Nagging Wife, Anyone?

saveuplife

fanch75 wrote:

Is she going to cook you some meat this evening (while topless, of course)?

Of course.

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AmentsChick

Poncier wrote:

So long as its not bacon...don't want to spatter hot grease on those puppies.

OUCH! I'm wincing at the thought!!! poor boobies!!

TrixieCat

The Champ wrote:

Right, but guys do want it EVERY night..see where the problem is?

At least one person understands what I was saying.
Hi Fucker.

The Champ

The Champ wrote:

Well, it seems to me that everything has been discussed in length, but I do have one suggestion. Perhaps next time try to stick it in her pooper as soon as you walk into the room. I mean, don't be annoying and/or too pushy about it, but take control of the situation and let your feelings/intentions be known.

Chances are she'll leave you alone till you calm down (which is what you want), but there is also a chance that eventually she'll give in, which wouldn't be a bad alternative to nagging either. I don't know, I'm new to marriage so I'm trying to feel my way around as well..so best to you ..

Saveup, glad you worked things out with your wife for the time being, but next time I still suggest to try the above for shits and giggles...win-win for everyone ..

CityMouse

AmentsChick wrote:

I didn't say anything about EVERY night.

right it's the every night thing.

saveuplife

The Champ wrote:

Saveup, glad you worked things out with your wife for the time being, but next time I still suggest to try the above for shits and giggles...win-win for everyone ..

shits and giggles, indeed.

The Champ

urbanhippie wrote:

Thats not always a problem. Give and take....y'see?

Of course, but generally speaking ..

decides2dream

i preface my post with this: i have not ready anything else in this thread except the first post. so my apologies if i am being redundant.


that said, to me it's a fairly simple thing. you need to clearly and calmly communicate to your wife that when you get home you need X amount of time to unwind. this is fair. if said in a non-accusatory way, saying that yes you do want to hear all about her day, share, talk, whatever...you just need say a half hour of unwind, 'me' time....and then will be ready and willing to discuss whatever she wants, that's more than fair. she may be a wee bit upset at first, but she will understand. we all have our own needs, and our schedules....and they don't always align perfectly.

while it is unspoken at this point, my husband and i do something quite similar. nowadays we commute home on the train together, and some days we both just plug in our ipods...other times we talk......and sometimes a mix of both. when at home, same deal...depends on our moods. however, if one or the other expresses a need for a little alone and/or quiet time, it's respected. i far rather say, or be told, i need time to myself, than be half-listened to or have an eh convo b/c one isn't in to it.


i also don't consider this problem 'nagging' at all...unless all the convos are about shit you need to do. and yes, many times women just like to vent, no solutions...just vent. other times sure, problem-solving is appreciated. personally, i don't think it's merely a female thing either, although we definitely tend to do it more. however, even recognizing that is a sign you are gaining understanding. sometimes just listening is the best thing.

The Champ

TrixieCat wrote:

At least one person understands what I was saying.
Hi Fucker.

What a mess this thread is ..and Hi Trix..

Poncier

saveuplife wrote:

shits and giggles, indeed.

Or maybe shits and screams if you're a little too aggressive.

The Champ

saveuplife wrote:

shits and giggles, indeed.

Is this an invitation, because i'm there...and afterwards Fanch could fry up some meat for everyone..

TrixieCat

The Champ wrote:

What a mess this thread is ..and Hi Trix..

I know.
Everytime I mention a bj, everyone just gets all crazy.
Hope you are well and the new missus isn't walking funny.

NY PJ1

TrixieCat wrote:

I know.
Everytime I mention a bj, everyone just gets all crazy.
Hope you are well and the new missus isn't walking funny.

what does that mean? big john?

AmentsChick

TrixieCat wrote:

I know.
Everytime I mention a bj, everyone just gets all crazy.

HAHAHAHA. That made me LOL!

The Champ

decides2dream wrote:

i preface my post with this: i have not ready anything else in this thread except the first post. so my apologies if i am being redundant.


that said, to me it's a fairly simple thing. you need to clearly and calmly communicate to your wife that when you get home you need X amount of time to unwind. this is fair. if said in a non-accusatory way, saying that yes you do want to hear all about her day, share, talk, whatever...you just need say a half hour of unwind, 'me' time....and then will be ready and willing to discuss whatever she wants, that's more than fair. she may be a wee bit upset at first, but she will understand. we all have our own needs, and our schedules....and they don't always align perfectly.

while it is unspoken at this point, my husband and i do something quite similar. nowadays we commute home on the train together, and some days we both just plug in our ipods...other times we talk......and sometimes a mix of both. when at home, same deal...depends on our moods. however, if one or the other expresses a need for a little alone and/or quiet time, it's respected. i far rather say, or be told, i need time to myself, than be half-listened to or have an eh convo b/c one isn't in to it.


i also don't consider this problem 'nagging' at all...unless all the convos are about shit you need to do. and yes, many times women just like to vent, no solutions...just vent. other times sure, problem-solving is appreciated. personally, i don't think it's merely a female thing either, although we definitely tend to do it more. however, even recognizing that is a sign you are gaining understanding. sometimes just listening is the best thing.

If you had read the responses you would have been aware that the above is no longer considered on topic ..

AmentsChick

The Champ wrote:

If you had read the responses you would have been aware that the above is no longer considered on topic ..

EXACTLY! We're now discussing the more enjoyable topic of bj's. LOL!

norm

TrixieCat wrote:

Everytime I mention a bj, everyone just gets all crazy.

yea i didn't know there were so many MASH fans here

The Champ

TrixieCat wrote:

I know.
Everytime I mention a bj, everyone just gets all crazy.
Hope you are well and the new missus isn't walking funny.

lol...and nah, she's been back to walking normal for at least a week now, but thanks for asking ..

AmentsChick

The Champ wrote:

she's been back to walking normal for at least a week now, but thanks for asking

And you tried to tell us you don't have relations every night! :eek:

Poncier

cutback wrote:

yea i didn't know there were so many MASH fans here

MASH?
Dam, I thought we were discussing this show