Fucked up situation

muppet

jeffbr wrote:

It seems pretty black and white to me. Is somebody really worried about the feelings of a kiddie porn collector?

To us on an internet message board, it's probably black and white. But I doubt it ever is. We don't have any idea about the relationship this guy has with his friend. Christ, he was his best man.

That said, I wouldn't waste time with this. You've got to do something becuase he's putting you at risk as well.

Vedderlution_Baby

jeffbr wrote:

I would kick his ass for potentially getting you in a world of trouble. Then I'd call the cops. I would expect the friendship to be over, and that would be fine. Why would anyone want to be friends with a scumbag who preys upon kids, or at least supports those who do. Fuck him.

It seems pretty black and white to me. Is somebody really worried about the feelings of a kiddie porn collector?

Well, he obviously has a close relationship with him. Best man at his wedding. Letting him move in. The only thing we know about this guy is that he collects cp. The OP knows this guy as someone else. And I'm guessing has known him for quite a few years.

chiquimonkey

jeffbr wrote:

I would kick his ass for potentially getting you in a world of trouble. Then I'd call the cops. I would expect the friendship to be over, and that would be fine. Why would anyone want to be friends with a scumbag who preys upon kids, or at least supports those who do. Fuck him.

It seems pretty black and white to me. Is somebody really worried about the feelings of a kiddie porn collector?

yeah i can imagine the OP is probably stunned and sad to find this out about his friend. i know i'd be floored if i discovered something of equal disgust about any good friends of mine. but friendship doesn't preclude doing the right thing...and if you have any younger relatives or friends with kids, you could never trust him around them.

i agree with the suggestion of calling an attorney.

sorry you gotta deal with this, it's awful on so many fronts. good luck.

Touchofgray16

I'm with Dawn...speak to a lawyer before doing anything. If you confront the guy, it only gives him the heads up and who knows how he will react. As for the cops...as I said...a lawyer is probably the first thing you need to do. I'm not saying anything bad about cops, but when one is dealing with a "system" it's better to be safe than sorry.

I feel bad that it is your friend doing it...must be tough

edvedderrocks

Please, please, please, as the mother of 2 little girls - you need to confront him with this & I believe that the police need to be aware. How are you going to feel if you don't & he ends up hurting an innocent little child... He may only be viewing it on the internet (which is completely sick in its own right) but who knows what else could happen.

he may be your friend, but he needs help. fast. Please...

If it is on his computer & not a shared one, it will be on him. If you delete it & it is tracked to your computer somehow, you may look guilty as well for not reporting it.

good luck!

jeffbr

muppet wrote:

To us on an internet message board, it's probably black and white. But I doubt it ever is. We don't have any idea about the relationship this guy has with his friend. Christ, he was his best man.

That said, I wouldn't waste time with this. You've got to do something becuase he's putting you at risk as well.

I understand the best man thing, but once a best man does something to put my life and legal standing in jeopardy, I am not concerned about him. It isn't like he had a kegger and didn't clean up after the party. He committed a very serious crime witch will involve law enforcement doing forensic analysis on every computer in that house. It will bring heat down on every resident of the home. If he doesn't call the cops, he is now aiding and abetting, and could possibly spend time with his buddy behind bars.

I would not wait 2 seconds to call the cops. You want to show that you acted immediatley, that you had no prior knowledge, that you don't condone the actions in any way, shape or form.

jeffbr

Vedderlution_Baby! wrote:

The only thing we know about this guy is that he collects cp.

So if everything else about the guy is cool, that's something you'd be able to overlook?

That is all I need to know about the guy.

petrocs

absolutely turn him in and let the scumbag fry!

chromiam

It amazes me how people jump all over the situation without asking a simple question.... what do you mean by child porn?? is it pics of girls/boys who look "barely legal" or obviously girls/boys who are underage??? If its the former than you might not have much of a problem other than your friend using your internet to download legal porn... if its the latter than get legal advice and prepare for the end of a friendship.

Vedderlution_Baby

jeffbr wrote:

So if everything else about the guy is cool, that's something you'd be able to overlook?

That is all I need to know about the guy.

No, what I said is that the OP knows a lot more about this person and has a close relationship to this person. Therefore it's going to be a lot harder for them to choose a course of action than it would be us, a neutral party.


I don't understand how that could be mistaken for "overlook it".

anotherclone

Well, he might be your good friend, but the guy has friggin child porn on his computer. Not only is that NOT cool. It's creepy and illegal.

I don't care if the person was my own husband, that's fucked up and he needs to deal with that. Not just deleted from the computer and ignored.

You can confront him in a caring way, but you should also tell him he needs counseling for this and do everything to see that he gets is. Seriously. I know my mind is probably taking this too far, but he is probably beating off to kiddie porn and lord knows what else.

Man, a person like that ain't right in the head.

chadwick

1. it's on
2. throw the fucking computer against a brick wall
3. ass kicking time
4. this is out of control bullshit
5. sucks to him
6. you do not needed friends like this
7. what the fuck
8. wow
9. oh man
10. his life sucks, he sucks, it's on
11. do not feel remorse or regret for being a pure asshole from this moment forward, that behavior is unacceptable....period
12. does he hang out with young kids?
if so, it's really on
as in teeth are missing or some shit

i know easier said than done.
it is one fucked up situation.

basiclly throw the fucker out, today.
he has 10 minutes to move out & now & today.

a porn collection is fine & all that.
add child porn to the mix & you have yourself a pure nasty bastard on your hands who should be beat down...

this is just my humble opinion...i could be wrong...but i am not
fuck that & fuck him

in every bit of honestly the dude never was your true friend
because behind his eyes is one sick twisted fuck who's probably been into
this bullshit for years, hiding & lurking with this disgusting behavior

the end.

p.s.
zero tolerance...that's my stance

p.s. again, now i can read this entire thread...
and thank you for the time you spent reading & thinking on my opinion.

wow, just flippin wow..

Drop The Leash 10

cops. now.

chadwick

jeffbr wrote:

I would kick his ass for potentially getting you in a world of trouble. Then I'd call the cops. I would expect the friendship to be over, and that would be fine. Why would anyone want to be friends with a scumbag who preys upon kids, or at least supports those who do. Fuck him.

It seems pretty black and white to me. Is somebody really worried about the feelings of a kiddie porn collector?

i like you. nicely done.

GraySaturday

End everything with this guy now..

Knowing this, could you ever keep him around if you had kids?


Plus, you're all going to end up in trouble..

chadwick

chromiam wrote:

It amazes me how people jump all over the situation without asking a simple question.... what do you mean by child porn?? is it pics of girls/boys who look "barely legal" or obviously girls/boys who are underage??? If its the former than you might not have much of a problem other than your friend using your internet to download legal porn... if its the latter than get legal advice and prepare for the end of a friendship.

child porn is child porn
zero if's and's or but's about it

the OP said child porn
to me that means exactly that
children not adults

Danimal

Etd

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He's your friend, he has a big problem, and it needs to stop. For me, the main issue is the children being harmed more than you (no offense), who may or may not have been harmed (depending on whether he downloaded it while at your house).

So what is the best way to help your friend stop his problem, thereby protecting the children? That's the only question in my mind. And I don't know the answer. If going to the police is the best way to put an end this this, then do it. But if being confronted by and getting help from someone he can still think of as a friend would be more effective, then maybe that's a better solution.

Good luck. :(

butterfly1

terminal velocity wrote:

one ip address routed over the wireless. straight back to me in a legal proceeding.

Would you rather hurt his feelings or be arrested as a child pornographer?

know1

terminal velocity wrote:

Unfortunately, this is not a hypothetical question. My good friend, best man at my wedding, moved in with my wife and I 2 months ago. I was on his computer the other day, and I stumbled upon his uh, child pornography collection. 1.4 GB. What the fuck do I do? Can't imagine confronting him about it. For sure can't do nothing. The best I can think of is to delete the folder without his knowledge, making it gone, and letting him realize he's been caught. I feel violated that he's in our house rent-free, using our internet to do this. I feel sick now. Better get back to class..

It will be difficult, but you do need to call the police. You need to do this for two reasons - you could be implicated and to help prevent this from happening to children moving forward.