Question about girls

patrickredeyes

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

It's up to you then but I personally always think honesty is the best policy.

Yup honesty is the best policy IMO.

deadnothingbetter

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

It's up to you then but I personally always think honesty is the best policy.

you know what i'll do? i'll do the same thing the dude in philly is doing. ignore her for about a week... then maybe she'll miss me a little. if she doesn't... fuck it. i've got to have some self-respect.

patrickredeyes

deadnothingbetter wrote:

you know what i'll do? i'll do the same thing the dude in philly is doing. ignore her for about a week... then maybe she'll miss me a little. if she doesn't... fuck it. i've got to have some self-respect.

Well best of luck to you. Yea maybe try the ignore thing and see how that goes. Some girls like that and the feel of a challenge.

sponger

It's like what Cuba Gooding Jr. said in Jerry Macguire. When Tom Cruise is describing to Cuba Gooding Jr. what he likes about Renee Zellwegger, he says everything except for the fact that she's smoking hot. That's when Cuba Gooding Jr. busts out laughing and points out how amusing it is that Jerry's marriage "isn't sexy".

You sound like the hopeless romantic type. You get to know this girl for almost a month now and furthest you've gotten to getting intimate with her is "talking about going on a date."

Also, you're already planning how to shield yourself from the humiliation of being rejected by beating her to the silent treatment.

The key is to stop thinking of it in terms of it being a relationship. That's what women do. Your job is to think with your penis. If you don't think with your penis, then your relationships will never work.

Now, you're probably thinking about how low down and disgusting to objectify women like that. But, you are the one in this ugly predicament. Meanwhile, sexist pigs across america are getting laid left and right. Eventually they come across someone that means something to them, but they come to that realization only after going through all the bases which includes dating.

It sounds like you're convinced you have feelings for this girl and I venture to guess you haven't even gotten to first base with her. I guarantee you the guy that she likes over in wherever is the type of guy who tries to get in her pants every chance he gets. I'm not advocating that you throw yourself on her. I'm saying you should lean over and give her a smooch and tell her that she's hot.

When she brings up so and so, act jealous and tell her how badly you want to kick his ass up and down the block.

This kind of behavior will make her feel sexy, which is how women like to feel deep down. Of course, they never admit to that; you wouldn't either if you were a woman.

It's like those moments leading up to a fist fight. The other guy has said some shit and you've said some shit too. Pretty soon if you don't act, he's going to get the first punch, which could do some real damage if you're not paying attention. If your gut tells you the situation is coming to a head, you start swinging and hope for the best.

It's either that or walk away. This girl is either into you or she isn't. If you don't act fast or at least walk away now, she's going to get the first punch, in which case you'll be nursing a bruised ego for days or even years to come.

MattCameronKicksButt

sponger wrote:

It's like what Cuba Gooding Jr. said in Jerry Macguire. When Tom Cruise is describing to Cuba Gooding Jr. what he likes about Renee Zellwegger, he says everything except for the fact that she's smoking hot. That's when Cuba Gooding Jr. busts out laughing and points out how amusing it is that Jerry's marriage "isn't sexy".

You sound like the hopeless romantic type. You get to know this girl for almost a month now and furthest you've gotten to getting intimate with her is "talking about going on a date."

Also, you're already planning how to shield yourself from the humiliation of being rejected by beating her to the silent treatment.

The key is to stop thinking of it in terms of it being a relationship. That's what women do. Your job is to think with your penis. If you don't think with your penis, then your relationships will never work.

Now, you're probably thinking about how low down and disgusting to objectify women like that. But, you are the one in this ugly predicament. Meanwhile, sexist pigs across america are getting laid left and right. Eventually they come across someone that means something to them, but they come to that realization only after going through all the bases which includes dating.

It sounds like you're convinced you have feelings for this girl and I venture to guess you haven't even gotten to first base with her. I guarantee you the guy that she likes over in wherever is the type of guy who tries to get in her pants every chance he gets. I'm not advocating that you throw yourself on her. I'm saying you should lean over and give her a smooch and tell her that she's hot.

When she brings up so and so, act jealous and tell her how badly you want to kick his ass up and down the block.

This kind of behavior will make her feel sexy, which is how women like to feel deep down. Of course, they never admit to that; you wouldn't either if you were a woman.

It's like those moments leading up to a fist fight. The other guy has said some shit and you've said some shit too. Pretty soon if you don't act, he's going to get the first punch, which could do some real damage if you're not paying attention. If your gut tells you the situation is coming to a head, you start swinging and hope for the best.

It's either that or walk away. This girl is either into you or she isn't. If you don't act fast or at least walk away now, she's going to get the first punch, in which case you'll be nursing a bruised ego for days or even years to come.

You're right, there.

sponger

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stu gee

Im finished with relationships for now, they completely scramble your mind and are far too complicated. One night stands and no exchanging of numbers/details are the way forward.

pjfan31

I hope she doesnt think ur gay.... But I was in a similar position about 5 yrs ago, I liked this girl Samantha, and we talked we laughed, the only thing stopping me was her boyfriend. It was strange but without even going out with her or sharing an intimate moment with her, i fell in Love with her.

I thought we would be perfect, and i could really see us growing old. I wasn't about to cut the boyfriends grass cause i was friends with him, not great friends, but friends none the less.

Soon they broke up and i was just waiting a while because i didnt want to pounce while the iron was still hot. I was out one night (a few weeks after the break up) and this girls best friend told me that Sam had a crush on me. This was an unbelievable feeling, knowing that this girl that i liked/loved felt the same way about me. I went to try and find her only to be told that she had just left.

Being not an overly confident person especially when trying to chat a girl up, I decided to wait till the next time I saw her and no doubt i would of had a couple of drinks to ease my nerves.

The next time i saw her was about a month later, I organised for a group of us to go out. Right when i asked her if she wanted to go for a walk, getting ready to ask the question, her friend tagged along and said "Did you know Sam has a new boyfriend?" It put a spanner in the works and I thought that it would just be temporary. I met the guy, and he was really nice, and had a weird sense of humour just like I, and he was sharing the same kind of jokes that we would share. It kind of gave me comfort because i was thinking I fit into her category type thing.....

About 3 months later, I was out with my mates, and they all suspected that i liked her, though i only confirmed it with 1 mate, but someone said "Did u hear samantha is pregnant?" I have never felt my heart drop as low as that, and I spent the weekend thinking that my dreams of being with her are all but faded. On the following monday, i got a txt from her confirming what i dreaded.

About 3 years on she has a beautiful girl (2) and very nice partner (father of the baby)

3 years on for me, and it is still the only girl i have ever loved. I have had a few girlfriends, a few flings, but nothing or no one can compare.

I was listening to Black yesterday, and it made me so depressed. "I know some day you'll have a beautiful life, i know you'll be a star, in somebody elses sky, but why? why? Why cant it be mine?"

This is a long post, but mate if i can give you any advice, don't make the same mistake i did, because if she slips away you may not be able to catch her. good luck

lalalalaaaaaaaa

Yea, I'd find some way to bring up the other guy next time you speak like others have said. Unless she's mildly retarded, she already knows pretty much everything you just posted. It doesn't take a genius to figure it out when you go quiet on the phone when she's talking about another guy.

RolandTD20Kdrummer

You didn't light her fire dude.

You moved too slow to get in the fast lane.

She's gonna have to blow to hard on your embers to make you a fire.

Shes felt like snoozin while you were loosin.

I could go on, but carpe diem on that action bro.

You need to keep the heat to play the beat.

Brain of J.Lo

Don't let this drag on any longer, and just put it out there.

Good luck!!

GreenTeaDisease

deadnothingbetter wrote:

I've been speaking with a girl for a while now. She calls me or texts me almost every day. I really enjoy speaking with her. I've been out of the dating bandwagon for awhile now and now that we've been talking I would really like to date this girl.

The problem is she has a "friend" from Philly that she has a "crush" on. It's been a couple of times now that she mentions him. At first it didn't bother me at all and I would simply tease her about it, but we just got off the phone about 20 minutes ago and she said she had "mixed" emotions cause this guy told her that he was going on a date this weekend. It bothered me that she would tell me this, considering that we've been speaking for about a month now for almost every day. It's now feeling like she's calling me simply to "vent" out her her problems with me. I don't like it.

I don't want to tell her anything nor do I want to tell her how I feel about it. I've done it before in the past, and from experience it's never worked by telling girls what I feel.

So while she was telling me about how "sad," "happy" or as she described it "mixed" emotions I began to grow uninterested in the conversation. I know she noticed cause she asked, "what's wrong?" So I told her that nothing was wrong. She asked why I was quiet so I just responded and said, "I'm just listening." I tried changing the conversation and tried making her laugh but it wasn't working. I guess I was a little upset about it but was trying not to show it. She probably picked up on it... I'm not sure. All I told her was that I just want her to have a great time when she talks with me.

The reason it bothers me the most is because we always speak about going out on a date, and also considering that she calls me almost every day, I think if she were smart enough she would know it's probably not best to talk about the fellows she has a crush on. We've even made plans to go out this week.

I felt like dating her... I guess I still do but those things are not great to talk about when you're just beginning to like the person. So I'm not entirely sure what to do. I want to ignore her completely this whole weekend. If she calls or texts me I just want to ignore her. I'm even thinking of dating others. I'm not sure if that's the best thing I could do. Any suggestions?

I am almost POSITIVE that by mentioning this other guy, she is trying to get your reaction. I mean I have definitely played a similar hand myself in the past. She's trying to prompt you to say something about how you like her. I almost guarantee it.

harmless_little_f***

She really sounds like she doesn't know what she wants.... don't let her play you.... move on

You'll be glad of this advice later.

nothingman44

South of Seattle wrote:

I got into the friend zone once and didn't know how it happened either. I was being too nice, sometimes girls take that the wrong way.

the friend zone is the worst...

especially after you tell a girl you are already dating that you love her...

GreenTeaDisease

nothingman44 wrote:

the friend zone is the worst...

especially after you tell a girl you are already dating that you love her...

this guy is not in the so called "friend zone." there's no such thing once you are like out of high school. she's trying to get him to tell her he likes her.

harmless_little_f***

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

there's no such thing once you are like out of high school

I completely disagree.... sorry. I'm in the friendzone a few times over, and I'm 25.

soulsinging

dontloseyourheat wrote:

Sounds to me like you found your way into the dreaded FRIEND ZONE.

bingo.

deadnothingbetter

wow a lot of mixed advices.

i know i'm in the friendzone.... i'm not entirely sure she's only saying that to get me "fired" up so i can make a move. i haven't made or given any small hint that I want to date her. i don't wanna sound like a wuss. the truth is i still would like to date her but i don't wanna come off like a nice guy. we've even spoken about dating. she's told me that i'm a jerk already which is good. then she always asks me about what kinds of girls i'm into and that if i sell drugs cause she wouldn't wanna date a guy that sells drugs. oh, yeah then there's her calling me every single day. so it's as if she's interested in me but then there's this other guy that she had a crush on before meeting me.

so i'm just gonna ignore her a little bit and then finally get back with her after awhile and make my move. fuck the other guy. i wouldn't fight him though.... i don't think that's a good idea.

deadnothingbetter

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

this guy is not in the so called "friend zone." there's no such thing once you are like out of high school. she's trying to get him to tell her he likes her.

how do you figure that? then once i DO tell her i like her what then? you think she'll say, "oh thank you thank you... i like you too"?

harmless_little_f***

deadnothingbetter wrote:

wow a lot of mixed advices.

i know i'm in the friendzone.... i'm not entirely sure she's only saying that to get me "fired" up so i can make a move. i haven't made or given any small hint that I want to date her. i don't wanna sound like a wuss. the truth is i still would like to date her but i don't wanna come off like a nice guy. we've even spoken about dating. she's told me that i'm a jerk already which is good. then she always asks me about what kinds of girls i'm into and that if i sell drugs cause she wouldn't wanna date a guy that sells drugs. oh, yeah then there's her calling me every single day. so it's as if she's interested in me but then there's this other guy that she had a crush on before meeting me.

so i'm just gonna ignore her a little bit and then finally get back with her after awhile and make my move. fuck the other guy. i wouldn't fight him though.... i don't think that's a good idea.

Maybe you just ARE a nice guy. If so, don't apologise for it. Be proud of it. If anyone doesn't like it, fuck em. That's what I've decided.