really nervous about the weekend

Heineken Helen

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I guess it's a chicken and egg problem?

Nope, it's not! We've all told ya which comes first.

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

plus, I'm not quite sure how therapy works...I didn't understand it when I went before...I didn't know what i was supposed to be accomplishing or even what I was supposed to do.

So go and find out . I've been before (long story) and it helped sooo much... I think that definitely started my ascent.

GreenTeaDisease

Heineken Helen wrote:

I don't know if lying's the right word... and I'm not sure you even know you do it... but you twist the reality to suit whatever excuse you're giving at the time. Like one minute you've high self esteem... in the next post you can't go out cos you're so self conscious of your weight. That's just ONE example. Another example you cry for no reason... then the next post, it's not psychological it's physical. Are you in PHYSICAL pain? All the time?

the crying all the time is physical- I think it has to do with screwing around with medications for my hormonal problems. it is just very recent (with the exception of my menstrual problems that make me cry, but I'm well aware of the cause of that).

and I just don't feel like I have low self esteem. I don't feel self-conscious about my weight, I feel uncomfortable with my weight. it's new, it feels weird. clothes don't sit right. it makes me very irritable and stuff.

the wolf

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I guess it's a chicken and egg problem?

plus, I'm not quite sure how therapy works...I didn't understand it when I went before...I didn't know what i was supposed to be accomplishing or even what I was supposed to do.

just let the therapist be the guide, follow him or her, i swear you figure out shit that has been bothering you that you didnt even realize was bothering you, then you deal with it, and guess what, all of sudden that weight of the world you carry around with you on your back, gets a little bit lighter. which makes you feel amazing. then you move on to the next thing, and so on.

Heineken Helen

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

the crying all the time is physical- I think it has to do with screwing around with medications for my hormonal problems. it is just very recent (with the exception of my menstrual problems that make me cry, but I'm well aware of the cause of that).

and I just don't feel like I have low self esteem. I don't feel self-conscious about my weight, I feel uncomfortable with my weight. it's new, it feels weird. clothes don't sit right. it makes me very irritable and stuff.

Ok then :cool:

GreenTeaDisease

Do you ever:

1. Guess at what normal is.
no

2. Have difficulty in following a project through from beginning to end.
yes

3. Lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth.
no

4. Judge yourself without mercy.
sometimes

5. Have difficulty having fun.
not really

6. Take yourself very seriously.
I don't think so

7. Have difficulty with intimate relationships.
no

8. Overreact to changes over which you have no control.
I don't consider it "overreacting" but no, I don't like not have control

9. Constantly seek approval and affirmation.
hmm not constantly. not really.

10. Feel that you are different from other people.
yes

11. Are either super responsible or super irresponsible.
hmm no I am usually normally responsible

12. Are extremely loyal, even in the face of evidence that loyalty is undeserved.
yes

13. Have money dsyfunction, such as hiding it or being disorganized with it.
hmm no...I am somewhat disorganized with it, but not to any extremes.

If you relate to lots of these, you are TEXTBOOK and you would benefit from help.

wait...textbook what?

norm

gtd you are an addict without an addiction....you have an excuse or rationalization for everything....until you realize you are powerless over many aspects of your life and accept you need help you will continue in this cycle....i really hope you can find someone to help you through this....

Heineken Helen

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

Do you ever:

1. Guess at what normal is.
no

2. Have difficulty in following a project through from beginning to end.
yes

3. Lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth.
no

4. Judge yourself without mercy.
sometimes

5. Have difficulty having fun.
not really

6. Take yourself very seriously.
I don't think so

7. Have difficulty with intimate relationships.
no

8. Overreact to changes over which you have no control.
I don't consider it "overreacting" but no, I don't like not have control

9. Constantly seek approval and affirmation.
hmm not constantly. not really.

10. Feel that you are different from other people.
yes

11. Are either super responsible or super irresponsible.
hmm no I am usually normally responsible

12. Are extremely loyal, even in the face of evidence that loyalty is undeserved.
yes

13. Have money dsyfunction, such as hiding it or being disorganized with it.
hmm no...I am somewhat disorganized with it, but not to any extremes.

If you relate to lots of these, you are TEXTBOOK and you would benefit from help.

wait...textbook what?

:eek: You ARE joking... first of all change the answer to number 3... and then read the others again. You're taking the piss out of all of us... and it's not funny anymore!

GreenTeaDisease

Heineken Helen wrote:

Ok then :cool:

sorry helen, I don't know what else to tell ya, I am telling the truth. I just don't feel like I suffer from low self esteem. I just don't.

GreenTeaDisease

Heineken Helen wrote:

:eek: You ARE joking... first of all change the answer to number 3... and then read the others again. You're taking the piss out of all of us... and it's not funny anymore!

I'M NOT LYING!!!

why on earth do you think I am so dishonest? Everyone I know would tell you I am brutally honest, I live for the truth. I've never lied to anyone. I lay everything right out there.

meme

This is ridiculous.
I am not going to read anything else you post.

As someone else said, good luck being miserable for the rest of your life.

roar

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I wish I could just go away somewhere, alone, and spend the whole (indeterminate length of) time exercising, exercising more, breathing fresh cool air, exercising more, eating raw vegetables, drinking gallons of water, and getting facials. and coming back as my old self.

there are many health spa resorts out there...especially around arizona.

research places like this: http://www.canyonranch.com/

GreenTeaDisease

meme wrote:

This is ridiculous.
I am not going to read anything else you post.

As someone else said, good luck being miserable for the rest of your life.

I'm not even that miserable :(

I really don't get why what I am saying is so wrong. I don't get it. if I piss you off so much then fine don't read me. I don't know what to say. as I said, I don't know what makes me so horrible.

GreenTeaDisease

roar wrote:

there are many health spa resorts out there...especially around arizona.

research places like this: http://www.canyonranch.com/

everyone's gonna say it's an "excuse" but I don't have the money to do anything like that.

the wolf

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

everyone's gonna say it's an "excuse" but I don't have the money to do anything like that.

im with ya on this one, thats not an excuse, ive been there and that place is fucking expensive. the only reason i went was because my wife, well, when i was married, she won a stay there.

it was cool though.

chiquimonkey

this is all quite unfortunate. some people have no means of getting healthy. i just finished up a project here at work about world hunger, was a great window of perspective. some don't know what they got till it's gone, and some aren't happy no matter what.

folks, this has been going on for years, under different names. perhaps the best way to help is to just let her be. life's too short to waste on those who don't want to listen.

roar

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

everyone's gonna say it's an "excuse" but I don't have the money to do anything like that.

start saving a little bit here and there...and maybe it can be a goal?
i think there's a resort in Lenox? check for specials.

Danimal

I'd be pissed if someone called me a textbook! Or any other inanimate object!

You're a sink!

covered in bliss

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I'M NOT LYING!!!

why on earth do you think I am so dishonest? Everyone I know would tell you I am brutally honest, I live for the truth. I've never lied to anyone. I lay everything right out there.

Of course you're not lying!!!!!!!!!!!!!

you're in DENIAL!

small town beck

chiquimonkey wrote:

this is all quite unfortunate. some people have no means of getting healthy. i just finished up a project here at work about world hunger, was a great window of perspective. some don't know what they got till it's gone, and some aren't happy no matter what.

folks, this has been going on for years, under different names. perhaps the best way to help is to just let her be. life's too short to waste on those who don't want to listen.

Wise words from the ever wise Chiqui


Soon enough everyone tires of flogging the dead horse.