What is it like to be attractive?

Keiran

I guess the title pretty much says it all.

I'm asking because after seeing everyone's avatars, I think there are some very nice looking folks on this board. And I was just wondering, what is it like to know that other people find you pretty or handsome?

What is it like to know that you have the whole package - an attractive face, an inviting smile, a pleasing looking body? That you are thought of as attractive without having to use your personality, humor, etc. What does it make you feel like when you know someone has only seen you and is thinking "Wow!"

I only ask because I'll never know. I'm one of those people who you find things to like after getting to know me. For example I have nice eyes, and that's about it. Or my personality allows you to overlook or ignore my physical short comings.

I'm sorry if this comes off stupid or superficial, I didn't intend for it to. I guess the question is the result of staring in the mirror a bit too long before showering and an extra glass of wine (or 2).

Thorns2010

Hey now, don't drag yourself down like that.

The one thing I've learned in life is that EVERYONE, and I mean EVERYONE has some kind of issue or another that they have to deal with. And almost everyone has self-image doubt at most, if not all times of there life.

So while you might think they are one of the beautiful people, inside they are probably thinking the same as you.

Why is it do you think so many 'pretty' people get plastic surgery? They have their own self doubts.

South of Seattle

Thorns2010 wrote:

Hey now, don't drag yourself down like that.

The one thing I've learned in life is that EVERYONE, and I mean EVERYONE has some kind of issue or another that they have to deal with. And almost everyone has self-image doubt at most, if not all times of there life.

So while you might think they are one of the beautiful people, inside they are probably thinking the same as you.

Why is it do you think so many 'pretty' people get plastic surgery? They have their own self doubts.

Well said.

The grass is always greener on the otherside. It's all personal taste. Everyone has a different level of attraction.

kenny olav

let's be honest. people who are born with naturally good looks get treated differently, and this affects who they are as a person, usually in a positive way. there are cases when those who are pretty/handsome end up messed up in some way, but usually that's not what happens.

JordyWordy

fine, ill be the one to actually answer the question! lol.

i dont consider myself particularly good looking (im far heavier than i ought to be for example) but im comfortable with my looks,and have only been for last 2 years or so. you should pick up your confidence a little.

to answer your question: its nice to be liked, but it can be a pain in the ass too. and everyone has things they dont like about themselves. despite getting a lot of attention from girls over the years, none of the girls i REALLY fancied were ever interested, so my confidence was rock bottom despite getting other attention.

overall, its better to be a nice person. a beautiful person that acts like an arsehole is still just an arsehole. i went to a college full of "the beautigul people of dublin", gorgeous people everywhere....theres a lot of fickle bullshit that people can get caught up in. Some people seem to forget that looks will fade is all i'll say...

a bit of self-confidence is attractive. (in moderation)

WaveCameCrashin

single and lonely or married and bored thats what it comes down to.

youngster

gvn2fly74 wrote:

single and lonely or married and bored thats what it comes down to.

Yep, that about sums it up

edvedder913

gvn2fly74 wrote:

single and lonely or married and bored thats what it comes down to.

haha chris rock - i always loved that remark

and in my opinion, good looks are overrated. it's what's inside the person - not out. even the supermodels get screwed over and cheated on. looks are not everything. i much rather have a great, loving man, than a guy who turns heads when i walk in the room with them.

igotid88

i wouldn't know.

igotid88

edvedder913 wrote:

gvn2fly74 wrote:

single and lonely or married and bored thats what it comes down to.

haha chris rock - i always loved that remark

and in my opinion, good looks are overrated. it's what's inside the person - not out. even the supermodels get screwed over and cheated on. looks are not everything. i much rather have a great, loving man, than a guy who turns heads when i walk in the room with them.

I'm pretty sure they're looking at you.

pjfan31

This thread is sad. Chin up mate.

CreedDisease

I don't know about your attitude, you sound defeated... How old are you? How about working on some of the things you don't like about yourself? Maybe a new haircut or clothes could help influence the way you see yourself. And the way you see yourself will influence the way others see you. Why do you think other girls start liking you when you start dating someone new (I assume you are a guy, i don't even know that)? Well, in my case, the new girl usually cleans me up a little, has me dressing nice, and feeling sexy. And that feeling is attractive to others...It isn't just about being drop dead gorgeous naturally... Oh wait, this thread is... I don't know what it is like to be ooogled all the time either. Though when it happens, it is quite nice.

in_hiding79

Keiran wrote:

I guess the title pretty much says it all.

I'm asking because after seeing everyone's avatars, I think there are some very nice looking folks on this board. And I was just wondering, what is it like to know that other people find you pretty or handsome?

What is it like to know that you have the whole package - an attractive face, an inviting smile, a pleasing looking body? That you are thought of as attractive without having to use your personality, humor, etc. What does it make you feel like when you know someone has only seen you and is thinking "Wow!"

I only ask because I'll never know. I'm one of those people who you find things to like after getting to know me. For example I have nice eyes, and that's about it. Or my personality allows you to overlook or ignore my physical short comings.

I'm sorry if this comes off stupid or superficial, I didn't intend for it to. I guess the question is the result of staring in the mirror a bit too long before showering and an extra glass of wine (or 2).

I bet you are very lovely inside and out!

CreedDisease

in_hiding79 wrote:

Keiran wrote:

I guess the title pretty much says it all.

I'm asking because after seeing everyone's avatars, I think there are some very nice looking folks on this board. And I was just wondering, what is it like to know that other people find you pretty or handsome?

What is it like to know that you have the whole package - an attractive face, an inviting smile, a pleasing looking body? That you are thought of as attractive without having to use your personality, humor, etc. What does it make you feel like when you know someone has only seen you and is thinking "Wow!"

I only ask because I'll never know. I'm one of those people who you find things to like after getting to know me. For example I have nice eyes, and that's about it. Or my personality allows you to overlook or ignore my physical short comings.

I'm sorry if this comes off stupid or superficial, I didn't intend for it to. I guess the question is the result of staring in the mirror a bit too long before showering and an extra glass of wine (or 2).

I bet you are very lovely inside and out!

I'm sure that is true, but if anyone here can actually answer his question, it is you. Whoa!

Thoughts_Arrive

Attractive inside or outside?

Heineken Helen

I've a friend who's stunningly beautiful... the kinda beauty that even intimidated my brothers army friends who are unintimidateable. It was funny seeing how they behave around her. But she was single and she told me she was actually miserable because of it. Guys rarely approached her cos she was so gorgeous... and when they did, it was only to chat her up so she'd only get the OVER confident guys talking to her. It's strange, I guess, maybe like being rich... people behave differently cos you have money... either cos they want it, cos they're jealous or cos they're trying NOT to seem like they want it but it's really what they want

She's such a lovely person though and it's actually really getting her down :oops: oh and, I'm not talking about her being simply attractive... she's stunningly beautiful.

It's strange for her friends too... I used to get chatted up MUCH more when I was out with her... and some of them made it quite obvious that it was just to get closer to her

Whizbang

I had a friend who was a beautiful woman. Not stunningly but a pretty, pretty girl. Yet, she was nothing but miserable once you got to know her. Looks aren't everything. If you truly love yourself, who you see (not what you see) in the mirror every day, then you're a big step ahead of the girl I was friends with.

someone on here noted "single and lonely or married and bored". Sorry, have to disagree. I am single, far from lonely and I love my life. I'd much rather be single than married. Being single is what you make of it....same with being married. If you believe the hype or society saying you're pretty much a loser if you're single then that is what you'll feel like.

iluvcats

I used to always talk about good looking people to my friend. She told me this BRILLIANT thing like I couldn't figure out (sarcasm). She said, "We all get old and gray." But yeah, she was trying to tell me to look past their looks and she was right.

soulsinging

Heineken Helen wrote:

I've a friend who's stunningly beautiful... the kinda beauty that even intimidated my brothers army friends who are unintimidateable. It was funny seeing how they behave around her. But she was single and she told me she was actually miserable because of it. Guys rarely approached her cos she was so gorgeous... and when they did, it was only to chat her up so she'd only get the OVER confident guys talking to her. It's strange, I guess, maybe like being rich... people behave differently cos you have money... either cos they want it, cos they're jealous or cos they're trying NOT to seem like they want it but it's really what they want

She's such a lovely person though and it's actually really getting her down :oops: oh and, I'm not talking about her being simply attractive... she's stunningly beautiful.

It's strange for her friends too... I used to get chatted up MUCH more when I was out with her... and some of them made it quite obvious that it was just to get closer to her

Well if you two ever get in a fight and you want a dirty way to get back at her, you know who to set her up with!

norm

Whizbang wrote:

someone on here noted "single and lonely or married and bored". Sorry, have to disagree. I am single, far from lonely and I love my life. I'd much rather be single than married. Being single is what you make of it....same with being married. If you believe the hype or society saying you're pretty much a loser if you're single then that is what you'll feel like.

as usual, you have summed up my thoughts


there are extremely good looking people who are miserable and uggos who are happy as hell...in the end, how one feels about themselves is what makes one attractive....

in_hiding79

norm wrote:

There are extremely good looking people who are miserable and uggos who are happy as hell...in the end, how one feels about themselves is what makes one attractive....

Very True..