What is it like to be attractive?

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  • JordyWordyJordyWordy Posts: 2,261
    bee_boy wrote:
    JordyWordy wrote:
    a bit of self-confidence is attractive. (in moderation)

    This is so true. Ugly people like me can become attractive with a bit of self-confidence. When going out, just say to yourself that you have nothing to envy those dudes/girls (which is true). Trust me, you can be hotter than you think.

    i cant tell if thats sarcasm or not.....?

    anyways, being self-confident or just happy in your skin is a lot sexier to opposite sex (or same sex, no discriminating here) than the alternative, generally. of course someone can you like you even if your not. but generally.

    i was bummed out by never getting girls i wanted but other people were hitting on me alot, so despite me thinking i was ugly as sin there were people that liked me. but once i got a smidgin of ego it was a lot easier obviously. thats all.

    whats attractive about someone putting themselves down? when your happy & out there it rubs off on others.
  • surfanddestroysurfanddestroy Posts: 2,786
    JordyWordy wrote:
    when your happy & out there it rubs off on others.


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  • PearlOfAGirlPearlOfAGirl Posts: 15,993
    I think when your really happy with who you are, no matter what you look like on the outside it will show inside & out. True beauty is truly what you make of it.

    Let's face it you don't have your looks forever. I find that people who depend on their outer beauty are not very comfortable with who they are inside. If you need to show yourself off to everyone every chance you get, then there is something not so happy deep down that you may not realize. I think those are the people with the most insecurities. It is rather sad :(

    True beauty will show right through you, maybe some people just need to change a hair style or a little make up. People who wear too much make up it definitely shows.

    Just be comfortable in the skin your in whether you a man or a woman. Be happy being you, if everybody looked the same way it would be a pretty boring world. :D

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  • JordyWordyJordyWordy Posts: 2,261
    JordyWordy wrote:
    when your happy & out there it rubs off on others.
    :o

    haha! whoops!! :oops:
  • bee_boybee_boy Posts: 384
    libragirl wrote:
    bee_boy wrote:
    To be really honest, I think there's 3 kinds of people in the world:

    - Those who are beautiful on the inside
    - Those who are beautiful on the outside
    - Those who are reversible, like me :D

    Now, how's that for self-confidence ;)

    reversible? I never heard that one before :). good for you...it's really about having confidence.

    Yeah... it actually sounds funnier in spanish :P
  • bee_boybee_boy Posts: 384
    Kenny Olav wrote:
    So if Eddie Vedder looked like Geddy Lee how many of us would be here?

    Or, for a better comparison, what if he looked like Mark Lanegan? One interestin thing the big 3 Seattle bands all had in common (nirvana, soundgarden, pj) was a handsome and incredibly charismatic lead singer. Screaming Trees, Candlebox, Mudhoney... the ones that actually looked like scruffy northwestern lumberjacks... all disappeared pretty quick.

    Two words: Thom Yorke.
  • Cinnamon GirlCinnamon Girl Posts: 1,854
    bee_boy wrote:
    Two words: Thom Yorke.

    SNAP! :D

    There's a lot of extremely successful bands that have unconventional looking (ugly) lead singers. Rolling Stones, Areosmith, Radiohead...I know its a matter of opinion and I think thats the whole point of this thread; Whats attractive to one person may not be to the next person.

    BTW...I always thought Cobain was hot...but I was only 14 at the time.
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  • bee_boybee_boy Posts: 384
    JordyWordy wrote:
    i cant tell if thats sarcasm or not.....?

    No sarcasm intended... why would it be?
  • Being 'attractive' is subjective.

    One person's ugly is another's beautiful. There are people in this world who strive for attention to make themselves feel better constantly... it's quite sad really. Is being considered 'attractive' by all and sundry all it's cracked up to be? Surely as long as you have someone who loves you it shouldn't matter what you look like. You could have a hunch back, broken teeth and one eye lower than the other, so long as the person in your life thinks the sun shines out your arse, it doen't matter... who else is there to impress?

    I'm a firm believer that if you're a beautiful person, it'll show on the outside... Ugly however, no matter how much make up you wear, how airbrushed your pictures are or which twat cut your hair, goes RIGHT to the bone.

    We're all brainwashed into thinking what's attractive and what's not anyways... oh the joy of the media :roll:

    and for the record, I think Mark Lanegan is quite good looking ;)
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  • JordyWordyJordyWordy Posts: 2,261
    bee_boy wrote:
    JordyWordy wrote:
    i cant tell if thats sarcasm or not.....?

    No sarcasm intended... why would it be?

    i misread it was all, my bad :)
  • JonnyPistachioJonnyPistachio Florida Posts: 10,219
    I live in south FLA where being attractive is all that's important to A LOT of people. Fake boobies, tons of makeup, 17 inch high heels, and all that matters to a lot of people is what kind of car you drive or how big your house is. It's really sad to see sometimes.

    Funny thing is, there are still a lot of cool people and down to earth places to go, but a funny experience I had a few weeks back: I went to my local hangout, Harrys Banana Farm (no, not a gay bar, just a funny owner of a local bar), and I see friends and aquaintances drink pabst blue ribbon for $2 a can. Then I wen tto meet a friend I hadnt seen in awhile at a place where beer in a can is apalling (sp?) and a shitty import is like $8. Anyways, any of the girls who are half attractive or busting out of their clothes get men to buy them all their drinks all night long. I always wondered what it would be like to go out one night and leave the wallet at home and expect (yesm, they expect it!) to be taken care of all night. it's kinda sad.
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  • soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    I live in south FLA where being attractive is all that's important to A LOT of people. Fake boobies, tons of makeup, 17 inch high heels, and all that matters to a lot of people is what kind of car you drive or how big your house is. It's really sad to see sometimes.

    Funny thing is, there are still a lot of cool people and down to earth places to go, but a funny experience I had a few weeks back: I went to my local hangout, Harrys Banana Farm (no, not a gay bar, just a funny owner of a local bar), and I see friends and aquaintances drink pabst blue ribbon for $2 a can. Then I wen tto meet a friend I hadnt seen in awhile at a place where beer in a can is apalling (sp?) and a shitty import is like $8. Anyways, any of the girls who are half attractive or busting out of their clothes get men to buy them all their drinks all night long. I always wondered what it would be like to go out one night and leave the wallet at home and expect (yesm, they expect it!) to be taken care of all night. it's kinda sad.

    When you have a great rack, tight ass, and long perfect legs, you'll find out ;)
  • JonnyPistachioJonnyPistachio Florida Posts: 10,219
    I live in south FLA where being attractive is all that's important to A LOT of people. Fake boobies, tons of makeup, 17 inch high heels, and all that matters to a lot of people is what kind of car you drive or how big your house is. It's really sad to see sometimes.

    Funny thing is, there are still a lot of cool people and down to earth places to go, but a funny experience I had a few weeks back: I went to my local hangout, Harrys Banana Farm (no, not a gay bar, just a funny owner of a local bar), and I see friends and aquaintances drink pabst blue ribbon for $2 a can. Then I wen tto meet a friend I hadnt seen in awhile at a place where beer in a can is apalling (sp?) and a shitty import is like $8. Anyways, any of the girls who are half attractive or busting out of their clothes get men to buy them all their drinks all night long. I always wondered what it would be like to go out one night and leave the wallet at home and expect (yesm, they expect it!) to be taken care of all night. it's kinda sad.

    When you have a great rack, tight ass, and long perfect legs, you'll find out ;)
    Haha! I'm working on my man-boobs!
    I have no ass, but I heard about ass implants.
    I do have long legs...so I guess it's a start. But i refuse to shave 'em.
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  • LONGRDLONGRD Posts: 6,036
    I find the "alternative girl" extremely hot for some reason. :oops:
    I can't really explain it or describe it. I guess it's like a "personality look" sorta thing.

    For example: Mia Wallace character, former-MTV VJ Kennedy, Drew Barrymore in the 90's, Thora Birth in GhostWorld, Cat Power, and definitely Gwen in the 90's(still smoking hot today)...
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  • stickfig13stickfig13 Posts: 1,532
    I live in south FLA where being attractive is all that's important to A LOT of people. Fake boobies, tons of makeup, 17 inch high heels, and all that matters to a lot of people is what kind of car you drive or how big your house is. It's really sad to see sometimes.

    Funny thing is, there are still a lot of cool people and down to earth places to go, but a funny experience I had a few weeks back: I went to my local hangout, Harrys Banana Farm (no, not a gay bar, just a funny owner of a local bar), and I see friends and aquaintances drink pabst blue ribbon for $2 a can. Then I wen tto meet a friend I hadnt seen in awhile at a place where beer in a can is apalling (sp?) and a shitty import is like $8. Anyways, any of the girls who are half attractive or busting out of their clothes get men to buy them all their drinks all night long. I always wondered what it would be like to go out one night and leave the wallet at home and expect (yesm, they expect it!) to be taken care of all night. it's kinda sad.


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  • libragirllibragirl Posts: 4,632
    LongRd. wrote:
    I find the "alternative girl" extremely hot for some reason. :oops:
    I can't really explain it or describe it. I guess it's like a "personality look" sorta thing.

    For example: Mia Wallace character, former-MTV VJ Kennedy, Drew Barrymore in the 90's, Thora Birth in GhostWorld, Cat Power, and definitely Gwen in the 90's(still smoking hot today)...

    well that's exactly it..everyone has their own idea of what attactive is or what they are attracted too. It's a personal preference. But Im sure every guy would agree someone like Charlize Theron is beautiful. :P
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  • LONGRDLONGRD Posts: 6,036
    libragirl wrote:
    LongRd. wrote:
    I find the "alternative girl" extremely hot for some reason. :oops:
    I can't really explain it or describe it. I guess it's like a "personality look" sorta thing.

    For example: Mia Wallace character, former-MTV VJ Kennedy, Drew Barrymore in the 90's, Thora Birth in GhostWorld, Cat Power, and definitely Gwen in the 90's(still smoking hot today)...

    well that's exactly it..everyone has their own idea of what attactive is or what they are attracted too. It's a personal preference. But Im sure every guy would agree someone like Charlize Theron is beautiful. :P
    I don't think I'm attracted to any of Charlize Theron's characters. But yeah, she has a pretty face.

    I know that's really fucking weird that I'm more attracted to an actress' character than her in real life.
    So ladies if you want to win over LongRD's heart you better be in character... :lol:

    :? ....Does that mean I like role-playing?
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  • libragirllibragirl Posts: 4,632
    LongRd. wrote:
    I know that's really fucking weird that I'm more attracted to an actress' character than her in real life.
    So ladies if you want to win over LongRD's heart you better be in character... :lol:

    :? ....Does that mean I like role-playing?

    so you were attracted to her character in Monster? :P

    yeah you are kinky!
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  • in_hiding79in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    LongRd. wrote:
    libragirl wrote:
    LongRd. wrote:
    I find the "alternative girl" extremely hot for some reason. :oops:
    I can't really explain it or describe it. I guess it's like a "personality look" sorta thing.

    For example: Mia Wallace character, former-MTV VJ Kennedy, Drew Barrymore in the 90's, Thora Birth in GhostWorld, Cat Power, and definitely Gwen in the 90's(still smoking hot today)...

    well that's exactly it..everyone has their own idea of what attactive is or what they are attracted too. It's a personal preference. But Im sure every guy would agree someone like Charlize Theron is beautiful. :P
    I don't think I'm attracted to any of Charlize Theron's characters. But yeah, she has a pretty face.

    I know that's really fucking weird that I'm more attracted to an actress' character than her in real life.
    So ladies if you want to win over LongRD's heart you better be in character... :lol:

    :? ....Does that mean I like role-playing?

    Thora Birch is very pretty, even out of character!!
    :P
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  • gabersgabers Posts: 2,787
    Hell... but I live with it.
  • bee_boybee_boy Posts: 384
    I'm not ugly... I'm exotic :)
  • LONGRDLONGRD Posts: 6,036
    libragirl wrote:
    LongRd. wrote:
    I know that's really fucking weird that I'm more attracted to an actress' character than her in real life.
    So ladies if you want to win over LongRD's heart you better be in character... :lol:

    :? ....Does that mean I like role-playing?

    so you were attracted to her character in Monster? :P

    yeah you are kinky!
    No man would ever want to meet a woman like Aileen Wuornos. :shock:

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  • bee_boybee_boy Posts: 384
    LongRd. wrote:
    No man would ever want to meet a woman like Aileen Wuornos. :shock:

    :|

    Aileen Wuornos was a very very ugly woman, both outside and on the inside. Charlize Theron on the other hand... probably the most beautiful woman in Hollywood (up there with Rachel McAdams of course)
  • kenny olavkenny olav Posts: 3,319
    First I want to apologize to the original poster for having turned much of this thread into a debate about the looks/sex appeal of lead singers, although it is somewhat related. I'll just say one more thing on that... certainly without the greatness of the music, it wouldn't matter how good looking Vedder/Cornell/Cobain are. I think in the case of Mark Lanegan, his music was darker and just wouldn't appeal to as many people anyway. My main point was... having good looks helps! And that's a general rule in life, unfortunately. There are exceptions of course... I mean Blues Traveler sold a ton of records, and maybe because of his looks, John Popper was more inspired to play a mean harmonica and sing like a motherfucker. And look at the Rolling Stones! Charisma is often a good substitute for looking like a model.
  • in_hiding79in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    Kenny Olav wrote:
    First I want to apologize to the original poster for having turned much of this thread into a debate about the looks/sex appeal of lead singers, although it is somewhat related. I'll just say one more thing on that... certainly without the greatness of the music, it wouldn't matter how good looking Vedder/Cornell/Cobain are. I think in the case of Mark Lanegan, his music was darker and just wouldn't appeal to as many people anyway. My main point was... having good looks helps! And that's a general rule in life, unfortunately. There are exceptions of course... I mean Blues Traveler sold a ton of records, and maybe because of his looks, John Popper was more inspired to play a mean harmonica and sing like a motherfucker. And look at the Rolling Stones! Charisma is often a good substitute for looking like a model.


    Mick Jagger is very unattractive!! :shock:

    Good points Kenny! :)
    And so the lion fell in love with the lamb...,"
    "What a stupid lamb."
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  • PJGARDENPJGARDEN Posts: 1,484
    Kenny Olav wrote:
    First I want to apologize to the original poster for having turned much of this thread into a debate about the looks/sex appeal of lead singers, although it is somewhat related. I'll just say one more thing on that... certainly without the greatness of the music, it wouldn't matter how good looking Vedder/Cornell/Cobain are. I think in the case of Mark Lanegan, his music was darker and just wouldn't appeal to as many people anyway. My main point was... having good looks helps! And that's a general rule in life, unfortunately. There are exceptions of course... I mean Blues Traveler sold a ton of records, and maybe because of his looks, John Popper was more inspired to play a mean harmonica and sing like a motherfucker. And look at the Rolling Stones! Charisma is often a good substitute for looking like a model.

    I agree 100% with this post!

    And yes, sorry to the op :(
  • FoxyMopFoxyMop Posts: 303
    JordyWordy wrote:
    bee_boy wrote:
    JordyWordy wrote:
    a bit of self-confidence is attractive. (in moderation)

    This is so true. Ugly people like me can become attractive with a bit of self-confidence. When going out, just say to yourself that you have nothing to envy those dudes/girls (which is true). Trust me, you can be hotter than you think.

    i cant tell if thats sarcasm or not.....?

    anyways, being self-confident or just happy in your skin is a lot sexier to opposite sex (or same sex, no discriminating here) than the alternative, generally. of course someone can you like you even if your not. but generally.

    i was bummed out by never getting girls i wanted but other people were hitting on me alot, so despite me thinking i was ugly as sin there were people that liked me. but once i got a smidgin of ego it was a lot easier obviously. thats all.

    whats attractive about someone putting themselves down? when your happy & out there it rubs off on others.

    Online, we're reduced to MySpace angle photos and what we type, so in that sense...you kind of get to know people from the inside out...but yeah, you still get judged by your photo to a degree. 8-)

    I agree that confidence is key for initial attraction in a person-to-person situation if you're not what society deems as attractive/beautiful/hot. Nothing is sexier than a relaxed, confident, happy guy. :)
  • ajedigeckoajedigecko \m/deplorable af \m/ Posts: 2,431
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  • rockpantsrockpants BC Posts: 838
    I realize I'm way late to this thread, but I think a couple things need to be mentioned.

    A) If most women really felt confident in their looks, they wouldn't wear make-up to cover "imperfections". Go ahead and make your eyelids orange or green or purple if you must, but don't cover up a zit or an old scar, then turn around and tell someone else they just need some "confidence" in their appearance. I can't stand this hypocrisy in women.

    B) Confidence, just as people claim attractiveness, is also relative. I'm an ugly chick. I'm quite confident that I am viewed that way by the majority of society. That is my confidence, and there's nothing wrong with this kind of confidence - as you can see, I'm pretty confident about that. :) I don't wear make-up, don't worry about wearing the right clothes, and my hair is never "done" other than brushed and, on occasion, sprayed with a bit of "Static Guard". :P Hasn't come without its drawbacks. Just because I have this confidence doesn't mean that males have flocked to me. Far from it (but I'm okay with that. In fact, I'm extremely okay with that.)

    Thing is, people hear me say or infer that I am unattractive to others, and automatically assume that I have low self-esteem. I simply speak the truth. It is infuriating to always be dismissed as someone with no self-esteem simply due to my ability to understand how others will superficially judge me. We all have the ability to know who we are to other people as much as to ourselves.

    The superficial element exists within most people, and part of what I think Keiran may have been asking is, how do you trust that someone will be able to look past the extra 10-20 lbs., or scars, or wrinkles, or greying or balding hair? When I hear someone judging someone on their looks - which is a highly common conversation in most societies - it tells me that they do not have the ability, or just have a limited ability, to see past perceived imperfections. Not to say that they are unable to see past the imperfections eventually, but that it is hard to trust that they can when they publicly denounce or gush over someone else's appearance.

    There's more I could say regarding the subject but I'm way past my bedtime. Off for some beauty sleep ... HA!
  • in_hiding79in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    rockpants wrote:
    I realize I'm way late to this thread, but I think a couple things need to be mentioned.

    A) If most women really felt confident in their looks, they wouldn't wear make-up to cover "imperfections". Go ahead and make your eyelids orange or green or purple if you must, but don't cover up a zit or an old scar, then turn around and tell someone else they just need some "confidence" in their appearance. I can't stand this hypocrisy in women.

    B) Confidence, just as people claim attractiveness, is also relative. I'm an ugly chick. I'm quite confident that I am viewed that way by the majority of society. That is my confidence, and there's nothing wrong with this kind of confidence - as you can see, I'm pretty confident about that. :) I don't wear make-up, don't worry about wearing the right clothes, and my hair is never "done" other than brushed and, on occasion, sprayed with a bit of "Static Guard". :P Hasn't come without its drawbacks. Just because I have this confidence doesn't mean that males have flocked to me. Far from it (but I'm okay with that. In fact, I'm extremely okay with that.)

    Thing is, people hear me say or infer that I am unattractive to others, and automatically assume that I have low self-esteem. I simply speak the truth. It is infuriating to always be dismissed as someone with no self-esteem simply due to my ability to understand how others will superficially judge me. We all have the ability to know who we are to other people as much as to ourselves.

    The superficial element exists within most people, and part of what I think Keiran may have been asking is, how do you trust that someone will be able to look past the extra 10-20 lbs., or scars, or wrinkles, or greying or balding hair? When I hear someone judging someone on their looks - which is a highly common conversation in most societies - it tells me that they do not have the ability, or just have a limited ability, to see past perceived imperfections. Not to say that they are unable to see past the imperfections eventually, but that it is hard to trust that they can when they publicly denounce or gush over someone else's appearance.

    There's more I could say regarding the subject but I'm way past my bedtime. Off for some beauty sleep ... HA!


    I know this post was for everyone, but I have my opinion on it:

    What's wrong with wearing make up to look your best? I don't get it and I don't buy your post! Something sounds a bit suspicious! By the way, I like scars on the face, they have character and if I had one I wouldn't try to cover it up. Just because a woman wears make up and tells another woman that she just needs some confidence, it doesn't make her a hypocrite. No one has natural beauty, there is no such thing! :) Everybody can make themselves look better and feel better!

    Good try though... :lol:
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    "What a stupid lamb."
    "What a sick, masochistic lion."
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