'I'm Seeing Someone'

Heineken Helen

genie wrote:

I will testify!!

I'll be witness no. 2

although soulsinging you seem to have calmed down a good bit recently... I think you're making an effort and it's nice to see

South of Seattle

genie wrote:

now, you got me all intrigued so please toot your horn as loud as you can

and, i have to ask you this......."so....erm do you come here often?" lol and "i think i've seen you somewhere before"

Answer # 1 - Yes
Answer # 2 - No, unless you're checking out my Myspace

genie

South of Seattle wrote:

Answer # 1 - Yes
Answer # 2 - No, unless you're checking out my Myspace

eh, i don't have myspace anymore.....long story

but i did check your myspace page, and your rap song made me jump of fear

South of Seattle

genie wrote:

eh, i don't have myspace anymore.....long story

but i did check your myspace page, and your rap song made me jump of fear

Ha Ha. I try to put the most annoying songs possible on my page. It worked

genie

South of Seattle wrote:

Ha Ha. I try to put the most annoying songs possible on my page. It worked

damn you! hehe...

too bad you live in Seattle, otherwise i would've met up with you after work. cause your comment about being similar to Ed made me frisky thank god, guys i meet never say that to me.

South of Seattle

genie wrote:

damn you! hehe...

too bad you live in Seattle, otherwise i would've met up with you after work. cause your comment about being similar to Ed made me frisky thank god, guys i meet never say that to me.

Well now all the UK boys will know what to say to you.

SoapMakesUTaller

Heineken Helen wrote:

I have to say I absolutely LOVE your attitude. I really hope these aren't just words on a computer screen and that you really really try to have the attitude you speak of. It's the right one and it's the one we should all have... and you're pretty inspirational .

Well thank you! I've never been called that, people just kinda say 'dang' when I tell them all that has happened...because they can't believe I'm not super fucked up in the head. Don't get me wrong, it bothers me, but there's nothing I can do.

So I have an update on the dating at work thing.....need you guys. hehe.

So I get a text on Thanksgiving wishing me a Happy Thanksgiving from her, I replied and said that no matter what, she was someone I was thankful for this year. Then I said, 'One time you asked me to dl a song from you to me, so I have one for you on this day'. And I asked her to dl "Mona Lisas And Mad Hatters' by Elton John. (Almost Famous reference anyone?)

Last Friday, she saw me come in, went over to me smiling, and asked how my Thanksgiving went. I simply said, 'You know how it is when you see someone you haven't seen in a while, you forget how much they mean to you.....Like family. I forgot how much they mean to me, ya know?" And she just kinda looked at me and smiled. I get my stuff and walk to my car, she was of course by the mural guy watching him paint, but halfway to my car I hear 'Hey!'. I turn around and there she is, I asked what was up, and she simply said that she wanted to know if she could get a hug from me. (Mind you, I haven't hugged her since this whole debacle weeks ago) I said, sure. And it felt great, but shitty once I left.

Then, just Monday, she saw me come in again, went out of her way to find me and actually came up behind me and messed with me....I've made the decision to be 'that guy' I was before we went out in an attempt to put this behind me. I won't hate her, I won't call her out....whatever. So I'm joking around, and she's laughing, and I said I had to go, and as she said bye she brushed my hand and lightly squeezed it. She hasn't done that since we were going out.....then, wait for it.........she called me later that night. I let it ring till voicemail, but she didn't leave one, so I would call her back. Like a jackass, I did just to show no weakness on my part. She called just to see how I was doing, I played it off telling her funny stories. She even texted me a picture of her new cat....But there it is, she's going out of her way to get my attention. All I did was have her dl a song, and now she's acting the way she did before we went out in a way.

I don't know whether to be embolded, or saddened. I suppose I'll just play it neutral. But I won't be going out of my way to say hello. She can, and she can call if she wants....but I don't let feeling blind me to what has happened.

Maybe the grass isn't so green on the other side....and I bet she just misses the things I bring to the table that Mr. I Paint Murals but have a personality as dry as the paint on the wall new guy. I'm a maestro with words, and shoot off like my hero Vinny Vaughn on a good day with the rants. And yeah, they're damn funny too!

ps. The Mural kinda looks like shit now. Instead of using a grid to exponentially increase the size of the drawing on a regular 8x11 paper and simply blowing it up to larger size, this idiot got the dimensions wrong by eyeballing it and now there's buildings and trees sticking out of the box that was originally meant to contain the picture (10ftx10ft)

pss. Yeah, I can actually do what the 'new guy' can. She just doesn't know it because I never told her, and I'm a studying graphic illustrator, and I play a mean RVM on guitar.

Can you tell I have no problem at this point in the confidence dept? hehe.

The Champ

The Champ wrote:

If only soap made your dick longer, you might still be banging this chick..

Oh yeah, I remember this thread..I hope it worked out well for everyone involved..

SoapMakesUTaller

I need Soulsinging and Heineken!

Heineken Helen

SoapMakesUTaller wrote:

I need Soulsinging and Heineken!

sorry, but I think she's seeing you as her fallback guy :( . Don't let her. She treated you like crap and now she's coming back to treat you like crap again. That's how it seems from where I am. Although if you really like her around as a friend, stick to that but please don't be under any illusions

nothingman44

nice looks like you handled things better than i did. i definitely called my ex out becasue she was a selfish bitch. she wronged me big time and i made sure that she knows how much i despise her. but most likely, she doesnt care.

oh well...moving on to the next one.

soulsinging

Heineken Helen wrote:

sorry, but I think she's seeing you as her fallback guy :( . Don't let her. She treated you like crap and now she's coming back to treat you like crap again. That's how it seems from where I am. Although if you really like her around as a friend, stick to that but please don't be under any illusions

im with her. im glad you feel confident but your play-by-play of every move she made and how superior you are to the other guy sounds like a pep talk... more like trying to convince yourself she might wise up and come back. she won't. helen's right, you're being used. she likes the attention you give her (the being thankful for her at thanksgiving sort of thing has got to stop, do that again and ill kick your ass!) and now she knows that despite her sticking it to you, you're going to keep taking it like a devoted puppy dog and whisper sweet nothings that feed her ego. so she'll keep flirting with you cos it's fun and feels good, and she'll keep you on deck just in case nobody else works out.

Heineken Helen

soulsinging wrote:

(the being thankful for her and thanksgiving things has got to stop, do that again and ill kick your ass!)

Me too

I'm gonna talk like soulsinging here and suggest you shag her, get it over with and then suggest you just be friends. This girl, I'm sorry, sounds like she wants everything her way but doesn't know what she wants. Don't let her use you again until something else she wants comes along and then she'll drop you fast again.

genie

Heineken Helen wrote:

I'm gonna talk like soulsinging here and suggest you shag her

good advice, just shag her!! you won't get anymore attached to her because you're a guy, if you were a girl i'd strongly suggest you not to.
you're a young guy and who knows maybe you're a virgin, if so just use her to loose your virginity. just have fun with her and have regular sex, treat her like your whore, and then dump her. simple as that.

but then maybe you shouldn't listen to me because lately i've been feeling frustrated

Rygar

Heineken Helen wrote:

Me too

I'm gonna talk like soulsinging here and suggest you shag her, get it over with and then suggest you just be friends.

While not bad advice, there won't be any 'friends' afterwards. If she's playing him this much as it is, the ol' hump and dump will send her over the cuckoo's nest for sure. I didn't read the whole thread, so rightfully I probably shouldn't be saying anything, but if they work together this is bad enough to begin with :P

soulsinging

Rygar wrote:

While not bad advice, there won't be any 'friends' afterwards. If she's playing him this much as it is, the ol' hump and dump will send her over the cuckoo's nest for sure. I didn't read the whole thread, so rightfully I probably shouldn't be saying anything, but if they work together this is bad enough to begin with :P

i think that was the point. fuck her and drop her. give her the friends line. though i doubt she'd sleep with him. she seems like she'd rather tease him and keep him hanging on than actually give him anything.

soulsinging

genie wrote:

good advice, just shag her!! you won't get anymore attached to her because you're a guy, if you were a girl i'd strongly suggest you not to.
you're a young guy and who knows maybe you're a virgin, if so just use her to loose your virginity. just have fun with her and have regular sex, treat her like your whore, and then dump her. simple as that.

but then maybe you shouldn't listen to me because lately i've been feeling frustrated

women are quite capable of sleeping with people without getting attached.

Heineken Helen

soulsinging wrote:

i think that was the point. fuck her and drop her. give her the friends line. though i doubt she'd sleep with him. she seems like she'd rather tease him and keep him hanging on than actually give him anything.

yep that's the point... she's played him around so see how she likes it.

Rygar

soulsinging wrote:

i think that was the point. fuck her and drop her. give her the friends line. though i doubt she'd sleep with him. she seems like she'd rather tease him and keep him hanging on than actually give him anything.

Agreed.

genie

soulsinging wrote:

women are quite capable of sleeping with people without getting attached.

yes, speaking theoretically. but from scientific point of view, once a woman had sex with a guy something in her brain changes slightly and she becomes more attached would want to have sex with that same guy. go and research it, i know i'm not talking shit. or just ask Ahnimus, i'm sure he knows.

i would give you a link where i've read it, but i haven't got it and i haven't got time to find anything simillar, shit....i need to do my work.