Question about girls

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nothingman44 wrote:

the friend zone is the worst...

It's like a dick in a glass jar!

Indian Summer

dontloseyourheat wrote:

Sounds to me like you found your way into the dreaded FRIEND ZONE.

Bingo.

deadnothingbetter

harmless_little_f*** wrote:

Maybe you just ARE a nice guy. If so, don't apologise for it. Be proud of it. If anyone doesn't like it, fuck em. That's what I've decided.

see here's the weird thing. i'm naturally a not so nice guy. i'm really a horrible person for many reasons that i could think of. bad temper, boastful and whatnot.

so that is what is so confusing about the situation. i haven't been "nice" to her in that sort of way. or if i was cause that's what it sounds like i wouldn't even know where exactly i was being the "nice guy".

romybian

deadnothingbetter wrote:

see here's the weird thing. i'm naturally a not so nice guy. i'm really a horrible person for many reasons that i could think of. bad temper, boastful and whatnot.

so that is what is so confusing about the situation. i haven't been "nice" to her in that sort of way. or if i was cause that's what it sounds like i wouldn't even know where exactly i was being the "nice guy".

Ok.... Someone else already said that she might be talking to you about this other guy just to make you react. I absolutely agree. I did that same thing 2 days ago... And It just works.
This guy I had a thing with 3 months ago kept fighting his feelings for the most reasonable reasons (has a girlfriend for 3 years and he's going back home -really far away- for ever in 8 days). So the other night we all went to a bar and I started talking to a guy there, all night long talking, he was seriously interested in me but I knew all the way that nothing was going to happen.
Fast foward to today, he's pissed.
Conclusion: I got what I needed... To know there's still something there to fight for.
So probably she's just trying to find out if you are interested in her. My advide, say something, not something that will expose you too much but something clear enough that she'll understand that you do have feelings for her.
And then just play along, sometimes it takes a while, but all these games and "strategies" make it more fun, and it's just hillarious to talk about them once you're already together. haha

Good luck!

Medicated-Genius

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I am almost POSITIVE that by mentioning this other guy, she is trying to get your reaction. I mean I have definitely played a similar hand myself in the past. She's trying to prompt you to say something about how you like her. I almost guarantee it.

My sentiments exactly. Talking every day to someone you really like for a month, without any hint from them that they like you, is a LONG time. She's either decided you only wanna be friends, or she's testing your reaction by telling you about this other guy. Personally, games like this give me the shits. If you like someone, say so. The worst that can happen is she doesn't feel the same way. At least you will know. I'd give the same advice to her if she was reading this too........ life's too short to fuck around.

deadnothingbetter

romybian wrote:

Ok.... Someone else already said that she might be talking to you about this other guy just to make you react. I absolutely agree. I did that same thing 2 days ago... And It just works.
This guy I had a thing with 3 months ago kept fighting his feelings for the most reasonable reasons (has a girlfriend for 3 years and he's going back home -really far away- for ever in 8 days). So the other night we all went to a bar and I started talking to a guy there, all night long talking, he was seriously interested in me but I knew all the way that nothing was going to happen.
Fast foward to today, he's pissed.
Conclusion: I got what I needed... To know there's still something there to fight for.
So probably she's just trying to find out if you are interested in her. My advide, say something, not something that will expose you too much but something clear enough that she'll understand that you do have feelings for her.
And then just play along, sometimes it takes a while, but all these games and "strategies" make it more fun, and it's just hillarious to talk about them once you're already together. haha

Good luck!

hmmm.... ok.... i'll see what happens. but i'll still ignore her for the moment.... cause afterall talking almost every day can be a drag sometimes.

deadnothingbetter

Medicated-Genius wrote:

My sentiments exactly. Talking every day to someone you really like for a month, without any hint from them that they like you, is a LONG time. She's either decided you only wanna be friends, or she's testing your reaction by telling you about this other guy. Personally, games like this give me the shits. If you like someone, say so. The worst that can happen is she doesn't feel the same way. At least you will know. I'd give the same advice to her if she was reading this too........ life's too short to fuck around.

i dunno... this whole thing of testing my reactions about this other guy sounds kinda "iffy" but i'll see what becomes of it.

Medicated-Genius

deadnothingbetter wrote:

i dunno... this whole thing of testing my reactions about this other guy sounds kinda "iffy" but i'll see what becomes of it.

The point being, iffy or not....... in telling her you like her, you at least find out if she likes you back. If she does, it's all good. If she doesn't, you won't spend another minute wondering about it.

harmless_little_f***

deadnothingbetter wrote:

i dunno... this whole thing of testing my reactions about this other guy sounds kinda "iffy" but i'll see what becomes of it.

Not meaning to sound like a dick, but it's iffy to me too... I'm not sure it's worth the games girls play sometimes.

romybian

harmless_little_f*** wrote:

Not meaning to sound like a dick, but it's iffy to me too... I'm not sure it's worth the games girls play sometimes.

Well it all deppends on the way each story developes. But imagine, if it's scary for guys to speak up sometimes, for us it's even worst (I hate the fact that it is, but... it is). It can be the historical position we've had in relationships, the fact that usually the guy will ask the girl out, and all that jazz. But at least in my opinion, when we don't have the guts to just go ahead and say it, either we do things like this to see if it's even worth the try, or just wait till the guy makes his move.
I've done both, playing games and being straightfoward about it and just saying it, and both had their good and bad, but I wouldn't change a thing, because they felt like the right thing to do with each guy.

harmless_little_f***

The friend zone is terrible.....

soulsinging

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

Sounds like a good idea to me. Typical of a guy. :rolleyes: You should both do yourselves a favour and find someone likeminded.

you needed this thread to know you are nothing but sex to us?

to the OP, stop talking to her. just avoid her. come up with excuses why you don't have time to speak to her. either she will just disappear in which case you know she had no interest, or she will suddenly realize you won't let her use you as a fallback doormat which will spur her to take you more seriously and get her wet for you becos she'll think you're confident and don't need her.

soulsinging

Medicated-Genius wrote:

The point being, iffy or not....... in telling her you like her, you at least find out if she likes you back. If she does, it's all good. If she doesn't, you won't spend another minute wondering about it.

no, it's not all good. becos if you drop some limp "i really like you" words on her, even if she DID like you, she WON'T anymore. you're no longer a challenge. you've tipped your hand. and she knows you're desperate enough that you're willing to say crap like that to her so she knows she can fall back on you. even if she goes for it, you've lost all "hand" in the relationship from the very beginning and she will use you like a toy and already start looking elsewhere.

you either get physical with her one night out of the blue, or tell her flat out you're taking her on a date and tell her when and where to show up. or if she calls to ask why you've been avoiding, you say it's becos you don't want to listen to her whine about other guys and then YOU get the hand if she gets apologetic. she needs to know you're a man who's not going to play women's head games or let her jerk you around with subtle jealousy games.

AmentsChick

soulsinging wrote:

no, it's not all good. becos if you drop some limp "i really like you" words on her, even if she DID like you, she WON'T anymore. you're no longer a challenge. you've tipped your hand. and she knows you're desperate enough that you're willing to say crap like that to her so she knows she can fall back on you. even if she goes for it, you've lost all "hand" in the relationship from the very beginning and she will use you like a toy and already start looking elsewhere.

Wow...you've really been treated shitty by women, haven't you? :( I'm sorry.

soulsinging

AmentsChick wrote:

Wow...you've really been treated shitty by women, haven't you? :( I'm sorry.

yeah, she had your name, remember?

i've given as good as i've gotten though. it's a dirty game all around.

harmless_little_f***

soulsinging wrote:

no, it's not all good. becos if you drop some limp "i really like you" words on her, even if she DID like you, she WON'T anymore. you're no longer a challenge. you've tipped your hand. and she knows you're desperate enough that you're willing to say crap like that to her so she knows she can fall back on you. even if she goes for it, you've lost all "hand" in the relationship from the very beginning and she will use you like a toy and already start looking.

I agree with Soulsinging completely.... you're fucked from the start with many women..

dontloseyourheat

soulsinging wrote:

no, it's not all good. becos if you drop some limp "i really like you" words on her, even if she DID like you, she WON'T anymore. you're no longer a challenge. you've tipped your hand. and she knows you're desperate enough that you're willing to say crap like that to her so she knows she can fall back on you. even if she goes for it, you've lost all "hand" in the relationship from the very beginning and she will use you like a toy and already start looking elsewhere.

you either get physical with her one night out of the blue, or tell her flat out you're taking her on a date and tell her when and where to show up. or if she calls to ask why you've been avoiding, you say it's becos you don't want to listen to her whine about other guys and then YOU get the hand if she gets apologetic. she needs to know you're a man who's not going to play women's head games or let her jerk you around with subtle jealousy games.

Awesome post, I want to give you a high five right now.

AmentsChick

soulsinging wrote:

yeah, she had your name, remember?

i've given as good as i've gotten though. it's a dirty game all around.

OMG. That's right. :( Stupid bitch.

nothingman44

soulsinging wrote:

it's a dirty game all around.

aint that the truth...

ItsEvolutionBaby74

South of Seattle wrote:

I got into the friend zone once and didn't know how it happened either. I was being too nice, sometimes girls take that the wrong way.

Story of my life, bro.