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  • Well, he might be your good friend, but the guy has friggin child porn on his computer. Not only is that NOT cool. It's creepy and illegal.

    I don't care if the person was my own husband, that's fucked up and he needs to deal with that. Not just deleted from the computer and ignored.

    You can confront him in a caring way, but you should also tell him he needs counseling for this and do everything to see that he gets is. Seriously. I know my mind is probably taking this too far, but he is probably beating off to kiddie porn and lord knows what else.

    Man, a person like that ain't right in the head.
  • chadwickchadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    1. it's on
    2. throw the fucking computer against a brick wall
    3. ass kicking time
    4. this is out of control bullshit
    5. sucks to him
    6. you do not needed friends like this
    7. what the fuck
    8. wow
    9. oh man
    10. his life sucks, he sucks, it's on
    11. do not feel remorse or regret for being a pure asshole from this moment forward, that behavior is unacceptable....period
    12. does he hang out with young kids?
    if so, it's really on
    as in teeth are missing or some shit

    i know easier said than done.
    it is one fucked up situation.

    basiclly throw the fucker out, today.
    he has 10 minutes to move out & now & today.

    a porn collection is fine & all that.
    add child porn to the mix & you have yourself a pure nasty bastard on your hands who should be beat down...

    this is just my humble opinion...i could be wrong...but i am not
    fuck that & fuck him

    in every bit of honestly the dude never was your true friend
    because behind his eyes is one sick twisted fuck who's probably been into
    this bullshit for years, hiding & lurking with this disgusting behavior

    the end.

    p.s.
    zero tolerance...that's my stance

    p.s. again, now i can read this entire thread...
    and thank you for the time you spent reading & thinking on my opinion.

    wow, just flippin wow..
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  • cops. now.
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  • chadwickchadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    jeffbr wrote:
    I would kick his ass for potentially getting you in a world of trouble. Then I'd call the cops. I would expect the friendship to be over, and that would be fine. Why would anyone want to be friends with a scumbag who preys upon kids, or at least supports those who do. Fuck him.

    It seems pretty black and white to me. Is somebody really worried about the feelings of a kiddie porn collector?


    i like you. nicely done.
    :)
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  • End everything with this guy now..

    Knowing this, could you ever keep him around if you had kids?


    Plus, you're all going to end up in trouble..
  • chadwickchadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    chromiam wrote:
    It amazes me how people jump all over the situation without asking a simple question.... what do you mean by child porn?? is it pics of girls/boys who look "barely legal" or obviously girls/boys who are underage??? If its the former than you might not have much of a problem other than your friend using your internet to download legal porn... if its the latter than get legal advice and prepare for the end of a friendship.

    child porn is child porn
    zero if's and's or but's about it

    the OP said child porn
    to me that means exactly that
    children not adults
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  • DanimalDanimal Posts: 2,000
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  • __ Posts: 6,651
    He's your friend, he has a big problem, and it needs to stop. For me, the main issue is the children being harmed more than you (no offense), who may or may not have been harmed (depending on whether he downloaded it while at your house).

    So what is the best way to help your friend stop his problem, thereby protecting the children? That's the only question in my mind. And I don't know the answer. If going to the police is the best way to put an end this this, then do it. But if being confronted by and getting help from someone he can still think of as a friend would be more effective, then maybe that's a better solution.

    Good luck. :(
  • one ip address routed over the wireless. straight back to me in a legal proceeding.

    Would you rather hurt his feelings or be arrested as a child pornographer?
  • know1know1 Posts: 6,794
    Unfortunately, this is not a hypothetical question. My good friend, best man at my wedding, moved in with my wife and I 2 months ago. I was on his computer the other day, and I stumbled upon his uh, child pornography collection. 1.4 GB. What the fuck do I do? Can't imagine confronting him about it. For sure can't do nothing. The best I can think of is to delete the folder without his knowledge, making it gone, and letting him realize he's been caught. I feel violated that he's in our house rent-free, using our internet to do this. I feel sick now. Better get back to class..

    It will be difficult, but you do need to call the police. You need to do this for two reasons - you could be implicated and to help prevent this from happening to children moving forward.
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  • catch22catch22 Posts: 1,081
    jeffbr wrote:
    I understand the best man thing, but once a best man does something to put my life and legal standing in jeopardy, I am not concerned about him. It isn't like he had a kegger and didn't clean up after the party. He committed a very serious crime witch will involve law enforcement doing forensic analysis on every computer in that house. It will bring heat down on every resident of the home. If he doesn't call the cops, he is now aiding and abetting, and could possibly spend time with his buddy behind bars.

    I would not wait 2 seconds to call the cops. You want to show that you acted immediatley, that you had no prior knowledge, that you don't condone the actions in any way, shape or form.

    i doubt that. if you have a roommate who is addicted to drugs and you try to get them into rehab, they don't jail you for dealing (unless you're black). he's not going to get aiding and abetting, this isn't like he helped conceal a murder. but he could end up being charged for possession, plain and simple. it's a dangerous spot. bottom line is, deleting this and pretending it didn't happen is not a solution. he's either got to confront his buddy and force him to get help or he's got to call the cops.
    and like that... he's gone.
  • chadwickchadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    but um,
    how can anyone in their right mind be a friend to a child porn, child predator?
    it just isn't possible, not in my fucking world it ain't.
    no way, no how, never ever gonna happen.
    kick them fuckers to the curb.
    they will remain lonely and in cold shadows for all i care.
    and i am sorry that i am a harsh prick sometimes but this kinda stuff has zero acceptance, none, zero, and zip.
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  • catch22catch22 Posts: 1,081
    chadwick wrote:
    but um,
    how can anyone in their right mind be a friend to a child porn, child predator?
    it just isn't possible, not in my fucking world it ain't.
    no way, no how, never ever gonna happen.
    kick them fuckers to the curb.
    they will remain lonely and in cold shadows for all i care.
    and i am sorry that i am a harsh prick sometimes but this kinda stuff has zero acceptance, none, zero, and zip.

    i'm a friend to a lot of scumbags.
    and like that... he's gone.
  • Tough call... it's easy for us to say "call the police", but if it was my best friend, it would be a tough thing to do.

    I'd also be scared that he could try to blame you, and it being your IP address and all that stuff. Maybe somehow record the confrontation so you have some sort of proof that before he can figure out how to try to pin it on you.

    At the very least, (in my opinion), you have to:
    1) Confront him on it
    2) Protect yourself legally somehow
    3) Get him out of your house NOW
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  • jeffbrjeffbr Seattle Posts: 7,177
    catch22 wrote:
    i doubt that. if you have a roommate who is addicted to drugs and you try to get them into rehab, they don't jail you for dealing (unless you're black). he's not going to get aiding and abetting, this isn't like he helped conceal a murder. but he could end up being charged for possession, plain and simple. it's a dangerous spot. bottom line is, deleting this and pretending it didn't happen is not a solution. he's either got to confront his buddy and force him to get help or he's got to call the cops.

    OK, I'll concede that the aiding and abetting is probably far-fetched, but I wouldn't take any chances if it were me. And you are right that they could get him for possession. Especially initially until they did sort it all out. I wouldn't not want to be anywhere near a possession charge for child pornography. Even without a conviction, I'm sure that shit will put a stink on you for years and years.
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  • catch22catch22 Posts: 1,081
    jeffbr wrote:
    OK, I'll concede that the aiding and abetting is probably far-fetched, but I wouldn't take any chances if it were me. And you are right that they could get him for possession. Especially initially until they did sort it all out. I wouldn't not want to be anywhere near a possession charge for child pornography. Even without a conviction, I'm sure that shit will put a stink on you for years and years.

    undoubtedly. the mere accusation would destroy your rep. even your closest loved ones will always kind of wonder. before he does anything, he should talk to a lawyer to make sure whatever he does is by the book and won't come back to bite him.
    and like that... he's gone.
  • chadwickchadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    catch22 wrote:
    i'm a friend to a lot of scumbags.

    better you than me mr. 22

    i am a solid friend to some very outstanding human beings
    that would be willing to fight each other over who gets to break a child
    predators neck..true fact
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  • covered in blisscovered in bliss chi-caw-go Posts: 1,332
    "When you delete a file, it’s really not deleted,” he said Tuesday. “All that does is remove the pointer or name of the file. But, unless it’s overwritten or the hard drive itself is destroyed, it’s still here and a lost file almost always can be recovered.”http://www.freep.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20080429/COL11/80429081/0/NEWS01

    Smash the computer to bits and then burn what's left.

    As to what you should say/do to your friend --- I have no idea. A tiny part of me feels sorry for him. To go through life like that.... yikes.
  • another thing that struck me, the collection is 1.4 GB?? that is HUGE....that makes it even more serious law-wise i'd imagine.

    call a lawyer fast!
  • I would confront him and tell him to leave

    Either way they (The Po Po) will find the porn even if you delete it from the hard drive

    Tell him to get some help he's obviously not right or volunteer to help him get help

    It would take all I had not to smash the computer to pieces over his friggin head
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  • jeffbrjeffbr Seattle Posts: 7,177
    catch22 wrote:
    i'm a friend to a lot of scumbags.

    I have standards. There are probably varying degrees of scumbaggery and some of my friends may well be classified that way. But I completely agree with Chad on this one. I have zero tolerance for child abusers and people who dabble in child pornography. None.
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  • catch22catch22 Posts: 1,081
    chadwick wrote:
    better you than me mr. 22

    i am a solid friend to some very outstanding human beings
    that would be willing to fight each other over who gets to break a child
    predators neck..true fact

    i can only hope you and your buddies would kill each other off in the struggle so that the rest of civilized society could see this guy in court where he belongs.

    i dont know any perfect human beings unfortunately. some are worse than others. some think they're perfect and are far from it. some are way too hard on themselves. and some are outstanding human beings with serious problems that they need help overcoming, which i am happy to provide so that they can face their demons and learn to help others do the same.
    and like that... he's gone.
  • another thing that struck me, the collection is 1.4 GB?? that is HUGE....that makes it even more serious law-wise i'd imagine.

    call a lawyer fast!

    Its sick

    Especially if he is in any way in some of these pictures
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  • chromiamchromiam Posts: 4,114
    chadwick wrote:
    child porn is child porn
    zero if's and's or but's about it

    the OP said child porn
    to me that means exactly that
    children not adults

    and as I said if that is true than proceed with the torches and burning crosses... but the OP has yet to state if it is actual children younger than 18 or what he seems to think are...
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  • chadwickchadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    jeffbr wrote:
    I have standards. There are probably varying degrees of scumbaggery and some of my friends may well be classified that way. But I completely agree with Chad on this one. I have zero tolerance for child abusers and people who dabble in child pornography. None.

    i found a new online buddy..jeff dude kicks ass
    awesomeness will surround you my friend..
    it already does what am i saying..silly chadwick ;)
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  • Tough call... it's easy for us to say "call the police", but if it was my best friend, it would be a tough thing to do.

    I'd also be scared that he could try to blame you, and it being your IP address and all that stuff. Maybe somehow record the confrontation so you have some sort of proof that before he can figure out how to try to pin it on you.

    At the very least, (in my opinion), you have to:
    1) Confront him on it
    2) Protect yourself legally somehow
    3) Get him out of your house NOW

    no offense to you but;

    4) once he's out of the house, he can continue to be a closeted pedophile. Beating off to images of children.

    But, Mr. terminal velocity, you're home safe and snuggly in your bed. Sleep well, my friend. Once, the big bad is out of your house. You're conscience will be completely clear. Whew, that was a close one close. :rolleyes:
  • catch22catch22 Posts: 1,081
    no offense to you but;

    4) once he's out of the house, he can continue to be a closeted pedophile. Beating off to images of children.

    But, Mr. 22, you're home safe and snuggly in your bed. Sleep well, my friend. Once, the big bad is out of your house. You're conscience will be completely clear. Whew, that was a close one close. :rolleyes:

    huh?
    and like that... he's gone.
  • catch22 wrote:
    huh?


    I was wondering about that too.
  • Its sick

    Especially if he is in any way in some of these pictures
    That takes it to a whole other level. I think the police definitely have to be notified then so the victims can be identified and given help - and to stop the abuse if it's still happening.

    I agree with scb - the primary issue is the children being harmed. Definitely a difficult situation to be in, but in a situation like this I think it's very black and white. You gotta do what's gonna make it possible for you to sleep at night.
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  • chadwickchadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    chromiam wrote:
    and as I said if that is true than proceed with the torches and burning crosses... but the OP has yet to state if it is actual children younger than 18 or what he seems to think are...


    the man said "child porn"
    that mean its not 18.
    18 yr olds are in playboy and shit im sure of that.
    or harder magz/videos.

    when the OP says "child porn"
    i am visualizing young girls/boys.

    disgusting behavior..

    he did not say 18, 19, 20 barely legal..
    "child porn" is "child porn"

    now, does the OP need to learn how to explain himself better?
    perhaps he does..we will soon find out im sure..

    either way, it's wrong to support child predator bullshit in any form.
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    "Hear me, my chiefs!
    I am tired; my heart is
    sick and sad. From where
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    no more forever."

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