sorry that guys can be like that.

    and "dressing like that" might make a guy come up to you and try, but when you shoot him down that really is the definitve thing.
    mean people suck!
    but nice people sw****w

  • chadwick
    chadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    tish wrote:
    It doesn't matter what I was wearing. I take my garbage out in those kick around the home clothes.

    No, I don't believe in having someone fight my wars for me, and believe in non-violence...if you can believe that MCKB!

    As for the music. I'm not telling. Gag order. I told my Mom. I don't think she buys it.

    yeah fighting sucks ass.
    the quote in my signature tells all about it.

    so be it @ your gag order thingy.
    you never showed your mom the check from the hit songs you help write?
    for poetry through the ceiling. ISBN: 1 4241 8840 7

    "Hear me, my chiefs!
    I am tired; my heart is
    sick and sad. From where
    the sun stands I will fight
    no more forever."
    Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
  • binauralsounds
    binauralsounds Posts: 1,357
    Your title is misleading.. He did NOT rape you. He may have been all hands and wanted some, but didn't do that to you!
    And I have to agree... It does matter what you were wearing when you invited a guy over to be all alone with you. What signal did he get from you?
    As for the music...Why not just tell.
    Don't be a drama queen.
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    sounds like you didn't know this guy very well. First date or something? Let this be a lesson that you shouldn't invite guys you don't know very well over to your house. I don't even let guys know where I live until after a couple dates.
  • Spunkie
    Spunkie i come from downtown. Posts: 7,095
    edited October 2023
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    Post edited by Spunkie on
    I was swimming in the Great Barrier Reef 
    Animals were hiding behind the Coral 
    Except for little Turtle
    I could swear he's trying to talk to me 
    Gurgle Gurgle
  • small town beck
    small town beck Posts: 6,691
    Rape is a terrible, terrible thing. I don't believe any woman asks for it. Maybe sometimes she puts her self in a sketchy situ without realizing it. Could be young and naive. Don't ever assume that someone coming on too strong is even close to what being raped is like. Sure if you were playing Barry White and dressed in panties and a bra only he probably thought he was getting some.. that doesn't mean you can't change your mind and he shouldn't respect your right to say no.

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  • chadwick
    chadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    Clearly the dude sounds like a dumb fuck to me.
    She said no, he kept at it @ different angles=well what about this or this.
    The lady kept saying no, he kept @ it.
    She asked him to go=holding the door open for 15 minutes.
    He was/is a walking hard-on without any kinda class.
    Fuck him, he's a looser who can't approach a lady very well.
    And he's a beginning piece of shit.
    The list goes on but I stop here, thank you.
    for poetry through the ceiling. ISBN: 1 4241 8840 7

    "Hear me, my chiefs!
    I am tired; my heart is
    sick and sad. From where
    the sun stands I will fight
    no more forever."
    Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
  • Indian Summer
    Indian Summer Posts: 2,296
    chadwick wrote:
    Clearly the dude sounds like a dumb fuck to me.
    She said no, he kept at it @ different angles=well what about this or this.
    The lady kept saying no, he kept @ it.
    She asked him to go=holding the door open for 15 minutes.
    He was/is a walking hard-on without any kinda class.
    Fuck him, he's a looser who can't approach a lady very well.
    And he's a beginning piece of shit.
    The list goes on but I stop here, thank you.


    What does that tell you about her taste in men?
    "It's all happening"
  • patrickredeyes
    patrickredeyes Posts: 8,834
    Indian Summer wrote:
    What does that tell you about her taste in men?


    What a nice comment to make. I'm sure that makes Tish feel better.
  • chadwick
    chadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    Indian Summer wrote:
    What does that tell you about her taste in men?

    She should not/ any woman, her or whomever shouldn't invite a dude over to the house until she knows the dude a bit.

    He is prolly some hot lookin fuckin dude who has the integrity of a steaming pile of crap. (now she knows this)
    He probably can sweet talk some of the ladies a little bit, perhaps.
    He's probably not the smartest guy walking, my guess.

    edit: btw, your comment sucks ass.
    for poetry through the ceiling. ISBN: 1 4241 8840 7

    "Hear me, my chiefs!
    I am tired; my heart is
    sick and sad. From where
    the sun stands I will fight
    no more forever."
    Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
  • iluvcats
    iluvcats Posts: 5,153
    chadwick wrote:
    Clearly the dude sounds like a dumb fuck to me.
    She said no, he kept at it @ different angles=well what about this or this.
    The lady kept saying no, he kept @ it.
    She asked him to go=holding the door open for 15 minutes.
    He was/is a walking hard-on without any kinda class.
    Fuck him, he's a looser who can't approach a lady very well.
    And he's a beginning piece of shit.
    The list goes on but I stop here, thank you.

    I agree. And, even if her outfit showed cleavage (for example) does not mean she asked for it. When our coworkers come to work with boobs displayed, does that mean they want to be attacked? I think not. It's the style.
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  • iluvcats
    iluvcats Posts: 5,153
    avril lavigne? yikes.
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  • josevolution
    josevolution Posts: 31,632
    hey this is for the caveman who think that if a woman is wearing provacative clothes that she is asking to get raped get a fucking mind or beter yet jump off a building assholes ,an invatation to someones house doesn't translate to "come fuck me" guy's respect your womans words NO NO NO NOOOOOOOOOOO means no .....
    jesus greets me looks just like me ....
  • prytocorduroy
    prytocorduroy Posts: 4,355
    tish wrote:
    Last weekend, I invited a man over to watch videos since the snow didn't call for going out for coffee. This guy took the invitation as sexual rights. Except for him (respecting) my "No's", I'd say he did everything but rape me. He said I was asking for it by the way I was dressed. And if I wouldn't do this, would I do that? And since I wouldn't do that, would I do this? In the words of Avril Lavigne, it was "badder than it sounds." I held the door open for him to leave and that took 15 painful minutes.

    The experience rates #2 in my top two worst times with a male. (The first, worst time being when I nearly divorced yet managed to help write a few hit songs...)
    Perhaps you shouldn't be inviting men over to your house, alone and to watch videos, that you don't know that well. If you did know him well then I doubt this situation would have occurred because you would have predicted it or been aware of the possiblity that it would happen and avoided this man. Also seeing you describe him as "this guy", I'm under the impression that you just met or have bumped into each other a few times. I hope you know his name and a bit about him (where he works, neighborhood or city he lives in, stuff like that) at least.

    Be grateful you weren't raped and let this be a lesson. You've got to be careful!


    (Not to sound like a dick but....) I can understand why this guy thought he might score based on what you've posted, not justifying his actions or approving of them, just saying.
  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    Indian Summer wrote:
    sure it does.....this guy was apparently picking up some sort of signals from you. Sounds like you were being sort of a tease to get behavior like that out of him. I know it still doesn't make it right for him to keep it up after saying "no"...but I feel like you're not painting the whole picture....after all there are two sides to every story.
    wow wow wow :o what a fucking asshole thing to say... and you're not the only one either. Believe it or not, it DOESNT fucking matter what she was wearing... guys can 'pick up vibes' but that certainly doesn't mean she's sending them. I've had guys 'pick up on vibes' from me that simply weren't there so to say that in some way he's not completely in the wrong is ridiculous.

    And yeh, unfortunately I too have learned to be pretty careful... shouldn't have to be that way at all but luckily you didn't learn the REALLY hard way :o
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