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  • Posts: 3,770
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I used to a lot (though I have never really cared one way or the other for actual-actual sex-sex). and I used to like guys. It's hard to say when I stopped caring about men and sex altogether because it was sometime when I was with my boyfriend so I was probably just going through the motions after some point. I know that when I started dating him in dec 2006 I felt weird because I wasn't really excited about the prospect of dating at all, which was weird for me. I stopped caring about relationships first I think, and then stopped feeling any sexual needs after.

    Well I love actual-actual sex-sex.....I think.....yea I do ;)
    Get em a Body Bag Yeeeeeaaaaa!
    Sweep the Leg Johnny.
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    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I used to a lot (though I have never really cared one way or the other for actual-actual sex-sex). and I used to like guys. It's hard to say when I stopped caring about men and sex altogether because it was sometime when I was with my boyfriend so I was probably just going through the motions after some point. I know that when I started dating him in dec 2006 I felt weird because I wasn't really excited about the prospect of dating at all, which was weird for me. I stopped caring about relationships first I think, and then stopped feeling any sexual needs after.


    To echo what a few others have said...this is actually a symptom of depression.
  • Posts: 3,359
    acoustic guy wrote:
    Get mad a me all you want, but i really think you like being a marter.

    You need to have problems and frustration in your life.
    We are all wired differently and this is how you function.
    IMO.

    And if i am wrong and you want to change, then you most certianly need to see a doctor.

    a martyr?
    I hate having problems and difficulty and for a long long time I had absolutely no problems or difficulty-my health just went to hell in a hand basket in like the blink of an eye, the whole thing is really catching up with me.

    honestly, how can I get "help" when I don't even know and can't even describe what the hell I am experiencing?
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    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I used to a lot (though I have never really cared one way or the other for actual-actual sex-sex). and I used to like guys. It's hard to say when I stopped caring about men and sex altogether because it was sometime when I was with my boyfriend so I was probably just going through the motions after some point. I know that when I started dating him in dec 2006 I felt weird because I wasn't really excited about the prospect of dating at all, which was weird for me. I stopped caring about relationships first I think, and then stopped feeling any sexual needs after.


    I have said it before.. a lack of interest can be a sign of depression and if you aren't comfortable with your body than perhaps you don't want be intimate with someone. Nobody's body is perfect but that is what makes them beautiful.

    I think the time has come to piss or get off the pot.
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    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    To echo what a few others have said...this is actually a symptom of depression.
    as is everything else she's going through :(
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • Posts: 331
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    it cost me like over $200...

    So now that you have spent over $200 do you want to have spent over $200 and had a shitty time or over $200 and have a good time?

    If you do some skiing and you hate it abandon the ski thing and move on.
    sometimes life don't leave you alone
  • Posts: 18,095
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    a martyr?
    I hate having problems and difficulty and for a long long time I had absolutely no problems or difficulty-my health just went to hell in a hand basket in like the blink of an eye, the whole thing is really catching up with me.

    honestly, how can I get "help" when I don't even know and can't even describe what the hell I am experiencing?
    that's WHY you get help... to find OUT what's wrong with ya. Not everyone knows exactly why they're feeling what they're feeling... actually very few... especially when it's depression, you're often the last person to know/accept what it is.
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • Posts: 6,691
    acoustic guy wrote:
    Well I love actual-actual sex-sex.....I think.....yea I do ;)

    Doesn't everyone? :p
  • Posts: 3,770
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    a martyr?
    I hate having problems and difficulty and for a long long time I had absolutely no problems or difficulty-my health just went to hell in a hand basket in like the blink of an eye, the whole thing is really catching up with me.

    honestly, how can I get "help" when I don't even know and can't even describe what the hell I am experiencing?

    Go to a shrink, they will know exactly what is up with you.
    You are a smart woman, you already know this GTD.
    Those doctors can do wonders.
    Get em a Body Bag Yeeeeeaaaaa!
    Sweep the Leg Johnny.
  • Posts: 3,359
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    To echo what a few others have said...this is actually a symptom of depression.

    I just feel like I can't be depressed though because I was on the medication for depression the whole time...
  • Posts: 331
    small town beck wrote:
    I have said it before.. a lack of interest can be a sign of depression and if you aren't comfortable with your body than perhaps you don't want be intimate with someone. Nobody's body is perfect but that is what makes them beautiful.

    I think the time has come to piss or get off the pot.

    Or maybe the fear of being intimate with someone again is what is causing her to keep the weight on.

    It's like hiding out in a fat girl costume. And she knows that no one wants to be with a fat girl.

    Which is soooooo not the truth, Ugh....

    Therapy, missy!
    sometimes life don't leave you alone
  • Posts: 3,359
    acoustic guy wrote:
    Well I love actual-actual sex-sex.....I think.....yea I do ;)

    good for you. have a cookie.
  • Posts: 6,691
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    that's WHY you get help... to find OUT what's wrong with ya. Not everyone knows exactly why they're feeling what they're feeling... actually very few... especially when it's depression, you're often the last person to know/accept what it is.


    Exactly!!! Seriously, GTD you need to get help. Talking to someone who doesnt' know you can do wonders.
  • Posts: 331
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I just feel like I can't be depressed though because I was on the medication for depression the whole time...

    The wrong meds?

    Just meds won't "fix" things anyway.

    You need to have therapy to work on the faulty or unhealthy thought patterns and underlying causes.
    sometimes life don't leave you alone
  • Posts: 331
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    good for you. have a cookie.


    You do mean that metaphorically, correct? ;)
    sometimes life don't leave you alone
  • chi-caw-go Posts: 1,332
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    also, my whole life I have hated skiing, except for a few really good days, but you have to do it. everyone loves to ski. if people are planning a ski trip and you don't go, you are considered some kind of wuss who hates the cold and physical activity (none of which is true for me) and more importantly, you're considered completely off your rocker. In the winter in new england, all social life revolves around skiing. if you don't go you'll miss out on everything, and your friends and/or family will be pissed.

    You don't HAVE to do anything! You should feel OK about being a little different. So you don't like skiing... big deal. Because of body-confidence issues, I can't do anything fast except sled or tube. I go cross-country skiing all the time but I can't downhill ski or snowboard. I can't ice-skate... can't roller skate or rollerblade. I can water-ski, though...

    anyway, the point is... if you don't feel comfortable doing something, don't do it! Or try a little and if you get frustrated, stop. Don't feel bad about yourself. No need. How much socializing happens going down a hill, anyway? Do your own thing for a few hours and meet up with everyone later. If someone takes offense or rolls their eyes at you, THEY are the asshole, not you.
  • Posts: 3,359
    suppafreak wrote:
    Or maybe the fear of being intimate with someone again is what is causing her to keep the weight on.

    It's like hiding out in a fat girl costume. And she knows that no one wants to be with a fat girl.

    Which is soooooo not the truth, Ugh....

    Therapy, missy!

    I'm not hiding in a fat girl costume. I have no appetite and have to force myself to eat, and as much as I really don't care about fitness anymore (what's the point when it comes down to it-it was my entire life for 10 years and look where it got me), I'm forcing myself to work out 4-6 days a week, 1.5-2 hours. I'm not actually *doing* anything to "keep the weight on." and I gained most of it the first place when I was training simultaneously for a triathlon and half marathon. I don't have any reason to be afraid of intimacy or anything either, I've always been in normal relationships. that's not how I feel, I just don't care about it.
  • Posts: 3,259
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I just feel like I can't be depressed though because I was on the medication for depression the whole time...

    But even people put on meds specifically for their depression have to get them adjusted/changed a few times before they get the right results. So, while you were taking a medication that is used to treat depression, it might not have been the right one to treat *your* depression. Does that make sense?

    Believe me, I understand your hesitation about doing therapy and all of that. I've literally known for years that I need to do something about anxiety but haven't done anything. I have a million excuses and reasons why I don't want to do it, so instead of dealing with it I just continue to let it eat me up. Which is totally stupid, and I know that, but for some reason that's not enough to make me do something about it...
  • Posts: 331
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I'm not hiding in a fat girl costume. I have no appetite and have to force myself to eat, and as much as I really don't care about fitness anymore (what's the point when it comes down to it), I'm forcing myself to work out 4-6 days a week, 1.5-2 hours. I'm not actually *doing* anything to "keep the weight on." and I gained most of it the first place when I was training simultaneously for a triathlon and half marathon. I don't have any reason to be afraid of intimacy or anything either, I've always been in normal relationships. that's not how I feel, I just don't care about it.

    ok.
    sometimes life don't leave you alone
  • Posts: 18,095
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I just feel like I can't be depressed though because I was on the medication for depression the whole time...
    so you've already been diagnosed with depression... perhaps they gave you the wrong fucking meds and it's fucking you up... or maybe you didn't need meds at all... but THERAPY.
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you

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