my friend wants me to go to a pub crawl today

GreenTeaDisease

lgt wrote:

Well, that was just a quick google search.

You will need to do a more extensive search based on what you like/dislike.

Also, why not ask your local launderette? They might be doing quick alterations and know of someone who makes clothes from scratch.

I know these people exist in London - I'm pretty sure you will find some in Boston!

Actually, I have a friend from Boston - might ask her if she knows any. Although she hasn't lived there for over a decade...

the last time I looked I asked everyone I knew and they all said that you have to go to thailand to get custom made clothes .

I put something up on yelp, maybe someone will know of something. I know people who get stuff shortened and stuff, but I've never met anyone who has like jeans made from scratch or something. It seems so difficult and expensive. and honestly now that I think of it, I really don't know if spending so much money and time on clothes when you're fat and stuff anyway is a good idea...I mean I understand the theory of dressing "well" to make yourself feel better, but I don't know if it would...

i may just continue hiding. I think the one item of clothing I really want right now is harry potter's invisibility cloak.

lgt

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

the last time I looked I asked everyone I knew and they all said that you have to go to thailand to get custom made clothes .

I put something up on yelp, maybe someone will know of something. I know people who get stuff shortened and stuff, but I've never met anyone who has like jeans made from scratch or something. It seems so difficult and expensive. and honestly now that I think of it, I really don't know if spending so much money and time on clothes when you're fat and stuff anyway is a good idea...I mean I understand the theory of dressing "well" to make yourself feel better, but I don't know if it would...

i may just continue hiding. I think the one item of clothing I really want right now is harry potter's invisibility cloak.

TRUST ME! it does work.

There's something to say about the vanity of Italians!

Seriously, hiding behind unshapely clothes does nothing for your self-esteem, nor your looks. Indeed when you're feeling at the lowest, you should make every effort to look your best!

From an aesthetic/objective point of view, baggy, shapeless clothes are not the way to go - it will just enhance what instead you want to hide.

Instead, if you are curvier than you're used to be, you should emphasise your curves and create a shape, a silouhette.

I don't know your body type so I cannot advise you more accurately. But generally the "fashion" advice for curvy/overweight people is to wear tailored clothes with v-neck, no prints or pattern, no horizontal lines, etc.

Ignore jeans for a while. It's very rare to find flattering jeans, even when you're thin.

Go for skirts and shirts, or tops. Or dresses.

I am not sure whether it's common in the US to use a tailor, but in Italy it is. And usually it is a local lady - you just show her a picture of a dress you like to give her an idea, get the material/textile and she creates clothes based on your measurements.

GreenTeaDisease

lgt wrote:

TRUST ME! it does work.

There's something to say about the vanity of Italians!

Seriously, hiding behind unshapely clothes does nothing for your self-esteem, nor your looks. Indeed when you're feeling at the lowest, you should make every effort to look your best!

From an aesthetic/objective point of view, baggy, shapeless clothes are not the way to go - it will just enhance what instead you want to hide.

Instead, if you are curvier than you're used to be, you should emphasise your curves and create a shape, a silouhette.

I don't know your body type so I cannot advise you more accurately. But generally the "fashion" advice for curvy/overweight people is to wear tailored clothes with v-neck, no prints or pattern, no horizontal lines, etc.

Ignore jeans for a while. It's very rare to find flattering jeans, even when you're thin.

Go for skirts and shirts, or tops. Or dresses.

I am not sure whether it's common in the US to use a tailor, but in Italy it is. And usually it is a local lady - you just show her a picture of a dress you like to give her an idea, get the material/textile and she creates clothes based on your measurements.

my curves are not good ones...I like to wear clothes that de-emphasize them. I look best in very straight jeans. "curvy" jeans just make everything that much worse. though I like skirts as mentioned, I don't want to wear any dress pants. they look MUCH worse on me than jeans, and everyone in my office dresses down so I would feel weird.

lgt

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

my curves are not good ones...I like to wear clothes that de-emphasize them. I look best in very straight jeans. "curvy" jeans just make everything that much worse. though I like skirts as mentioned, I don't want to wear any dress pants. they look MUCH worse on me than jeans, and everyone in my office dresses down so I would feel weird.

The point is that all curves are good - even yours! and good clothing and good tailoring ensure that!

And you may think you de-emphasize your curves, but most likely you will just draw attention to them in an unflattering way.

And why feeling weird wearing a pair of dress pants if they make you look good, even if everyone else dresses down?! who cares!

It's another thing if they don't make you look your best.

It does look like it's your [mis]perception of your own body/appearance and preconception of what people think about you that's the real issue here - not so much availability of nice clothes in plus size.

GreenTeaDisease

lgt wrote:

The point is that all curves are good - even yours! and good clothing and good tailoring ensure that!

And you may think you de-emphasize your curves, but most likely you will just draw attention to them in an unflattering way.

And why feeling weird wearing a pair of dress pants if they make you look good, even if everyone else dresses down?! who cares!

It's another thing if they don't make you look your best.

It does look like it's your [mis]perception of your own body/appearance and preconception of what people think about you that's the real issue here - not so much availability of nice clothes in plus size.

no most of my curves are my lower stomach, my butt, and the interior of my thighs are REALLY curvy (my legs look like hour glasses and my thighs are disproportionately long). I like to straighten out my leg because I've never considered inner thigh fat attractive. I don't like how all pants now seem to be higher rise (they all are at the plus size store). While I'm not into ultra low I need something that sits on my hips to minimize that lower stomach area. high rises just draw attention to it (and encase it in fabric- never good). And I'll be damned if EVERYTHING seems to be higher these days...

lgt

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

no most of my curves are my lower stomach, my butt, and the interior of my thighs are REALLY curvy (my legs look like hour glasses and my thighs are disproportionately long). I like to straighten out my leg because I've never considered inner thigh fat attractive. I don't like how all pants now seem to be higher rise (they all are at the plus size store). While I'm not into ultra low I need something that sits on my hips to minimize that lower stomach area. high rises just draw attention to it (and encase it in fabric- never good). And I'll be damned if EVERYTHING seems to be higher these days...

Trust me, there are things to help with that as a countermeasure to extra fat in unsightly places - and I'm talking about specific underwear garments. There was even a feature in a women's magazine recently about wonder knickers [British for underpants]

Also, you can straighten your leg out by giving the illusion of length with longer hems and high heels.

With dressing, it's just a question of optical illusion. You need to ensure that the way you dress draw attention AWAY from your problem areas.

If your lower stomach is your problem area, try and disguise it with slightly longer shirts/tops. The focus will be therefore your top when people see you not your bottom half.

Not sure whether this makes any sense without any visuals being possible!

GreenTeaDisease

lgt wrote:

Trust me, there are things to help with that as a countermeasure to extra fat in unsightly places - and I'm talking about specific underwear garments. There was even a feature in a women's magazine recently about wonder knickers [British for underpants]

Also, you can straighten your leg out by giving the illusion of length with longer hems and high heels.

With dressing, it's just a question of optical illusion. You need to ensure that the way you dress draw attention AWAY from your problem areas.

If your lower stomach is your problem area, try and disguise it with slightly longer shirts/tops. The focus will be therefore your top when people see you not your bottom half.

Not sure whether this makes any sense without any visuals being possible!

well I'm actually pretty good at dressing appropriately for my shape. If I weren't so picky about it I'd be able to buy much more clothes. I know what looks "good" on me.

I don't normally wear high heels though. I have displaced toe bones that are extremely painful (as a result of wearing heels) so I don't wear them anymore. I can't really wear flats either for the same reason. I wear danskos most of the time. not all that flatter but whatever, it's not like I'm a fashion plate.

GraySaturday

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

no most of my curves are my lower stomach, my butt, and the interior of my thighs are REALLY curvy (my legs look like hour glasses and my thighs are disproportionately long). I like to straighten out my leg because I've never considered inner thigh fat attractive. I don't like how all pants now seem to be higher rise (they all are at the plus size store). While I'm not into ultra low I need something that sits on my hips to minimize that lower stomach area. high rises just draw attention to it (and encase it in fabric- never good). And I'll be damned if EVERYTHING seems to be higher these days...

I saw your pictures, I think you are in the wrong store if you are shopping at plus sized stores..

can I sign you up for what not to wear?? I think stacey and clinton would do you well!

edit: excuse my spelling and grammar errors, the kitten is obsessed with my eye lashes, and is trying to eat them so I was posting sorta blindly

GreenTeaDisease

GraySaturday wrote:

I saw your pictures, I think you are in the wrong store if you are shopping at plus sized stores..

can I sign you up for what not to wear?? I think stacy and cliton would do you well!

oh yeah, that's what I'm saying! I DON'T work well in the plus size stores. the pants technically "fit" but they look ridiculous and the tops are just SWIMMING on me, even if I get the smallest size. A 16 in a regular store is much different than a 16 in a plus store. And honestly, I really think the styles they sell in the plus sizes make people look fatter. I really do. everything is like an empire-waisted mumu with huge prints and colors. it's the stereotype of what fat women wear.

what I'm always so confused about is when I'm in a regular store like say the gap, and I see a girl who is CLEARLY way bigger than I am. I seem to not fit in things that people who are bigger than me can. that makes no sense I know. but it's true.

Dude, I would LOVE to be signed up for what not to wear, that's like my dream. unfortunately I actually have really good *taste* in clothes so I wouldn't make very interesting television .

smarchee

GraySaturday wrote:

can I sign you up for what not to wear?? I think stacy and cliton would do you well!

it's about time someone brought up this suggestion

I wasn't gonna I didn't want to be made fun of

GreenTeaDisease

smarchee wrote:

it's about time someone brought up this suggestion

I wasn't gonna I didn't want to be made fun of

unfortunately I don't think stacey and clinton take victims that are referred by people who have never met them .

GraySaturday

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

what I'm always so confused about is when I'm in a regular store like say the gap, and I see a girl who is CLEARLY way bigger than I am. I seem to not fit in things that people who are bigger than me can. that makes no sense I know. but it's true.

I know EXACTLY what you are feeling. I saw this girl who was really big the other day, wearing a sweatshirt that I have from American Eagle.. Granted it fit us differently, but she was so much bigger then me, I was like.. wow, how does that work..

I swear, height and weight play a huge huge part in how people carry things, and sadly, short people have a lot harder time looking good in the same thing a tall person would..

smarchee

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

unfortunately I don't think stacey and clinton take victims that are referred by people who have never met them .

yeah that is the drawback of the position we are in with you

GraySaturday

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

unfortunately I don't think stacey and clinton take victims that are referred by people who have never met them .

I hope you don't think I meant it in a mean way! I just meant that they would talk some confidence into you

GreenTeaDisease

GraySaturday wrote:

I hope you don't think I meant it in a mean way! I just meant that they would talk some confidence into you

oh no I don't think it's mean at all .

I want to go on what not to wear so they can take me to these "magic" stores that seem to carry every size...

GreenTeaDisease

GraySaturday wrote:

I swear, height and weight play a huge huge part in how people carry things, and sadly, short people have a lot harder time looking good in the same thing a tall person would..

DEFINITELY. and the weird thing is, I feel like the majority of people are either short and stocky or tall and thin- it seems like these go together. yet smaller sizers are shorter and larger sizes are longer.

GreenTeaDisease

GraySaturday wrote:

I swear, height and weight play a huge huge part in how people carry things, and sadly, short people have a lot harder time looking good in the same thing a tall person would..

opps double post.

chime

GraySaturday wrote:

can I sign you up for what not to wear?? I think stacey and clinton would do you well!

I was thinking of What Not To Wear but didn't know you guys got it as well ... we have Trinny and Susannah ...

decides2dream

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

DEFINITELY. and the weird thing is, I feel like the majority of people are either short and stocky or tall and thin- it seems like these go together. yet smaller sizers are shorter and larger sizes are longer.

ya really think so? i think people of ALL heights run the full gamut of being stocky or thin. i look around my office, mostof the young women are rather petite in stature, and most are tiny/thin! there are a few average sized girls, then a couple tall.....and for heavier women, all sizes.


funny too, i am 'short'....barely 5' 4" but i NEVER find my height a real issue for buying clothes. now my ass/hips can be a whole other story. sure, have to get pants shortened at times, but not a whole lot taken off, so it's definitely interesting how different we all can be.

GreenTeaDisease

Chime wrote:

I was thinking of What Not To Wear but didn't know you guys got it as well ... we have Trinny and Susannah ...

I love What Not to Wear but I always have to wonder where the hell they are taking some of these people to shop. You see people that are pretty big on that show and they take them to what looks like these little boutiques in new york. Maybe it is different in NY, but here the little boutiques carry the smallest clothing!