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my friend wants me to go to a pub crawl today

GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
edited January 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
with all people I don't know.

I'm so torn because I never do anything anymore, but I never do anything for a reason- I don't like people seeing me.

and drinking beer is exactly the opposite of what I need right now.
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  • Brain of J.LoBrain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    with all people I don't know.

    I'm so torn because I never do anything anymore, but I never do anything for a reason- I don't like people seeing me.

    and drinking beer is exactly the opposite of what I need right now.

    do it. :)

    If I were you, I would do it.
  • CollinCollin Posts: 4,931
    Do it.
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  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    do it. :)

    If I were you, I would do it.

    I'm really afraid of being out now though. I basically run back and forth to work, as covered as possible, try not to make eye contact with anyone, and then dive back in my house. I know that's not good. but I feel like even the process of getting dressed to go out is make me have an anxiety attack. I'm already starting to freak out about it. I already started crying last night when I got off the phone with her.
  • Brain of J.LoBrain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I'm really afraid of being out now though. I basically run back and forth to work, as covered as possible, try not to make eye contact with anyone, and then dive back in my house. I know that's not good. but I feel like even the process of getting dressed to go out is make me have an anxiety attack.

    When I've been in situations like this, the best thing for me to do was actually force myself to go out.
  • stargirl69stargirl69 Posts: 6,387
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    with all people I don't know.

    I'm so torn because I never do anything anymore, but I never do anything for a reason- I don't like people seeing me.

    and drinking beer is exactly the opposite of what I need right now.



    Why dont you like people seeing you?Thats a sad way to feel.You should go,you never know who you will meet,theres probably someone else in the crowd you will be with who is worried about meeting other people and what will be thought of them.You dont need to drink,just get out there and if its really bad you can leave but you will never know unless you go.
    “There should be a place where only the things you want to happen, happen”
  • TrixieCatTrixieCat Posts: 5,756
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    When I've been in situations like this, the best thing for me to do was actually force myself to go out.
    What a surprise....I agree with J LO...:)

    Are you taking anything for your anxiety?
    Don't let it cripple you. There are plenty of non addictive things you can take.
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  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    stargirl69 wrote:
    Why dont you like people seeing you?
    because I have become utterly disgusting. I might scare people.
    stargirl69 wrote:
    just get out there and if its really bad you can leave but you will never know unless you go.

    I had this thought, but the damage will already have been done.
  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    TrixieCat wrote:
    LO...:)What a surprise....I agree with J

    Are you taking anything for your anxiety?
    Don't let it cripple you. There are plenty of non addictive things you can take.

    well I don't know if I have like, clinical anxiety.
    I have to go to the doctor soon because my medication (for something else but would help with anxiety too) has been making me nauseous so I can't take it but I can't not take it either. unfortunately the doctor can't see me until march 26.
  • stargirl69stargirl69 Posts: 6,387
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    because I have become utterly disgusting. I might scare people.



    I had this thought, but the damage will already have been done.



    Oh man,come on life is better than that.But can understand all the anxieties that convince us we cant/aren't worthy of this life or getting out there.
    I can make myself sick at times freaking out about going out to socialise,but I have told some of my greatest friends about these worries and they kinda encourage and support me when out and I have had a good time.
    Please go.Its another day of having these feeling intrench you further or a new day of changing a mind set.
    “There should be a place where only the things you want to happen, happen”
  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    crap, I started crying while thinking about this and I'm trying to hydrate for an 8 mile run!!! shit shit shit shit shit I'm such a fuck up!
  • smarcheesmarchee Posts: 14,539
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    because I have become utterly disgusting. I might scare people.

    I disagree, I saw your pictures in one of those pictures thread and I was pleasently surprised, based on how you describe yourself.

    You are cute :o
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  • justamjustam Posts: 21,410
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    When I've been in situations like this, the best thing for me to do was actually force myself to go out.

    ^^^ This seems right to me too.

    You might have fun if you go. :)
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  • RolandTD20KdrummerRolandTD20Kdrummer Posts: 13,066
    What is there to think about?

    no really...
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  • jammergirljammergirl Posts: 599
    aahh, you sound like me a couple years ago! i had gained a few pounds and i actually convinced myself that i didn't "deserve" to go out until i had gotten back into shape. what a waste of energy beating myself up like that! thats why i hate to see you do that to yourself, GreenTea! please just try and go out. if it sucks, you can go home. if you ever need someone to vent to or whatever, feel free to PM me.
  • lalalalaaaaaaaalalalalaaaaaaaa Posts: 2,445
    Hope ya went out. I love pub crawls.
  • WhizbangWhizbang Posts: 1,314
    Saturnal wrote:
    Hope ya went out. I love pub crawls.

    amen to that....I love pub crawls.....get all kinds of banged up.
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

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  • lalalalaaaaaaaalalalalaaaaaaaa Posts: 2,445
    Whizbang wrote:
    amen to that....I love pub crawls.....get all kinds of banged up.
    We should plan one.
  • WhizbangWhizbang Posts: 1,314
    Saturnal wrote:
    We should plan one.

    man...I can taste the beer now....mmmmmmm.......
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

    I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29

    Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
  • lalalalaaaaaaaalalalalaaaaaaaa Posts: 2,445
    Whizbang wrote:
    man...I can taste the beer now....mmmmmmm.......
    I bet you can, Homer Kimpson. I'll call ahead to each bar just to make sure they'll have enough.
  • WhizbangWhizbang Posts: 1,314
    Saturnal wrote:
    I bet you can, Homer Kimpson. I'll call ahead to each bar just to make sure they'll have enough.

    :eek:
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

    I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29

    Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
  • lalalalaaaaaaaalalalalaaaaaaaa Posts: 2,445
    Whizbang wrote:
    :eek:
    hehe. I thought vodka was your thing though.
  • pjfan31pjfan31 Posts: 7,334
    do it!!! once you get a few brown lemonades into you, you will just start conversations up. It might seem awkward at first but you will have a good night.
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  • WhizbangWhizbang Posts: 1,314
    Saturnal wrote:
    hehe. I thought vodka was your thing though.

    ;) vodka is totally my thing. Beer rules but you saw me. I'm so much more mellow after a martini or vodka/rocks.
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

    I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29

    Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    Saturnal wrote:
    Hope ya went out. I love pub crawls.

    well my friend ended up not wanting to go to the pub crawl so we went out to dinner with our other friend and her boyfriend and then hung out for a long time and had drinks. it was much better for me.
  • WhizbangWhizbang Posts: 1,314
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    well my friend ended up not wanting to go to the pub crawl so we went out to dinner with our other friend and her boyfriend and then hung out for a long time and had drinks. it was much better for me.

    awesome!!!! glad it worked out for you!
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

    I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29

    Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    Whizbang wrote:
    awesome!!!! glad it worked out for you!

    yeah it's ok but my friends are starting to pressure me to try to meet guys again, and I just can't yet, and they just don't understand.
  • decides2dreamdecides2dream Posts: 14,977
    life is too short to allow self-perceived flaws hold you back. seriously. no matter how 'bad' one may think it all is.....shit happens, and why limit yourself? i think more people regret what they didn't do, then what they did. you have to go and LIVE, not wait for the time when you and life is *perfect*...b/c it never is, life, and you, always a work in progress.


    and i know you have a million and one 'reasons' why you can't/won't.....and i am not even going to bother to argue with you. all i WILL say, is you sell yourself short, sell others short...and are cutting off/back on true enjoyment of your life if you let your appearance or any other sort of shallow thing, hold you back from LIVING. and in regards to guys, how cool would it be to meet a guy during your self-perceived 'ugly phase'...and he likes you anyway? now there's a thought! *of coursei realize you have an 'answer' to all of this and how it will never happen, etc, etc.....and to that i say....what-everrrrrrrrrrr.............:p
    Stay with me...
    Let's just breathe...


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  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    decides2dream wrote:
    life is too short to allow self-perceived flaws hold you back. seriously. no matter how 'bad' one may think it all is.....shit happens, and why limit yourself? i think more people regret what they didn't do, then what they did. you have to go and LIVE, not wait for the time when you and life is *perfect*...b/c it never is, life, and you, always a work in progress.


    and i know you have a million and one 'reasons' why you can't/won't.....and i am not even going to bother to argue with you. all i WILL say, is you sell yourself short, sell others short...and are cutting off/back on true enjoyment of your life if you let your appearance or any other sort of shallow thing, hold you back from LIVING. and in regards to guys, how cool would it be to meet a guy during your self-perceived 'ugly phase'...and he likes you anyway? now there's a thought! *of coursei realize you have an 'answer' to all of this and how it will never happen, etc, etc.....and to that i say....what-everrrrrrrrrrr.............:p

    it's not really as deep and complicated as all that.
  • decides2dreamdecides2dream Posts: 14,977
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    it's not really as deep and complicated as all that.



    if you allow your appearance to hold you back from ANYthing, it's *something*...whether complicated or not, i couldn't say. and that's all from me.
    Stay with me...
    Let's just breathe...


    I am myself like you somehow


  • Rhinocerous SurpriseRhinocerous Surprise Posts: 4,423
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    yeah it's ok but my friends are starting to pressure me to try to meet guys again, and I just can't yet, and they just don't understand.

    I'd say to not look at it as meeting "guys", and just look at it as meeting new people. It'll take a little bit of pressure off.:)
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