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What is it like to be attractive?

KeiranKeiran Posts: 393
edited March 2009 in All Encompassing Trip
I guess the title pretty much says it all.

I'm asking because after seeing everyone's avatars, I think there are some very nice looking folks on this board. And I was just wondering, what is it like to know that other people find you pretty or handsome?

What is it like to know that you have the whole package - an attractive face, an inviting smile, a pleasing looking body? That you are thought of as attractive without having to use your personality, humor, etc. What does it make you feel like when you know someone has only seen you and is thinking "Wow!"

I only ask because I'll never know. I'm one of those people who you find things to like after getting to know me. For example I have nice eyes, and that's about it. Or my personality allows you to overlook or ignore my physical short comings.

I'm sorry if this comes off stupid or superficial, I didn't intend for it to. I guess the question is the result of staring in the mirror a bit too long before showering and an extra glass of wine (or 2).
I wish a guy like Eddie, would like me.
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  • Thorns2010Thorns2010 Posts: 2,201
    Hey now, don't drag yourself down like that.

    The one thing I've learned in life is that EVERYONE, and I mean EVERYONE has some kind of issue or another that they have to deal with. And almost everyone has self-image doubt at most, if not all times of there life.

    So while you might think they are one of the beautiful people, inside they are probably thinking the same as you.

    Why is it do you think so many 'pretty' people get plastic surgery? They have their own self doubts.
  • South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    Thorns2010 wrote:
    Hey now, don't drag yourself down like that.

    The one thing I've learned in life is that EVERYONE, and I mean EVERYONE has some kind of issue or another that they have to deal with. And almost everyone has self-image doubt at most, if not all times of there life.

    So while you might think they are one of the beautiful people, inside they are probably thinking the same as you.

    Why is it do you think so many 'pretty' people get plastic surgery? They have their own self doubts.

    Well said.

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  • kenny olavkenny olav Posts: 3,319
    let's be honest. people who are born with naturally good looks get treated differently, and this affects who they are as a person, usually in a positive way. there are cases when those who are pretty/handsome end up messed up in some way, but usually that's not what happens.
  • JordyWordyJordyWordy Posts: 2,261
    edited February 2009
    fine, ill be the one to actually answer the question! ;) lol.

    i dont consider myself particularly good looking (im far heavier than i ought to be for example) but im comfortable with my looks,and have only been for last 2 years or so. you should pick up your confidence a little.

    to answer your question: its nice to be liked, but it can be a pain in the ass too. and everyone has things they dont like about themselves. despite getting a lot of attention from girls over the years, none of the girls i REALLY fancied were ever interested, so my confidence was rock bottom despite getting other attention.

    overall, its better to be a nice person. a beautiful person that acts like an arsehole is still just an arsehole. i went to a college full of "the beautigul people of dublin", gorgeous people everywhere....theres a lot of fickle bullshit that people can get caught up in. Some people seem to forget that looks will fade is all i'll say...

    a bit of self-confidence is attractive. (in moderation)
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  • WaveCameCrashinWaveCameCrashin Posts: 2,929
    single and lonely or married and bored thats what it comes down to.
  • youngsteryoungster Boston Posts: 6,576
    gvn2fly74 wrote:
    single and lonely or married and bored thats what it comes down to.

    Yep, that about sums it up :)
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  • edvedder913edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
    gvn2fly74 wrote:
    single and lonely or married and bored thats what it comes down to.


    haha chris rock - i always loved that remark :)

    and in my opinion, good looks are overrated. it's what's inside the person - not out. even the supermodels get screwed over and cheated on. looks are not everything. i much rather have a great, loving man, than a guy who turns heads when i walk in the room with them.
  • igotid88igotid88 Posts: 28,181
    i wouldn't know.
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  • igotid88igotid88 Posts: 28,181
    edvedder913 wrote:
    gvn2fly74 wrote:
    single and lonely or married and bored thats what it comes down to.


    haha chris rock - i always loved that remark :)

    and in my opinion, good looks are overrated. it's what's inside the person - not out. even the supermodels get screwed over and cheated on. looks are not everything. i much rather have a great, loving man, than a guy who turns heads when i walk in the room with them.

    I'm pretty sure they're looking at you.
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  • pjfan31pjfan31 Posts: 7,335
    This thread is sad. Chin up mate.
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  • CreedDiseaseCreedDisease Posts: 241
    I don't know about your attitude, you sound defeated... How old are you? How about working on some of the things you don't like about yourself? Maybe a new haircut or clothes could help influence the way you see yourself. And the way you see yourself will influence the way others see you. Why do you think other girls start liking you when you start dating someone new (I assume you are a guy, i don't even know that)? Well, in my case, the new girl usually cleans me up a little, has me dressing nice, and feeling sexy. And that feeling is attractive to others...It isn't just about being drop dead gorgeous naturally... Oh wait, this thread is... I don't know what it is like to be ooogled all the time either. Though when it happens, it is quite nice.
  • in_hiding79in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    Keiran wrote:
    I guess the title pretty much says it all.

    I'm asking because after seeing everyone's avatars, I think there are some very nice looking folks on this board. And I was just wondering, what is it like to know that other people find you pretty or handsome?

    What is it like to know that you have the whole package - an attractive face, an inviting smile, a pleasing looking body? That you are thought of as attractive without having to use your personality, humor, etc. What does it make you feel like when you know someone has only seen you and is thinking "Wow!"

    I only ask because I'll never know. I'm one of those people who you find things to like after getting to know me. For example I have nice eyes, and that's about it. Or my personality allows you to overlook or ignore my physical short comings.

    I'm sorry if this comes off stupid or superficial, I didn't intend for it to. I guess the question is the result of staring in the mirror a bit too long before showering and an extra glass of wine (or 2).


    I bet you are very lovely inside and out! :)
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  • CreedDiseaseCreedDisease Posts: 241
    in_hiding79 wrote:
    Keiran wrote:
    I guess the title pretty much says it all.

    I'm asking because after seeing everyone's avatars, I think there are some very nice looking folks on this board. And I was just wondering, what is it like to know that other people find you pretty or handsome?

    What is it like to know that you have the whole package - an attractive face, an inviting smile, a pleasing looking body? That you are thought of as attractive without having to use your personality, humor, etc. What does it make you feel like when you know someone has only seen you and is thinking "Wow!"

    I only ask because I'll never know. I'm one of those people who you find things to like after getting to know me. For example I have nice eyes, and that's about it. Or my personality allows you to overlook or ignore my physical short comings.

    I'm sorry if this comes off stupid or superficial, I didn't intend for it to. I guess the question is the result of staring in the mirror a bit too long before showering and an extra glass of wine (or 2).


    I bet you are very lovely inside and out! :)

    I'm sure that is true, but if anyone here can actually answer his question, it is you. Whoa!
  • Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Attractive inside or outside?
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  • Heineken HelenHeineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    I've a friend who's stunningly beautiful... the kinda beauty that even intimidated my brothers army friends who are unintimidateable. It was funny seeing how they behave around her. But she was single and she told me she was actually miserable because of it. Guys rarely approached her cos she was so gorgeous... and when they did, it was only to chat her up so she'd only get the OVER confident guys talking to her. It's strange, I guess, maybe like being rich... people behave differently cos you have money... either cos they want it, cos they're jealous or cos they're trying NOT to seem like they want it but it's really what they want :mrgreen:

    She's such a lovely person though and it's actually really getting her down :oops: oh and, I'm not talking about her being simply attractive... she's stunningly beautiful.

    It's strange for her friends too... I used to get chatted up MUCH more when I was out with her... and some of them made it quite obvious that it was just to get closer to her :mrgreen:
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  • WhizbangWhizbang Posts: 1,314
    I had a friend who was a beautiful woman. Not stunningly but a pretty, pretty girl. Yet, she was nothing but miserable once you got to know her. Looks aren't everything. If you truly love yourself, who you see (not what you see) in the mirror every day, then you're a big step ahead of the girl I was friends with.

    someone on here noted "single and lonely or married and bored". Sorry, have to disagree. I am single, far from lonely and I love my life. I'd much rather be single than married. Being single is what you make of it....same with being married. If you believe the hype or society saying you're pretty much a loser if you're single then that is what you'll feel like.
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

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  • iluvcatsiluvcats Posts: 5,153
    I used to always talk about good looking people to my friend. She told me this BRILLIANT thing like I couldn't figure out (sarcasm). She said, "We all get old and gray." But yeah, she was trying to tell me to look past their looks and she was right.
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  • soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    I've a friend who's stunningly beautiful... the kinda beauty that even intimidated my brothers army friends who are unintimidateable. It was funny seeing how they behave around her. But she was single and she told me she was actually miserable because of it. Guys rarely approached her cos she was so gorgeous... and when they did, it was only to chat her up so she'd only get the OVER confident guys talking to her. It's strange, I guess, maybe like being rich... people behave differently cos you have money... either cos they want it, cos they're jealous or cos they're trying NOT to seem like they want it but it's really what they want :mrgreen:

    She's such a lovely person though and it's actually really getting her down :oops: oh and, I'm not talking about her being simply attractive... she's stunningly beautiful.

    It's strange for her friends too... I used to get chatted up MUCH more when I was out with her... and some of them made it quite obvious that it was just to get closer to her :mrgreen:

    Well if you two ever get in a fight and you want a dirty way to get back at her, you know who to set her up with!
  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    Whizbang wrote:
    someone on here noted "single and lonely or married and bored". Sorry, have to disagree. I am single, far from lonely and I love my life. I'd much rather be single than married. Being single is what you make of it....same with being married. If you believe the hype or society saying you're pretty much a loser if you're single then that is what you'll feel like.


    as usual, you have summed up my thoughts :D


    there are extremely good looking people who are miserable and uggos who are happy as hell...in the end, how one feels about themselves is what makes one attractive....
  • in_hiding79in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    norm wrote:
    There are extremely good looking people who are miserable and uggos who are happy as hell...in the end, how one feels about themselves is what makes one attractive....

    Very True.. :)
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  • Drowned OutDrowned Out Posts: 6,056
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    I've a friend who's stunningly beautiful... the kinda beauty that even intimidated my brothers army friends who are unintimidateable. It was funny seeing how they behave around her. But she was single and she told me she was actually miserable because of it. Guys rarely approached her cos she was so gorgeous... and when they did, it was only to chat her up so she'd only get the OVER confident guys talking to her. It's strange, I guess, maybe like being rich... people behave differently cos you have money... either cos they want it, cos they're jealous or cos they're trying NOT to seem like they want it but it's really what they want :mrgreen:

    She's such a lovely person though and it's actually really getting her down :oops: oh and, I'm not talking about her being simply attractive... she's stunningly beautiful.

    It's strange for her friends too... I used to get chatted up MUCH more when I was out with her... and some of them made it quite obvious that it was just to get closer to her :mrgreen:
    I never understand the whole 'too attractive to approach' thing...I've had women tell me this before and it comes across as soooo egotistical to me.
    So your friend sits there, knowing how hot she is, feeling sorry for herself that no one is hitting on her? I don't get it....I'm sure all it would take is a two second fuck-me-eyes glance, or a little wave gesture and any guy she was interested in would come running. ....I think a lot of beautiful women have a way (intentional or not) of making themselve unapproachable. The majority of the people in the world (women included ;) ), need to do SOMETHING to attract the opposite sex....body language, eye contact, whatever...whenever people say that, it sounds to me like they expect guys to fall all over them while they admire their manicure or check their texts.
  • iluvcatsiluvcats Posts: 5,153
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    It's strange for her friends too... I used to get chatted up MUCH more when I was out with her... and some of them made it quite obvious that it was just to get closer to her :mrgreen:

    oh bullshit. I think you are attractive, Helen.
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  • iluvcatsiluvcats Posts: 5,153
    I don't understand what drowned out said in the beginning of his reply.

    Have women told him that they feel he is too attractive to approach? If so, we need pics to help you decide.
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  • soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    Drowned Out wrote:
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    I've a friend who's stunningly beautiful... the kinda beauty that even intimidated my brothers army friends who are unintimidateable. It was funny seeing how they behave around her. But she was single and she told me she was actually miserable because of it. Guys rarely approached her cos she was so gorgeous... and when they did, it was only to chat her up so she'd only get the OVER confident guys talking to her. It's strange, I guess, maybe like being rich... people behave differently cos you have money... either cos they want it, cos they're jealous or cos they're trying NOT to seem like they want it but it's really what they want :mrgreen:

    She's such a lovely person though and it's actually really getting her down :oops: oh and, I'm not talking about her being simply attractive... she's stunningly beautiful.

    It's strange for her friends too... I used to get chatted up MUCH more when I was out with her... and some of them made it quite obvious that it was just to get closer to her :mrgreen:
    I never understand the whole 'too attractive to approach' thing...I've had women tell me this before and it comes across as soooo egotistical to me.
    So your friend sits there, knowing how hot she is, feeling sorry for herself that no one is hitting on her? I don't get it....I'm sure all it would take is a two second fuck-me-eyes glance, or a little wave gesture and any guy she was interested in would come running. ....I think a lot of beautiful women have a way (intentional or not) of making themselve unapproachable. The majority of the people in the world (women included ;) ), need to do SOMETHING to attract the opposite sex....body language, eye contact, whatever...whenever people say that, it sounds to me like they expect guys to fall all over them while they admire their manicure or check their texts.

    I'm guessing they learn very early on not to do this lest they 1) get labeled a tease and 2) end up having a otn of guys slobbering on them and being annoyingly stalkerish.
  • Drowned OutDrowned Out Posts: 6,056
    soulsinging wrote:

    I'm guessing they learn very early on not to do this lest they 1) get labeled a tease and 2) end up having a otn of guys slobbering on them and being annoyingly stalkerish.
    Can't have your slobbering, annoyingly stalkerish guys and eat them too.
  • in_hiding79in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    Drowned Out wrote:
    soulsinging wrote:

    I'm guessing they learn very early on not to do this lest they 1) get labeled a tease and 2) end up having a otn of guys slobbering on them and being annoyingly stalkerish.
    Can't have your slobbering, annoyingly stalkerish guys and eat them too.


    :)
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  • Drowned OutDrowned Out Posts: 6,056
    iluvcats wrote:
    I don't understand what drowned out said in the beginning of his reply.

    Have women told him that they feel he is too attractive to approach? If so, we need pics to help you decide.
    oops, missed this.
    nah, I wish.
    I was saying that female friends of mine have given me the whole 'it's a curse being beautiful' speech before.

    ( :) @ Pam)
  • Thorns2010Thorns2010 Posts: 2,201
    soulsinging wrote:
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    I've a friend who's stunningly beautiful... the kinda beauty that even intimidated my brothers army friends who are unintimidateable. It was funny seeing how they behave around her. But she was single and she told me she was actually miserable because of it. Guys rarely approached her cos she was so gorgeous... and when they did, it was only to chat her up so she'd only get the OVER confident guys talking to her. It's strange, I guess, maybe like being rich... people behave differently cos you have money... either cos they want it, cos they're jealous or cos they're trying NOT to seem like they want it but it's really what they want :mrgreen:

    She's such a lovely person though and it's actually really getting her down :oops: oh and, I'm not talking about her being simply attractive... she's stunningly beautiful.

    It's strange for her friends too... I used to get chatted up MUCH more when I was out with her... and some of them made it quite obvious that it was just to get closer to her :mrgreen:

    Well if you two ever get in a fight and you want a dirty way to get back at her, you know who to set her up with!


    You're suggesting she set her friend up with Speedy then huh? :lol:
  • iluvcatsiluvcats Posts: 5,153
    edited March 2009
    Drowned Out wrote:
    iluvcats wrote:
    I don't understand what drowned out said in the beginning of his reply.

    Have women told him that they feel he is too attractive to approach? If so, we need pics to help you decide.
    oops, missed this.
    nah, I wish.
    I was saying that female friends of mine have given me the whole 'it's a curse being beautiful' speech before.

    ( :) @ Pam)

    your friends told you that they are beautiful? wow...not too modest, huh?

    ;)

    I like beautiful people like eddie vedder; he seems pretty both inside and out. When he's an old geezer and wrinkled, he'll still be a good guy :)
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  • bee_boybee_boy Posts: 384
    JordyWordy wrote:
    a bit of self-confidence is attractive. (in moderation)

    This is so true. Ugly people like me can become attractive with a bit of self-confidence. When going out, just say to yourself that you have nothing to envy those dudes/girls (which is true). Trust me, you can be hotter than you think.
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