it's all good and nice, but lets not forget people that at the end of the day men and women are meant to procreate therefore there will always be this debate.
hey, if i hadn't had problems in finding women who liked me i probably wouldn't even be friends with guys, thus avoiding uncomfortable situations, and having to explain myself as to why i don't want to fuck that particular guy and only want to be friends with him.
haha no i haven't responded to this thread at all since it was started. i just sat back and read everyone's responses, it was really entertaining. But, i should probably explain myself to why i made this thread. two nights ago i got back with my boyfriend, and i told the two guys that liked me what happened, and i can only talk to them if they will accept me as a friend and nothing more. but they insisted on telling me that they fell inlove with me and all this nonsence. anyways.... it turns out i made two guys cry in one night, it was epic. so it turns out that i had to stay up all night with one of the guys on the phone, because he was drinking his problems away. so thats when the question came to mind, what is wrong with guys and girls just being friends and nothing more.
and i appreciated everyones responses.
if you've only been with those guys for a short period of time and only as their friend, then the guy who started crying should fucking grow some balls!
I think many guys get shit from their friends with locker room mentality to make any relationship more. So it definitely comes down to a maturity issue at the end of the day. As I get older friendships are definitely more valuable in the long run. But as long as you can separate the two, then it's possible to maintain a friendship with occasional sex, though rarely, it is possible.
I can't believe I read this whole thread, but anyways...
I think they can, but it depends on the maturity of the people involved. I think in high school its pretty hard, especially with the peer pressure to get laid. I was really good friends with a buddy's girlfriend, who I landed up falling head over heels for after they broke up, and it never amounted to anything, and we stopped being friends for one reason or another. We were great friends and used to hang out all the time and go to the gym after school. I still wonder what could have been, or if our friendship could have lasted longer.
On the flip side, my girlfriend who I have been with for almost 7 years was my friend first and it landed up going to another level. Also I have girl friends who I might have been attracted to at first, and then we just became really good friends, for instance I have a girl friend who is really into sports, she loves football and baseball, so she was really easy to relate to and it turned into more of a brother/sister relationship.
There are so many factors to which path your relationship goes down, I think it really depends on the people involved, or at least from my experience that is how I see it.
they can...and many, many are.
i have always had numerous male friends, just friends.
my very best friend is a male, we met during our undergrad days. perhaps there was 'interest' at times...from either side.....but we were always friends first, and both are happily married, to others ....and i have many strong friendships with men. a passing sexual thought, the idea of what-if?...does not have to ruin a friendship and really, quite natural. however, if one is a true friend, it does not get in the way of the friendship.
Here I am quoting you again D2D. I have quite a few male friends, one in particular I counted as my best friend. I am happily married and have been for a long long time. I think that maybe male/female relationships are kind of like soul mates in that they few and far between. But, when they happen they are special. I also think that age/maturity does play a part.
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they can...and many, many are.
i have always had numerous male friends, just friends.
my very best friend is a male, we met during our undergrad days. perhaps there was 'interest' at times...from either side.....but we were always friends first, and both are happily married, to others ....and i have many strong friendships with men. a passing sexual thought, the idea of what-if?...does not have to ruin a friendship and really, quite natural. however, if one is a true friend, it does not get in the way of the friendship.
Here I am quoting you again D2D. I have quite a few male friends, one in particular I counted as my best friend. I am happily married and have been for a long long time. I think that maybe male/female relationships are kind of like soul mates in that they few and far between. But, when they happen they are special. I also think that age/maturity does play a part.
are you callin' me old?
and my very best friend....well, idk if i fucked that up or not just this past weekend. :?
can only hope we can survive me and my stupidity.
:(
they can...and many, many are.
i have always had numerous male friends, just friends.
my very best friend is a male, we met during our undergrad days. perhaps there was 'interest' at times...from either side.....but we were always friends first, and both are happily married, to others ....and i have many strong friendships with men. a passing sexual thought, the idea of what-if?...does not have to ruin a friendship and really, quite natural. however, if one is a true friend, it does not get in the way of the friendship.
Here I am quoting you again D2D. I have quite a few male friends, one in particular I counted as my best friend. I am happily married and have been for a long long time. I think that maybe male/female relationships are kind of like soul mates in that they few and far between. But, when they happen they are special. I also think that age/maturity does play a part.
are you callin' me old?
and my very best friend....well, idk if i fucked that up or not just this past weekend. :?
can only hope we can survive me and my stupidity.
:(
Nope! Just saying I agree with you. Because if you are old, what am I! :shock:
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i saw this thread and just laughed.
easy answer..friends don't have sex.
sooo many times i've told a girl, "that guy is not your friend. he likes you". i was told i'm narrow minded..now boom they're dating.
no but seriously we can be just friends
Otherwise, it's extremely rare for any dude witha pulse and a penis to actually be "friends"
with a girl and not be thinking of playing slap & tickle, hide the pickle with her.
I think I have more girl friends than guy friends. Outside of sports, I don't have much in common with most of the guys I know who only talk about hunting, the stock market, politics, guns, etc., etc. Boring!
I think I have more girl friends than guy friends. Outside of sports, I don't have much in common with most of the guys I know who only talk about hunting, the stock market, politics, guns, etc., etc. Boring!
But then again I'm pretty tomboyish in the fact that I love sports and heavy music, so maybe they see me as just one of the guys.
Of course I've had guy friends in the past and that didn't work because there was an attraction, but like someone mentioned I think a lot of that has to do with being young.
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i saw this thread and just laughed. easy answer..friends don't have sex.
sooo many times i've told a girl, "that guy is not your friend. he likes you". i was told i'm narrow minded..now boom they're dating.
no but seriously we can be just friends
shit, is that what i've done wrong all these years? :wtf:
hahaha.
seriously, i do think friends can have sex, but sure....most don't, and are better off not doing so....but that's a whole other story. in all seriousness tho, as i said earlier, i KNOW men and women can be friends, just friends (even if one or the other occasionally thinks of the what-ifs) b/c most of my friends are male, and most of us are happily married to other people.
They can, my best friend is a man... met him here actually...
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i saw this thread and just laughed. easy answer..friends don't have sex.
sooo many times i've told a girl, "that guy is not your friend. he likes you". i was told i'm narrow minded..now boom they're dating.
no but seriously we can be just friends
shit, is that what i've done wrong all these years? :wtf:
hahaha.
seriously, i do think friends can have sex, but sure....most don't, and are better off not doing so....but that's a whole other story. in all seriousness tho, as i said earlier, i KNOW men and women can be friends, just friends (even if one or the other occasionally thinks of the what-ifs) b/c most of my friends are male, and most of us are happily married to other people.
i do have some girls that are friends but eventually we drink a few too many and hook up. guess it just gets comfortable. i dunno..maybe i just hang out with the wrong girls
They can, my best friend is a man... met him here actually...
aw, thank you.
No probs
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hey, if i hadn't had problems in finding women who liked me i probably wouldn't even be friends with guys, thus avoiding uncomfortable situations, and having to explain myself as to why i don't want to fuck that particular guy and only want to be friends with him.
if you've only been with those guys for a short period of time and only as their friend, then the guy who started crying should fucking grow some balls!
I think they can, but it depends on the maturity of the people involved. I think in high school its pretty hard, especially with the peer pressure to get laid. I was really good friends with a buddy's girlfriend, who I landed up falling head over heels for after they broke up, and it never amounted to anything, and we stopped being friends for one reason or another. We were great friends and used to hang out all the time and go to the gym after school. I still wonder what could have been, or if our friendship could have lasted longer.
On the flip side, my girlfriend who I have been with for almost 7 years was my friend first and it landed up going to another level. Also I have girl friends who I might have been attracted to at first, and then we just became really good friends, for instance I have a girl friend who is really into sports, she loves football and baseball, so she was really easy to relate to and it turned into more of a brother/sister relationship.
There are so many factors to which path your relationship goes down, I think it really depends on the people involved, or at least from my experience that is how I see it.
I need more.
Nothing seems to satisfy.
I said, I dont want it.
I just need it.
To breathe, to feel, to know Im alive.
are you callin' me old?
and my very best friend....well, idk if i fucked that up or not just this past weekend. :?
can only hope we can survive me and my stupidity.
:(
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
easy answer..friends don't have sex.
sooo many times i've told a girl, "that guy is not your friend. he likes you". i was told i'm narrow minded..now boom they're dating.
no but seriously we can be just friends
Otherwise, it's extremely rare for any dude witha pulse and a penis to actually be "friends"
with a girl and not be thinking of playing slap & tickle, hide the pickle with her.
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ditto.
But then again I'm pretty tomboyish in the fact that I love sports and heavy music, so maybe they see me as just one of the guys.
Of course I've had guy friends in the past and that didn't work because there was an attraction, but like someone mentioned I think a lot of that has to do with being young.
shit, is that what i've done wrong all these years? :wtf:
hahaha.
seriously, i do think friends can have sex, but sure....most don't, and are better off not doing so....but that's a whole other story. in all seriousness tho, as i said earlier, i KNOW men and women can be friends, just friends (even if one or the other occasionally thinks of the what-ifs) b/c most of my friends are male, and most of us are happily married to other people.
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
aw, thank you.
i do have some girls that are friends but eventually we drink a few too many and hook up. guess it just gets comfortable. i dunno..maybe i just hang out with the wrong girls
It would be funnier if you wrote "because women are from Venus and men have a penis."
No probs
... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
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